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Being human is bad | depression | 11f4cef | 1 | null | true | false | 0.99 | false | null | null | null | null | null |
Depression and weight gain | depression | 11f4bw6 | 1 | null | true | true | 1 | false | null | null | null | null | null |
I just really wanna Die but, I also want my parents to think i just died of natural causes and that I didn't do suicide. | depression | 11f3vz9 | 1 | null | true | false | 1 | false | null | null | null | null | null |
I am concerned for myself | depression | 11f3mj4 | 2 | null | true | false | 1 | false | If you’re already on medication, I would start by telling your doctor (psychiatrist?) these symptoms as they can be related. It is also absolutely not out of the question that depression is a symptom of ADHD. LSS talk about this with others (and not just strangers on the internet lol 😘) don’t bottle it up. Feel better. ❤️🩹 | null | null | null | null |
my depression is worse today | depression | 11f3exi | 1 | null | true | false | 1 | false | null | null | null | null | null |
I was talking to someone and asked if they ever self harmed and they said im too young to have this convo | depression | 11f2vwd | 2 | null | true | false | 1 | false | when i "discovered" SH i was something around 8 years old, playing in a small river in the woods nearby and i got cut by a glass shard that i didn't see. i enjoyed it, and figured why not do this on purpose, and then i found out just how good it feels and how much it relieves the pain inside.
if you're struggling, then it doesn't matter how old you are. the phrase "you're too young" is precisely the reason why so many kids grow up as completely wrecked people. | null | null | null | null |
I think I'm depressed LOL | depression | 11f2bqv | 1 | null | true | true | 1 | false | null | null | null | null | null |
I’m really depressed and voices are getting worse | depression | 11f0vv2 | 2 | null | true | false | 1 | false | Please call someone to help you if the voices make you feel you are at risk of hurting yourself or anyone else.
Do you want to talk about what the voices are telling you? | null | null | null | null |
Im feeling hopeless | depression | 11f0tjx | 1 | null | true | false | 1 | false | null | null | null | null | null |
Drinking is the cure | depression | 11eyzht | 2 | null | true | false | 0.75 | false | I told myself that for years, had I not started having seizures I probably would have told myself that until I was gone. While it does feel like it's filling a hole, it's very temporary and only makes the hole deeper. One day at a time my friend. | null | null | null | null |
I feel empty and wish for it all to go away | depression | 11eywj8 | 0 | null | true | false | 0.5 | false | null | null | null | null | null |
can't stop crying lately | depression | 11eyq50 | 1 | null | true | false | 1 | true | null | null | null | null | null |
I want to get better | depression | 11extj0 | 2 | null | true | false | 1 | false | null | null | null | null | null |
Can never tell if I'm just being paranoid or not when depressed | depression | 11exmu3 | 1 | null | true | false | 1 | false | null | null | null | null | null |
I've got good news | depression | 11exmdj | 2 | null | true | false | 1 | false | null | null | null | null | null |
Getting divorced at 28 | depression | 11excnr | 2 | null | true | false | 1 | false | null | null | null | null | null |
A family member thinks I just gotta work hard | depression | 11ewuja | 1 | null | true | false | 1 | false | null | null | null | null | null |
I just feel worthless | depression | 11ewjzh | 1 | null | true | false | 1 | false | null | null | null | null | null |
Stuck not caring about anything | depression | 11ewjkt | 1 | null | true | false | 1 | false | null | null | null | null | null |
I’ve decided instead of giving up, I’m moving on. | depression | 11ewifr | 5 | null | true | false | 0.86 | false | You got this ! What are your next plans? | null | null | null | null |
Need to talk to someone | depression | 11ew35d | 11 | null | true | false | 1 | false | I m not grateful to be alive I’m. It holy sober I’m not happy not sober. My mom is dying and I have no other family I’m 36 and I don’t kids every relationship I’ve had I’ve destroyed I only focesed on my boyfreids and I’ve haven’t been single for more then 8 months since I was 15. Im a girl I understand that you have to bring yourself happiness not anyone else but I’ve been diagnosed with depression since from a young age when there wasn’t even anything to be depressed about. There’s something I’m lacking in my mind chemically. I don’t want be here but Im scared to die and so I just float through life. I just feel so lonely so hopeless sll the time. I’ve gotten help I’m in therapy I take antidepressants I work out every day but I’m alone | And the suicide hotline sucks | I know how you feel. I am in student loan dept, and I work everyday, workout everyday, do my things to get thru life and do you know what? I tell my self - I am not perfect! I am who I am, and I dont care what people think of me. I dont have many friends, or hang out with people. I tell myself; it does not matter! If you can accept yourself for who you are, and let go of all the bad things in the past - the future would be much brighter.
I tell myself in the mirror “Damn, you look good today” or “Whats not to like!” ..
It all sounds like the pixiebook of cliches, but sometimes it works. It worked for me. | Hello, how's things? | Anything specific you wanna discuss?? |
I feel my trust and the premises my family made are betrayed and are disrespected by my parents. Nothing fucking matters anymore. I start to need opinions from you people for that dipshit instead of keeping it to myself. | depression | 11evy4y | 1 | null | true | false | 0.99 | false | null | null | null | null | null |
I don't think my parents love me anymore. | depression | 11evjq2 | 1 | null | true | false | 1 | false | null | null | null | null | null |
Can't Get My Husband to Understand Depression | depression | 11evee0 | 5 | null | true | false | 1 | true | null | null | null | null | null |
I should probably get diagnosed, right? | depression | 11euxya | 2 | null | true | false | 1 | false | I don't know how it is where you are from but here you need a referral from the doctor to see a therapist. But the doctor can't give an official diagnosis. | null | null | null | null |
I’m not social enough to matter | depression | 11eutu1 | 2 | null | true | false | 1 | false | I live alone work alone and have no family within 450 miles. It’s impossible to make new friends past 27. It’s impossible to get a woman to be interested in a loser with no friends.
We all know where this ends it’s just about how long each of us can bear it. | null | null | null | null |
Was anyone else afraid to start therapy? | depression | 11eup4p | 1 | null | true | false | 1 | true | null | null | null | null | null |
Advice | depression | 11eub92 | 1 | null | true | false | 1 | false | null | null | null | null | null |
I just need a fucking break | depression | 11eu71d | 0 | null | true | false | 0.5 | false | null | null | null | null | null |
I'm cutting a little harder every time | depression | 11eu2vw | 0 | null | true | true | 0.5 | false | null | null | null | null | null |
Bottom dysphoria is deteriorating my mental health and pushing me towards suicide. | depression | 11etwam | 0 | null | true | false | 0.5 | false | null | null | null | null | null |
Is it normal to be super horny for weeks at a time? | TopsAndBottoms | di7ap8 | 12 | null | true | true | 0.89 | true | How to fix? Masturbate or have sex. I always seem to go in cycles in terms of libido, sometimes 3 weeks of it happens, sometimes more, and I do masturbate regularly. | Have sex. Your body needs the full body release that comes with another person. Masturbation on activates your cock and your body wants the Oxytocin you are depriving it. | I would say masterbating or fucking someone is the best way. Since you dont like the former I suggest fucking. | I don't know but when I'm depressed I get extremely horny. I just want to fuck anything.
I guess it's cos I'm not getting irl action either so the horniness just increases | null |
Is it normal to be 19 and hook up with a 51 year old? | TopsAndBottoms | iowj65 | 19 | null | true | true | 0.86 | true | It's very common for a gay couple to have a 10 or 20 year age gap. If you're 19, 20 years would be 38, so he's 13 years older than it would be normal for you to *date*.
That said, you're not talking about dating, you're talking about *having sex*. When I was your age I had sex with an older man I was hot for, and only afterward did he tell me he was 78. I really didn't care, it was sex. I wasn't planning on keeping him.
So, go for it, and it's none of your friends' business. | Go for it. But stay vigilant because sometimes much older guys will try to coerce young guys by taking advantage of their inexperience. (Even if you don’t think of yourself as being inexperience, by definition from the simple fact of being 19, you are.) If he starts saying things like “I know/promise I’m clean,” “I’ve never felt this way about anyone before,” “I’ve don’t usually do this but...” those should be flashing warning signs. | I was that guy. Until I was 23 I never hooked up with anyone my age. It was pretty good sex. | Bit of a fantasy to be taken by a much older guy | /r/GayYoungOld |
Is it healthy to douche or not? | TopsAndBottoms | l019mu | 6 | null | true | true | 0.81 | true | As with all things, it's not an either or. ***How*** to do it safely is what's important. | Its better to douche with normal saline because it's isotonic - so it wont affect the balance of electrolytes and stuff in your butt
https://www.sfaf.org/collections/beta/anal-douching-safety-tips
Written by a qualified health researcher at least with instructions on how to make normal saline
Also look into stuff by Evan Goldstein who is a gay proctologist and basically the only doctor I can find who talks at length about this kind of issue. he is on lots of podcasts and has a lot of articles as well. He sells a saline (i'm pretty sure) douche product - which you don't have to buy, but the product information gives some indication on how much fluid you should be using ETC. | Rectum, go mad every day. It is literally a bag and it's healthy for it to be empty. Higher, the jury is out but it is healthy for your gut to be full. It's entirely possible routine high douching will disturb your gut flora. | It's better to not. Sure it's not horrible if you do it in moderation just like anything else, but it's better to maintain a healthy diet. Fiber supplements can help a lot too. You'll probably fine if you're not overdoing it | null |
Should I tell someone before we hook up I have a small dick? | TopsAndBottoms | lhelnc | 80 | null | true | true | 0.96 | true | I've been with guys who aren't that big and as long as their dick worked, size didn't really matter at all. Helps to have a nice face also. | This is going to sound terrible because I don’t discriminate against size, but we’re exchanging pics and he didn’t share his dick, but in conversation he thought it was around 8”. Anyway he turns up and things are going well until the big reveal when it was no bigger than around 3”. The meet went downhill from there, not because he had a small dick, but because mentally I was prepared for a good fuck and how he thought that he was anywhere near 8” is beyond me. I just felt he lied to me, not that I’m into shaming small dicks. So I would say be upfront. | I think it depends on how you presented yourself in the initial hookup conversation. If you expresses yourself as a bottom who wants to suck dick or get fucked, you do not need to warn your top that you have a small dick.
If you have presented yourself in a top or vers discussion, you may need to give a head’s up. | Depends. If you are bottoming that encounter it won't matter.
If it's up in the air, doesn't matter.
If you are topping and below 4 inches, I'd mention it.
I've never seen a guy walk out because of something like that. | You need to date quality people. They probably won't care about size
Edit: If you're concerned you're going to piss someone off: if it's just a hookup app just post dick size in your profile? Otherwise don't mention it at all |
sub bottoms, how did you accept your submissive side? | TopsAndBottoms | kz6mes | 26 | null | true | true | 0.97 | true | You aren’t alone. I’ve felt that shame as well. I’ve expelled much of it from inside, but it occasionally still pops out of a psychological corner and goes “boo!”, the jump-scare being one of shame.
You aren’t wrong for what you like. You aren’t any less of a human being for what you like. Your desires are common; here are four people (at this point) saying they like the same things that you do. You aren’t alone.
Few of us were ever told that kinky sexual desires were just as valid as non kinky ones. That holds true if you recognized it as a teen, a young adult, or a more mature one. When you look at it a face value, it sure looks like you are participating in something abusive, denigrating, violent, even homophobic. It’s really easy to internalize shame from that. It takes a lot of time to unravel that message from where it’s embedded in your soul.
I’m a fairly straight presenting middle aged guy, “top” I’m so many other areas of life. I get the best sexual, emotional, and intimate feelings when I’m letting go and being dominated by another guy or guys. It fills a need. It fills the same need that people who want to dominate others have, the same need that people who want an equal sexual relationship have — connection. Being valued. Being appreciated. Even being loved.
You have no reason to feel ashamed for wanting this. Connection is the most human need of all. As with the rest of us here, the rest of us even elsewhere, you aren’t alone.
Tell the shame part of yourself to pay rent or get the fuck out. :-) | Im a dominant top,. But i dont understand why would you feel shame. No one knows what ur doing in the bedroom aside u and the hookup. Many guys work hard and are confident and masculine and just wanna let go and have someone take over in bed. The guy i dated before, he was someehat masculine, confident guy, works hard but in bed he needed someone to take over. You guys are very hard to get, and most of us top are really into guys like that.
A beast on the street, my lil bitch in between the sheets. | I’m bi, usually dominant with women and submissive with men. I can play different roles but that’s my default. I came to realize that what I really love doing is pleasing my partner. I love being in control and giving women orgasms, but with men... seeing the pleasure in their eyes and body as they use me for their pleasure is so exciting.
Those two worlds haven’t collided in “shame” except for once when I met a husband of my wife’s friend.... who it turns out had used my hole regularly for a year off and on. From then on it wasn’t necessarily shame, but there was a definite undercurrent of his dominance when we hung out. It culminated in him breeding me when our wives were in the other room while we “played PlayStation”. | I really relate with the OP. At work, I'm pretty type A because I work in finance, and I'd be eaten alive if I weren't. In my social life, I've been told that I carry myself with a self-assuredness that sometimes borders on cocky. Haha!
In the bedroom though, nothing brings me greater pleasure than submitting to a man. He doesn't have to be aggressively dominant either, but I want him to take charge. That's not to say that I'm just lying there doing nothing, but I want him to tell me what to do to please him. Or I want him just to use me for his pleasure. If it becomes a daddy/sir scene, even better. I love being called a man's cock whore or cum slut because he knows that I've submitted to him and I'm there to please him.
All that being said, it took me a long time to embrace my submissive side because I am generally assertive in every other aspect of my life, and there was this weird feeling that there was something wrong if I didn't want to be dominant in the bedroom too. I would say that after hooking up with a caring, affectionate, but dominant top really helped drive home that I'm a sub bottom. He told me that I was a good boy and that my ass felt like velvet. I realized that I was deriving as much pleasure from pleasing him as I was from him fucking my brains out. I've embraced it ever since. | Accept it as the release from responsibility it is. That's a large part of the appeal for me as it's the one time I don't have to do anything except take that cock deep and moan my appreciation. It's liberating . |
Ass to mouth: Is it dangerous? | TopsAndBottoms | j1udyi | 43 | null | true | true | 0.9 | true | Will it kill you? Probably not. Is it totally a safe act? Not exactly. Anytime you tongue a butthole or mouthhug a schlong that's been in a butt, you're ingesting fecal matter, which we do all the time unfortunately (human fecal particles are in so many lakes and rivers now, they're all over dollar bills) but it's the amount and the "freshness" that seems to make a difference.
Hepatitis A is very high among gay men. Probably spread from eating butt or fingering then touching other objects with those dirty fingers. It's generally not life-threatening but it can cause you to get sick for more than a couple of weeks and some people will probably have to be hospitalized. I don't believe there are any long-term effects but it's possible.
Giardasis. This one's pretty gross. It's actually caused by protists that are parasites. Once they're ingested they go to your small intestine and start multiplying like crazy, attaching themselves to your intestinal lining, causing inflammation, dehydration, diarrhea, burping, excess gas and making it hard for your body to absorb nutrients. This probably isn't life-threatening for most people but it can be. Most cases will resolve themselves in so many days or weeks. Some people will have it and won't feel a thing. But whoever licks their ass might.
Those are the two main issues with analingus but a person can get still get sick from other viruses or bacteria that will be carried in that person's stool. When you eat ass your potentially consuming someone else's microbial culture and you may not be immune to everything in it. If you only suck on wieners that have been in your butt, chances are you'll probably not get sick cuz it's your own gut bacteria and stuff you've already eaten anyway, so you'll be okay. But if you make out with a guy and he just sucked some dirty dick or just ate someone's butt, he could make you sick. Couples after a while of being together, probably end up having similar microbiomes cuz of living together and sharing bodily fluids and therefore immune to each other's butt juices. I don't know how that works if you sleep with other people though.
Anyway, guys who screw other guys are encouraged to get a Hep A and Hep B vaccine. There's no vaccine that I know of for Hep C. | I'm pretty confident in my cleanliness so I do it - but sure, its a dick that's been in an arse, so yes there will likely be bacteria that could cause illness. Saying that, I've been with hub for 13 years and never had an issue with illness etc from ATM. | I did it once with one of my Bfs, we literally flip-fucked each other and sucked our dicks after fucking (obviously bare).
2 days later we both got an infect in our throat and had to take antibiotic.
Went away within a week but was pretty annoying.
Asked myself if in porn they always wash their dicks between the cuts 😂 | I've licked many an anus, both men's and women's, and I've never been remotely ill from it.
Anybody that does get ill, tell your partner to wipe their arse properly next time. | Thats the same as licking the handle of a shopping cart |
Is it ok if I gag? | TopsAndBottoms | er511a | 29 | null | true | true | 0.93 | true | Love it when my cocksucker gags - I'll often grab the back of his head as I feel I'm about to cum and force myself down his throat, my balls on his chin, looking into his eyes, I cum powerfully when he chokes & gags & the tears run down his cheeks - beautiful. | I love when a guy gags on my dick--I love the feeling of knowing that my dick is going hard and deep enough into his face that his body can't physically handle it, and I also love knowing that he's forcing himself to take it anyway.
The only important part for me is making sure he keeps going even if he throws up. Bonus points if he makes eye contact the entire time. | It’s *more* than okay for some guys. I don’t have much of a gag reflex, but sometimes I’ll kinda pretend if I know a dude is into that. 😅
(whoever said men can’t fake it clearly weren’t thinking of this scenario) | To choke is the second best compliment for a top, saying thank you is the first.
Be proud he can choke you! | Yeah gag on my dick boy, it’s hot as fuck |
Do you guys do pet play? | TopsAndBottoms | 24xl3t | 11 | null | true | true | 1 | true | My partner calls me Baby Boy. Makes my penis swell. | as a bottom, i love it when a top calls me baby boy and i call him sir or daddy. the power dynamic is so hot | Oh yes. My boyfriend likes it a lot when I call him sir. And I love calling him sir. On weekends I will be eating breakfast and will just walk over and put a collar around my neck and put a leash on me. I know we will be having fun that day. If he does it, I instantly turn very submissive to his every want and demand. He wants me to suck him. "Yes sir." I love it and he knows it. | [deleted] | I'm pretty big into pet play. I've never done anything so far, but I am quite eager. Collars, leashes, it's all extremely hot. |
What are your experiences with having sex in public places? | TopsAndBottoms | jspyli | 34 | null | true | true | 1 | true | I fucked this guy on a hiking path. It was late at night and over the summer. It was super hot! | I lost my virginity in some woods nearby where I live, it has a lot of public right of ways through it used by dog walkers. Met up with guy slightly older than me, we went down the path a little and I sucked him off there. second time I met him there I got fucked for the first time. | Lots. I can't host, so the park near my place is my go to spot. Usually sit on the park bench and have guys blow me there. | i did folsom street fair and dore alley where they fuck in the middle of the day and in broad daylight; does that count?
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If you don't know what either are; search for them in pornhub. | well plenty. And given i live in a very conservative country i am astonished by the courage/stupidity of my younger self. Worse memory was when there was political unrest i stupidly thought regular places was safe. But was faced a minor police harassment due to increase police presence. Like now i laugh, they were there for oppositional political party activists, they were angrily confused because horny gay men wasnt in their radar at all and there was nothing in my or my hook ups idenity to suggest otherwise.
The place was highly guarded because its a gov property. but over the course of years i have given numerous BJ there. Even fucked someone in there at night. |
Is it moral to have a rape fantasy as a bottom | TopsAndBottoms | c1xl1l | 38 | null | true | true | 1 | true | I am a rape survivor who has rape fantasies as the assaulted party. Our minds work out our issues in odd ways sometimes, and if that's how your psyche handles it, go with it. Working out why the power dynamic of non-consent arouses you is harmful to no one until you permit it to be so through your own actions, so just be conscientious of others. Fantasy is fantasy, and rape-play where a preconceived scenario is organized and negotiated in the same style as a BDSM session between two consulting parties, with safewords, discussion of soft and hard limits and all that, is a common thing for many people.
When navigated respectfully for your own emotional health and that of any others also involved in your exploration of this, there is no moral issue. | Consensual non consent, or CnC, is a popular kink, and I think you may find you’re not even the only person in your social circle who has it it you ask around. Short answer, no, there is no moral standard you’re failing to meet by having this fantasy. Have you talked to your partner about it? They might be supportive and willing to help you explore it further. I highly encourage you to do some reading up on google about this just to add to your familiarity so you don’t feel isolated by what turns you on. | I was molested repeatedly by my much older brother when i was quite young (I was 4 or 5 and he was 16 - 17), which has lead to me having a fixation on incest role plays. I have never told anyone about the abuse, because I didn't think I would be believed, and it would probably kill my mother. I haven't really indulged the fantasy, but i feel like the fixation on it might be my way of making sense with it and getting some control over the very confusing feelings I've had about it growing up. Fantasies can be a safe way to explore and understand yourself. No one is getting hurt and just make sure you and your partner are on the same page about when 'no stop' means that he needs to stop. | as a rape survivor i get of by replaying it. i think the consent in that case can even have a healing effect. same reason i am a submissive bottom. | I wouldn't say I was raped but used to see a Top that very physical and loved rough sex. He liked when I told him to stop and he didn't or told him things like it hurts and I would scream or try and slap him away. I said I didn't call it actual rape as I kinda was into it too but the feeling of fleeing I had were real.
I often fantasize about it still and do wish I could find another Top like him. |
Should I cancel my PrEP appointment this week? What’s the point if I don’t hook up? | TopsAndBottoms | gfoo52 | 48 | null | true | true | 0.94 | true | I would keep the appointment and discuss everything you just said here with your doctor. It’s an office visit and a set of labs. You’re in and out in an hour. Wear a mask and wash your hands. | My GP basically told me to stop taking Prep until this is over. Unless I ignore the lock down. Which would be a different problem. | Just beware of those sudden unplanned moments. What if some gorgeous man turns up and offers you a fuck?
If you've got condoms handy for those moments, you should be fine. | No you should go just to ensure you maintain the right levels of prep in your body. Also to keep your records accurate. | If you don’t take PrEP consistently then don’t take it at all. It’s one of those few things in life that really is black and white. There’s no half assing this. |