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How can you masturbate more than 3 times a day?

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rr5x9h

Everybody is different. Some can do more, some can’t. Age, your general health, your sex drive and other factors all play a role.

I think it's different for each person. To me 2 times a day is the normal and I can do it 3 times with no problem if I'm really horny. But I know what you mean about doing it too much. When I was in high school and depressed I used to do it up to 5 times a day simply because I had nothing better to do. And it wasn't fun, orgasms were very weak and my dick would hurt sometimes. I don't do that anymore, it's important to know your limits.

I have, but my limit is twice a day

I do four a day on weekends and twice a day on weekdays. You may be surprised to hear it's less to do with sex drive than it is OCD. I got screwed I started a new job in November and I'm off all week so now I have to do four a day until Jan 3

I think it's more mental than physical. If I've slept well, am feeling good and are in a horny mood, 5-7 orgasms a day are achievable. But as I've gotten older, it's also less on my mind as well. So when it used to be a daily plus activity for me in my 30s and early 40s, it's less so now. Now it's either an early morning wake-up/quickie, or an evening play with more of a effort to it.

Is it bad or weird to think of a teacher when I do it

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jp4bi2

You can think of whoever or whatever you want. It's nobody else's business. If it makes it good, go for it and enjoy!

Thinking is absolutely harmless

I did this when I was 12. It's ok, just don't tell them.

Dunno if it's bad or not, but it's definitely not weird. Teachers are pretty common crushes.

Oh yes I think of my teacher quite a bit! I asked for a hug the other day and she accepted! I almost exploded in her arms! I love to think of that moment when I am cumming!

Naked self pleasure?

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ygysr0

Who doesn’t masturbate naked?

always, i have to completely nude no socks or nothing. all the girls i like to look at are naked so i might as well be too lol

i love doing that. it feels more natural

definetly the best way to do it but I can only do it when home alone, which is also when I can try crazy shit like humping pillows

The only way I have done it

Who else masturbates at work?

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b6lld4

(M) Not at my current job, but I often used to do it in grad school. There was a fairly secluded men’s room on a more or less deserted floor that I used to visit whenever the urge arose. When I was working late at night and I was sure everyone had gone home for the day, I didn’t even bother visiting the men’s room; I would instead just lock the doors to my lab and jerk off right there at my bench.

It's been a couple months since [the last time](https://www.reddit.com/r/masturbation/comments/a0vw9l/yesterdays_bathroom_stall_exploits/). Might need to rectify that soon! ​ I actually don't think I've ever had a job that I never masturbated at....

Right here. I've done it at work. At my desk even.

I did twice. And both times i had a client resting or sleeping on my table (I worked at a spa) Its hard to make yourself cum quickly on a squeeky rolling chair.

I’m always more productive after a good wank! I’m too distracted otherwise.

Getting caught?

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zazj7z

With your family, if you have your own room then you should be fairly safe when you've gone to bed, at other times, as long as not naked you could cover up. With friends, presumably they are also doing similar to you lol.

I have been caught a couple times unintentionally and others where it was staged for someone to “catch” me. Once in a movie theater I got caught by a guy rubbing my cock and he ended up giving me a hand. And a couple times at a local park at night I would arrange to get caught. Either way it was always a thrill.

Never got caught unless I wanted to. Felt kind of exciting. Only time it was embarrassing was sucking myself. Who do you want to catch you?

I've definitely done it some places where I knew I might get caught - it always makes things more fun, especially if someone does catch me but doesn't make themselves known!

impressive that you havent been caught because i definitely was a few times back when i lived at home. it makes it more exciting knowing you can get caught and the idea of someone seeing it is amazing.

is it ok to do it to people I know

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l4ngug

It is very normal

As long as it doesn't damage your relationship with them - you don't start treating them different for example. Then you're good. Pining after any one person isn't good for you. If you find you are, try asking them out or stopping masturbating to them to not mess up your mental health.

totally ok. i wouldnt tell them but everyone does it. they may be doing the same looking at your pics

All these answers are good. The mind is an amazing tool. And remember. Its fantasy. Keep it fantasy. Keep it to yourself. Be respectful.

It’s very normal. I’ve had a few friends confess to doing it to me as well

Best way to masturbate without people hearing?

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ixpwx4

I live in a pretty crowded house as well, so I just use the bathroom nowadays. Or I wate till people are kinda occupied and I lock my room door, and use headphones if I'm watching porn. Unfortunately being vocal while masturbating is impossible. I masturbate fully clothed just in case someone asks why I'm locking my room door, and I just quickly close my laptop

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I usually turn a show on the tv and lock the door. Then use my headphones for porn.

I taught myself to do it silent. it took a few tries but I can do it now

Get a lock on your door

How many of you are masturbating during work?

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10gfdjr

I masturbate pretty much every day when working from home, I figure it's probably fairly common.

I did it once. I had no work to do at the time so i just got into a quiet place and masturbated. The risk of getting caught made it even better.

I wear butt plug to work most days, which is like edging a little all day for me. I can’t resist masturbating when I get home haha

When I did work from home I was finding myself masturbating really frequently. Honestly spent most of the time without pants or underwear and edging myself on and off for my entire work day.

Yup I’m jerking my dick off while working. Imagining I’m fucking one of my coworkers while doing it too.

Ladies, what do you fantasize about when you masturbate?

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qjw85m

I may be the minority here, but I don't really think about anything. I just get really into the physical sensations and lose myself in that.

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experiences I have had or that I want to have. sometimes no fantasy at all...just thinking about how amazing it feels to do what I am doing

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I honestly don’t think about anything, I just want to pleasure myself and make myself cum. Yeah I know that’s probably weird lol 😂

Showing off when masturbating?

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108y67j

I have been watched by my wife several times, and a guy in a 3some combination, but no one else. It was very hot ti have the freedom to do it while being watched, and go all the way. I am thinking of trying it online but afraid of privacy, someone taking video etc.

I joined a masturbation group just for this pleasure. I love watching and being watched.

I love being and watching a stroke. Mostly but cyber on gydoo dot com. I'm hoping to link up with other like minded online masturbators (M or F) through reddit as well. Love sharing the moans and pleasure.

Where do you do it online?

I've never been in w position or situation when i was watched, i think i might enjoy it, but i shall try one day to know if it's my thing

Crazy places to masturbate?

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wl8awx

I illegally crossed the Canadian border on the fourth of July so I could cum on a different country

I've jerked off in a forest before. Got so horny I started to finger myself and I had a spectacular orgasm.

Heavily wooded private backyard deck at 3:00 a.m. when the moon’s burning … like a jungle out there … summer nights … everything nocturnal humming …

Sometimes I’ll go to a porn arcade just to mix it up. Most will have individual stations where you can watch porn and masturbate. The best ones have a group theatre area where you can masturbate along with others. It’s a huge thrill being watched, and it’s a safe/legal way to live out of that fantasy for me.

My car, out on walks (remote areas), deserted beaches, my back yard. Anywhere that’s a turn on and that is private and can’t be seen by others !

is it bad that I'm always horny and have the urge to jerk off?

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uqog03

If it’s significantly impacting your life then maybe, but 2 times in a day isn’t necessarily a lot compared to some other people. The most I’ve gone is 4 times in one day, but there was hardly any cum by the 4th time.

I love jerking off. Usually at least twice a day

You'll make some girl very happy some day with that kind of sex drive, enjoy it while you've got it...

Take some break, keep it balanced.

I don’t see how it can be bad unless it is getting in the way of your day to day life. You just have a high sex drive.

Is it normal to cry sometimes after masturbating?

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telw5y

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Very normal. Orgasm is a release of tension. My girlfriend does the same sometimes. This just means you are fully letting go.

Totally normal, keep in mind that it’s not just a tension release but also a huge hormone release. Neurologically, an orgasm is essentially a giant serotonin response, so coming fresh out of that might make you want to cry because you’re going from a very high release of serotonin to nothing. Totally fine and everything will go back to normal afterwards! But just know this part in case it happens even wen you’re not particularly tense.

Happens to me from time to time. An orgasm can be a pretty powerful thing which can trigger a lot of emotions.

I agree with the others - I just think it’s your bodies normal reaction to releasing all that tension! And could also be a bit of pleasure overdrive!

Do you finish after getting caught?

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losirj

I've literally continued to jerk off while being caught. Masterbation is perfectly healthy and normal. It's the person who intruded on my private times fault for not knocking before entering a closed door. Why should I stop? I'll literally cum while they watch. I don't care.

Yes - when I was about 20 away at university in shared accommodation, a girl who I was good friends with walked into my room when I was masturbating one morning and I finished off while she sat on the bed next to me. It was common for her just to walk in my room if it was unlocked, no big deal, we used to hang out together most days walking to lectures, studying in the library etc but totally friend zone. It was normal for her to come into my room in the morning and get me up to go out somewhere. I had the finish line in sight when she came in, I quickly covered myself with the bedding and she sat down on the bed next to me asking me to get ready to go out. I said I needed to finish something off first and deliberately made a tent with my dick in the bedding to demonstrate what I meant. She said ok then, I can come back in a bit if you want? Seeing there was an option I said, no stay there, I'll only need a couple of minutes so she just stayed. I got straight back on it an finished off while she say next to me - took much less than the predicted couple of minutes knowing she was right next to me.

I imagine if you feel the need to safe the situation or at least minimize the damage, by explaining yourself or denying or whatever, you have to "abort the mission" to do so. Also, if you stay and finish, and the one that caught you knows this/finds out, it becomes extra awkward. But I think the biggest reason to not finish is that the moment is probably gone, no more horniness, just shame. But hey, if it ever happens to you and you want to finish, knock yourself out; nobody is stopping you, I hope.

Lock the damn door or wedge something underneath unless it’s a thrill for you. Exhibitionists will always finish!!

Yeah I keep going, when I was a Uni student I would get walking in on all the time and caught but usually they just walk out slowly after seeing what I’m watching or a mate would chill and watch it with me and sometimes whip it out and wank.

taste your own cum?

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z9ciah

Girl who tastes their own juices sometimes. I like to know I taste good 🥹

I eat my cum sometimes. The trick is, you can't wait until an orgasm. You get the post nut clarity and you don't eat it. You have to get yourself really worked up and edged. Then, ruin your orgasm, collect as much cum as you can and then eat it.

I've tasted my own cum, it was ok but love the taste of my pre.

Don’t like my cum and by the time I do cum I’m not horny enough to do it anymore. But my precum is delicious

I like precum more but tasted my cum it's not bad

do I masturbate while my roommate is in the apartment or do I wait til she is out somewhere?

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ww2g2d

I say go for it. Play some background music or have the tv on, lock the door and do what you do best. I wouldnt be surprised if she was doing the same thing at some time when you were there as well. Its a natural thing and we all do it, one way or another.

assert your dominance, do it on the kitchen counter

Getting along with roommates can be hard even aside from this issue. Use of the common spaces (including the bathroom), food sharing, personality conflicts, schedule conflicts, guests, etc. can cause trouble. It's good to be considerate of your roommate. But orgasms are a basic human need for almost everyone. I first experienced this problem in the dorm in college, when I had a roommate and no private bedroom. I learned to work around his schedule, and we set up our beds so we couldn't see each other, and at night I learned to be extremely quiet. (He either did the same or didn't masturbate. I'd actually like to know but that's not a good opening conversation after not seeing somebody for 25 years.) What did you do when you were living at home? I'm assuming your house wasn't normally empty at night. Ultimately I think the answer here is that unless you're obnoxiously loud, what you do in your room is your business. If you're concerned that you won't be able to keep the noise down enough to where she can't really hear you, have a conversation with her. I find that communication makes things better. (And, for the record, if I had a roommate and heard her masturbating privately in his/her room, my reaction would probably be to go in my own room and pound one out myself. But that's just me. I don't know your roommate and can't speak for her.)

Imo just keep it down or play some quiet background sound if need be. People live in close quarters to each other and it's a fact of life that people have libidos and needs. People in apartments who also live stacked close together don't wait till all their neighbours leave to masturbate or have sex because that's just not really feasible. You just live life and try to be considerate.

I say go for it. I do it with my roomates around and can hear them also when they do. Who knows it might spark something

Is masturbating to this normal?

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hk82q1

You should masturbate to whatever makes you aroused and what you enjoy most in my opinion.

No one is getting hurt so fill your boots. Maybe your BF has dino envy?

If doing it turns you on and gets you off, then go for it. Just because he thinks its "weird" is his problem not yours. And I dont see how it could be wrong, I mean its only fantasy, so whats the harm in that?

My wife’s masturbation fantasy is to be mounted by a dog and to orgasm. She’s read nearly every story in the Kristen archives. It’s fantasy, she’d never do it in the real world. Whatever turns you on is not weird.

Fuck it, get yourself a big ol' Bad Dragon dildo, i'm sure they're close enough to dino dick, hell, even get your boyfriend one of their dragon pussies

Do you masturbate to people you know?

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ei7qcb

I've done so several times. As long as it stays your fantasy, then who cares. I can quickly become creepy if you tell people tho.

I’m 50 and have employees who are 21, 22 with tight muscular asses! I feel bad but still think of them once in a while when I’m jerking myself

It's only in your mind. Fantasize, get crazy, but don't act on anything. And most of all, don't tell anyone. I know that's difficult, but loose lips sink ships, to quote an old Navy friend. And enjoy yourself!

A lot of people do it, but I don't blame you for feeling weird about it. If it makes you uncomfortable, try distracting yourself with something else. And if all else fails and the shame is unbearable, it might be worth seeing a therapist.

Yes

Best way to clean up cum after you masturbate?

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mr6qsq

I always finish into toilet paper then flush it away. Quick, easy and does the job.

I might not be the only one to do this, but I call it "landing pad". It's basically toilet paper, and I aim to it. I've gotten some good accuracy because of that, tho.

I've always used t shirts I don't wear anymore, I cut it in half and use it like a rag. Then I toss it in the laundry and shower.

Cum sock

Add it to my pancake batter

i want to be able to see my partner entering me. what can i do to get his view?

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Go pro while he goes in and one on his head so you can watch what he views

Missionary + look down

Mirror on a 40° angle so you can look back, or look to the right.... and yeah i do this a lot cause its fucking hot

Try using a mirror or missionary while sitting/supporting yourself on a platform/nightstand or counter so you’re sitting slightly upright

Women are like ovens…right?

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Maybe it isn't you. Some guys can make a girl cum, some can't.

Cunnilingus

Is he currently struggling with his addiction or has he stopped using pornography? Some women take a long time, some women take very little time and others can’t orgasm at all or only under very specific circumstances. The same goes for men. You should both take time to read [this book](https://a.co/d/6vFvFno) and use the adjoining workbook [here](https://a.co/d/eaqRAZL). Sex is SO MUCH MORE than penis in vagina though, so don’t get hung up on that being the apex of what is pleasurable about sex. The clitoris is where women’s ability to feel pleasure and orgasm comes from. The clitoris is made up of the same kind of tissue as the glans of the penis and they serve the same purpose. You can see the anatomy side by side [here](https://vivianbaruch.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/01/Anatomy-of-cliroris-penis-Vivian-Baruch-online-Springwood.jpg). You can see a 3D interactive model [here](https://sketchfab.com/3d-models/aroused-model-8d926bf228c842b9b38e505c18691614?utm_medium=embed&utm_source=website&utm_campaign=share-popup) and an anatomical picture [here](https://www.instagram.com/p/CMhjsORhqVw/?igshid=MDJmNzVkMjY=) as well! [Clitoral Erogenous Zones](https://www.researchgate.net/publication/330779088/figure/fig3/AS:721434687053826@1549014841604/Deep-Vaginal-Erogenous-Zones-DVZs-include-G-Spot-inner-clitoral-structures-of-the.png). That image doesn’t highlight the [Anterior Fornix](https://www.womenshealthmag.com/sex-and-love/a19941220/a-spot-orgasm/) or the [Posterior Fornix](http://idioknowledge.blogspot.com/2017/03/cul-de-sac.html?m=1) or how it connects to the [Pudendal nerve](https://m.psecn.photoshelter.com/img-get2/I0000zapqDwlXcNs/fit=1000x750/pudendal-nerve-female-lateral.jpg). Around 70% of women can’t orgasm from penetration alone due to lack of clitoral stimulation. Some women have more sensitive clitoris’s or larger clitorises and they have an easier time orgasming during penetration. This is because when the clit is larger, it’s easier to get stimulation and when it’s more sensitive it is much more responsive to the indirect stimulation of the A Spot and/or G Spot during penetration. You can read a very thorough explanation of how pleasure works for women [here](https://www.naturalcycles.com/cyclematters/the-female-pleasure-anatomy-explained). Foreplay is imperative for you to have a pleasurable experience. It can take 30 minutes or more for a woman to become fully aroused so you really want to take time for foreplay. You can also incorporate some light [edging](https://www.healthline.com/health/healthy-sex/edging-orgasm-control ) and a [clit pump](https://www.lovehoney.com/search?q=Clit+pump&searchButton=suggestion&lang=en_US) to drastically increase your sensitivity if you really want to crank things up a notch! If you’re multi orgasmic having at least one orgasm through manual or oral sex before penetration increases the pleasure most women will feel when they’re penetrated. This ensures you’re fully aroused, that your clitoral bulbs are fully engorged and that you have had an orgasm already if your partner isn’t able to last long enough to get you there during PIV. First bit of advice is to not always do it in missionary! While this certainly can make some women orgasm, many women do not get the clitoral stimulation they need in this position. Excellent guid to various positions and how they work [here](https://allstarpositions.com/cowgirl-sex-position/) and [here](https://sexpositions.online)! Woman on top positions generally provide the best chances at adequate clitoral stimulation. You may want to start there! You want to do a rocking/grinding motion, not up and down, for these positions. In traditional cowgirl you want the man to be sitting up, not lying down. This increases skin to skin contact, gives you leverage and support and allows for you two to talk to each other/kiss each other during. When considering missionary you should look into [CAT](https://www.mindbodygreen.com/articles/coital-alignment-technique) instead. [Coital Alignment Technique](https://allstarpositions.com/coital-alignment-technique/). It’s a lot like missionary but the penetrating partner grinds their penis up against the woman’s clitoris during penetration to help the woman reach orgasm. So the penetrator lays a little higher than in missionary and is completely inside the woman. It also changes the in-and-out thrusting of traditional PIV sex to a rocking motion that more resembles dry humping. The partner with the penis attempts to grind his pubic bone into the vulva of the woman and since that stimulates the clitoris, it's more likely to create the possibility of an orgasm in the woman. You can watch an amazing educational sex video on how to orgasm during penetration [here](https://www.pornhub.com/view_video.php?viewkey=ph626892a850604 )! She really does an excellent job breaking down different positions and encouraging communication between partners during their session. During sex you want to gently (or not so gently if that’s what you’re into ;)) explore your partners body in a way that aroused you. Run your hands through their hair or massage their head. Arch your back and buck your hips in rhythm with what they’re doing and in a way/when it feels natural to do so. Kiss their neck, nibble their ears, hold their hands, talk to them about what you’re feeling or how you feel about them. Let yourself moan when it feels good. You can wrap your legs around them and pull them close. These are just very basic suggestions, go with the flow and allow yourself to exist in the moment.

How to “spice up” the bedroom?

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Try cumin

Do you eat her out good?

Try a couples sex quiz like [this one](http://old.mojoupgrade.com) to find new things you both want to explore.

Honestly, I’ve been against the regular use of vibrators (though everyone has their own needs and I never judge) because of the risk of desensitization. If you both have a mutual fandom, you could try a bit of sexy trivia and gamble sexual favors. This is also fun to do playing video games and betting on the outcome~ Edible lubes are great. I like a mix of coconut oil and honey which has been my goto mix for a long while. Really made it more exciting and pleasurable for me and my partner. Having sex after exercise like jogging & a healthy meal is actually pretty satisfying and stimulating; depending on your physical stamina. Smoothies are a great drink to use with this. Blindfolds can be fun too~. Then you get to play the “what is this?” Game, where you guess what your partner is touching what part of your body with.

Do people actually care about body hair as much as i think they do?

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As a man, I can take it or leave it. From women, some I've talked to said they wouldn't mind if the guys private area was trimmed

i honestly don't mind but my girlfriend is, i dont know how to say it, clean? she really takes care of how she looks but i'd love her no matter what. some would probably care tho.

Depends, some do and some don’t. Just like anything, there is no one universal answer.

I don’t think hair is a big deal but it boils down to cleanliness. Lol

Watching porn with my wife?

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Yeah it's fun. Good to talk about what you watch or like when alone. Or offer her the controls to pick what u watch. It's fun to play "Copycat" , where u and ur partner copy whatever their doing in the film. Also, instructional / educational sex videos r nice to ease into porn as a couple.

It can be a lot of fun. We don't do it often, maybe once every month or 2. We affectionately call it "movie night." And it is a "night." As in, several hours. Multiple sessions. You can either agree on a movie(s) that looks good to both of you, or each of you pick one to watch while the other... services the watcher. And playing monkey see, monkey do can be fun. But until you're both comfortable sharing your individual preferences (and comfortable seeing what the other likes), stick with standard couples stuff. My wife LOVES male gay porn. Obviously, that's not going to work for me, and may have the opposite of the desired effect. (No hate. Just doesn't appeal to me). So she can watch that while I'm otherwise, um, occupied. Once in a blue moon, I will watch a Bi MMF vid with her. Still not my cup of tea, but at least there's a woman involved. And she appreciates my supporting her preference. My tastes are rather vanilla when it comes to porn. I don't like watching rough or non-consent play. I'm not into watching BDSM (maybe some light stuff). I'm kind of boring. Give me a man and woman, or threesomes (either MFM or FFM/FMF) and make sure all parties are enjoying themselves. Might be boring to some, but that's what I like. You can't go wrong with the classics.

Me and my ex did it a few times and it was fun!

Confidence?

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Just vocalize what you're feeling in the moment. "Mmmm I like the way your ____ feels on my _____." You'd be surprised what starts flowing out of your mouth and it will be well received, I'm sure. Good luck!

Something that helps a lot of girls is to create an alter ego. A slutty, sexy, perverted, and more confident version of yourself. Name her something different, even. Then, when things get hot and heavy -go get her. Become her. So (your name) may be shy, but (character) is not! It makes is fun and helps you detach from insecurity and hyper awareness.

You should check this sex coach out [here](https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=LpQDZVe9r5E). There’s also some great info in these articles [here](https://amp.mindbodygreen.com/articles/how-to-talk-dirty-guide) and [here](https://badgirlsbible.com/?s=How+to+talk+dirty).

What to say to my partner during?

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"I have to apologize. I wasn't familiar with your game"

This is so key. Communication during sex is so important. Verbal and nonverbal as well. As for verbal, there are three main things to communicate during sex; compliments, direction and nonlexical sounds that indicate the experience of sensation. Compliments are encouraging, they make your partner feel more confident and eggs them on "your so handsome between my legs" "you look so beautiful like this...". Giving direction helps your partner understand what they need to do to help facilitate your experience of pleasure, "harder" "softer" "pull my hair" "touch there" and so on. As for nonlexical sounds to indicate the experience of sensation is basically moaning in all it's glory. Moaning is such a motivator for most. Hope that helps a little.

You feel so good, you look so gorgeous with my dick in your mouth, you look so good when you …, does she like degrading? Praise?

“You’re body makes my soul want to eat chocolate cake”

Should I ask my friend for sexual favor/favors

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Depends. When you say she’s interested in you do you mean strictly sexually or she has feelings for you? If she has feelings for you this would not be an appropriate person to start a FWB arrangement with as it will more than likely end in her getting hurt and your relationship imploding. If it’s strictly sexual, sure. As long as you find her sexually attractive by all means. I’d suggest you propose a NSA ONS and if it goes well and you desire to engage with her again propose a FWB arrangement at that point. Just be aware of FWB boundaries such as no sleep overs. You would have to really take your time to figure out how the arrangement would stay separate from your pre existing friendship and the things you do as friends to avoid lines becoming blurry.

how do i have a wet dream

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Just don't masturbate for a long time and go to bed horny

Don't watch porn and don't masturbate for 2 weeks.

What shape do women prefer?

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Curved up is better than down or to the side IMO. I wouldn't sweat girth too much.

So I’ve had a few different sizes&shapes and honestly it matters more how the person uses it and works it. I will say the thickness is usually what I pay more attention to if I’m going to pay attention to something like that. My current partner has a curve to the side and I’ll say that he’s given me the most intense orgasms and he’s also the thickest. I like the curve a lot and I think it hits certain areas that haven’t been hit before. But the big thing is, he cares so much about my pleasure and makes sure I’m satisfied and wants me to cum. My past partners were not as excited and as encouraging. We’re both extremely giving and that’s important to me. I’m all for body positivity and body acceptance and I think that if someone cares about you, they will be kind about your body. Find someone who’s kind to you and makes you feel beautiful and sexy. We all deserve that ☺️

Doesn’t curved help to stimulate the g spot?

Only the first few inches of the vagina can feel. Don't sweat it

am I addicted to porn?

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You have a very high libido so this not surprising, you either have an addiction or are abusing it but that’s easy since it’s 10 seconds away from you at all times and is hardwired into you that this is good keep going so you need to just work on yourself and try not to think about it or act on it do literally anything to stay busy and just not focus on it When your with your girlfriend does it get easier or worse

What vibrators are good for both personal use and long distance relationships?

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Look up the WeVibe Sync couples vibrator They also sale a knockoff on Amazon that is just as good but doesn’t have a smartphone app

How can I reduce my wet dreams?

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Nocturnal emissions are important for your genital health, having them means you’re healthy. They are not something you can control. The only way to decrease your nocturnal emissions is through masturbation, which is very healthy and has many benefits both physical and psychological.

If you do not release your sexual energy by yourself, then your body will do it for you. In other words, you must release this energy. Masturbation or having sex will release this energy. And if you won't do it on your own, then it will be done for you. No, there is nothing which can prevent this. It is a basic, physiological fact of life.

Actual sex before you go to sleep. Masturbation is fine but no substitute for the real thing and a full release

Is it normal to have thoughts where I want to be forced into sex and feel submissive?

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This sounds very much like what we call "cnc" in bdsm - consentual non-consent. Aka rape play. Especially people that have experienced some kind of sexual abuse often find it kinda therapeutic, since it allows them to take their sexuality back, as they know they really can stop it at any time with their safeword. With the right partner it can absolutely be good, but its important to talk all kinds of rules properly through up front. As the sub, you are REALLY the one in control in bdsm, as you can stop the play at any moment. So come over to r/bdsmadvice and have a chat with us other pervs :)

Yes, it's very normal.

It is VERY normal! I feel like that a lot with my partner. Embrace it!

Is dirty talk good during oral?

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my boyfriend likes when i talk to him. he mostly likes when i tell him how good he feels/how big he is, the things he likes me to say to him typically just consists of his size, feeling, and asking him to cum for me, saying please to him, come on baby, etc. but my boyfriend is a switch, so it probably just depends on what role he likes being in.

If you feel the urge, do it. If not, don't. I, personally, don't enjoy anything that seems forced.

It’s good. I deep throat take a breath while jacking him off. I also say “am I being a good little slut” things like that. U can breath between sucking and turn him on by dirty talking

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What do you do when you start losing erection?

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Pull it out and look? I mean that's the only real way besides feeling it.

Is my penis too small?

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Your penis is well above average in length most places and well above average in girth. You can see the worlds averages [here](https://manofmany.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/04/resize-scaled.webp) and a study done on 15,521 men [here](https://bjui-journals.onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/abs/10.1111/bju.13010 ). You can also read a really thorough article on penises [here](https://ro.co/health-guide/normal-penis-average-size/#what-does-a-normal-penis-look-like ). This sounds like Performance Anxiety and unfortunately you may need to seek help in overcoming it since you don’t get much time with your partner and the case seems to be severe. You can read more about overcoming PA [here](https://www.healthline.com/health/erectile-dysfunction/performance-anxiety-erectile-dysfunction#causes).

Dude...grab yourself a Durex ' pleasure ' ring. Found in drug stores. Or any kinda cock ring. It will probably fit quite snug, but it will make her go nutz. It also helps with the cool down period as well. They are only like 12 bux.

Are you watching porn when you masturbate ?

Is it possible to increase sex drive?

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Google maca root powder aka Peruvian viagra.

Get your hormones tested. Could be a hormone level balance is off or a thyroid issue. This all plays into your drive. There’s many other factors in this. But it sounds like you’re possibly off with a balance in one of your body levels. 1- do you guys have sex frequently and if so how often? 2- are you guys generally get along well? 3- do you guys both sleep enough. Yes I know it sounds strange but this is crucial 4- how is your guys dietary habits? 5- does hubs watch a ton of porn? I know. A lot of questions lol. But every one of these changes doubled my stamina in bed. You seem far too young to not be horny all the time. And don’t feel bad about your first Reddit post. It is a great post!!!!! I so wanna hear about this and how you all are doing. Please keep me (us) posted. I hope this all works for you guys

Ahh I would say increase your hormones and change your diet, get testosterone and estrogen boosters, as well as eating things like oysters, mussels, clams, asparagus, salmon, avocado, take supplements like multivitamins as well, I hope it helps. I find when I eat certain foods I get really horny

See a doctor tho check hormones first.

Can you masturbate too much?

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Masturbation is a very healthy activity and has many benefits. You can read more about that [here](https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/324068#summary) and [here](https://www.menshealth.com/sex-women/a19534050/5-reasons-you-should-masturbate-tonight/). You only have a problem if your sessions interfere with personal, school or work responsibilities, you’re causing physical harm to yourself or others, and/or it’s keeping you from maintaining a healthy, romantic relationship. Porn shouldn’t exceed 4 hours a week but less than that is perfectly fine. Outside of those factors you can masturbate as much as you like! You can see an article that talks about the time limit [here](https://m.timesofindia.com/life-style/health-fitness/de-stress/signs-that-you-are-watching-too-much-porn-and-what-you-can-do-about-it/amp_etphotostory/76982114.cms).

Also! Be considerate of the lube you’re using. Most lotions have ethanol in them which is drying, damaging to the skin and the nerves, meaning less pleasure when going to town. I highly recommend using a bit of aloe cream to counteract the alcohol in any lotions, and for better texture, mix in a small amount of coconut oil Make sure you’re getting at least a light amount of exercise on the regular so your blood flow is better. Nutrients will flow better to the nerves and other parts of your body and you’ll get more serotonin & dopamine from it! The drink, Body Armor, is fantastic for electrolytes, hydration, and vitamins. I recommend the ‘Lyte’ version to avoid all the sugar

Yes, one of my ex's actually tried to masturbate as long as he could and eventually his dick had gotten so stimulated he couldn't feel it and it was huge like scary HUGE like a horse and wouldn't go down for hours. I was honestly scared for him, luckily by the next day it had gone down but we couldn't have sex for like a week after because it was painful for him.

I’m19 (f) and I’ve never masturbated in my life.. am I normal?

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Some people don’t. Most do. You’re normal.

Sure you are. But if you're curious research OMGyes.com

Yes that's normal.. Don't worry baby girl, you rock keep smiling and have a good day

That's completely normal, many people are asexual. They have very low or no sex drive. It's possible it might change for you later in your life, it's completely normal if you don't as well.

try it, you might like it.

Is it bad that I’m hooking up with my ex later?

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Why would it be? If you're still sexually attracted to her you can go for it. You guys should just be open to each other.

Obviously you guys are still sexually drawn to each other, just try to play cool and relax. You’ve already slept with her so its not like its entirely new, I’m sure the nerves will go away once y’all start kissing and shit. But it could be your intuition trying to tell you it may not be the best, if the nerves are just a little nervousness to meet again then don’t think too much about it but if you’re overthinking it to the max maybe its not the best idea.

I want to really bad but just nervous

If she was toxic and manipulative -- it's bad if she sucks you back into her toxic world, of course. You can't move on like that. But if you're on good terms and will just have some sex and reminisce, it should be fine.

Update again best fucking sex I’ve ever had

I need tips for more variety in the bedroom that’s centred around pleasuring my wife?

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[Roleplays](https://366moves.wordpress.com/2022/09/30/her-kinky/) and [some crazy dirty things](https://366moves.wordpress.com/2022/09/30/female-pleasure/) might help.

Try some different positions, her on top facing either way, doggie is good if she likes ass play

Try pushing each other’s limits. Slightly bigger toys every few months. Different versions, softer or firmer, glass, ones that vibrate. If you’ve not got her a suction toy for her clit that’s a big win, have her use that while you’re penetrating her. Small vibrating anal beads were a big win for us when combined with fingers on her g-spot while going down on her. Three sources to play with. Plus if those are well received it can open the door to plugs, then moving onto DP fun with you and some toys. Buy her something you’d like to see her in, or something she’d enjoy wearing. Make the pleasure psychological by testing if praise roleplaying is well received.

Who could help me get over my unfulfilled porn fantasies?

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Did I experience a threesome? Yes? Was it the most amazing thing in my life? No, but it was pretty good. Did I risk a good relationship for it? No. I found a woman that was bisexual and wanted to have them to. Remember, risking a relationship for a one night experience (whether it's cheating, threesome or anything) is never worth it. Now, if you were single or something like that, different story. Are you missing from an amazing experience? No. Porn has conditioned you to think that. Is it a good experience? Yes. So is normal 1 on 1 sex

I've found that sometimes these things can be a form of escapism, like a deep daydream almost? It depends on maybe when and why you think about the fantasy. Obviously the why might just appear to be "because it's hot", but I mean more along the lines of whether you go to this fantasy in your mind for periods of time when you're maybe stressed or otherwise feeling a negative feeling you want to avoid. I say this with it in mind that you're on antidepressants. I can't comment specifically, of course, and there are also many things that could help you here but others have already made some comments, and I thought I'd leave this idea as food for thought. :)

I've never had a 3 some either 😢

I've heard so many relationships being ruined by couples trying a threesome. I would see a therapist or try to wait or the hypersexuality first before approaching your wife. With that said I have seen it work, just weigh your risk to reward tolerance.

Well there’s nothing wrong with you, both men and women would go for threesomes if those didnt often ruin relationships. So how about this - buy a sex doll, one of those realdolls, and let that be the third “person” in your love life with your wife.

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It won’t be a one time thing after this lol

I don’t know dude, I think if you two start this path things will get rocky with your marriage. It’s already complicated now that she admitted to want to fuck an ex that you have a history with. Have you tried role playing instead? Like, have her pretend you’re some other guy? Maybe that would be a good alternative that could fulfill your needs. My opinion, I don’t think her banging another dude is gonna end well.

You have a cuckold fantasy, you're not jealous and it turns you on to see her have sex with another man, this is actually not that uncommon, I feel like if I had a wife there are some friends in my life that I would want her to have sex with, my friends and I are very close and I wouldn't care if they had a turn.

Just get a large mirror and watch yourself fuck her.

Become Swingers

Are condoms alone effective enough?

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Condoms are 99.9% effective when used properly. I recommend finding a local sex shop and asking about sizing to get a proper fit, to ensure you aren't getting something too big or too small.

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Condom combined with pull out is pretty damn effective. I used this method for 20 years with no issues then first time with out condom we got pregnant lol

Yeah, they are. If this is too personal you don’t have to answer, but why won’t she take the pill?

Kinda anecdotal but my wife hadn't been on the pill for 6 years, I'd raw dog until I got close then throw one on (you don't wear a helmet on the way to the demolition derby). Once we decided to try for a kid, I dumped a live one in her once ( during ovulation) and 9 months later the world met Fred. I'm not suggesting that you follow my method, but hey they seem to work. Ps. Pardon the language, first Christmas of the season and "I been drinking" but yes they work, for us anyway

Advice for unprotected sex?

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My first tip would be lube. It should not hurt when you go inside so ensure there’s lots of foreplay and if that doesn’t work use lube

Bro sounds like u need to see a doctor some of us have genetically shorter frenulum can get fixed with a day operation local anesthesia and a Little cut trust me it Will change your life

You need lots of foreplay and/or lube! As a female with an iud I can tell you that I was worrying for the first while having sex after getting an iud. So I struggled getting wet because I was in my head. So, help her get comfortable. Use lots of lube. Also, don’t expect the iud to work right away. It’s best to wait at least a month before trying unprotected sex with one in.

Lube or spit. Eat her out first.

Yep, just sounds like she wasn’t wet enough man. The wetness makes it so that your skin doesn’t get stuck up against her skin while going in, causing you, and I’m sure her, some pain.

Can you combat being ticklish?

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Give it time. Being ticklish is an instinctual defence mechanism for unfamiliar sensations. He may need to be accostumed to physical touch, espacially in private areas, with the situation, or even with you. There's no need to rush, respect his reactions and give it time

for me it’s mental, just focusing really hard on something else helps i’ve trained myself to not have ticklish feet by doing this

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Why did you go celibate in the first place? Suggest that might be a starting point.

The most important thing to do is to lower your expectations. I know this seems like “woo woo” nonsense advice, but it’s true. Why do you have to have an eight-inch cock, that can last 2 hours, and ejaculate a gallon-sized cum shot? There’s no reason that you have to be a sex god. [Women love sex](https://366moves.wordpress.com/2022/09/29/crack-her/). It’s a fact. And you can bet that if you’re in a relationship, she loves having sex with you, because of your intimate bond. She doesn’t really care how good (or bad) the sex is. She’s happy to be there with you. **Next** When you worry about something (anything, really), it’s probably because you don’t have much experience doing said activity. A common example is public speaking. Everyone fears public speaking because it’s a scary thing to do…and we never do it. To become a better public speaker, you practice public speaking. To become a better lover…[have more sex!](https://366moves.wordpress.com/2022/09/30/365/) I don’t know how much experience you have, but whether you’re young or old…having more sex will improve your sexual confidence. Especially if you’re in a new relationship, having sex might seem like a weird thing to do. It takes getting used to. This is a new person, and you want to make sure they like you. So…have more sex! When you have more sex, you’ll learn [what turns her on](https://366moves.wordpress.com/2022/09/29/foreplay/), what makes her wet, and what [makes her scream in pleasure.](https://366moves.wordpress.com/2022/09/30/female-pleasure/) That’s how you get rid of sexual anxiety. Lastly, remove your sexual anxiety by taking the time to [do more foreplay.](https://366moves.wordpress.com/2022/09/29/foreplay/) This accomplishes a few things. First of all, you’ll relax. Foreplay is relaxing, almost meditative, and spending time kissing, holding, and playing with your partner will build your connection with her. Then, when sex begins, you’ll have less anxiety. Remove any expectations from your mind, and focus on the foreplay. Pay attention to her body, her warmth, and her beauty. This will distract you from your anxiety. Secondly, extended foreplay will make her orgasm…especially [if you know how to finger her.](https://366moves.wordpress.com/2022/09/30/fingering-her/) Making a woman orgasm is one of the most powerful tools you have as a man. It can turn women into a mushy mess of emotions, overwhelmed by happiness hormones, and pleasure. [Make her orgasm](https://366moves.wordpress.com/2022/09/29/female-101/), and she won’t care how good (or bad) the sex is. She’ll be plenty satisfied.

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Best way to learn is to experience. Here are some resources you can use to find a partner who can show you the ropes. 1) Try lesbian subreddits or r4r subreddit for your city. 2) Fetlife website 3) Feeld app or any traditional dating app that's famous in your area. Hope you find a good teacher who can show you a good time. Good luck!!

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i kinda have the same problem do you masturbste everyday or like 3 times a week ?

Quit masturbating and watching porn, also when I first started having sex with my girlfriend my mind would wander a lot and I’d go soft a bit. What worked for me was focusing on the feeling to maintain that erection and if I did masturbate I would do it once a week and think of her

Sounds to me like performance anxiety, especially since it happens more when with someone new. There are a few good reads out there on performance anxiety and some methods to calm and clear your mind beforehand

Work on staying present and focusing on the pleasure. Do you smoke weed at all? That could help you get out of your head. Pleasure is largely a mental game.

Ive heard zinc boosts testosterone also try kegals and pelvic floor work outs to make it easier as well

Do women like giving blowjobs

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Honesty if your calling him fiancé then I doubt he cares what’s you look like. And if he is worried about your body then he’s not the one cause that’s shallow.

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1)items:Sexy underwear- clothes- make up... 2)moves and attitude: dance and striptease in the mirror or whatever gets you going before meeting him... 3) exercise: you produce hormones that make you feel good, plus the placebo effect that you look better When it comes to bed, maby you can emphasize on the parts that you like about yourself. You can start by undressing that part alone and caress it while he watches you for example, his reaction will give you confidence...If your problem is relaxing, try some sexy music....it always helps me

When having sex in the dark, be communicative about what you want him to do, what feels good, etc. It’s surprising how starting to speak more helped my overall confidence. Slowly add more light as you get more comfortable

Confidence was something I struggled with for years, particularly in a sexual situation. It was undeniably a mental thing, and it took a lot of training my brain to love my body. I managed to gain pretty much all of my confidence by saying positive body affirmations to myself, picking three things I loved about myself everyday when I looked in the mirror, and recognising that every physical part of me was constructed from scratch by my parents. Eventually I did it enough that I started truly believing the beauty of my physicality. From that advice, take what you will that works best for you, but that is what made my confidence shine. Best of luck and stay safe :)

how to set sexual boundaries?

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Sorry to break it to you. You are already setting boundaries. He understands them. He understand that you don't want to. He is chosing to ignorine them. He is just guilt tripping/coerceing you to get what he wants no matter what you want... I fear this is not getting better :/

Communication is the most important thing in relationships. The only way to solve any issue is by talking with your partner about it. You being scared of talking to him and him guilt tripping you is a red flag. You can try talking to him, but his behavior is unacceptable. You have the right to set boundaries no matter if you are in a relationship, hooking up or married. You also have the right to not always be up for sex. A good partner will understand and respect that, especially when you communicate about it. If he cannot respect you, then you should rethink this relationship and if you really want to be with a person like that.

When you're often not it the mood it could be helpful to set up a fix day to have sex (e.g. every Sunday evening). Then you know when it's going to happen and you can look forward the entire week and excite yourself

He’s not listening to you, after you’ve already set the boundaries, that isn’t safe. When I was 19/20ish, I was in a similar position. I was gonna go home, I was tired. He said no, I should go back to his place and we could just sleep. As soon as we were in bed, he tried, I said no, I’m seriously tired. He said how wet I was, I said that’s fine, still not in the mood. That was end of it, he didn’t push any more. After being in some dodgy situations, that was the first guy that really listened to me, and after that, anyone that didn’t was gone. It’s not cute or funny, one person says no, that’s it.

If he leaves because ur not giving him what he wants then it wasent meant to be. Stop forcing it.

Kinky fantasies?

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I love BDSM, and have a lot of fantasies and things I enjoy doing, so I'm going to try and keep this short. Let me start off by saying I'm a masochist, but honestly have a low pain tolerance. I like my husband (I call him Master) to be in control and to "use" me. We haven't done any scenes, or anything really kinky like we want to do yet because we haven't found the time for it, or gotten the motivation to. Somethings I reaaalllyyyy want to happen are: - Rough anal. We do anal every now and then, and he is big and besides anal every now and then, we don't really mess with my butt. So he can't be as rough as I'd like him to be, and has to go a bit slow and be gentle, because I need to train my ass more. I want to be bound to the bed, unable to resist, and have him have his way with me and my ass. Obviously, we would use lube and be careful. But I want it to hurt a bit and be uncomfortable (it always feels good too, it's not just uncomfortable and painful. I enjoy it), and wiggle around but not be able to go anywhere while he fucks me deep and hard. - Suspension bondage! It's so beautiful and incredibly sexy. I don't necessarily want to be fucked while suspended, but being toyed with and whipped sounds quite delightful. - A CNC scene. I want to try and fight him off me while he restrains me and tears my clothes off. I really like him being in control, and hurting me. I want to be slapped, and my nipples pinched. - Honestly... This will never happen, and that's okay! But fuck it'd be hot lol. We are monogamous, and he wouldn't be comfortable bringing anyone, even another woman into the bedroom. However, I really, really like the thought of watching him roughly fuck another girl. Have her restrained, and just watch him ruin her. I'd like to join in and tease and play with her and him as well, but even just watching sounds hot. I've never been with a girl before and I'm bisexual. I'm slightly a switch, a lil dominant with men and extremely dominant with women. I don't find in interest in submitting to a woman tbh, just my husband. But I want to whip her and pinch her nipples. Slap her ass and make out with her while he fucks her from behind and is pulling her hair. I'm okay with this never happening, but it's nice to think about. - Knife play. This, I'm okay with staying a fantasy. I know it's dangerous. I used to self harm, so I'm familiar with the feeling of being cut. I like the thought of him carving his name, or whore into the side of my thigh. I'm not even sure if I would actually enjoy it though. When I used to self harm, I didn't necessarily enjoy the pain. It might be hot during a scene, but I also might just hate it. I'm not sure if we'll ever try it. There's more, but those are the main fantasies I can think of right now. I really want to be caned. I want to be collared. I want to be fucked by a machine while he uses one of my other holes. I want to be bruised. I reaallyyyyy want to get into bondage though. We have rope, but he hasn't researched or looked into rope stuff yet. We have cuffs that go to straps on our bed, but it's not the same as being tied up. Also! I'm getting very good at deep throating, and eventually, I want him to be able to fuck my face harder. I also want to restrain him to bed and fuck him. I don't want to do anything else but tease and fuck him. I think that's about it. Sorry it was long! I'm bad about making my comments long... I guess I'm just talkative.

I’ve never hired a sex worker, don’t care to ever hire one, and never met one (to my knowledge). However, I find the profession fascinating and incredibly sexy (for obvious reasons). Whenever my lady and I used to go on getaways or vacations, and are alone in a hotel, I’d wear a business suit and tie, and shed be all dressed and dolled up like a hooker. I’d be a taken/married man on a business trip and she would act as my nightly relief. Seeing her lipstick marks on my body always got me going, and she would leave red rings around my cock. She’d always do a Russian accent, I don’t know for some reason it got me hot. We’ve done it multiple times and I never tire of it. We haven’t done it in a while because understandably, life happens, but I hope to relive this kink again soon.

While they might not exactly be mine there is an observation i have noticed. Based on the subs and generally erotic content i see, it seems most people are into siblings sex- brother + sister, step bro + step sis, also mum + son, occasionally father + daughter. I don't know if such kind of fantasies have been influenced by porn because such porn genre seems to be popular too. But again the product follows the market so if such content is on demand it follows that more of it is made and thus the cycle intensifies. while such kind of fantasies might be hard to pull off IRL I guess that is [the beauty of roleplays where all kinds of things come to life](https://366moves.wordpress.com/2022/09/30/her-kinky/). I for one will lean on the domination/ submission but without the heavy BDSM category. I could maybe describe it as rough sex but more of [alpha male style in the bedroom.](https://366moves.wordpress.com/2022/09/30/alpha-male/)

Want a better sex life with my husband

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yp11we

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**About wanting it rough** This you will have to communicate it with him. I know you are not alone in this because, men have been BRAINWASHED into thinking that women are ‘delicate and fragile.’ I always tell them to Listen up. Vaginas are made to push out babies! They are hard to BREAK! My point? The average man’s belief that women are delicate and fragile leads to soft, tepid ‘love-making’ that drives most women crazy with BOREDOM. Because it never, or rarely, makes her cum. Women like it HARD and DEEP most of the time. That, [he will have to take the initiative](https://366moves.wordpress.com/2022/09/30/alpha-male/) and outgrow the brainwashing. **About initiating and having more sex** Schedule to have more sex by choosing specific days of the week and stick to the plan. And no, he doesn't have to have an erection always, certain days [let him go down on you](https://366moves.wordpress.com/2022/09/29/cunnilingus/), on other days [let him give you a relaxing vagina massage](https://366moves.wordpress.com/2022/09/29/vagina/)....if anything there is [quite a lot he could do with his hands mouth and body](https://366moves.wordpress.com/2022/09/30/female-pleasure/) which does not involve a penis but will surely leave you feeling like a [sexual Goddess](https://366moves.wordpress.com/2022/09/30/goddess/). **About it being actually passionate** Before you say it - I know, I know. This is actually counter intuitive, I felt a cringe myself when I first heard this suggestion. I thought to myself “You can’t schedule something so delicate as sex! What if I’m not in the mood? That’s for sure going to take all the passion out of it!” But it didn’t! And here is why: Imagine for a second you run into a good of friend of yours. You have a lovely chat over coffee and decided that you should meet again soon. But instead of scheduling your next meet up you decided to play it by ear leaving your next meeting to chance. Thankfully, you run into each other again in a few weeks, but this time you choose not to rely on luck and schedule your next coffee for next week. Both of you make a decision on a spot to make it a priority to see each other next Wednesday. Now ask yourself, is your next coffee date going to be any less exciting because it’s scheduled? Chances are you answered ‘No.’ That’s right. A planned activity is no less exciting than a non-scheduled one if you enjoy spending time with the person. Think back to the time when you and your partner were starting to date. Didn’t you schedule your dates? Didn’t you anticipate to end up having sex on those dates? You did, didn’t you. By scheduling sex in our busy lives, we make sure we make it a priority, just like we prioritize a birthday party. Our sex lives deserve the same recognition and respect. The recipe for regular sex is simple: get together with you partner, decide on how many times a week and what days of the week you want to prioritize your sex for, schedule it and stick with it, no ifs and buts.

One thing you could try would tell him to look up sex coupons on Etsy and pick up a set that he can use on you? You'd get veto power but putting the choice on him to select a set that might add new things in would be an option. Tingletouch also makes some great couples sex board games that are very very good at opening up exploring with your partner but also steadily rising the foreplay and tension until you both finally get to the final climax card for whoever wins and gets to choose which scenario of sex you engage in. They're also fun if you like games in general.

Talk to him and get him to open up about what he likes. There are so many fetishes out there that can drive anyone crazy, the trick is to find them. On a more negative side, he may just have a low sex drive or not find you attractive, or has a difficult job and a lot on his mind. Depression can also lower a dude’s sex drive. I know it’s a generic advice, but get him to talk to you about this, see what he likes sexually and tell him what you want. See what porn he likes and you’ll learn if he has a fetish you can exploit to get him in the mood.

First talk with him to find out what does he wants from sex life and find something that also interest you, you have to have mutual interest in order to make it work. Maybe you could try Play sexy or Kinky games if he loves something of that, explore his fantasies and desires, engage in long foreplay.... There are to s of ideas, but conversation is first. Maybe check our profile for some ideas.

can't relax

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ymp8k1

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Shave or not?

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yjporf

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As a woman, personally don’t care if a guy shaves or not, but I myself do shave.

I like best when my bf is trimmed back but not shaved. Stubble sucks. If I shave it's right before sex to avoid cactus vagina.

Why all those odd questions about "to shave or not to shave". The pubic hair are a natural part of the body and there are normaly no reason to shave it. Of course if you have got some small irritating insekts creeping around in the bush you can need to shave, but normaly enjoy the hair as a hot and sexy part of your body.

I do shave myself just for the reason it makes me feel confident with my body. I don't have a preference for guys. Shaving is far from required, I would recommend doing whatever your comfortable with.

How to help my girlfriend

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y83kis

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Self exploring is very important for her to having a better and healthy sex life. I would keep encourage her on self play with or without you and if you are together communicating what feels good to her and if it doesn't its okay and just try something different.

Communication, communication, communication. Also note that some things might feel uncomfortable now, but not as she gets more comfortable and experienced. So it doesn't hurt to go back to some things that were a little uncomfortable in the beginning later down the road and try them again. Just tell her to be vocal with feedback, and also watch her body and face for cues on what feels good. She likely won't communicate everything until she's more comfortable.

You guys together and alone should look up these terms: structure of the clitoris, bulbs of the clitoris, u-spot, g-spot, a-spot, and female ejaculate. This will help her see what she's working with and also help you navigate her vagina better. And if you want to step up your head game, gentle suction along with licking is one of the best things you can do. Gentle suction draws blood into the area which reduces over sensitivity and increases receptivity to pleasure (what her body does anyway when becoming aroused). This is why suction toys are becoming so popular and women are reporting their first orgasms using them. I can't stress it enough, gentle suction first is key when using your mouth. And not just on the clit either, her neck, nipples, and whole vagina. Treat her like a ripe piece of fruit.

Feeling sexual pleasure is all about letting go of control, and this concept can be a little frightening for some. Because of this, it is usually better if the woman can [learn about her own body and responses without a partner](https://366moves.wordpress.com/2022/09/30/women-guide/) to begin with, so that she can know what it is that gives her pleasure and ultimately brings her to orgasm. For many women, this happens without even trying, as they begin to experiment and find that a particular touch or movement will bring about very satisfying results. This is natural and good, and also takes away any element of having to get it right when they are with a partner - they already know what they like and are able to pass this on to their partner. This has not happened with your girlfriend. If If I was to advise her I would encourage her to start on [a programme of self-exploration](https://366moves.wordpress.com/2022/09/30/women-guide/), gradually adding a sexual component through fantasy or the written word when doing this. But you are very considerate of her, and you might appreciate [this guide](https://366moves.wordpress.com/2022/09/29/male-virgin/). Then you will have done all that you can and after that I would advise just going with the flow when you eventually get to have sex.

Advice on how to spice things up in the bedroom

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have you both taken the bdsm quiz

Role play. Can be hilarious which adds massively to sex imo.

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Is my penis tiny? Small? Or average?

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Am I Masturbating Tooo Much

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mglg5f

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I masterbate once a day. Even if I have sex. My gf does too.

I would rather masterbate than have sexual interaction with others. But, idk why that’s unhealthy? There is more risk associated with intercourse with others, sti’s, assault etc, not acc orgasming cos the sexual partner decides to be selfish. It’s so much less stressful doing it yourself - I’ve personally chosen to avoid sex with others and tell I am more confident in my image and being assertive with another person

The Husband says I’m ‘boring’?

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i2559f

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You don't have to throw him around. Climb on top of him when he's sitting and get your groove on. You can be extremely blunt and just be like "I really want to have sex with you" or "bedroom now". Or push him up against the front door when you get home and undo his pants

You can surprise him at moments he wouldn't expect (like when he is on a chair or sofa watching TV /reading /whatever) and from behind kiss him in the neck and slowly undress him. Keep the control, voice what you want him to do, go slowly. I'm sure he will like that this way and he will feel very desired. Good luck.

I used to have the same issue of just not knowing how to initiate. Believe me, it doesn’t have to be anything too in depth. So far what works for me and my husband: 1. Take a shower and just casually walk up to him completely naked, still somewhat wet and ask him to meet you in the bedroom (or wherever you want to do it). 2. Just start making out with him and get really “handsy” with him and see how he responds. 3. Text him from another room just asking if he wants to have sex. Or just use all emojis...my signature one is 👉🏻👌🏻? 4. Just ask, “Do you want to have sex right now?” Or, “I’m really horny, are you interested?” When he’s doing something for you that feels good, just tell him. If you have trouble with dirty talk or it feels awkward, just use the word “you.” “You feel so good.” “You’re really turning me on.” Good luck, and have fun!

Communication — you don’t have to change who you are to please him. Tell him what you want, compliment him, be silly. The issue doesn’t seem to be how you behave in bed but more what leads to the bedroom. Always initiating sex makes him feel unwanted or not desirable. Telling him that you really want to have sex with him right now (even if you’re shy), it’s a lot hotter than staying quiet. Let him know that when he does XYZ it has an effect on you. Being straightforward helps because men can be obtuse at time!

Sometimes I feel awkward when I try to verbally initiate, so usually I just start getting handsy. I also like to snapchat my bf sexy “miss you” pictures, or be more up front on snap or text because it’s easier to say “I want you now” over snap/text than in person sometimes. “Come play” is his favorite text message haha. Even if he initiates more, he still knows I think about him and crave him and we’re both happy. So many couples have their routine in bed. We definitely do. I’m not very communicative and forward when I want to try something new so I just do it. He’s never been anything other than thrilled when we do a new position or I take the lead. It feels awkward to be vulnerable like that when you’re not used to it, but it always ends up being 10/10.

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gwjsmt

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I personally don’t mind if he watches it, heck I’ll even join in on the watching, but I also understand how he may feel uncomfortable watching it in front of you. His intention is probably not to disrespect you—maybe he’s even embarrassed to have been caught in the act and that’s why he tries to hide it. I think you bring up a good point about the disrespect though, and if it bothers you, you should talk to him more about it and explain it from your point of view. He probably thinks he’s doing you a favour by hiding it, and may not understand your side. Either way, a healthy and clear conversation should be beneficial for you both!

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It's a reflex. Watching porn or looking a playboys as a kid, you're first reflex is to hide it as soon as someone comes around. We don't mean to do it sometimes but you just naturally think you are caught doing something wrong. Same thing happens to me with my wife. We laugh and i show her what i was looking at on the phone.

Very true it’s the same as getting walked in on taking a wizz even though my girlfriend has seen my dick thousands of times I still try to hide it haha, but also porn can have negative effects on sex life and relationships this is a problem that slot of people over on r/nofap deal with so I’d bring it down to a minimum of watching porn together because porn is known to release more dopamine and spike higher than sex. Just something to keep in mind

Everyone's different but I had a BF who did that once. He'd sit with his back to the wall and laptop on the table. In low light I could see the screen shift from the reflection in the glass of framed pictures behind him when I'd go over for a kiss or something. Sometimes he'd be chubbed up too. I just asked him if he was watching porn and if I could watch. Too me a while to feel like I could do it but it was worth it. It took a week or so before he really opened up but he was anxious I might feel he was watching too much porn or that he was into what he thought was kinky stuff (mild bondage). For him it was embarrassment that I might disprove. He was a little right, in that I did not turn in to his fantasy and go all in with him. But we treated porn like anything else so it wasn't a big deal. From this we tried to build a better relationship where we could talk about things. But like most things in life it had mixed results.

How to talk dirty

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okdalu

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"Who's pussy is it?" Is definitely cringe.

Personally we like describing what we're doing, how hot it looks, how nice each other's body/parts look in different positions, how great things feel. Then also describing what we want to do, or are about to do, like, "I'm going to X your Y so hard/deep/long, until I/you can't-stand-it/cum-so-hard/scream-in-pleasure" or, "Do you want me to X? Tell me how much you want it!" Also if you want ideas, you could try listening to stuff on r/gonewildaudio, search for stuff that matches your activities and levels of kink.

My girlfriend likes when she's called babygirl or bad girl she's gotten better at talking dirty during sex. Id start with those and ask her about what she likes to be called and say it while fucking. I hope this helps.

Best thing is to ask her what she likes getting called and asking her what she’s into, if she’s into being degraded or getting praised. *If* she’s into getting degraded make sure to check what she’s okay with being called.

A good way to practice is to sext. That way you can go back and forth and figure out what lines work for both of you and then bring it into the bedroom

Tips for an enjoyable threesome?

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hjy2iu

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I’ve only had two so I’m not a pro but I think in both of them I truly acted as the director basically telling the women what to do, when to switch positions, what positions to get into kind of thing. It also helped that I had a bit of liquid courage. I recommend don’t just scheduling the three some but going out, dancing, flirting a little bit and drinking, come back and let things happen that way. It’s a bit awkward if it’s too planned

Don’t got advice for you but you’re a damn good friend for considering their pleasure as well. Good on you my man

Let things flow as naturally as they can. Before anything goes down, communicate - lay down your boundaries and allow them to lay down their own...before any liquid courage is involved. Allow them time to explore eachother. You can find out what both of them enjoy by watching how they interact with one another. Try your best to give equal attention to everyone. Be present in the moment and take it all in.

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how to touch while have sex

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w60dfs

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You could ask her :) or mirror how she touches you Speaking from personal experience, I want it to be all over my body. Back, waist, bum, legs, face, tummy, chest, arms, whether it's a soft caress or a hard grip. It makes me feel like everything about me is attractive, and that the focus isn't just on what's in between my legs...

First off you can ask her where and how she like to be touch good sex is 90 % about communicate. getting know what eachother like everone likes different things no one is the same but she not talking about her boobs or pussy she talking other parts of the body

Run your hands up and down her sides. Touch her butt, neck, face. Eat her out. Get inside then stop moving your hips and make out or massage her.

Everything. Everywhere. Hard and/or soft to see what she reacts to most. Maybe both if she likes them both.

She means exactly what she says. Touch her body. Not just her tits and nips. You gotta caress her and make her feel like the goddess she wants to be for you. Women, especially in their 30s, want to feel full body stimulation. Try rubbing her clit during sex. Or kissing her neck and back while you take her from behind. If she's into it, you might even try squeezing your hand around her throat. Not enough to cut off circulation, but enough to let her know you're in control. She wants to be treated like a woman, not a fragile, porcelain doll.

How do I improve my head game as a female for male?

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I think enthusiasm is key. And also ask HIM to be enthusiastic/vocal. He should be giving you positive feedback ex "fuck babe thats so good" or "you're so sexy", anything really to reassure you and motivate you. And from you, you should also be enthusiastic. Be excited to suck his dick and provide him pleasure, make eye contact if he's into that, slobber on the D. One huge tip to me and its a double whammy is deep throating- even if you can't reaaally do it, at the very least it causes your mouth to create a lot of spit which helps lube up the whole blow job. So take the dick as deep as possible, then use the lubrication from that. I never swallow ANY spit when going down on him, its all gonna stay in my mouth or come out on his dick. I think a sloppy bj is the key. And if he's into it, don't be afraid to make noises. My guy loves to hear me gag (ego boost bc his dick is big enough to make me gag) and he loves when I groan a lil while going down on him. Slurping sounds are good too. Just watch a lot of bj videos, also ask him if he has any favorite blowjob videos. If not, show him some you've found and ask what he thinks. Let me know if you have any specific questions. ♡ Ps fun tip if he cums in your mouth, try not to swallow immediately but instead show him his cum on your tongue. Then swallow.

Okay - flatten your tongue, makes it easier to deep throat. The more spit, the easier it is. Breathe through your nose.

Moan while he's in your mouth and absolutely swallow, its a thing. Ya get used to it and I have grown to love it too. 🙌😂

Ask what he likes communicating is always the key to great sex

I pinged you , would love to help. I think making eye contact while being on your knees def will make it more kinky for him. You also need to make it more fun, try teasing make him edge just by sucking the tip and try to make him cum by playing with his tip .. all this will make him very excited. The key to a good bj is to start slow and gentle from the tip. Then slowly go down the edges all the way to the balls and give them a good squeeze.. this should be atleast 15-20 minutes before you actually suck him fully. Happy to have a chat And share my experiences xoxo

how to ask for consent in a sexy way?

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"You sure?" "Yep" takes literally 2 seconds and doesn't kill the mood at all. consent is super sexy.

Sometimes it can be non-verbal, like if she or he takes her or his clothes off and they sends strong signals they are into it. However it requires clean head to read it. To be on safe side, you can lead them to be pro-ative: you can start taking your shirt off and let them help you. Or when you are naked, lay down and let her to decide if she wants to sit on you and rub on you or not. If you are really afraid of verbal question would ruin the mood and you are not certain, going to be more passive is the way I would go. (Like showing you want it, but not progressing over certain barrier - kissing, undressing, petting, penetration etc.) If they are into it, they would take the lead and continue with the progress. It also creates tension, they start to show you how much they want it and that is great. However you must be sure you are controlling yourself - not being drunk or too horny. If you feel drunk, or really horny, or unsure, it is really really important to just ask verbally. I do not recommend non-verbal consent of you are young, or horny, or drunk, or if you are with the person for the first time (not implicating that after 1st time theres is no need for consent - there is just higher chance you read their signals well). If not truly sure, ask. Just ask.

"hey can I kiss you" "hey how would you feel about doing xyz" imo consent doesn't kill the mood, and sex is so much better when you both communicate and are on the same page. there might be a "sexier" way to ask but I've always found being as straightforward as possible is best.

For you, let the guy take the initiative with encouragement. "Oooo, that's nice," or "Mmm, higher," Touching, kissing, more and more intimately until it is a natural progression into masturbation, or fingering, then oral and intercourse, whichever you want. Your body language is powerful. Pulling him on top and wrapping your legs around him is a strong signal of consent. If you're into women, take the initiative, kissing, touching, listen to her reaction, make it obvious you want sex, but don't be crude about it. "Want to fuck!" doesn't cut it, but soft, gentle caresses, squeezes, in increasingly intimate places will. Holding her around the waist, with one arm and stroking the back of her neck with the other hand while kissing her, can be a real turn on for many women, so dropping the lower hand to her butt and pulling it to you, is a clear indicator of where you want to go. If she doesn't object, then she is giving a tacit consent to go further. What turns you on? Will it do the same to someone else?

Consent is hot. All you gotta say is “do you want to have sex” haha

Domination?

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k5f0u5

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Start with the easy stuff. Tell her what to do. “Get on your knees; Roll over; Open your mouth” stuff like that. Get used to giving her directions when you want something, and then try moving on to the dirtier stuff. Ask her if she likes what you’re doing. “You like it when I shove my dick down your throat? You like it when I rub your clit?” Basically instead of wondering if you’re doing a good job in your head, just say what you’re thinking. Maybe before sex, ask her if there are any names she wants to be called. For me, I know it can be awkward to call someone by a name in bed when you’re used to not calling them anything. Try adding the name she likes into the questions you ask. “You like that, slut?” Personally I love hearing my own name moaned into my ear without any other context. If she likes hearing her name, you can try that. Dirty talking right into her ear could be fun too if she’s into it. Just keep the chat natural. Don’t force yourself to say anything super porn-y. Ease into it.

Just ask her! Explain its been vanilla for you and you're inexperienced, and ask her what sort of things you should be saying? There's no shame in it! She was also new to it once!

Simple commands are a great start. In addition compliments and moans pay dividends. Tell her she looks sexy/hot/you love fucking her/how tight her pussy is. Anything really. Also something fun would be to tell her to wear a ponytail and lightly fuck her face (maybe while she uses a vibe) and praise her during that. If you do this, unless you've done facefucking before you may want to ask her opinion on it. Spanks are also a great idea, light choking with prior consent, pinning her arms down or back. Im into some domination but I think a lot of people forget that just because you're dominating someone doesn't mean you shouldn't be giving them any pleasure, so make sure to still touch her, kiss her, go down on her, do positions she likes. Unless you talk about it and she just wants to be used.

Start with calling her a slut

How to kiss

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Don’t use to much tongue - start out with a few pecks then put ur hand on the side of her face and then when you go in for another kiss kinda stick your tongue out a little and kiss like that to get a feel if she wants to use tongue too, and when it gets to the tongue point don’t use too much - kiss her back how she kisses you, kinda like follow the leader and when you are pulling away from kisses suck her lips or lip into yours very softly

It's a leap of faith.

Never forget, when using tongue you shouldn't try to rip the others tongue off. So not too rough.

Tongue is something you should steer clear or at first, for a good kiss you’ll have your mouth just barely opened and lips overlapping when kissing. Don’t go in too fast or really push your face into theirs at first especially for a first kiss. A lot of people like hands of their face and it is highly recommended to do while kissing. Finally depending on how long you are kissing and how intimate it is, slightly sucking or biting the bottom lip will definitely drive them crazy if done right

Rule number 1 don't fall for the person you loose your virginity too...

How to dirty talk during a handjob?

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dols8x

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I’ve found prefer sex if you talk about what you wanna do or want them/you to do “I want you to fuck me” “pull my hair” and then during talking about what’s happening and maybe what you want them/you to do “omg I’m so wet” “that feels so good” “I love touching your dick” “I need you to finger me” whatever if that makes sense?

Loved everyone's ideas ☺ he loved then even more :p

Talk about how much you like stroking it... Making it cum... How hard it gets when you touch it. "Dirty talk" is misportrayed in porn imo... In that its appealing to an audience that culturally views sex as "dirty"... Sexy Talk is what youre after. Sexy Talk is like flirting x20...

Well said^

How do you stop being sexually incompetent?

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My advice is to find a girl that is comprehensive about your sexual experience and teach you little by little. Then you will gain confidence and get better everytime you have a sexual intercourse. You can read a lot in the internet about foreplay if you get good with that 80% of the work is done. Remember that she goes first don't rush into penetration because that's a big mistake specially if you don't know a lot. Be open to learn and comumicate a lot with the person you are having sex with. Tell her / him to tell you how to get better what he she likes and stuff like that.Remember that sex is to have pleasure both ways it's not a math exam there will be good days and bad days but always keep your head up and open to new things. I strongly suggest you to join nofap communities in reddit that will help a lot too

Stop watching porn

From my boyfriend who was even later to the game than you are; Research (not porn!), trusting your partner and patience. My two cents, it's OK to not know what you're doing. I'm bisexual, and I know generally what to do with a penis but I haven't got a clue what to do with a partner who had a vagina! Because I have no experience I would take it slow. Also, I recommend challenging what you think sex is about; does it only count if its penetrative? If only one person physically cums? I used to get really anxious about it, had the idea that it had to happen xyz fashion. It's a lot more fun and pleasurable after talking with my boyfriend and taking the pressure off myself. It's OK to not know what you're doing 100% of the time. A partner who isn't understanding is kinda shitty.

Good sex is a learning experience. After a couple more you will start to figure it out.

Try kegel exercises if your trying to last longer in Bed and keep your head up king happens to the best of us it really does 😅

How do I take sensual pictures to send to my bae?

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jka7lf

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You don’t need those features to be sexy , being comfortable with what you do have is sexy and being able to taking those pictures

If you have an instagram these are 2 that Ik of https://instagram.com/na0__?igshid=59xzsaxpgh7o and https://instagram.com/tabriamajors?igshid=1sxu8h7uwa6pm

I’d say take some inspiration from some thick models who go far and beyond to change the mind set of this world that you have to be skinny to be sexy

. Acceptance. appreciate each other uniqueness and what you have to offer

One thing you could also do is ask her what she likes about your body. And then focus on those factors.

Should i fuck my frustration into my partner??

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v3qaur

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How is sex an unhealthy way of reducing stress....... I'm so lost

if she gives you the consent and trust to do it. Then I do not see the problem. But if you don't feel comfortable with that, then talk to her and tell her how you feel. The most important thing in sex is communication, without communication sex becomes uncomfortable

Only if you want to and your partner wants to. If you need to have other outlets for stress relief and don't want to have sex at that moment, your partner just has to deal with that. Consent is key and should be enthusiastic. Edit - removed gendered language

if they like it that way then sure why not, but you have to talk to them properly about this before doing anything

If she consents, go for it. Sometimes you really need the release.

Should I find an alternative to masturbation?

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lri32y

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Masturbation isn’t a bad thing. It’s a completely normal thing to do. If you think you are doing it too much try to not do it for a few days. For most men not masturbating for 5 days will lead to a much bigger orgasm the next time they do it. Plus it typically produces way more semen. So that’s definitely something you could try. It would also let you know if you have become addicted to it. You might have built it into your daily routine subconsciously and just need to take a break.

i dont know masturbation helped me last longer, dont stop just reduce it before sex [http://healthystrokes.com/](http://healthystrokes.com/)

Ok the other guy is basucally right but masturbation can in fact absolutely kill you sex drive. The perfect way to do it would be every 14 days. 1-2 times a day is too much a can definetely harm your psyche and your energy level. Try r/nofap if you can.

How to ask someone if they want to hook up

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hzujvm

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Just ask him. Ask him how he feels about it and if feelings can stay mutual between the two of you. Unless you both want that to change later on but that’s for another time.

Casually ask? Try smth like "hey, wanna hook up?" If he's a guy and interested in you he'll most likely agree. If you wanna be less direct i vite him over to your place for a glass of wine or a movie or smth and take initiative there

Just to add in other’s comments, if this is your first time, make sure what is the reason you are feeling this way or want to just hook up. At this age being in school, I thought of it as well just to be cool like everybody else but never did anything and let me assure you that there is nothing wrong in not hooking up during school years. Otherwise, go for it. Ask him what he thinks about the idea... if he is into it or not!

Ask him to wach a movie? And then tell him what you want further than that. Be prepared to have condoms ;)

Try "Would you like to hook up?"

Question about Condoms

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If your partner doesn’t care about your sexual health, and pressures you by saying that it’s killing the mood, then don’t have sex with them. End of story.

Putting on a condom can be part of the foreplay! No lie, use your mouth to put one on.. Get creative! Will still need to adjust but whatever. However, my preference doesn't lean toward condoms due to a kink.

45 seconds is a pretty long time. Especially if you're letting the heat of the moment carry you, stopping to put on a condom can ruin the...ig you could call it the momentum. It's a sudden halting of the fun, and brings ppl back to reality. I've personally never experienced this next thing but I've also been told that it makes ppl worry about accidentally getting pregnant? Like yeah, it's supposed to prevent it obv, but stopping to put one on kind of puts a focus on it, and that thought can ruin the mood cuz it's negative. Or so I've heard from some ppl, I have no idea whether it's true

Just remember for some people 45 seconds is 15 seconds longer than they have sex for😉😉 . I never saw the problem with it either until i thought of it this way, and then it was jist sad.

Safety precautions are never a mood kill in my eyes. Though I'm a female, and cant speak for men, I've had experience with guys who didn't like condoms. One mentioned to me that it was as uncomfortable and he couldnt feel anything and that was annoying. The other one was as really into raw doggin lmao and thankfully I am on an IUD, so that was fine. If you're just hooking up, I suggest condoms regardless of if it is a mood killer or not. If you're a female or have a vagina, consider asking about birth control. However, remember that condoms also can protect you from STDs, so keep that in mind. Safety first!!!

Dirty talk??

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hgw88d

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I don't know a guy who wouldn't love being told that right before he was cumming. You're on the right track, OP. :)

He loved it, dont worry about it at all! Thats basically the best thing you can say(personal opinion) LOL. Other options for good things to say sort of depend on what he likes. If he is dominantish then play up that aspect, sometimes dirty talk is good if its questions based or sometimes statement based. Say for instance if you said " do you like making me your little bitch" or " i love it when you make me your little bitch" . You could focus on the cum thing if thats your go to, except start earlier and use different words. Try to be descriptive like " fill me with cum" or " i love it when you pump cum into me" Basically dirty talk can range from " cum in me" to " use my tongue as a cum rag to clean your cock off after you pump your big load into me like the useless cum dumpster i am" Have fun with it, maybe check in and see what he likes cause not every guy likes the same thing.

If you're worried about it ask him. Everyone feels differently about dirty talk. There are a lot of different things you can say and some things will be off limits for some people, while another person may love it. You can't know about this specific person unless you talk to them about it. Communication with your partner(s) about what they like specifically, what feels good, what turns them on, is the best way to learn how to pleasure them. Hopefully they want to learn about what pleases you, too. <3 "Hey, I wanted to ask you about something I said/did during sex the other day. I'm worried it might have missed the mark. How did you feel about it? Do you like dirty talk? What kinds of things would you like me to say to you?" "I wanna know what makes you feel good. What can I do to please you? Here are some things I would like it if you did with me, too. How do you feel about it? What do you think about it?" It seems scary at first because we're taught that talking about sex is taboo and shameful. The more you do it the better you'll get at it and the less scary it will become. And, the better sex you'll have. ;)

That's hot and most of the guys LOVE IT! I think he'd have liked it too.

Is swallowing gross??

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hfrs14

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To me, all cum leaves a bitter after taste so expect this (however it really depends on what they eat, especially if it's a lot of fruit then yumm!). What bothered me more when I first had cum in my mouth was the texture, as it lingers for a bit on my throat. However, I've grown to love swallowing. It sure is not frozen yogurt but generally I don't mind the taste. More importantly though, I think sex should be about exploring and having fun. So if right now you don't feel like exploring that or isn't having fun swallowing, don't feel pressured to. You should give it a shot when you feel like it, since enjoyment on both sides is a turn on too IMO.

My god, the first time my wife swallowed was amazing... so hot.

If it tastes bad, just take it like a shot and dont let it touch your tongue. But if it isnt too bad, just have fun lol

depends on what their nut tastes like. If they eat lots of healthy things (especially pineapple) it doesn’t taste bad. If they eat junkfood and fast-food a lot then yeah it’ll taste really bad and be gross

Some people love it. Some people hate it. You'll never know until you try. So just give it a try. If you don't like it don't do it again.

can I get a std from giving a blowjob?

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jwonor

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I studied infectious diseases. Definitely yes.

Yes

Yes, for sure. I think it’s any kind of fluid swapping that may result in an STD.

Yeah

i took a course on epidemiology of infectious diseases in my undergrad and yes you can.

Do women judge on the underwear men wear.

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Yes, but more importantly make sure to wash your ass. Many men have issues doing that in general. We can tell. Clean ass, happy lass :)

Just a tip, make sure the undies aren't white. If they are, you better not have skid marks.

Don’t care take them off…..

Boxers or boxer briefs, depending on the body type and the individual’s preference. Nothing less sexy than a man in tighty whiteys - those are for my grandpa.

I dont wear underwear

is shower sex good?

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rkzk9w

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Shower foreplay is good. Shower sex is overrated.

Shower sex is proof that water, in fact, is not wet

Don't know about lubes, never needed any, but the best position, the one that affords least contact with cold tiles on hot asses is she's in a patdown position facing the wall or screen, he's behind and holding her hips. Oral can be very difficult, with all that water cascading, but it can be seriously dangerous also, slipping in the shower is no fun at all.

no, i think it sucks lol. i’m only down for shower sex when i’m on my period, since the blood works as lube 😂

It’s a must for me, but everything in water is a must😂

Is it normal not to cum

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ur8ui3

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Uh... 3 HOURS?? Are you sure you didn't cum in her?

Been there… still there… she’s having a great time, I’m a little on the larger size so when I get really into at and start fucking at the speeds I need to cum she taps out cause either I hit her cervix or rub her raw… But for me I think the reason is over stimulation ironically… let me explain I’m uncut and all through childhood I never directly touched the head of my dick because it hurt and gave me nausea and I thought that was normal… then I started having sex at 21… it was pleasurable but not super… since I bit the bullet and started rubbing my head I’m still uncomfortably sensitive but I’ve stopped losing erections and getting nauseas from it. It’s such a weird feeling, in my mind it’s still that thing you don’t touch but during a busy for example my girl will lick it and it’s smooth painful and pleasurable all at once

sex is about the journey, not the destination! if you both still had a good time then there's nothing to worry about.

Same shit happens to me. Get the woman to cum multiple times but can’t cum myself. I think the reason is that I wank and watch too much porn. I tried to quit but it’s like an addiction

Eating out safely?

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nmt4bz

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Try this, wrap your mouth around her clit and create a vacuum, wipe your tongue over it. Let it go. Do it again, wipe your tongue in the other direction, then repeat, over and over, until she cums. It's like giving her a blowjob. She'll love it.

What do you mean by "safely"? For STD safe, you should use a dental dam, cut up rubber glove, piece of plastic wrap. For her safety, avoid using your teeth, or only using them carefully and gently. Just be gentle, and don't jam your fingers inside I guess? For your safety, you're not likely to actually smother with a pussy on your face. Just keep your hands free (not tied up or restrained) so you can signal her or adjust her body so you can breathe better.

https://www.reddit.com/r/sextips/comments/niahz0/the_pancake_method_give_her_powerful_orgasms_when/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf

How to stop feeling guilty after masturbating?

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j5m3y2

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Dont confuse guilt with dopamine withdrawal. The dopamine spike you get from masturbation is no joke.

I don't masturbate, but I also get plenty of sex. It might be good to find a boyfriend/girlfriend/playmate of some kind if that's possible. Sharing life and intimacy is maybe what fills in the gap that you normally feel with guilt when you masturbate.

Its the same as cocaine and mdma. You notice the next day... and the more you do it the more you notice when you dont do it

Don’t feel bad for masturbation or watching porn. It’s perfectly normal. Just understand that not every woman or man loves rough or kinky stuff you see in porn. Borrow ideas and discuss what you want with your partner but never feel ashamed for it.

Hey the thing that made me feel less ashamed is that everybody does it

Can you smell if a woman is aroused?

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f1kppn

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I'd imagine on some level a guy could smell... But I'd doubt he could consciously tell

Not really that I’ve noticed. But I have noticed during making out if her lips suddenly go cold she’s getting wet.

Well it happens some times? When im with ny gf and she is horny, i can smell it, but it probably is a psicological thing

My ex girlfriend when she got horny her breath scent would change, not in a bad way, but it would deepen

Well if hes like resting his head in your lap then yeah, he could smell it. But usually its a subconscious thing. :/

Why is this the people i’m attracted to.

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hwo2us

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Don't know if people consider attachment theory to be legitimate or bullshit akin to some of Freud's theories, but this sounds kinda like the Avoidant Attachment style. You may try reading the book Attached by Levine and Heller. It has a section explaining avoidant style and how to change it.

Yea it sounds like you are avoidant. Work on yourself and building up your own sense of self worth. When you get to a point when you value yourself and know that you deserve to ahvea trusting attentive partner - then you will not be attracted to guys that leave you on read. Invest in yourself, and maybe take a chance in a guy that checks in with you once in a while but is not too needy either .

how do I ask about sex

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wtf0lb

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Honestly if your vibing with the woman and she's down you guys will probably already be acting flirty, touchey, being close. She'll most likely be giving you lots of signs that it's a green light to atleast kiss. Then just go with the flow. If she's very timid you might have to say something, after kissing for a while like, 'do you want to go to the bedroom/take it further' etc..something along those lines. But idk every guy I was with I made most the first moves so no one had to ask bc it was obvious. It'll depend what she's like. I've typically never just said let's have sex. I just made the moves and went with the flow so there was never any awkwardness. I knew the guys i was with well enough by that time to know they were down and i believe they felt the same about me. Goodluck!

Sex happens naturally for most people. If you’re both feeling that connection, things will run their course. Just enjoy the time you’re having and relax and if it’s going to happen, it will.

Hey. You're really cute. Do you want to go have sex? I really thought it was more complicated but really, it's down to you establishing repoir and then simply asking. Try it 5x, then see if it still isn't the most effective.

How can I swallow my own cum?

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11hqfbf

In my experience I start by putting it in my mouth first… But in all seriousness, you just gotta work through the mental block, it took me a while but I’m glad I finally did

Why

Legs over your faces... Shoot it straight into your mouth. Get it straight from the tap...

What are your fantasies?

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11hf12m

Being a nude competitive swimmer or a nude art model in front of a bunch of my female peers and female authority figures. Being in one of those crazy Japanese pornos where each guy has 3-4 women on him. Being one of the models in a hardcore sex magazine photoshoot.

I absolutely love being a free use fuck toy!

Have sex with multiple men as it's steamed globally XD

I would be smitten with a room full of men passing me around.🤷‍♀️

To receive boob pics from women online 🤣😎

girls, should I wear my wife's panties

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Not unless she specifically says she wants you to. If she doesn’t say this, you can buy your own damn panties.

Ever sent a nude to the wrong person? what happened, how did they respond?

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11hfolt

I sent one in a office WhatsApp group chat. A girl replied in DM telling me about it very kindly. Before deleting i checked who all had seen it. It was just her and 2 guys. Those 2 started flirting with me incessantly post that

I accidentally sent one to my brother once when I had meant to send it to one of my friends to tease him. It was a bit of an embarrassing mistake to make. I promptly got a message back that said something like "WTF!? You're hot but WTF?!?!?!" and as soon as I realized what I had done I immediately told him that it was an accident...

Yeah... "accidentally ". 😉

Not entirely a nude but bum was on show in lingerie, accidentally to a discord channel for guildies instead of a private message. Don't send racy pics when drunk lol.

Ex GFs little sister... Everyone laughed it off. Truly was an accident. Worked out in the end too after me and big sis broke up a couple months later.

Who else enjoys watching gay porn, especially with really hott young guys having sex with each other.

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11gydwo

As a girl I REALLY like watching it

Personally I like some straight turned gay porn in which there's a woman present who encourages or seduces the two guys into some bi fun.

I do, I love the close up of the penis going in. I just love looking at the penis going in usually the camera underneath so I can see both cocks and balls gets me going, even tho I'm supposed to be straight 🤔🤔

If I watch it, there needs to be some good uncut cock in there

Is it illegal if you’re underage and your underage girlfriend sends you nude pictures? Isn’t it considered like distributing child pornography or something?

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It absolutely is. Providing illicit material to a minor is a felony in every state. And the sending of the material is the definition of distribution of child porn.

It can be considered child porn as the person in question is a legal minor.

Yes. Possession of CP is illegal FOR ALL PERSONS, EVEN IF OF YOURSELF.

This is the kind of law that's like the age of consent vs the age at which you are allowed to consume porn. In most cases, the age of consent is 16 years old, while you need to be 18 years old to watch porn. So, I like to joke about how you can have sex starting at 16 years old for 2 years as long as you have a blindfold on the entire time, as it would be illegal if you didn't have the blindfold on, seeing as how it would be the same as watching porn. &#x200B; As for your question, I believe what others have said is correct, even though the sender and the receiver are both underage, it would still be considered child pornography, and depending on your country/state's laws, it could be illegal for one or both parties.

100% illegal. It is production, possession, and distribution of child pornography in the US.

Is queer or homo offensive?

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Typically... Anything with a negative or derogatory past use has the chance to be offensive to someone. Call me a queer and it will likely not be appreciated... If I'm speaking about my sexuality or someone is genuinely asking, queer might be appropriate. If you don't know. Don't say it. And because you heard someone say it to another person, it doesn't automatically make it appropriate for you to say it to that person.

Depends on how you say it, where you say it, to whom. For example: Oh you're a pancake! Gringo responde: Thank you! Argentinian response: The fuck you called me?

Depends on the queer homo. Most of them don’t offend me, but there’s always that one guy…

How did you find out you were cheated on?

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I feel like it's Reddit telling you all relationships end from cheating. You hear more bad than good.

the girl randomly messaged me on instagram one day with screenshots from their conversations and exchanges with a “you’re such a nice girl, you don’t deserve this :(“ — I later found out she was the one who instigated the cheating in the first place even though she knew we were together

I trusted my gut every time, and every time I looked thru his phone, he was cheating. Minimum of 12 times that I've caught him, so who knows how many really

Her pussy tasted like condom.

What’s your favorite way to please your partner?

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11gi0tf

Intense sloppy blowjob

Food

On her back legs in air eat lick suck please her pussy

Strapping her down and fucking her mouth, it gets her sloppy wet, than I use her pussy with a vibrator on her clit. Drives her crazy.

with my mouth.

i have always found masturbating in public to be such a turn on. But too afraid to do it. Is it really that hot? Is it worth the risk to jerking it in a public place?

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11fyuwl

Depends how public it has to be, just outside?

Sure it’s exciting. But the consequences of someone seeing who doesn’t want to really are not very fun at all.

I’ve do it a lot in the back Walmart bathroom. Done it in a few hotel bathrooms. Campsites are fun. Just gotta do some surveillance first lol.

Dont involve unwilling people in your kinks

18 M should I sleep with my friends mom ?

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While it can’t hurt you if it remains a secret… something tells me you won’t be able to do that for very long. Whether it’s hubris or knowing that you’re just banging your friend’s mom, you’ll probably end up telling him. Maybe to win an argument or just because you’re an asshole. So do it if you don’t care for the friendship, go ahead.

You'll ruin your friendship and be that guy the rest of your life for some orgasms is that the trade you want?

Depends on the friend and secrets. My first lover was a friend's mom. I was trying to date the friend but it never worked out. Long story short, I was there early while she was in cheerleading practice. General chat led to flirting, flirting to kissing, and wasn't long before she was blowing me. She was an amazing lover and taught me a lot that many women loved after her. That said, you should make 100% sure that your friend will never find out. My friend never found out and we were extremely careful not to let any hints or clues of what took place.

If you really cherish that person and friendship then no. It’s not about him not knowing but basically lying and dishonest friend whenever you have this fling. If you don’t care or don’t see it as being dishonest and lying then it’s a sign that maybe you think the friendship is truly replaceable/not serious. So if you don’t mind any of the potential fall out that could potentially happen then go for it.

Find a different milf who’s son isn’t your friend

Where can i have sex other than my house or outside?

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Could you book a hotel room? or a friends house?

Get a hotel?

I took my current girlfriends virginity in the backseat of my car

Cars are fun if you have access to one! Even smaller cars the cramped backseat can make for a fun challenge to find positions that work

If you are hiding from kids the minivan in the garage is a wonderful spot to plow the wife quickly.