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She is a friend i know for years, asked her and she said I'm a nice guy but she likes someone else. At least we can still be friends . | Crush |
I have a friend (kina's close friend ) and I love to play with her so much. One day, I invited her to join a discord server. Moreover, my crush is there too. They started talking, playing games overnight on the voice channel. I told her that he is the guy who I like blah blah so I wish she can understand ( I mean don't get too close to him ). She accepted ofc. BUT she still acted as nothin' happened. **And now, they seem like crushing on each other.** If I don't play with her, I will not have anyone else to play with.
( Sorry for my bad English, this is my first post on Reddit ) | Crush |
I (F19) was working with my coworkers and I asked my coworker, (M21) we'll call him Bob, if he was still able to go to the play at my church that he was interested in going to earlier. So as a joke my other coworker, (M18) we'll call him Joe, goes "Oh Bob and I are going on a date." And I just thought oh they're hanging out that's cool! Cause I could figure Joe was joking around and I just laughed and said how it was cool. So then Bob goes "We'll make it a date! lunch, and a play." something like that. I can't tell if he's going along with the joke or if that was stated towards me since I was the one who asked him about the play. He left right after since he was off and had to get to a doctor's appointment, so I didn't get the chance to ask what he meant. | Crush |
Okay so:
This person I’m attracted to is quite introverted and does not really interact with others much. Quite passive but very focused on their class work..
Recently, we began interacting a little more and making way more eye contact from across the room (this is the strongest factor as awkward as it is). I also notice they glance whenever I enter, leave or move around the room. However, we still don’t have convos deeper than small talk and questions about assignments.
In addition, they are becoming more interested in what I’m working on in class. We don’t sit next to each other but they sometimes come up to me to kind of “investigate” and even praise my work (on occasion). As far as I’m concerned, they do not do this with anyone else in class.
Nonetheless, I would like a wise attraction intellectual to kindly enlighten me about the signs a shy/introverted person (male in this case) is attracted to you.
Thank you :,) | Crush |
Hey y’all, I need some help. I met my crush through one of my good friends maybe about 4 months ago now and we all have been hanging out as a friend group every weekend/other weekend ever since. This is the only time we see each other cause I happen to go to an all boys school (me and her are both juniors in HS). Anyways, I’ve noticed we’ve been interacting more and more every weekend we hang out. She’ll often hop in my car when we’re going places (just her) even though there’s plenty of space in my friend’s car. She also recently swiped up on one of my ig stories making conversation about a basketball game I went too. Are these signs? Am I looking at things too deeply out of hope? Don’t hesitate to ask me for more details if needed. Any tips are appreciated! Thank you | Crush |
Ok so I did have a crush on this guy and he like me too. Me and him are talking but all of a sudden I feel like I’m losing interest and I don’t want a relationship but idk how to tell him what should I do. | Crush |
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I’m a F(19) and I’ve worked at a store in my town for a good couple months, it’s my second time working here as I came as a temp staff last year through my sibling recommending me. There’s a guy who’s quite friendly and who is a manager type guy there and I feel like he’s sending me mixed signals. I can’t really explain but I’ll list the encounters we’ve had for some background info:
-he’s made fun of me quite a few times
-he’s called me nicknames
-he’s asked about my family a few times
-he asked how my holiday was and who went and all that
-asked if I was ok and comfortable taking a customer outside to help them load their shopping
-teases me a few times (In the joking manner 😂)
-asked me cousin who works in another department if I’m related to her and how and all.
-caught him staring especially recently..
-has occasionally brushed past me or coincidentally come near or closer to me if I need help
There’s more but I just thought I’d ask if anyone has had similar scenarios or such, I don’t mind giving more details or talking or even ranting about said person or whoever any of you guys have to talk about. :) | Crush |
Im 16F and a classmate told me he knows someone likes me. He wont tell me who it is cause he's mature about it and wants to protect "the guy" and his privacy.
Tho my crush is also from the same class "the guy" is in, im pretty sure "the guy" is not my crush since my crush is a retarded mf who probably doesnt like me back 😔. He might not even be interested in dating and love and stuff, idk anymore, he seems to think its degenerate, or maybe i understood wrong but idk idk idk (dude i barely know him fr)
Im kinda paranoid "the guy" might confess (tho its only a 0.00001% chance of happening) to me and im not ready to see who he is or anything. I dont wanna have to hurt him cause i know what that feels like and it hurts a lot.
If he ever does confess (which he probably wont) how should i talk to him so as to hurt him as least as possible? Im genuinely worried now cause my talking and conversing skillz suck : `)
Thanks for reading | Crush |
I'm making this a discussion since it is pointless to explain a story since I can't even answer it.
So that is why this will be a discussion question, what signs did you see or experience? | Crush |
There is this girl, I thin she likes me, and I am not sure that I like her back. And then there is another one girl that I like for some time, we are good friends and there is some progress in our relationship but I am not sure she does like me back. What should I do?
I will be thankful for any advice | Crush |
So I am a 14M and my friend aka my crush is 14F. We have known eachother since 6th grade to currently 8th almost high school. Our relationship picked up in 7th grade summer school since covid fucked up everyone. We were in the same class and during then I started developing feelings for her but put is aside because she was a friend almost best friend. We have 4/8 classes together and most of our friends ship us. Now I'm in 8th grade, almost coming to an end, and seeing her makes my heart beat crazy and when a sleep and wake up all I see and think is her. Hell, i even had a dream about our future. I just dont want for our friendship to be weird if she rejects. | Crush |
A couple months ago I asked here if I should tell the girl that like that I like her the thing is she is straight. A lot has happened since that time and I’m in need of some advice and a second opinion. The girl did find out and it was really awkward for us till about two months ago. When she found out it was really awkward but starting in January we started getting a lot closer and according to my friends they believe she might have feelings for me. I myself have noticed her doing and saying somethings that were a bit interesting from her to say the least. I want to know if other people think this is her trying to drop hints or just be friendly i was starting to get over her a little bit but she started doing some stuff and it kinda changed that.
A couple examples of stuff are:
1. She calls me pet names such as, my dear, darling, my one and only, etc.
2. She always tries to talk to me and spend time with me.
3. She gets overprotective if she thinks people are being rude to me.
4. She always tries to touch me and lean against me or just have any form of physical contact with me
5. We had this little inside joke where we would send emails to each other and we would act like it was the 1800’s and in the emails she would call me the pet names and in one email she got jealous over me mentioning one of my friends (it was a joke but still)
6. We spend a lot of time together. We always eat lunch together alone, I walk with her to every class, we would sit next to each other in class, etc.
7. According to my friends whenever we’re together we flirt with each other.
8. She’s said on multiple occasions that she would date me
9. She talks about me liking her often
10. She always checks on me if she thinks I’m upset
11. She always looks at me and smiles or she does something to try to make me laugh
12. I’ve noticed over the past few days her blushing when talking to me and my friend actually mentioned it to her at lunch. I thought it might have just been me but I’ve noticed her face being a slight tint of pink after she talks to me.
13. She does theatre and she has a performance coming up and she kept asking me if I was going to go and everytime she asked me I always said yes she would get really excited and start smiling.
14. She looks at me a lot and I catch her staring at me often, she’s started doing it a lot more recently.
15. I’m always the first person she goes to when she has any form of news or story to tell me.
I could list so many more things but I’ll spare all details.
She as a person does a lot of things that make me believe that she is not straight but she hasn’t said that she is gay and I don’t want to continue getting my hopes up but I feel like she is very obviously trying to do something | Crush |
Please don't judge me!! Okay I'm a girl, so this began at the start of 10th grade (i am now in 12th grade) long story short, we had maths together and always would look at each other ( i had a "boyfriend" at the time, it was toxic relationship) after some time we added each other on snap and snap each other. We were chatting every day and then he would be in 1st place of my snapchat best friend list. I was so scared that my "boyfriend" would see so I un add him and then add him back, this happened maybe 4 times and then he said to me "if you're going to un add me again then don't add me back" and I felt so bad, but I didn't want to risk that my bf at the time would see (he is crazy). After that i just felt empty with out snapping him. And then quarantine/covid happened, before covid i broke up with my boyfriend at the time and after 4 months started dating my current boyfriend. And everyday i see my crush in school ( mind you my boyfriend live in another country). He is 6.1f and he always looks at me with his mysterious eyes like he's wanting to tell me something and I can't stop thinking about him it drives me crazy. I always think how it would be if everything worked out with him? I always think that I would be happier with him, I just feel that we have some connection between us and i know that he feels it too. But i have a boyfriend and I don't know how to feel or what to do, by boyfriend has cheated on be before (talking to other girls, snapping girls, using tinder) (after that I don't feel sexually attracted to my bf) i just forgive him because i am afraid to be alone. And to that dark haired and brown eyed boy i had crush for the past 3 years, maybe faith/universe one day will bring us together. It will always be you.
Forgot to add but my crush is really smart and good at math and everything, he is quiet and very pretty.
Pls help me idk what to do. | Crush |
i have a massive crush on my friend but idkkk if he even likes guys?!?? he knows i’m gay and we like flirt a LOT and share frequent skinship but idk if he likes me? he always avoids questions abt his sexuality and hasn’t dated anyone that i know of. i don’t want to ruin our friendship but at the same time i’m desperate to confess. idk what to doooo | Crush |
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my crush came over last night because I had a really awful day. I’m currently sleeping on a blanket pallet in my living room because depression <3 anyway we ended up laying together in the pallet and watching tv which led to cuddling for a few hours. I had told myself I wasn’t going to kiss him because I thought maybe it was to soon and I was just flattering myself thinking he wanted to kiss me. we were laying on our sides and eventually our faces were just a few inches apart and we just looked at each other and kinda laughed and then he just quickly pecked me and was like “alright there u go” and then immediately we ended up like actually kissing. It was everything I had been waiting for and it felt so pure and wholesome. He ended up staying the night with me in a blanket pallet and it was really nice. Nothing else happened but I was excited for the clarity that he likes me back …hoping this leads to a relationship in the future just really happy today | Crush |
Any tips on how to get over a girl that I’ve never dated but I have a huge crush on that I have absolutely no chance with? :( | Crush |
Please any ways/ideas on how to do it | Crush |
this is kinda just a vent post because i don’t have anyone to tell and it’s eating me alive :)
i’ve had this friend online for not too long. 6 months maybe?? idk but i like him a lot i think and he might like me? the thing is i think he talks to a lot of other girls the same way he talks to me so i can’t really tell. it also sucks having him live literally across the country in another state. i wanna talk to him all the time but i feel so clingy or something so i have to like stop myself. i’m also not really his type i think. idk what to do. | Crush |
What do you do when you THINK that a guy likes you BUT has never seen your face…(and you and this guy never talk or anything) due to facemask and you getting insecure about showing your face but THEN suddenly you decided to take off your mask. And now you FEEL like he may not like you but it could all be in your head??? You question if you’re ugly ……Sigh. | Crush |
So I'm 17 and her sister is 14, she's obviously too young for me, morally and legally. She's very smart and very mature for her age, she even has the highest average grade in our school, so I hope she's smart enough to know not to like someone with such an age gap. When I'm talking to my friends on the bus, she usually sits there and looks back and forth between me and whoever is talking and occasionally chimes in. Whenever I hang out with my crush she always brings her sister, and her sister usually ends up talking to me more than my crush does (my crush is very shy and her sister is extroverted so this shouldn't be too alarming).
Yesterday there was a dance at the school and my crush couldn't make it but her sister could. She stood against a wall near me and my friends for much of the first half and parts of the second half, and it could've been in my head but it looked like she was staring at me. At one point I rolled up to my friends (I broke my ankle and am currently in a wheelchair) and I looked at my buddy and made a gesture because I wasn't having a very good time due to a lack of my crush, but I looked to my left and her sister was standing there awkwardly and quietly, I didn't see her until I turned my head and saw her. I gave a surprised "hey" and she smiled and said it back and just walked away.
And finally me, my crush, and her sister have an inside joke that shitty things always happen to me on my birthday. Last week on my birthday she sent me several paragraph long messages telling me about how it's a historically shitty day, and that many bad things have happened on that day in the past. She sent each message within 10 second intervals, so she either had them typed up and ready to copy and paste, or she Google them and had them ready to copy and paste. I've just been going along with her in a platonic matter, because she is a fun person to be around, and I think it's a good idea to have a solid relationship with my crushes family, but it's getting a little uncomfortable. Maybe I'm just reading taking gestures the wrong way, but I can't help but feel this way.
Tldr; My crushes younger sister shows signs that could be taken as romantic attraction, but she's too young for me | Crush |
i have liked this boy for a while now and we are friends i guess. We text a lot and always have amazing conversations and he always keeps up with the conversation. The thing is im quite awkward and shy so i haven’t really talked to him in person while he is outgoing and talks to everyone. I want to talk to him and tell him how i feel but im scared he won’t see me the same way and i don’t want to ruin the friendship we have going. I really enjoy talking to him he always makes me smile but i don’t want to accidentally say something that could possibly ruin it. So i need help on how to talk to him and how i could possibly get him to like me. | Crush |
Hello
I'm in a weird situation.
I have a crush on one girl, I know her since we were in kindergarten(so there isn't really much I can ask her). I really like her but after COVID lockdown and all that things I just got a bit unconfident. Weird part is that I think she may like me back but I'm not sure and I don't want to break our long friendship but on the otherside I would love us being together. Another twist is that we have different personalities I'm shy and she is more social so we actually talk together mainly when we are in small groups or just us two alone (what happens from time to time). Another twist is when we are alone I just start being anxious so we don't talk that much.
I would like to know if I should approach her and how to approach her or just let it go, because she is probably one of the best if not life changing girl.
I'm thankful for every help I get. | Crush |
It has been almost 2 years I confessed to him. He kinda give me unsure answer ( He said he liked me but don't want to be in a relationship at that moment bc he is too busy.. he also said like hey let's talk about this later) It was still okay after my confession we still talked and played games together..but after some times I started to feel like he rejected me in a very nice and kind way.. My fri also said he is probably playing you. So I was kinda embarrassed and uncomfortable so I started ghosting him for months. We stopped talking and every connection we have ended. Even though I did everything I could to forget him..I desperately miss him and feel alone. Even I find someone who likes me it's impossible for me to date anyone besides him bc I don't want to. So last week I put all my courage and text him. He seems okay to talk with me but his replies are really late.. but his texts aren't dry you know. He even suggested a new game for us to try. Later He reacted on my story and watched all my stories. ( About that he used to watch my stories often before confession and still watched and reacted after but I kinda made him not to see my story for few months while I was ghosting him but after I stopped that He still don't watch my story often until our last chats) SORRY if my story is too complicated or you cant understand please ask me clearly and kindly suggest whether he feels the same or not. | Crush |
I am a(F, 19) and in my second year of uni. This was the first sem that I was on campus due to the vid. This sem was 11 weeks, and in one of my classes there was this extremely charismatic guy that caught my attention on the first day (around week 6). And we kind of had this tension. And one week later, we figured out that we were working together in the same panel discussion.
Fast forward to today, after a series of eye contacts, smiles and conversations. Today I gathered the courage and told him my feelings. I was extremely nervous because I didn't know how he'd react.
He is extremely intelligent and today was his last day on campus because he graduates this sem. And not just that, he's from a different religion as me. He told me that he appreciated me telling my feelings, but he isn't into dating because he is religious. My respect increased for him, but I am still feeling down. I completely understand his decision, but I guess I just feel deep emotions for him. Any tips on how to get over it faster? | Crush |
hi hello crush do you know me? | Crush |
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It's not just what you say but rather, "how you say it." If you have a great message but you are stifled and nervous during the delivery it won't make an impact. Hence, why it is so important to practice your delivery.
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Im 27M have a bit of a crush on this girl 20F in my College class
Sorry for the long post lmao
First of all is this age gap to huge ,cause for me it feels a little bit weird not gonna lie
We always chilling in a group, sometimes even after class (2m2f)
The other girl has a boyfriend
The other dude ist my best budy in this class ,and has huge crush on the same girl
We just doing stuff in a group i never met her without the group
I always have a great time when we met
I enjoy talking to the girl It makes my whole day
I definitly fell for her
But i dont know if she is into me —>In person it feels like she is into me.
but when we text it feels like she is not interested at all(more into my budy)
I always was miserable at getting hints or knowing if some1 is into me or not.its was always the opposite of what i thought
I dont want to push things to fast because it could get really weird(maybe she is into my friend or something like that idk)and i can lose the talks with her( even so its always in a group)
The question is whats the best way to find out if she is into me ?
If any 1 has to much time and read it all im thankful for that | Crush |
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I have lived in this complex for almost a year and haven’t made any move. I shouldn’t even know his name except he said it the day I moved in with my ex. Very friendly guy, incredibly cute in a very approachable way, kind to all the neighbors and super affectionate with my dog. Early on he invited my ex and I over for a drink and never took him up on it. Ex has been out for 4 months now, and I can’t stop fantasizing about him. I have tried to get a read on if he has a SO and can’t pin it down if that’s a yes or no. I don’t know if he even knows my name even though I know he knows my dogs. So … do I abide traditional male/ female roles and figure if he was interested he would let me know and so I should forget about it? Is the neighbor thing too close? I don’t want to marry him I just want to kiss him. Help! | Crush |
I’ve known this guy since 5th grade , we go with the same bus and train almost daily.I always thought he was cute but never crushed on him until now.Here’s the thing: Sometimes he acts as if he has the biggest crush on me ( calls me short , helps me , is always nice , smiles at me all the time ) but there’s also times where he acts as if I’m one of his homies 🙁In class he sometimes turns around to me and smiles but he does that to another girl to every now and then.So to every guy on Reddit , please help me how do I know if he likes me or is just a flirty person!!! | Crush |
I’m (F 22) in platonic love with an actor and comedian (M 54) for a long time. He’s my life inspiration and I daydream about him in various moments. Sometimes I feel that he’s the only reason why am I still alive because no one is so amazing and perfect as he. The problem is that I daydream of him in inappropriate situations and can’t concentrate anymore. Also I started to use his rhetoric, practicing his hobbys and imagine our “first date” every single day. I took a dance class because he was also dancing at his young age. I know every single movie or TV show where he was. He is more important for me than any of my “friends” ( I don’t have friends). Should I visit a psychologist? | Crush |
bro I don't exactly remember when I started having crush on her. this feeling makes everything harder for me. I wish I didn't even know her sometimes. I wish I didn't text her that I like her. Today at morning I went to school to fix a bad grade, and after I did it, I went home for a while. On the way to home I saw her going towards the school, and we passed by each other and I caught her look and she caught my look. bro, it was pretty weird. she looked away so did I, yet I recognized it was her and she recognized it was me. After that I was smiling and sometimes laughing how weird that was.. but then I came home, and my feelings for her woke up again. I tried to ignore her, because I thought I made a mistake texting about my feelings.. I tried to not distract myself by searching for her just to look at her etc.
I came home, I started playing a video game, and I was overwhelmed by thoughts about her. My eyes started to tear while I was supposed to play video game where I punch bad dudes ruthlessly. I sat on my bed and started crying. So much tears, so much, so much snot came out of my nose...
I remember I texted her in the beginning of January, about all bad deeds I did (it's better for you not to know what I have done for my short life), I texted her about my feelings etc.
She responded pretty quickly asking something like: ''Wait wait, who are you?''.
We added each other in snapchat in the end of June, so I thought she remembers me. I did send her my photo in snapchat, yet she didn't remember who I was.
We talked about some stuff, she told me about her awkward moment while being drunk... I texted her about a day when I was smoking weed, got high, and then after some time I went to school nurse vaccinated (not from COVID-19).
Then the next day I was surprised that she texted me again. Not I, but she. She texted something like: ''Hey, what's up?''. We corresponded, not for too long though. She what class I was in, yet tried to guess who was I. Then one day I was lying on the school floor, I think I tried to get rest during the short school break, I'm not sure, but I was laying with closed eyes, and I remember that. That day she texted me asking something: ''Was that you sleeping on the school floor?''. I just realized how pathetic I am because of texting this story to people I don't even know. So, I responded her like this: '' 🤗 ''. By the way, while texting she asked me once why didn't I approach her to talk to her. I texted her that I did not know if she has a boyfriend.. well, she texted that she does (idk if that's truth or just a professional way to reject me, lol). There were moments when I tried to ignore her or act like I didn't notice her, because I thought that I had made a huge mistake texting her. I even got to know some of her classmates, I like these dudes (no homo). We still ignore each other, act like we don't know each other.. I wanted that, but it makes me kinda sad. It makes me sad that she texted me that she has a boyfriend. I try to stay humble, but sometimes I feel like she likes me back, too. Honestly, I'm something like extrovert and introvert at the same time. I'm pretty shy to go and approach her like some kind of cool dude with a leather jacket and sunglasses, yet ''sigma'' part of me, that I haven't woken up tells me to do cool stuff and be a cool dude. I have something like social anxiety, yet I can act more like extroverted with that anxiety, or introverted sometimes. I am a very weird dude, I don't know if someone will read this, or answer this, but I'd like to get a response to my story. I have a great friend, my beloved friend, a very close one, is a cool dude. He is extroverted, he can talk to women easily. I feel like I can too, but I'm sort of anxious, and I do understand that anxiety is the only thing that messes up my perfect life that I'd like to live. That friend knows that I had crush on her. I remember in cafeteria she sat to her to talk with her, and I didn't wanna sit with her and catch her look again, so I sat with her classmates that are my school friends today (pro move ninja stealth). Once I saw how my friend even hugged her (I'm being some sort of cuckold I know). I'm not jealous, I don't envy towards him cuz I luv him (no homo). I'm just sort of amazed how fast he can make new connections, that's cool. He progresses while I am still a loser. That's my story.
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thnx 4 reading. | Crush |
I am 15 and have been crushing on a girl for 1 year. But nvr got the courage. I see her intsg story and see her going out to great places. I wanna ask ger out too, but i dont have that much money. Is there any way i can hang out with her or maybe even get the courage to talk to her? | Crush |
Basically I’ve had a crush on this guy for a year now, he is on the same university course as me. Recently he approached during a lab session to talk to me and now every lab session we have he talks to me. He also makes a lot of flirty comments, he has mentioned multiple times that my eyes are really pretty and my eyelashes are really long. He also notices small things about me like the earrings I’m wearing. We also always talk when we have any classes together. I went to the library with him and he was very flirty the whole time and kept sitting extremely close to me. Then he started texting me and literally sends me a good morning and good night text everyday. We text all day and he seems to be making a lot of effort to talk to me. I recently mentioned to him that I always wanted to be friends with him before he approached me. I even confessed that I thought he was cute so I was scared to approach him. He seemed really flattered by that but didn’t say that he thinks I’m pretty too. i low-key regret telling him that because it’s still pretty early into our friendship and now I probably seem toooo interested. What can I do to not seem too into him, or is it okay to show this much interest. I want him to know that it’s safe to shoot his shot but idk if I want to just be friends with him for longer. Also he is a very outgoing and social person so sometimes I’m unsure if he just wants to be friends with or if he actually sees me romantically. One of my friends is also friends with him and last year she told me how she thinks he might like her but she was not interested in him. From what I’ve heard he seems like a flirty guy and he also approaches my friend during labs. But my friend told me that when he approaches her in the lab he talks about me to her. So that makes me feel like he is just trying to get to know me through my friend. But I’m still unsure about the whole thing with him and my friend. | Crush |
So I’ve had a crush on this one girl for about a year but now I am almost certain she like me too. I really want to ask her out but I lack the confidence and I don’t know where to bring her too. Any Advice is appreciated 😁. | Crush |
How do i know if the girl i like likes me back? She says she likes brunettes but i’m blonde, but she calls me pretty, we talk for hours and have nicknames for eachother ,we swap bracelets with eachother. her girlfriend at the time thought we were flirting, well she thought i liked her and she got upset (understandably). she tells me she trusts me and tells me everything before anyone else. It feels mutual but i could just be imagining things | Crush |
Macau
An unexpected journey
If you recall your first impression of a city, would it be street, food, landmark, buildings or exotic folk customs? Just imagine, when we look back on a certain trip that has happened with a someone, the first thing that comes to mind is the local special attractions, or the story that belongs to them?
"The thing that surprised me the most was that even though she took me through every corner of Macau, saw all the scenery, and ate all the local delicacies. But when I recall, only the details of each time we get along are like movie illustrations. Like, repeated in my mind, so all the attractions have become side dishes. It seems that the city that should be so gorgeous, because of her existence, it is dyed with the color it should have."
Macau, a city that is said to be less than the size of Shanghai Pudong International Airport, has given me a different meaning now. It is no longer a simple place name but a symbol. It's like Gatsby's fascination with the green light of Daisy's port on the other side in "The Great Gatsby”. Maybe this description is too much. To be precise, she and I are more like a Crush like "Roman Holiday" these days, short and gorgeous like fireworks.
Write on the front:
I am an emotional person, and I am often moved by inexplicable things because of some tiny details. I'm an outgoing and lonely person with a lot of good friends. Meanwhile, I am still an indifferent person, and these seemingly contradictory introductions are justified because I am a "hypocritical" person. Because of my solitude, I often lose a sense of group belonging in some ways. Sometimes I have a hard time empathizing with joys that belong to group memories. But what can I do? People have to struggle with loneliness all their lives. Regarding the following memories, it is only my personal unilateral feelings and thoughts, and her thoughts are not very important after this trip. I have shared this experience with many friends, but if you recognize who I am, or if she or her friends recognize this passage, please DM me. I don't want to do any harm to her real life because of my one-sided crush and selfish mental activity. In the end, I will try to avoid information involving her privacy as much as possible!
Although she and I went to high school in the same city, but not in the same school, I am not her senior in a strict sense. About four years ago, when our school had a club which called model united nation, I happened to be the president. Our fate began with her best friend, who is a junior in my school. Through her introduction, I learned that this girl’s school did not have that activity, so she wanted to become a member of the club as an outsider. My first reaction to this must be to treat her as a "ball". A small student activity in itself is not worth such a big fight. So I remembered that my good friend from junior high school "just happened" to study at her school, and at the same time "just happened" to organize similar activities in the school, so it was logical, I kicked this "ball" to my friend, but at the same time I felt that It would be very rude to do it directly, so I asked them out as a bridge, and we watched a movie together and let them talk about the event. This is our first meet. The first impression about her that she is a lovely girl.
Anecdote:
She's been a stranger on my social app’s friend list since then, and we didn't have much interaction throughout high school. However, as a generation Z, sometimes seeing the dynamics posted by the social networks I still gave my “likes”. When my memory of her was about to fade away until one day I suddenly saw a photo of her bald head. Although offended, I messaged her with my curiosity, asking if she was seriously ill and needed help. Later I learned that she has a life creed of "You only live once", and shaving her head is something she wanted to try a long time ago. I was very curious at the time that how cool she is.
After graduating from high school, I chose to study abroad. Later, due to the epidemic and the country's policies, I had a lot of free time to think about the future. During the year I explored a lot about the possibilities of my life, whenever I traveled alone in a city, I recorded myself through social networks. Later, city life no longer caught my interest, and gradually I began to try like climbing and hiking, such as climbing Mount Tai at night to watch the sunrise, and camping with friends in Qinghai, Gansu, a no-man’s land, and self-driving. Through social networks, she saw part of me, and our comments and interactions became more. Once, she messaged me directly and said that if I have a similar self-driving trip next time, she wants come with me. At that time, I planned with my friends for the next trip with a long time. Unfortunately, because of her school curriculum arrangement, it was not possible, but since then, we are no longer strangers.
In February of this year, because I still received a considerable amount of New Year's money before entering the society, I decided to go to Macau for shopping, and I suddenly thought that she is studying there. So I informed in advance, and she also said that she could Go for a walk together. At that time, I thought it was just like usual, go to a friend's city, meet and chat, and then part ways, but what I didn't expect was a "date" waiting for me.
After I met her, everything had gradually deviated from the original direction, this was our second meet, and my hotel happened to be between her dormitory and school. Two days before my first arrival, it was a weekend. She took me to almost all the attractions in Macau. We climbed the fake Eiffel Tower in Macau together and took a group photo here; Watching the seagulls and the sunset in the distance, we ate the ice creams and waving to the tourists on the boat. We also went to the two most famous temples and made our own wishes. On the street, you will see two figures, one tall and one short, standing side by side with greenness and unease, walking through the streets and alleys with a smile. Every topic and every joke was accompanied an eyes meet by inadvertent glances from both sides. The mask covered her cheeks, but her eyes were extraordinarily charming. There are many children's facilities in Macau. Among them, there is a super large playground near Fisherman's Wharf, such as swings, slides, etc. There are security guards who will stop the adults as soon as they are found playing inside. We turned to midnight around the perimeter, and after the security got off work, she slipped me in and we pretty much finished playing with all the equipment. She was full of energy just like cat I had before, and I could only clumsily chase after her because of her size. When we got tired of playing, we both hid in the "trenches", which is a very compact small space. We both sat in it and told each other about our growth experience. In those two days, she posted two updates on her social networks, one was a group photo of us at the Eiffel Tower, the other was a photo of the two of us taking each other individually, and a close-up of the two ice cream by the sea. There is no single word to explain who I am. My friends thought her posted it's like a couple's daily life. At that time, I even teased her tentatively whether this would lead to misunderstanding. What if other boys like her and they will think more after seeing that, and then break her peach blossoms. At that time, she also joked that it was okay, she said that there are no boys like her anyway.
We seemed to have endless topics, marveled at the similarity, and there were moments when we both thought the other was another gender version of ourselves. She thinks I'm a cool person, diving in the livehouse, buying an inflatable boat for lake paddling on a whim, etc. She thinks I'm lucky to have a group of friends who dare to try. We also mentioned before why we are so close right now. Obviously this is the second time we meet. She said that she is actually a defensive person, but she thinks that I am a friend who can chat and communicate. We talked late at McDonald's one night and she revealed to me something very private about her and even cried. When I learned that she also likes to play vlogs before, I spent the whole night watching all her vlogs. And came to several conclusions, we are all lonely souls, but we have positive expectations for life, her vlog is often a lonely wandering and self-talking insights, but also keen to discover the city's Special events and fairs. And I once went to the Christmas market in the city center by myself on Christmas Eve, had a glass of mulled wine, and went to the concert alone in the evening. And then I turned to her early vlog and found that the shooting techniques and editing style were exactly the same as mine!
Two separations:
The flight originally scheduled for that day was canceled due to the epidemic, but I didn’t know it at the time. When the day was approaching, I was very depressed and my words became less, but She is always looking for topics. She suggested that since I came to Macau, I should try and feel the local casino culture. I just turned 21 and can legally enter, and she can't enter because of her age and student identity. That evening, she had school activities at night, and I followed her advice and went to the casino. I took her to the bus station. I thought this was the separation. There were a lot of words I wanted to say but couldn't. The shuttle bus came slowly, I sat on the platform chair, and she stood in the bus near, we waved goodbye to each other, and then I watched her on the bus gradually disappear from my sight. I mentioned to her that for some very close friends, I usually choose to call directly. She asked me if I could leave a phone number for each other, but I didn't say anything at the time. And the moment the bus drove away, I quickly found her number, using what I could think of in the past few days, we created some memes to form a parting farewell to her. After posting, I found two problems, the first casino needs cash, and the second my flight was canceled. There are many times when I believe in the fate of destiny. I thought maybe it was God’s will. So I stayed for one more night. I dated her for a final lunch.
Before going to the appointment, I went to the casino to feel it. She and I were both unlucky people, but I won 500$ this time. So I used the money I won to pay the meal. Finally, we officially said goodbye. This farewell is very simple, without the burden of the first time. After a few minutes, I saw the message she sent me, which was similar to the content of my first goodbye, because I live in Shanghai, and "Sleepless Night" is a drama she has wanted to watch for a long time, although I have already watched it. She suggested we will go together when she come to Shanghai next time.
Some details:
First of all, I am a straight man, but I have many female friends, However I always keep an absolute distance when I get along with girls, whether verbally or physically. I can shamelessly say that it is a kind of gentleman, and many times I will consider the feelings of girls. My appetite dwindled for some reason when I got to Macau, and she is an absolute sweet tooth and loves street food so much, I observed her eyes light up as we walked past the dessert shop. At the beginning, she asked me to share a cake with her. I thought it was not suitable, so I bought two. Later, there were too many snacks, so I asked her to eat first and then I ate. I made up a reason that I have some cleanliness addiction, and I don't like to eat other people's food. As a result, I was asked by her soul that I should not eat it first. I was indeed asked, but I still ate the rest of her in the end or tried not to share it with her. In the end, she was not accompany with me all the times. Except for the weekends when she is on vacation, she skips afternoon classes to accompany me on the other days. I was afraid of disturbing her normal life and study. She said that she was alone on weekends and had nothing to do.
Thoughts: This journey has always disturbed my mind. I shared my feelings at that time with almost all the friends I still have contact with, but I didn't reveal too much out of her privacy. During my stay in Macau, I would also go to the bar near her dormitory to seek advice from the bartenders and waiters. I even ran downstairs to the hotel on the night I actually left, and the Filipino aunts at the front desk laughed and listened to my story. Well everything is amazing. I am a person who is afraid of losing, which is a large part of the reason that I haven’t girlfriend or EX. I am very afraid of hurting others. The emotional me was defeated by the rational part of the personality. If I broke through this relationship recklessly at the time, there would be three endings. 1. We become to a couple and then separated because of different places. 2. Being rejected, it is embarrassing to ruin this beautiful memory. 3. Calm down first, after all, she is in the "upper stage" of a crush. If there is a fate, she will come to my city and them to wait for chances.
I tried my best to suppress my primary behavior and my emotional impulse towards her. Friends say I'm too idealistic, but I think that's my romance.
END
In fact, it has not been two weeks since this trip, and I saw she has also deleted those two posted. The experience of these few days is like a dream. Just like the ending of "Roman Holiday", the two sides continue their separate lives. We are now back to where we were before, maybe once or twice a month to communicate and leave my footprint on her social networks. But what is certain is that after this trip, I will pay more attention to everything about her than before. Maybe a life with regrets is the perfect ending. | Crush |
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Sometimes I think we keep quiet of a lot of things we should say it. It's much better to say it and regret it than to keep quiet. Better to express your feelings especially if you think they will have a good impact.
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So I’ve been seeing this girl for like 3 years both out of school and at school. And I’ve been snapping with her best friends for a couple of months. Recently I opened her friends’ snaps and there had sent me a picture of her. FEW TIMES. The other day I was out with the boys when we saw her and her friends. But we just ignored them. All of a sudden I heard her friends shouting my name and when I turned she ( my crush) was hiding herself.
Idk. Im really confused. U guys reckon she likes me or anything??!!!
Peace | Crush |
*Pretty long story, and definitely pretty painful to read all my stupid mistakes*
Am currently in the last year of high school, this girl transferred to my school around 8 months ago. She is basically that popular girl, except she is extremely humble, kind, and well-spoken.
I was one of her very first friends in the school, we got to know each other very quickly, and got along pretty well. We texted a lot (online school), however mostly in a friendly way, as she used words like "buddy, mate". Not very long after she wanted to call once in a while, around this time she also stopped using the friendzone words, and she seemed like she was a bit more interested in me, we also found out that we have quite a lot in common. This was good news to me as from the very beginning I had a crush on her, thus, I decided to make a move when the perfect opportunity comes, as I thought I had time since I only knew her for around a month. We continued talking and basically knew almost everything about each other, we shared lots of secrets. Despite that, I was never confident enough to just straight up tell her about my feelings, and I didn't want to risk it unless I am sure what her response will be, since I thought getting rejected will ruin our friendship and make me lose a great close friend.
So I waited and waited, for a "perfect opportunity" to come, and it almost did. One of my friends was going to have a birthday party at a water park, and both I and the girl were invited. I started working out regularly at the start of quarantine without many of my friends knowing, so my shallow mind thought that with the help of my six-packs, I can impress her and improve my success rate. Just as I was getting hyped, 2 weeks before the birthday party, quarantine was announced to start once again... So there I was with my plan ruined no idea what to do, so we just continued to text and call, while I never made any moves, for another month.
And then guess what, I somehow never saw this coming, "Hey Buddy!". So yeah I was officially back in the friend-zone because my stupid ass was just blindly waiting for an opportunity to make a move. However, this isn't the end of the story, the friend-zone words once again disappeared after a month, and never appeared again, and at that point, I had no idea how she felt about me, completely puzzled about whether I still had a chance. Being the dumbass I was, I still never talked to her about my feelings and my plan was to just continue the current relationship until I am sure about her feelings about me. And due to the in and out of the zone, I basically lost the ability to differentiate friendly/flirtatious messages with her, so in my mind, I was never sure whether she likes me or whether she doesn't. Recently, we scheduled a zoom meeting to chat, and I was surprised to see her with full makeup on, we chatted for a long time, and I found out that she considers me as her closest friend(other than her sister), near the end, she also willingly played her ukelele and sang me a few songs.
She is both my classmate and a really great friend, I'm scared that telling her about my feelings, if not reciprocated, might lead to our friendship being ruined and make any future in-class encounters really damn awkward. I have never had a girlfriend before so my experience when it comes to relationships is zero, plus that with the way I went in and out of the friend-zone, oh well I don't even know if I am still in the friendzone. Right now my brain just straight up stops functioning when I try to analyze her intentions. So right now, I am extremely puzzled about my position in her mind, and whether she actually likes me. If anything is obvious to those of you who are reading this, please point it out, I would greatly appreciate it. And more importantly, if anyone can give me any advice/opinions on what I should do, that would mean the world to me, as this is something that has been bothering me a lot recently.
*I'm sorry if the story is confusing to you, to me it is even more confusing. I tried my best to make it as understandable as possible, thanks for reading, cheers.*
**TL: DR** Went in and out and in and out of the friend-zone (I think), now I lost the ability to tell if anything she does is supposed to be friendly or is supposed to show that she is romantically interested. So rn I'm confused af and have no idea if I should make a move or not, because we are currently classmates and really close friends and I don't want to ruin it. | Crush |
So just for reference, she is already my gf but she sometimes tells me that I'm her role model, or something similar like you are influencing me. Also, another girl who I am fairly certain had a crush on me used to say similar things. I don't think I have any particularly special qualities, I don't understand why they say that... thanks r/crushes, y'all are the best! | Crush |
She had a feelings for me before but i turned her down for my 4-year crush who clearly doesn't like me back. Now she's almost in a one-year relationship, and I want her now 😩. I confessed to her because I thought she deserves to know it, she said that she really loves her girlfriend and I respect it.
Ps. [We're both girls and bi] Just to clarify 😀 | Crush |
When I'm on vc with him, if he's having dinner I'll wait to have a shower just so he can hear me say "I'll be back, I'm going to have a shower"
Idk why I do it, I just feel it's important for him to know ig. Maybe I want thoughts of me showering to pop into his mind.
Is this weird? | Crush |
I’ve (16F) liked this one guy (16m) for well over a year. I decided not to tell him because I used to date one of our mutual friends, and I didn’t want to be the person who fucks around in a friend group.
My ex and another one of our friends had a brief complicated relationship, and I considered asking him out. I decided against it because I hadn’t gotten the time to think about how to gn about it.
About a month later a girl gets added to our group chat. They seemed kinda interested in eachother. I decided to hang out with him in person to try to see how he felt before I made a move.
He talked a lot about struggling with liking a friend, and not being used to liking someone he had a chance with. And when I asked him who he said he would tell me privately later, as we were hanging out with someone else.
I was honestly expecting him to tell me he liked me. But then he said he liked the new girl and that it was fairly obvious.
Since then I’ve been kinda stupid and I’ve been hyping him up to ask her out. I really want to be in a relationship with him but I’m worried. If I tell him how I feel he’s very likely to reject me. And I honestly think that she likes him back. So if I told him they would be awkward if they started to date.
On the other hand I feel like this is my last chance. If he does ask her out it’s very likely that they will date and I’ll have missed my chance. I’m considering asking him out before it’s to late, what should I do?
Also how would I go about asking him out? He’s been very transparent in the fact that he likes the other girl. I wanna ask him out but I’ve been encouraging him to ask someone else out. I don’t want to not be able to talk to him because of this. At the same time I feel like I should be honest with him | Crush |
Anyone else feel like you’re insanely obsessed with your crush that it feels like an addiction? | Crush |
I have this crush that has my heart stop for a sec. We’re in the same 2 classes in ela and math. She sits by me in math and one away from me in ela. I just need advice on how to get her attention. Please help me out I’m not sure what to do... | Crush |
I’m completely obsessed with my crush (think about her 24/7). I have a strong urge though to stalk her and do things like follow her, mail her love letters anonymously, take her underwear, break into her house and give her anonymous love notes. How do I stop having these seriously time consuming, intrusive thoughts? I’m so tempted to do all these things and I feel like I can’t control myself any longer | Crush |
before i start, i should mention that this is long distance. we live about a 16 hr drive away from each other.
okay so, i (16f turning 17 in 23 days) met this guy (15m turning 16 dec 3rd) on june 6th. we played games occasionally and talked on instagram a bit. once i started streaming he would join every stream and it turned into us vc’ing on discord everyday.
then i went on a trip with my family and that was the first night we fell asleep on call together. obviously i had to leave the call here and there cause i was on vacation, but we talked consistently. we called the whole drive back and since then (july 16th) we have been on an ongoing voice call. we talk every second of the day, and even when one of us has to leave the call for whatever reason it’s only for hours at a time and we’re constantly talking on instagram.
we’ve both shared very personal things about ourselves to each other and we’ve gotten very close. now we’re both in school so we have to leave the call for that but we talk on insta whenever we can and we call once we’re both home and we still fall asleep on call. we’ve flirted a bit here and there but i don’t think it means anything to him. also, i should mention that he was in a year long relationship with this girl (also long distance) and she broke up with him on july 13th.
he’s really been struggling with mental health and she was the only person who genuinely helped him with that stuff. i also struggle with mental health and i’m also a huge empath which makes it easy for me to support him, which i don’t mind doing whatsoever and i do whenever he needs me. i know i can’t replace her and i haven’t tried but i have tried to be the best friend that i can.
i have developed intense feelings for him but i don’t want to say anything about it cause i feel like that would overwhelm him and put more pressure on him then there already is. i’m also scared that it might push him away and we will end up not talking anymore, which i cannot let happen because he is the ONLY person i talk to. i’m also the only person he talks to. i’ve said things that make it kind of obvious that i like him because i can’t help it. so i’m pretty positive that he knows i like him.
with that being said, recently he’s been talking about my cousin a lot. the first time he saw her was when i went on the trip and he kept saying “your cousin is cooler than you” which in all honesty, i agree. she’s pretty cool. we kinda didn’t talk about her for a while until like 4 days ago. he started saying how hot she was and all this shit. he told me that he’s had romantic dreams about her and he literally just said 5 mins ago that she would carry the genes for their kids if she wanted them. he’s respectful about it but still. she’s in my discord server and they’ve been talking pretty frequently. she knows i like him and i know she wouldn’t do anything to hurt me like that, that’s not what i’m worried about. it’s just hard to watch someone you like obsess over someone else, especially someone you’re related to/know very well. he keeps asking me for flirting tips or like things that she likes so that he can get closer to her. i cant tell if she’s just a rebound or if he actually likes her.
it’s only been a month and 2 days since his last relationship ended and i looked it up and it takes about 3 months for someone to get over a relationship that long. the anticipation of not telling him is killing me but again, i don’t want to overwhelm him anymore than he already is. i’m afraid if i wait to tell him i might miss my chance, if he even likes me like that which i’m pretty sure he doesn’t, but that might be my insecurities talking.
should i wait to tell him? or should i just go for it? | Crush |
I’ve been talking to this girl for a lil bit and had mostly one full convo irl. How do i talk to her but still maintain flirting?? | Crush |
this new person started working at the same place as me and i'm already crushing so hard, it feels great. we talk and joke around a lot and they've even helped me through 2 panic attacks. we shared food and give each other hugs. yesterday they patted me on the head and it felt so cute!! everytime they smile it's like my whole world lights up.
i don't even get crushes that often, so this is such a nice change of pace for me. it feels so good just to be happy about being around someone. | Crush |
So, for some context, heres a post that i made about this: [https://www.reddit.com/r/Crushes/comments/p3ma5l/did\_i\_get\_rejected\_more\_info/](https://www.reddit.com/r/Crushes/comments/p3ma5l/did_i_get_rejected_more_info/)
I'll explain a bit more cuz theres some stuff i didn't put in. When we get off the bus for school, we don't go directly into the school, we wait outside for around 5-10 minutes and in that time, we both stand outside all alone(i like it like that im introverted and so is she). Although that doesn't seem like a big deal, every now and then i'll see her stare at me and whenever i move she immediately looks somewhere else. I might just be overreacting but i took that as a big deal.
At school, during recess, i would see the same thing, she would hide behind the portables and stare. Whenever i would look in her direction she would hide behind it thinking i didn't see her. Once i pointed at a stick that was in her direction and she even WAVED BACK thinking i was pointing at her.
So, i got kinda carried away, onto the real purpose of this post. I'm planning on asking her wether or not she likes me. Please read my previous post about this: [https://www.reddit.com/r/Crushes/comments/p3ma5l/did\_i\_get\_rejected\_more\_info/](https://www.reddit.com/r/Crushes/comments/p3ma5l/did_i_get_rejected_more_info/)
If you read the whole thing you would know that a year ago she (kinda) rejected me. I have 6 options
My friend asks her now
I ask her now
I ask her when school starts(someone said its better to ask in person)
I ask her a few weeks after school(so we can bond a bit)
My friend asks her a few weeks after school
I dont ask her this year(she said she isn't ready for a relationship)
I personally would go for 6. I don't want to be pushy and seem weird
If you do pick something else, please write why you think so, really helps me out :)
[View Poll](https://www.reddit.com/poll/p4iazs) | Crush |
First time in 2 years I’ve seen her. I’m taking her a birthday gift and need some tips quick since I’m leaving in 15 or 20 minutes to make it on time | Crush |
Ok i never thought that i would even think about this but here we go: i have the biggest crush on a guy at my work since 2 months. He quit working there last week so i won't see him anymore. I don't have his number or anything but we had so much eye contact and he always greeted me and one time he also waved at me from afar and no one did that to me before at work (it sounds so boring but it felt so special to me hahaha)
I really felt like there is something between us but maybe he is like that to everyone because he is just extremly kind I DON'T KNOW and thats what freaks me out so much. Did he feel the same as me? Is he even into girls? Does he still think about me as much as i think about him? But why didn't he try to get closer to me by asking for my number or something then? Was he just too shy or didn't find the right moment? (We rarely saw eachother at work so it wasn't easy to even have a normal conversation)
I just don't know what to do. The only thing i have is his facebook. I made an account but i only added my name and the city where him and i work/live. I sent him a friend request a few days ago but it seems like he still hasn't seen it (the last time he posted something was 2 months ago so idk when he will actually see it)
I'm hoping that after he finally answers my request he will wonder if it's me and text me to ask. But if he doesn't text me, i'm thinking about texting him first and just tell him how i feel and ask him how he feels/felt. But idk if thats a good idea... we barely know eachother. i also definitely couldn't do it sober. I already felt like dying when i sent the friend request lmao
I never did that before, i always just "endured" my feelings for a crush until they went away but my feelings are so strong for him. We also have quite a big age gap and i think i should just get over him but jqhqhajwj idk🥲 i need your opinions please i feel so lost | Crush |
I think I like someone but I’m not too sure cos I can’t tell when or if I do and I just analyse how I act around people. So I’m gonna post this to see if I do like them. I really enjoy speaking to them and playing mc with them. They are prob my go to person to ask for advice or help on a situation and they’ve helped me through some stuff before. One thing tho is that I don’t find them physically attractive like I’ve never thought of them like that ever. On another post someone said it could be because I prefer romantic relationships but I don’t know so off this do you think I do or don’t like them? Feel free to ask more questions and I’ll answer them. Oh I almost forgot. Whenever I speak to them, sometimes I get this feeling that I’m gonna mess up and they aren’t gonna like me anymore. I thought this could be my anxiety but it’s only for this one person so idk | Crush |
I think I like someone but I’m not too sure cos I can’t tell when or if I do and I just analyse how I act around people. So I’m gonna post this to see if I do like them. I really enjoy speaking to them and playing mc with them. They are prob my go to person to ask for advice or help on a situation and they’ve helped me through some stuff before. One thing tho is that I don’t find them physically attractive like I’ve never thought of them like that ever. On another post someone said it could be because I prefer romantic relationships but I don’t know so off this do you think I do or don’t like them? Feel free to ask more questions and I’ll answer them. Oh I almost forgot. Whenever I speak to them, sometimes I get this feeling that I’m gonna mess up and they aren’t gonna like me anymore. I thought this could be my anxiety but it’s only for this one person so idk | Crush |
So I a 16M am thinking of asking out my crush, who I had crush on for a majority of my highschool years, I am now a senior (We both are). I want to go see Shang-Chi and The Ten Rings. And I am thinking of asking her on the 23 of August. I have seen a lot of advice on reddit recommending you ask out your crush as soon as you can, Is it too early to ask, considering I'll be asking her out during the third week of the first month of school? | Crush |
Basically I’ve (f15) liked him (m16) for 2.5 years and my friend’s bday is next week. It’s 70s themed and I was super excited but she mentioned that she was inviting him and now I’m SUPER nervous. Whenever I’m around him and he talks to me I get really blushy and stupid. Like we were on the beach during Easter holidays and I literally tried to bond with him over SEAWEED and hugged him really tightly in a shameful bikini in front of his actual whole family. I don’t know how he feels like his friends say that he has feelings for me but I don’t really trust them and he’s also really shy and indirect ☹️. Anyways I just get so nervous does anyone have any tips? | Crush |
I've known her(F13) for a long time now, 8 years. Since elementary school I(M13) usually just saw her as the nice girl that helps everyone, And a few years ago, i realized i had a crush on her. During the 2020 school year, i made plans on how to tell her i like her. When school was over i would tell one of my friends i like her, make my friend tell her. I would tell my friend to say these exact words: "NotParadeyes likes you, he told me this a few days ago, but dont tell him that i told you or that you even know." If she did like me, she would tell me, If she didn't, she wouldn't say anything.
A few days later she messaged me on discord, saying: "I know that you like me, but i dont think im ready for a relationship yet"
Does she like me? I understand that she isn't ready for a relationship we're just 13yr. But at the same time i feel like if she did like me she would've told me.
That all happened in summer 2020, It's 2021 now and the school year has already ended, Here's more information.
Btw, just pretend that school was like in elementary school we dont change classes and we only have one teacher. (cuz of COVID)
It starts at fall of 2020 and the new school year starts, we both changed schools since our old school only went up to 6th grade. We end up not in the same class but our classes are really close to each other. Luckily, we're in the same bus, And she sits right in front of me. We started talking a lot in the bus and some people even said that we should be a couple, At that moment she blushed so incredibly much that her forehead was red(i cant see her cheeks we wear masks). Eventually school went back online and we never saw each other again. Sometimes we call in the group chat on discord and we can talk but thats it.
Big question, does she like me? | Crush |
I think I like someone but I’m not too sure cos I can’t tell when or if I do and I just analyse how I act around people. So I’m gonna post this to see if I do like them. I really enjoy speaking to them and playing mc with them. They are prob my go to person to ask for advice or help on a situation and they’ve helped me through some stuff before. One thing tho is that I don’t find them physically attractive like I’ve never thought of them like that ever. On another post someone said it could be because I prefer romantic relationships but I don’t know so off this do you think I do or don’t like them? Feel free to ask more questions and I’ll answer them. Oh I almost forgot. Whenever I speak to them, sometimes I get this feeling that I’m gonna mess up and they aren’t gonna like me anymore. I thought this could be my anxiety but it’s only for this one person so idk | Crush |
I think I like someone but I’m not too sure cos I can’t tell when or if I do and I just analyse how I act around people. So I’m gonna post this to see if I do like them. I really enjoy speaking to them and playing mc with them. They are prob my go to person to ask for advice or help on a situation and they’ve helped me through some stuff before. One thing tho is that I don’t find them physically attractive like I’ve never thought of them like that ever. On another post someone said it could be because I prefer romantic relationships but I don’t know so off this do you think I do or don’t like them? Feel free to ask more questions and I’ll answer them. Oh I almost forgot. Whenever I speak to them, sometimes I get this feeling that I’m gonna mess up and they aren’t gonna like me anymore. I thought this could be my anxiety but it’s only for this one person so idk | Crush |
Hi,
I really have a strange question but hope that someone can help me.
I had some quarrels with my crush. So I asked him whether he can say that I am woman that deserves respect and appreciation and whether he respects me. He said that he can give me an answer for that question. I suggest if he said that he has respect and appreciation for me, that means he loves me. Do you think the same? He has a gf by the way. | Crush |
So the title sums my dilemma up pretty well. I have feelings for two guys and I don’t know what to do.
So both crushes developed at the same time and I didn’t recognize my feelings until it was too late. They’re both very different and I like them for very different reasons. It’s really hard to compare pros and cons because of how different they are.
I’ve know one of them for a really long time and we’ve been really good friends since we met so I didn’t really realize when the crush started. I just thought I simply enjoyed his company then one day the feelings hit me.
I’ve known the other guy for less time (still relatively long) but the feelings for him happened really quickly.
I know for a fact one of them likes me but I’m not quite sure how the other guy feels (we talk really often but I can’t tell if he’s just being friendly or if there’s something there).
I haven’t said anything to either of them because I feel like it’s cruel to do that if I don’t even know what I want.
I’m just really worried I make the wrong choice and I absolutely don’t want to make a person feel like they’re my second choice.
Has anyone been in this situation before? Any advice will be helpful. I’m just trying to get my thoughts in order. | Crush |
One of my coworkers (M20) and I (F19) talk to each other a bunch, he's a real sweetheart and he and I share a lot of similarities. I do think he's pretty cute but I didn't think he would really feel the same way towards me until something happened the other day that made me a little suspicious. I came inside from taking orders outside to go on my 30-minute break and he rings me up for my employee meal (we work at fast food place) so he knows I'm on my break. It was a bit slow and I kept thinking to myself how much I wanted to talk to him more since I genuinely enjoy talking to him. Randomly he comes over to where I'm sitting and I ask him if he's on his break and he says "I just wanted to rest my feet" so he spends the time talking to me and we joke around until eventually, he has to go back since he has to go take someone's order. He's worked there for 3 years I believe so he's definitely used to standing for long periods of time. I don't know if this is like just him being honest and he legit had to rest his feet or if he just made an excuse to talk to me. He tends to find his way to my general location a lot, I was working window one time and he was on the other side of the store and came over just to ask if we needed any sauces but he could clearly see from where he was that someone was already there to restock sauces. | Crush |
Okay so I’m a sophomore and not to be weird but I might or might not have a crush on a freshman. He has the nicest blue eyes and like Golden retriever hair, we take Spanish together and he play guitar and like to read like me (minus the guitar) I’m not sure how to get him to like me back or to like talk to me considering I recently cut my hair,also a girl I consider a close friend thinks he’s cute but I’m afraid he’s a rebound and she has no intention on actually being with him she wants to make her ex jealous and Idk if he’s even into black girls but Yk it’s worth a try ig 😅any advice | Crush |
So here listen i have a crush on a guy he is 16 years old and im 15 he doesn't know me but i know him we followed each other on Instagram n he's a bit lowkey guy with zero post but he put storys on his acc and im always waiting
So i like him but we don't talk to each other i know he doesn't know me ofcourse why would he talk to me n im expecting things i shouldn't and i feel like he doesn't check out on me but in the same time why would he check on me he doesn't know me😶but i want him to godd its complicated sometimes he views my story and i upload new pic of mine and he doesn't even like the pic 🙃 oh god what do i do now should i just go straight up say hi to him or how do i approach him god idk n i have never said hi to anyone not even to a girl how am i supposed to say to a boy? He's into anime n im not im into kpop more and i feel like i should not like him anymore because i got no chance but idk i can't get over shitt now what im gonna do and im afraid that even if i text him he won't reply 😔 sometimes i think i should just forget and find a new boy to go crazy over him but i just can't forget about him oh godd how did this happen to me n im very unlucky in these things always happens the boy i like they either have gf or they out of my country its funny now | Crush |
YALL I CONFESSED
So basically I was kind of emotional yesterday and was leaving all my group chats and “cutting people off”. Idk I just get into one of those moods sometimes. Anyway, he seemed really bothered by it and kept texting me asking me what was wrong and what he did etc.
To be honest, I was doing that because I sort of saw him talking to a girl I fucking hate lmao (the day had already been kinda shit). I felt so upset that I just didn’t want to talk to anyone.
So while he was texting me really worriedly, I kinda said something super mean in the heat of the moment, and he was so upset that he just blocked me. He did unblock me soon after, but he was really pissed off. It was pretty late, around 11pm at night and idk what I was thinking. I suddenly felt like telling him and so I hinted at it, and he was shocked. And then we talked for a little while more and I got around to fully confessing (I was literally shaking). He literally couldn’t say anything for a minute and then told me he felt the same way and that he did for a while now. We agreed to keeping no labels because neither of us want to date rn.
We’ve spent the whole day texting and I feel so good??? We both apparently also started liking each other at about the same time. I’ve told nobody about how I felt about him till now and don’t plan on telling anyone too. This is like our secret now. The thing is, this is his first time doing this and I feel like he doesn’t know what to do or say at times. But I know that he really does care about me. | Crush |
I’ve liked this guy for a very long time (almost 3 years). Been through lots of ups and downs with him even though we never dated. I gotta go back to school in september and thinking about seeing him makes me feel sick (nauseated). Everytime I’m around him I feel really nauseous. I’m wondering if this is normal or what is going on with me. Is this normal? If it’s not, what should I do. I’m not sure if he’s wrong for me or if I put too much stress on myself because of him. What can I do to ease the stress of seeing him? Thanks | Crush |
There’s this guy it’s been almost a year since I’ve developed a crush on him and we’ve been literally playing a game of cat and mouse and it’s annoying he tries to make me jealous and talk about girls and I do the same and bruhhh I’m done with this shit I really enjoy talking to him and when he’s not around when we hangout as friends I feel so lonely cuz he’s the only guy who’s my age he’s very shy and he likes to act hard to get and shit ans im done with his shit
Can I tell him to shoot his shot or fuck off | Crush |
I think I like someone but I’m not too sure cos I can’t tell when or if I do and I just analyse how I act around people. So I’m gonna post this to see if I do like them. I really enjoy speaking to them and playing mc with them. They are prob my go to person to ask for advice or help on a situation and they’ve helped me through some stuff before. One thing tho is that I don’t find them physically attractive like I’ve never thought of them like that ever. On another post someone said it could be because I prefer romantic relationships but I don’t know so off this do you think I do or don’t like them? Feel free to ask more questions and I’ll answer them. Oh I almost forgot. Whenever I speak to them, sometimes I get this feeling that I’m gonna mess up and they aren’t gonna like me anymore. I thought this could be my anxiety but it’s only for this one person so idk | Crush |
I think I like someone but I’m not too sure cos I can’t tell when or if I do and I just analyse how I act around people. So I’m gonna post this to see if I do like them. I really enjoy speaking to them and playing mc with them. They are prob my go to person to ask for advice or help on a situation and they’ve helped me through some stuff before. One thing tho is that I don’t find them physically attractive like I’ve never thought of them like that ever. On another post someone said it could be because I prefer romantic relationships but I don’t know so off this do you think I do or don’t like them? Feel free to ask more questions and I’ll answer them | Crush |
I think I like someone but I’m not too sure cos I can’t tell when or if I do and I just analyse how I act around people. So I’m gonna post this to see if I do like them. I really enjoy speaking to them and playing mc with them. They are prob my go to person to ask for advice or help on a situation and they’ve helped me through some stuff before. One thing tho is that I don’t find them physically attractive like I’ve never thought of them like that ever. On another post someone said it could be because I prefer romantic relationships but I don’t know so off this do you think I do or don’t like them? Feel free to ask more questions and I’ll answer them | Crush |
I think I like someone but I’m not too sure cos I can’t tell when or if I do and I just analyse how I act around people. So I’m gonna post this to see if I do like them. I really enjoy speaking to them and playing mc with them. They are prob my go to person to ask for advice or help on a situation and they’ve helped me through some stuff before. One thing tho is that I don’t find them physically attractive like I’ve never thought of them like that ever. On another post someone said it could be because I prefer romantic relationships but I don’t know so off this do you think I do or don’t like them? Feel free to ask more questions and I’ll answer them | Crush |
So I've been in love with this girl for like 3 years and we usually go through phases where we do a lot and then don't do much. Sometimes she's in an awful mood and I don't usually understand why she acts so cold.
Once when she was acting kinda annoyed I wrote to her asking if I did anything wrong and said something that maybe grinded her gears (keep in mind that we have a very slow going relationship, we don't know too much about each other yet). She then sends a text where she is very apologetic and I honestly feel like an asshole for asking cuz it turns out that she was just stressed and tired and I've just been overreacting the last days, feeling like I did something wrong.
Just wanted to get this story off my chest cuz I really feel crap for texting her when there was absolutely no need to do it. I just want an objective opinion if I was right to text her or not | Crush |
we are from the same college and have nvr met physically bfr due to online learning and lockdown restrictions. He messaged me first and we texted everyday everywhere for 2 months + (it rly feels like we're twins where we vibe well) but not anymore (im not sure if it's due to lost interest / not sure how to proceed due to lockdown where we can't meet till who knows when / he did told me he is not really on his phone anymore this hols which is true) and he has also talked about doin stuff tgt like movies but they didn't happened which i never asked about it too.
BUT the thing now is he still engage w my social media posts (eg: voting on my poll, likes, etc) just not directly message, and he still keeps our streak, and i'm his only streak? I don't know if he's doing it bc he feels bad or?? But i'll just assume i'm at least a friend ( well not sure if we were ever more than friends but the things we did aren't things that friends would do..?)
note: he's an introvert
what is your take on it guys? @boys, i'm going to take it as lost in interest but by any chance do you guys ever distance yourself away because you're unsure or something | Crush |
my crush and i go to this boarding school, he and i are two completely different ethnicities(he cannot speak english that well),not only that we barely have anything in common. he is shy,polite,hardworking and did i say VERY POLITE, i in the other hand am not, im a big extrovert and i speak my mind, im friendly and i interact with a bunch of people(you could say i make friends quite frequently) ive known my crush for about 2 years now and about 6 months ago i realized that i had feelings for him. it grew alot stronger after passing that 3 month mark.
-weve had a bit of chemistry before, we wave at each other every day when we see each other, there was this once i sat beside him during an art exhibition for 3 hours and i almost slept on him (oops:’)) but i rlly started making a move around 3 months ago
-i bought a drink to give him to encourage him for the exam seasons that were coming up, he dmed me after and told me thank you for buying the drink, nothing came after that -_-
-after the exams i decided to ask him how it went, he was fidgeting and touching his neck alot i could tell he was a little uncomfortable or shy? he said it was fine and then i proceeded to ask him what he was doing after school and he just fidgeted kept mumbling and i finished his sentence for him<3
-i probably dm him quite a bit i had quickly realized he was probably the worlds driest texter.
-he remembered my birthday and we had a bit of a conversation afterwards.
needless to say im confused between if he likes me or he doesnt he shows signs of interest sometimes but honestly he is so confusing and i need help moving forwards. am i not obvious enough? | Crush |
In my most recent dream, my crush, who I haven't seen face to face for a week but I have talked to a bit online in this last week, was apparently pregnant with my child. It was weird. Not in a hospital but was like a clinic. In the dream, I was in that "clinic" and I learned she was pregnant as she was delivering the baby. I rushed to the room she was. She had given birth. She was sitting on a couch with the baby with her parents (whom I've never met or that I've seen less than briefly. I couldn't say who they are if put in front of me now). I go sit next to her, she passes me the baby. She told me his name was my name with her first name but the men's version (example : Raphaelle --> Raphael). " In someway I was happy, it made me smile. I felt like I was complete for the first time in my life." Then I woke up to still being alone and still never had a love relationship with someone. | Crush |
about early last year i met this girl through mutual friends and soon we started to text each other a lot
obviously covid happened so we were not able to see each other nor our other friends since then we have been texting each other and after getting to know her better i started developing feelings for her
i do think she too developed feelings for me or at least did. i mean she sends me songs which make me think that she has feelings for me (like heaven by Julia Micheals, Cry baby by The neighbourhood and some more) plus whenever we talk about our dream relationship/type
i feel like she tries to shade at me by listing what qualities she wants in a bf and for the most part they match up with my qualities
so tbh i don't what to do, should i ask her if she likes me or should i not, or should wait for her to ask | Crush |
So my crush (24 M) asked me (23 F) out a few days ago. It was a simple text after we got home from a group event. Along the lines of "let me take you out." It was midnight, I was tired and didn't even think to ask questions, but I gave him a quick confirmation and left it at that.
He's a lousy texter, which he has let me known upfront. He did make an effort to follow up 2 days later asking about my ideal first date, and some things I've never tried before that I want to do. For more context, he also works 3 jobs and considers himself "shy" although I don't peg him to be shy per se, but perhaps ambiverted. Lastly, I can tell he's the type who to likes to plan things out thoroughly, do some research, etc. based on our previous interactions.
Despite this, I am a bit concerned for the lack of follow up regarding a specific day at least. It's been four days. Now mentally, I'm giving him a week (marked by when he first asked me out) to make concrete plans before I assume he's not serious.
But my question is, does it typically take this long for guys to make concrete plans for a date? | Crush |
So I have one class with this girl and it’s before lunch. One day as I was exiting class she ran up to me and asked if I wanted to sit with her at lunch. I said yes and it turned out we had a lot in common. Including favourite bands, food and shows etc. She also insisted on taking alot of photos of us and then she gave me her number. As we texted almost all day she then said she made us her wallpaper on her phone. I then took her out to dinner and a movie. She always tells me how much fun she had when we went out. I was thinking about asking her to be my girlfriend but I don’t know how to word it. I am almost positive she likes me and I definitely like her. How would I go about asking her? | Crush |
Me and a girl have been Snapping for a while now, and have become good friends and I think she flirts with me a lot, but today I was on a private story she made that I haven’t seen before and there was a TikTok video of “we could be the relationship everybody is jealous of” could she be talking about me? I don’t understand how someone could put someone in a private story about that if it isn’t about them.. some one help me out here? | Crush |
I am a 15 year old boy and I have crush on a girl in my class. I like this girl so much. But my best friend who is with me since 7 years , is a humourous and extrovert guy also likes her as much as I do. Me being an introvert couldn't talk to her whenever I see her whereas my friend became his seat partner for almost a year , talked to her laughed with her and at the end became friends with her. But I want her too so I don't know what to do. I couldn't even do anything stupid to break our friendship with him by knowing the fact that my friend respects and values our friendship more than that girl. | Crush |
So I have been talking to this guy since January and we stopped talking for like 2-3 months and on and off talking now... He says he still likes me, he and I have never met but we live in the same county/state but have not been able to meet due to the restrictions I have from my parents and of course the pandemic... When I asked him why he still likes me he said "I can't quite my finger on why", is this a bad or good sign cause goddamn I'm confused. Sorry for my language. I'm just kind of getting annoyed because it simply doesn't make sense. | Crush |
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So I get the vibes that some girls are crushing on me. But they are just shy. One of them came to me and told me she missed me (only went away for 2 days) even though we barely talk to each other. And when i talk to my crush I get this feeling that I make her jealous since I notice a slight sorrowful change on the expression on her face (cuz literally everyone in my school knows about my crush) She even gave me something on my birthday. Didn't even tell her it was my birthday. And like 5 girls wished me happy birthday at the same time.
I've had past occurrences of girls approaching me and collecting my number without my permission mostly through my sister just because I'm "cute". One even started texting me just because my sister showed her a picture of me. And girls getting attracted to me when I barely try to. First day i entered school newly, already had like 5 girls coming to me all because I was "cute". So my face is probably like 8 to 9/10.
I'm not an introvert nor an extrovert or maybe both. I love gaming, anime (weeb level of liking anime), and do a lot of editing and programming. but at the same time I'm 5'11, according to many, handsome, a really fast runner (currently the fastest runner), really fun to talk to after I get used to them, And I talk a lot when I am surrounded with more of people that know me well (literally almost anything I say is funny. Not in the embarrassing way). I stay indoors unless it is to sprint with someone or practice sprinting technique and I don't like half of what happens in parties. I also hold the most powerful prefect position in school. I can literally punish any student.
nowadays Some people said I give a vibe to others that don't know me much that makes them not know how to approach (due to the fact that I look very for my age and I maintain a seriously straight face when I'm not doing anything) so I think that could be a reason why the girls that have a crush on me only show subtle signs that my dumbass can't notice.
later, the school councilor caught me crying bout my own crush then she said that there are girls that are crushing on me but they are invisible to me (cuz I literally have no interest in other girls apart from my crush). She couldn't tell me the girls because a councilor has to keep secrets. Assuming what the councilor said was true, then they might have gotten depressed cuz I didn't notice them and went to the councilor.
I want to be able to notice those subtle signs so I won't make them sad anymore (that's if there are actually girls crushing on me and are actually sad). Any tips? | Crush |
So i have a crush on my coworker since over a month but the problem is that he has different tasks than me so i don't have the chance to really talk to him, we only walk past each other a few times every day. Sometimes we have maybe little conversations (if you can call it that) where he just asks me if i'm done with work and he also kindly laughed a few times after saying something to me. I do feel like that there is some type of tension between us. We always greet eachother and have eye contact (i always try to have 1-2 seconds eye contact and smile but it's hard for me sometimes, especially with a mask). Recently he even waved to me from afar in the morning and no one ever did that to me at work (my other colleagues rarely greet me in general, thats how i noticed him lmao)
Does anyone maybe have more tips for me? I'm too shy to ask for his number or something like that... He has to ask me, i can't do that. Thats why i want to show him that i definitely have interest and wouldn't reject him
Or does anyone think that i interpret too much in it? I really feel like there is something between us but maybe he is just really kind, i don't know | Crush |
Hello.
I wanted to make this post to hopefully receive some guidance and help.
I’m so lost on what I should do or how I should do it. I’m in love with this one girl, and we have a graduation party coming up for our school. I’m not sure if I should ask her if she’d like to go with me.
We have known each other for nearly 3 years and we are really close. The truth is, we are already really good friends, we watch too many kdramas together, drink too much soju and play too much valorant. I’m just worried I will mess things up.
Please help me. | Crush |
I'm going to try to talk to my crush tomorrow motivate me please and also please give me conservation starters and tips on how to compliment her!! | Crush |
For a year I have been talking with a friend and we play video games online, she is 26 and I am 22. She lives in Europe and I live in America. I know she's pretty, but most importantly, I love talking to her, we have a lot of chemistry between us.
Sometimes we joke about getting married so that I can get permits and live in Europe together.
We don't talk as much as I would like, because we have different hours and she works long hours.
I don't think there is something like a "soul mate" or anything of destiny, that's why I decided to stop talking to her, to forget about her and this almost impossible desire.
The problem is that when the days go by and I don't speak to her, she asks for me, she writes to me. And it hurts not to be able to tell her how I feel about her, nor to be able to forget her.
I plan to move to Europe, close to where she lives, for work and financial reasons. (My country has a poop economy) , she knows, and says we can meet in person. Just knowing she's interested in me and not being able to even try something, hurts.
Many times a woman was not interested in me and I did not suffer, but the fact that it is reciprocal and not being able to see us ...
I will update this sad story from time to time. xD.
(Sorry for my english, i use google traslator :P) | Crush |
This girl and I (both 16) haven’t seen eachother in nearly 2 years since I switched schools and she moved away shortly after, we’ve thankfully stayed in contact and become good friends. Well I just heard from her that she’s moved back, she arrived earlier today in fact
I want ideas to try and get something going between us. Other people have told me that she’s flirted with me before, but I have my doubts. There’s a festival this weekend but I’m worried asking her to that even as friends might be too fast.
Her birthday was also a couple days ago so I am working on getting her some late gifts
Either way this shakes out I’m just happy to have her back in the same state as me | Crush |
I can’t ask anyone in my personal life for advice so here I am. I really really like this guy. We’ve known each other for around a year now, he’s typically shy and reserved but here recently he’s been opening up a lot more and becoming more interactive. Our friendship has grown little by little the more he comes out of his shell and it gives me hope that there could possibly be more to us. I’m not sure if I should tell him now and wait until he opens up more. And if I do tell him now how would I even go about it? | Crush |
She's showing some signs that she may like me, but I'm not sure if she is being friendly or if it's more than that.
Signs:
1. She indirectly asked me to go to the movies with her. Seemed nervous when first bringing it up.
2. A lot of teasing and joking around
3. texting each other asking how our days were, good night texts, texting multiple times a day. Recently sent "good nightt" with two t's
4. recently followed me on insta.
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I am going to the movies with her in a couple of days. What should I do at the movies, and does she like me? Thanks r/crush! | Crush |
i met this guy in october and we instantly clicked, we get along pretty well and ever since we met we’ve never gone a day without texting each other.
we’ve called before, played games and we sometimes even walk to classes together, as the weeks went by we’ve gotten closer obviously and a lot more comfortable with each other.
during the time we’ve spent with each other i’ve developed feelings for him and my friends say he might feel the same way, tho here’s the problem, when we met he liked a girl who he no longer likes, and i’m not sure if he’s ready to move on yet, he’s also always with this one girl during school and i’m not sure what she is to him, i asked him once and he said they weren’t even close friends, yet they’re ALWAYS with each other.
my friends says he likes me because he does things like copy me, jokingly makes fun of me, always brings up things from our previous convos, wanting to play games and call, whenever we call he wants to just hear me talk even if he’s just playing a game, we always text each other gm/gn, he copies the way i text and speak as well and always jokingly tells me to kiss every male i interact with?? we text each other for most of the day and a few more things.
i’m just not sure if he feels the same way i feel about him and i’m just wondering if it’s too early to like him or too early for him to have feelings for me | Crush |
i read that if a guy rejected a girl, he will never change his mind, is this true? or is there a chance he changes his mind and accepted the girl in the future? is the probability high or low for it to happen?
any of you guys who changed your mind and accepted the girl you once rejected, will you share your stories of why and how? | Crush |
I like this guy a lot,and he is one of my best friends.
I know he is bi and desperately wants to be in a relationship, but the problem is that he probably doesn't like me back and would just stay with me because he has not other options,so I don't know what to do.Yesterday he told me I am very pretty but some months ago when a friend of mine asked him if he liked me,he said no.Anyway he hasn't a real crush atm, he is chatting with a guy that he finds attractive,but he doesn't really like him and chats with him just because he is desperate for a relationship (I know this because he told me and my sister).Also this other guy is not really interested in him and is hanging out with other guys too.
I don't know what to do,I do not want to have a remorse but I think that seeing him in the arms of another person would hurt me even more than that,so I want to play my card before he gets a girlfriend/boyfriend,just so I will know that I have done what I could.
Any advice? | Crush |
ive been closed off to relationships for a while now since i have a lot of other things to focus on and i feel like i don’t really have energy for much more. recently i started developing feelings for someone but i honestly don’t know if he even likes me back. i feel like he might like me but not to the extent where he would want something serious. some things he does~
-asks me a lot of questions about what i like to do/watch/listen to
-i always catch him staring at me and sometimes smiling at me
-teases me a lot
-always smiling when he talks to me
-offered to give me his netflix account
but he never really talks to me through text, which is why i have my doubts. ive known him for 7 months and i honestly feel like he might just see me as a close friend. but i’m also really bad at picking up social cues so idk. this is more of a rant i guess | Crush |
To talk about me first:
Me (32M), for the longest i've been the direct type, you know, i see something i'm interested or catch my glimpse and i go after it, so in relationship terms, i do everything a man does:
* we both cross eyes
* i first approach
* do the sweet talk
* ask for her number
* be the first to text
* ask for a date
* plan and direct the date
* if everything feels positive, i confess
**you know, always initiate everything and take all the risk**
I've since become tired of mind games, hard to get, etc. and have come to the realization that women don't give anything at all, just receive so, i've decided to put a condition if i am to chase after women. That is, she only needs to talk first (not to confuse with small talk like ''today is cold'') and i would do the rest, this way, perhaps, i would feel the same they do = to feel wanted/desired.
Crush story time:
Late august, i've gone to a interview. That day, i saw a certain girl and it was love at first sight. Didn't get the chance to talk with her due to my interview and her break time.
I got the job and started first september. We saw each other at our first break time, but since she didn't said anything, neither did i (plus the condition), although she gave me a nervous curious look (first sign).
I've heard rumours that she was in a kinda-not-really relationship with someone, so i closed my feelings and focus on the job.
**We really never talked with each other except a few good mornings**, but there were signs (quite the list so i will not put here). Two months after and the guy she was in a kinda-not-really relationship left her for another women in another city. I thought this was my chance so, since we never talked, i've tried to show with actions and not words.
First i've talked with a colleague that knew for advice, but the guy was nice and actually said to her that someone from the work place was interested in her but didn't told her who exactly. She was kinda happy. Days later, she found out it was me due to a mistake from my buddy, since he gave the clue away while looking at me. In this week frame, she started to look at me, dead in the eyes from afar when leaving the work place and almost ghosted me or avoid the place i've walked to what i assume was nervous reaction, but she didn't approach, so i've decided to put a red rose in her usual break time place, hoping that she would notice, forcing her to talk with me. Funny is that, given the time frame and what was happening, she somehow didn't realize it was for her. While talking with my buddy, he again helped me and told her (without me asking) to who it was for. She again didn't do anything. So while feeling down, i've decided to make a last attempt. I've put three roses, different color each with a card saying if she felt ok with and left my number with my name on it (so that she would actually know who it was from). Her action after that was, talked with my buddy and he said she was really happy and compromised/promised to send me a text later that day.
Well, she never did.
Day after, i told my buddy and my buddy asked her. She told him that she was ''busy'', while saying with a sweet voice.
So friday, saturday and sunday pass and i still don't have any text message nor call. My buddy asked me saturday if she send me something. I told him that on Monday i would tell him, hoping that she would somehow still send me until then.
Monday comes, my buddy asked her while kinda bothered/little angry and she gave the same excuse - ''was busy'' and ''now was kinda a bad time''.
So, being logical that i am, i've decided to put a small letter in her car window saying that ''i will accept your silence as a rejection'', wishing good luck and all that. That day she looked pissed.
Day after (which was yesterday), she was walking around in my work place alot, while talking to most guys there looking quite happy, special with one of them. I passed next to her with the machine i was using (because i was working) while she was talking with another colleague. She made a beep sound like a truck or something. Later that day i found out throught that colleague that she looked at me then down and smiled when i passed next to her.
Yesterday i felt burning with jealous, because she barelly comes to my work place and i know she barelly talks with the people around here. The day after i gave her the letter she somehow looks quite relieve or free, while happily talking with everybody except me.
I'm in love with this girl but i don't know what else i can do if i can do anything at all after i gave her the letter. I also know that she might be doing mind games, to see if she gets a reaction.
What i also don't understand is that my buddy told me several times she was quite happy, while also another old guy (that took notice of the rose and talks with her) said she has been quite happy these days.
So, can i ask for advice? if so, what can i do?
If not, then how can i get closure?
PS: this doesn't affect my job. I'm not a professional but i know to separate things. | Crush |
My best friend has a crush on 3 different people, and wants a poly relationship.
Crush 1 likes Crush 2 and Crush 3, and wants a poly relationship with them, but not with my friends.
Crush 2 likes Crush 1
Idk about Crush 3.
My friend is really sad because Crush 1 and Crush 2 told them about their feelings, and my friend is going to try to set up Crush 1 and Crush 2 (and possibly Crush 3 in a poly). My friend (who likes all 3) doesn't know what to do, they are asking me what to do and I have no idea. | Crush |
hii! sooo I like this guy for 2/3 years and I think he feels the same for me. we attempt the same school and, not always but a lot of times, I noticed him staring at me. sometimes he gets closer to me.
last year or two years ago, I messaged him on insta and he wrote me to say hello to him at school but then we stayed in quarantine and I couldn't do that. we passed all the quarantine sending each other songs in our stories. however we've never talked and I couldn't take it anymore, plus my mental health was deteriorating so I deleted my account. I tried to get over him, I did it but I fell for him again :')
last week I wrote him in insta but he didn't respond so I deleted the message. I don't have any photos on my account and I put a different name that's why he didn't reply, I think, i hope.
now we are on holidays and I want to talk to him because I'm so tired of this situation but at the same time I don't want to do that cause if things go wrong? some of his friend stare at me and I hate that because I get really nervous. So if I talk to him and something goes wrong his friend are gonna stare at me like I'm a monster and I would feel really uncomfortable going to school.
so should I give up on him or should I try message him or should I wait until we return at school? I don't really know what to do.
thanks for reading <3 | Crush |
I wanted to buy him a game for Christmas but before I could he bought it for myself AND me. He’s bought me numerous things too and gone out of his way to just give me stuff and I try to do the same but he ignores me or just doesn’t accept it.
I don’t understand why he’s doing this. He legit drove across the country to give me something. I want to do something nice for him but he won’t let me.
I want to do it anyways but I’m afraid it’ll make him upset. What should I do? | Crush |