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Hi Reddit I am here to ask for some advice. Am 14M and am talking to a girl 15F but I want to make sure where talking to date or be more then friends. Sometimes I talk to here and I feel like am not being clear that I want to be more than friends how do I stop this. Also some tips in how to flirt since am pretty awkward sometimes | Crush |
I’m obsessed with her, she’s literally perfect and her smile is the most beautiful thing I’ve ever seen | Crush |
So my crush has an android and I have an Apple when I send her messages not in a annoying way just to ask questions about class and when I send them she never responds. Idk if she’s ignoring my messages or just isn’t getting them and she talks to me normally at school so idk 😭 | Crush |
Its really complicated, so I'll spare you the details. My friend knows I USED to like him, and I did, but at some point I started liking him again. To make things more complicated, he already has a gf. So it's not really about him at this point, it's the fact that I'm hiding something really important from my friend. What do I do?
P.S- She has already made her feelings clear about what she would do if one of her friends liked him. | Crush |
Hi, I posted about my gym crush a few days ago, asking everyone if I should approach him or something. This is a small update. I still haven't asked him for his name but a few days ago, I managed to ask him to adjust my bench because it was my first time using it and I didn't know how to do it, I was incredibly nervous but I ended up doing it. I did it while he was taking a break with his friend, of course, I apologized for interrupting and was very respectful, and he said that it's not a problem at all and was so freaking sweet. I asked him to adjust only the level of it and he asked me what I wanted to do, he ended up adjusting and moving the whole bench just for me to do hip thrusts. I was so freaking proud of myself because I never thought I'd had the balls lol. Also, yesterday when I was in the gym, I caught him looking at me literally like 15 times(and a few times in the mirror), and he eventually ended up working out next to me. I seriously don't know what to think gosh, should I just go for it? I am scared of screwing it up but I am so disappointed every night when I come home and didn't do anything. | Crush |
I'm crushing on this girl (18) and I'm 22. She recently started working with me and we've had a few interactions and I have been working on her shifts as cover and when we smile at each other we be staring at each other for like 30secs which feels like 30 mins.
She has a very bubbly personality and has good humour and she laughs at my jokes. I tried getting her socials by asking her I can cover shifts or vice versa but she said no and now I won't be working with her for at least 2 weeks. Any help would be helpful | Crush |
I'm crushing on this girl (18) and I'm 22. She recently started working with me and we've had a few interactions and I have been working on her shifts as cover and when we smile at each other we be staring at each other for like 30secs which feels like 30 mins.
She has a very bubbly personality and has good humour and she laughs at my jokes. I tried getting her socials by asking her I can cover shifts or vice versa but she said no and now I won't be working with her for at least 2 weeks. Any help would be helpful | Crush |
Hope its not a stupid questions but I grew up in a serious household so playfighting isnt a thing with my sisters. I have this guy I like and he gives me opportunities to playfight with him, but I cant help but feel awkward trying to mimic his actions. I used to playfight with my cousins before but I stopped since I kept getting them hurt by accident.
How do you playfight with someone without being boring or injuring one another??? Help- | Crush |
What should i do? | Crush |
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getting rejected 5 to 6 times since earlier this year, and now i am considering to move on, took me quite a long time to move on. | Crush |
Any advice at all would help, I’m kind of freaking out here
Basically what happened was I revealed to one of my good friends (I’ll just call him a) that I had a crush on one of my best friends. Since a didn’t know him, I just told him his name. And since my crush has his name in his Instagram username a found him pretty quick and started taunting me (he started making fun of him too). I begged him not to tell him because I really like this guy and I think he’s been flirting with me, but obviously im not sure that he likes me back so I don’t want to confess to him at all yet.
I’ve helped out a with all of his relationship problems and other issues and I’m shocked that he’s actually doing this. He told me that "I have to do everything he says" or he’ll try and snitch to him.
If a tells him, at best this will make me and my crush's friendship VERY awkward. At worst this will literally ruin our friendship since the guy has trust issues and had bad experiences with other gfs in the past.
What do I do?!?? I’m literally pleading with him not to say anything :( | Crush |
But I couldn’t get over him after removing him form my social media platforms so I thought If I confessed my feelings and get rejected, it would be easier to lose my feeling for him. I confessed to him knowing he would reject me because he didn’t seems interested and I think he’s not allowed to date anyway because of his strict parents. He rejected me saying he doesn’t feel the same way but thinks I’m cool bc we share similar interests and bc I’m calm and chill. After he rejected me we had a really good conversation over text. A few days later I temporarily disabled my Instagram account then got it back a week later. When I got it back I followed him back on social media and he followed me back. A couple days later I found out he disliked all my posts. He also stopped watching my stories. It’s been a week and my feelings for him have not changed one bit. | Crush |
I been crushing on this one girl in my class for about 2 years. I have been dreaming about her for so long and I need to let my feelings out. | Crush |
Why are my feelings doing this to me? 😅 I just had a break up with my first boyfriend (we were 4 years together) so everything is still fresh but we ended on good terms and still live together to keep low costs. But i have this one guy at work that i have a crush on or so i think cause i constantly think about this person. So when all coworkers sit at a table during breaks we make eyecontact from time to time when others are talking and we are just listening. But sometimes i think he is searching for my eye contact by doing this multiple times cause he looked at me even when i wasn't. Does that mean anything or am i just confused with my fresh break up?
I just wanna sort out my feelings. To make it even worse, he is currently in a relationship or so i think.
Would love some advice on this 🙏
(sorry for bad english. It's not my primary language) | Crush |
He's my friend.. thought he liked me.. he was single last year.. found out he has a girlfriend.. thought they broke up.. they didn't.. his phone turned on.. his wallpaper is him and a girl.. okay.. today we was playing pep band at the hoco game.. well I thought they broke up because he's been very flirty and talkative with me.. well fucking suprise they didn't.. how do I know this?.. During the game his phone went off and it was 'MY MF WIFE ❤❤❤'. Want him to be happy but.. you know people breakup most around Christmas.
Edit- OH SHIT MOST BREAKUPS HAPPEN DECEMBER 11TH!
God I don't mean to take happiness away from him but... | Crush |
I have a crush on this guy in my class. He's like the clown of the class. He's popular, confident and handsome. I thought he liked me too cause i keep making eyecontact with him, running into him and my friends keep saying that he often glances at me. We have random moments like him wishing me out of nowhere, sitting on my desk and asking me for erasor when his friend beside him clearly has it too. Today i when i went near his desk to sharpen my pencil with my bestfriend and he kept staring at me.
So whats the problem right?
Well, i'm a wallflower. I'm extremely introverted and can count the times we talked on one hand. I'm not even that pretty. There's nothing he can like me for. He's also very flirty, he keeps flirting with many girls. Today my friend told me that he flirts with the girl he walks to bus with. Am i somehow being played? Does he know that i like him and purposely try to make me think he likes me to make fun of me? Or is he just curious abt me? Or am i looking into those small actions too much and being delusional? While writing this i really felt like i was delusional. | Crush |
A little while ago I told a coworker (M19) of mine (F19) that I liked one of our other coworkers (M21), we'll call him John, and I didn't think much of it, I honestly thought that he would forget. The other day and my coworker and I are on our breaks and he goes "Didn't you like John?" and obviously I'm freaking out so I go "Uhh no that was a coworker that left." But he keeps pushing and he's like "Have you ever had a boyfriend?" So I ask him "Why do you want to know so much about my life?" Then he starts pairing me up with our other coworkers and I'm telling him no to them and right before I get off my break he says "Hmm, I can only really see you with John." I didn't get the chance to ask him why but it definitely seems like he's trying to get some information out of me for whatever reason. I've also barely seen the two talk so I'm not sure if he could even be John's wingman but it is possible, we work in a pretty close setting. | Crush |
She messed me up a bit though. In some of our calls she made me feel ashamed for being depressed. I even told her that I did in fact have depression and that I mentally couldn’t control it, but she didn’t care. Stopped calling her and looked for someone that actually did, and I don’t think this is an actually crush yet but I’m starting to get interested in this new girl. | Crush |
I have a crush on this girl for 5 years now, and I never had a courage to ask her. I moved away from the town we lived in but its been 6 months and I still think about her. Although I met other girls I still can't forget about her. Is something wrong with me and if so what should I do? | Crush |
I know it may sound weird to some, but I have a huge crush on her. I wish I can take her out. 😭 | Crush |
I thought that maybe I lack confidence, but my friends tell me that I'm actually really confident. I have this crush and often times we would talk, but for some reason I either stutter or I don't know what to say or what to talk about. It also doesn't help that some of our other friends are around us constantly so we don't ever get a time where we're alone. I find her really attractive and charming | Crush |
So I told you guys about a guy named Andre, who I met back at college. We ran into each other at my job one day and traded numbers. We messaged each other as often as we could, despite both of us being busy, especially Andre who works in cybersecurity and has some side hustles with computers. I try to be patient and understanding because every industry is short staffed amid this pandemic and I don’t want to be one of those psycho girls that are turned into memes, but it’s just so frustrating. He’s admitted to being fond of me and we have similar hobbies and interests. I like him and had really hoped that we would get together one day and get to know each more about each other. I imagined us going out for pizza, a movie, or hang out at Dave and Busters. The problem is that he’s busy 95% of the time. The other problem is that I’m always texting first and waiting for him to respond. I thought he liked me. I know he’s has a lot on his plate, but it’s as if he doesn’t like me in the way that I thought and doesn’t put in any effort to talk to me. | Crush |
I have Gym with her and don't know how to start a conversation with her (or anyone in general). What should I do? | Crush |
I really like this girl and I’ve liked her for three years now and I really would like to tell her how I feel but she’s straight and I feel like if I tell her it will ruin our friendship, but it’s been causing me some mental health issues and I would really just want to tell her exactly how I feel but I’m really worried that she A: won’t feel the same way and B: she’ll be weirded out by me liking her and it will ruin our friendship completely | Crush |
I had a crush on a girl in my office. She knew and I told I like her very much. She just smiled and said you are crazy in a friendly way.
Anyway I was clingy and kinda not fun imo. Someday she blocked my mobile number but didnt say any reason.
Sh has no social media profiles and now works at another office.
I still can send her text msgs and shee can see.
But I dont know bow to start a convo again through txt.
She still has a novel I gave her before she blocked me. I never asked about it.
Is it a good idea to ask to give the book back just to start some chat?
If yes what are the best words you'd say to her.
Is there anything else you can suggest to do?.
Thank you much love | Crush |
I'm just writing this to see if I'm genuinely insane or not hahahaha
I’ve been following this guy on Twitter for about a month (he doesn’t follow me) he’s really hilarious and we have literally the same music taste, humor, etc, like even if I wasn’t interested in him romantically I feel like we’d get on great as friends. he doesn’t have a heap of followers so I know he's probably noticed me somehow and he’s single. All I really do is like his tweets (not every single one, I don’t want to creep him out lol) and I’m pretty confident in my attractiveness maybe a 7/8 out of 10. But I'm scared that he might think I’m pranking him cause what would an attractive girl be messaging him out of the blue for? should I reply to some of his tweets so he has some more familiarity with me and *then* send him a message? basically I just want to know if I should message him now or wait a bit so I basically do not come across as a creepy stalker person lol | Crush |
Well, it's about a girl whom i know since years, we moved into France for studies (not in the same city) since then, we became closer friends than before. The thing, is that she invited me to spend som days with her and when she did, i started to crush on her and.. I just can't help texting her, even if i hate late replies, she often takes time to reply (sometimes leaves me on seen)
To cut it short, my feelings became huge when she invited me, now we gonna meet next week and.. i just want her to give me more attention.. any advice guys? | Crush |
I know this is taboo and I might be co soldered a POS for even thinking about this but I’m super crushing on my wife’s aunt. She’s about 75, single and is in really good shape, a little heavy but not too bad and she has a very nice upper body (if you get my drift). I have never, nor would I ever, make any advances towards her, for fear of complete humiliation and the chance that she could mention this to my spouse. The only indication that I have that there was ever any interest was when I spent the day shopping with her and on the train ride back she said she was grateful for me spending my day shopping with her. She then said, “if there is anything I can do for you just let me know”. She said it twice, which after the first time I thought my ears deceived me. I just smiled and told her that it was no problem, twice. On another occasion after that I had done something for her and again she said the same phrase. I say this is odd because I have known her for over 30 years and we are like family so it is no problem ever doing anything for her. The only reason I thought her comment was laced with innuendo was because it should have been understood that family does for family with no need for excessive gratitude. I find myself staring at her upper body whenever she comes over and I immediately have to change my train of thought. I just think it’s odd that I find myself attracted to her. Honestly I don’t know what I would do if she ever made any advances, I doubt that she would but I’d probably embarrass myself. | Crush |
So, there is this girl, she is like really cute and we were friends since our childhood, she is in a grade higher than me. we were still good friends, then she moved to the city with her family and we lost contact ( this was when we were,well i was in fourth grade , so no instagram or facebook) . It wasn't until this year that I sent a birthday message to her younger brother on their mothers phone. Fortunately right after i dropped the message she was using her mothers phone and she gave me her number and told me to message on it ( she didn't know it was me) .
I already had a crush on her but i never told anyone about it . well right after that i texted her, and before we knew, almost 2 hours had passed by and since her parents are very strict she went offline . we kept on chatting for a while like so but not for so long .
Then i had a chance to meet her in a camp, she was way more prettier and humorous than i remembered, she was nice to me and we went around together (for the first day) then nothing special happened :( she was just too busy and i came back home :( she is still nice to me and we both joke around over text . i try to drop hints but it is very hard to do it on text and also she is always too busy to reply (like she replies good night in the morning) . maybe she drops hints too or maybe i just wish too hard.
so,
DO i have a chance?
Edit: she said, she is not in the mood to travel.😟 | Crush |
I don’t really have the words to express how i feel when im with her , every time she enters a room , every time i see her , i can feel my blood flowing , its like something wants me to be with her , im a really extrovert guy , i really like to talk to new people and get to know them , rarely someone talks to me first , this girl straight up came to me and started to talk about a lot of stuff , art, music , and that stuff , I’ve never fallen in love with someone so fast , every little thing i do reminds me of her, when i play or listen to music , when im doing hw , when im eating , im always thinking about her . The only problem is that she likes another guy , she wont stop talking about how she wants to be with him , it just makes me more sad and makes me think that i don’t have an opportunity , legit i need advice to make her look at my direction
Edit
Guys , i went on a trip with my school , we went outside of the state and i met this beautiful looking girl , i asked for her number and she gave it to me :D , also i took her hand to walk down some stairs , we took selfies , she took pics of me , and on our way home she rested her head on my shoulder :DDD , and on the bus stop i waited for the bus to arrive with her , it was the best moment of my life , this helped me to overcome the other girl , just a small issue , she doesn’t respond my messages fast , i don’t know if im overreacting or not , but i think if she was really interested she would respond fast , im going to ask her out on Tuesday, wish me luck boissss | Crush |
I have a crush on this girl that sometimes wears a specific set of clothes that make her look cute & hot and is my fav outfit she wears. Am I weird for thinking this? | Crush |
Me and her friend are friends and text and she told me I’m gonna stop talking about her to you to that I said no don’t do that. And she was like why not I said I liked hearing about how she’s doing or how her days going and if she has anything to say about me. To that she was like don’t say things like that it makes you seem like a creep and I was slightly baffled. Then I asked what your gonna stop talking to me and cancel any chance I had with her and she really won’t give me and answer it feels like she literally is in the middle of it and is like in the whole situation it put me in a really bad mood I really don’t get that | Crush |
I've known her for roughly 3 years and we always talk about serious topics like relationships, private affairs and if just needs to vent. I've liked her but I cannot be with her for personal reasons but I still like her and want to be close like best friends, I'm not interested in romantic relationships at the time maybe in the near future but I've always liked her to be around me. She sometimes complains when I say that we aren't really close because we usually only talk about school and such, then I ask if she would be down to hang out which then my message would be left on delivered for a long time. A couple days back she asked if I wanted to go to the mall with her then I replied that I would have to see. Then today I asked what day it was and I slept and woke up no response ;-; I know she has no interest in me romantically but I want to be close to her but its not working out. She always invites her other friends even though I told her that it would nice to join her multiple time but no invite ;-; She's cool and listens to me and I listen to her, she plays videogames , watches anime and we have similar hobbies. What do you guys think the reason is? | Crush |
I said "I'll let you know" cause I thought it would be a funny comeback im also starting to lose interest towards her so if she liked me I wouldn't be as happy as before. I'm also wondering if "wanna hangout sometime." Means date. | Crush |
i’m in photography and there’s this guy who sits across from me, and he’s super cute and nice/polite, but as a bisexual i have a hard time figuring out if he’s gay 😔 he has short curly hair but long enough to put in a ponytail, gold pretty dangly earrings, black nails but everything else looks pretty average. we also rarely talk but we’ve had full conversations when we do. how do i subtly ask him if he’s gay? 🤡 | Crush |
Idk what to do. He's funny, cute (we video call sometimes), and we play Minecraft together and it seems like sometimes he is staring through the screen into my eyes... He and I also send goodnight gifs on discord (sometimes really cute ones).
Recently we joined a new minecraft server with strange achievements and one gave me a flower saying something about asking your crush out and I named the item "I like you"
I can't get the courage to give it to him... Help | Crush |
Me and him talk everyday and he complements me all the time and he is so nice and he says “ily” all the time but he says ily to most of his friends so I don’t think that really means anything and he genuinely makes me feel like he cares about me most of my friends don’t do that and recently he has been asking me to go to the beach with him and to go get food and watch a movie together but I really can’t tell if he is asking me out in a friends way or more than friends way he has also been asking me to come over and cuddle and idk if he means it in a friendly way or not help please lmao 😭 | Crush |
im in highschool and i really like this guy in my history class (hes handsome, funny, hardworking and has the same interests as me) and we talk sometimes in the hallways and occasionally in class. but he has a gf. i have never flirted with him, and i dont plan on it, but i have a huge crush on him and i think about him all the time. im planning on maybe flirting with him if him and his gf break up. i dont know the gf and she doesn't go to our school, i dont even know her name or what she looks like. is this breaking some sort of girl code? | Crush |
I feel remorse when I'm thinking of doing this. But the thing is, it's the only chance in which I can share my feelings, even though it's going to be anonymous. I have full support from guys, but if someone from girls get her name, everything will be finished. I know how to get her name by 100%, but is it a shame to do so? | Crush |
So I’ve know him for about 8 months now because we started working together around the same time. For the first few months I never talked to him because we never worked the same hours but we began too as the weeks went by. We started talking and having basic conversation at work and eventually became friends. One day back in October he invited me to the haunted trails with another one of my coworkers (who I’m close with) and that was the first time we all hung out. Ever since then we hang out almost every other day with a few more of our coworkers and we all have become really good friends. So now that you have a back story let’s get into astrology. He’s a Capricorn and I’m a libra and these signs are known to not be super compatible. Enough of that. We flirt a lot and I’m comfortable with him to an extent but I get super nervous obviously because I like him. Some examples of why I feel some mixed signals. 1. We were snapping back and forth and I tell him he had bad taste. He says “yeah I know that’s why I like you” I didn’t know if I should be offended or if he had just confessed his feelings. Then the other night I send a shower pic streak and he responds with “that shower pic😍” and I say “would be better if you were in it” he goes “better have the same energy when I pull up” but then we hung out last night and we were playing a question game amongst our friends and the question was “who at the store would you kiss?” He says “*insert random girls name*, she’s cute” and I was sitting next to him like -_-. So then the next question was who did I think was cute on my first day at work so I said “white guy” and he goes “*my name* likes white guys” and I say “well you like white girls” and he says “I do I do like white girls”. I feel like I have a hard time processing that you can like certain people but still find other people attractive because to me it just sounds like he only likes white girls and that’s all he’ll ever be open to. I’m black btw so I’m already not confident in competing with a white girl🙃 anyway we also danced on each other to music which was nice. He’s just so cute and I’m hurting because idk how to tell him I like him I’m also afraid of rejection so that doesn’t help | Crush |
I don’t know why this is but lately I end up falling asleep each time I think about the guy I like and I have no idea why. It happened the days before I confessed to him and got rejected and it’s still happening now. I’m so perplexed as to why this is happening . But I gotta say I’ve never felt for him the way I felt for anyone else. | Crush |
Hey y'all. The end of the semester is approaching, and I was thinking about asking my crush for his number or something. The only thing is we don't know one another that well, and I've only talked to him about a handful of times. I'm not entirely sure if he's interested either, but we always somehow end up making eye contact across the room. I assumed that it doesn't mean much, since he hasn't approached me for anything other than school assignments. Not sure if I should go out on a limb and say something? | Crush |
Okay guys, new updates and new troubles with crush situation. For those of you that don't know the story, just go to my profile. I have new problems and I need advice.
So last 2 weeks, me and my crush are getting along, we are constantly talking and interacting, and every time she's talking to me she's constantly grinning and smiling in a cute way. One day she was constantly taking pictures of me and filming me, and I found out from my friend that she shared those pictures with her close girl friends (i don't know what that means, you tell me) but then things get complicated again.
Yesterday I finished school early and I was waiting for my friend, I sat on a bench, and she noticed me and sat next to me, she smiled and said "You're waiting for your boyfriend and I'm waiting for mine" jokingly, and in my mind I was like "Crap". I didn't even know she had a fricking boyfriend, that was the first time she mentioned him, and that fact is bothering me.
So now I need your help again, I need advice, do I just give up? Do I try and break them up? Or do I take her away from him? | Crush |
He's in the student council, while I'm in the prefect team. We are both in the debate team and our team usually orders meals to be delivered (by our lovely teachers) for lunch. Once I found him forgetting where the meeting room was, so we went there together. After arriving, he said that he could trust me with everything because it's me. I kept seeing him stealing glances at me at debate team meetings and his classroom (I need to go to his classroom to check up with his class teachers every other week). He nows also orders things I ordered (e.g. McDonalds: I ordered chicken nuggets and orange Fanta, and he orders the same thing). Is this something friends do? | Crush |
So I (17) M have found myself having a crush on this (17)F whos in my english class.
Back story:
I recently moved to florida in July and moved to q new highschool. I am in this english class where theres a cute girl that sits next to me who i'll refer to as "Jasmine".
Jasmine and i have been sitting next to each other for about 3 months since the start of the school year and me being a shy introvert nvr introduced myself to her properly bc i always got nervous (yes ik im 17 my ancestors who fought bears when they were probably 17 as well are looking at me with utter disappointment) but one day we had a short school day and i saw sitting by herself around the schools cafeteria so i stood a few feet away thinking if i should talk to her now and actually introduce my self (this is abt a month into the school year) she sat there for 30 mins and then i made up my mind that i was gonna sit next to her and try to spark a conversation and see where that goes. I ask for permission to sit next to her and she says i can and goes right back to scrolling on her phone as i sit there thinking abt what im gonna do. When i finally do decide to speak the bell rings and everyone walks out of the school. The two of us get up simultaneously and head for the exit and i started to tell her the whole meaning of me sitting there and told her abt how i just moved here and ask if we can be friends and she said yes. She told me her fav music was kpop and we chatted a little more and the we walked our separate ways home. A few days later were back in the english class and im silent bc i dont kno what to say so i ask if she wanted me to get her a laptop since im going to one too she said yes and i came back with our laptops (im basically going to my gentlemen mode to show her im a man that respects and treats women nicely). A few more days pass of me being a gentlemen and getting both laptops when ever we used them and textbooks from a shelf. Then a couple of days ago we had a fire drill and she was standing underneath a tree by herself so as im walking i say to myself i should talk to her since her friends arent around. I got nervous, panicked and walked at a handy cap parking spot to wait out the fire drill constantly looking at her underneath the tree . Then the next day i go to the cafeteria for lunch and i see her sitting by herself for sometime no eating and i say to myself again i should go talk to her but i got nervous again and panicked and told myself that "im not that guy" (meme) and exited the cafeteria with nothing hut shame over my head. Now im wondering if those were signs / golden opportunities that this 17 year old guy should overcome the nervousness and talk to her. REALLY NEED SOME ENCOURAGEMENT FOR IF THERE IS A POSSIBLE THIRD SIGN/OPPORTUNITY TO TALK TO HER.
Srry for long post
TL;DR: 17 yr old guy has golden opportunity to talk to his crush doesnt... | Crush |
Hey guys, the end of the semester is approaching, and i (20f) met this really cute guy in one of my college classes, about or a month or two ago. We've talked a few times, but mostly only for school assignments. Seeing as i am a reserved and shy person, I'm wondering if there is a nonchalant way to shoot my shot before the semester ends. Any tips would be greatly appreciated. (: | Crush |
so recently I've been thinking about an old crush of mine, I can't stop thinking about him, it was over 2 years ago since we last talked, we met online about march 2019 he texted me first we both had a band in common that we liked so he thought to text me and I was with my best friend at the time when I got the text and she said ANSWERR so I did. I and him became good friends and texted almost every day until one day I found out he had a gf and I had no idea he had one and I had a crush on him so I was well crushed hahaha, she was long distance. He was 17 when we first started talking and turned 18 in May and I was 16 the whole time. We continued to talk, I never mentioned anything about me liking him and we continued to talk as normal but over time he texted me less and less and I had no idea why. One day in August he just unadded me from Snapchat and unfollowed me from insta, we never had a fight or anything it was all so sudden, I was so confused, I never confronted him about it and just accepted we weren't friends anymore. It hurt real bad for a while but recently I started thinking about him and how well we got on. I recently found him on Twitter and I'm kinda wanna reach out to him but idk if it's too late, honestly I still have a crush on him, he's attractive and so is his personality but look I just don't know what to do. I still wonder to this day why we stopped talking out of nowhere. | Crush |
I confessed to my crush but he rejected me but in a nice way. He’s so kind…..that’s why I like him In the first place. When I first met him, He made me feel so comfortable and I immediately wanted to get to know him. When I talk to him, he makes me feel valid, and understood. He’s smart, talented, and have inspired me. Unfortunately he doesn’t like me and I feel horrible. Every time I think about his rejection I get so sad and emotionally exhausted and end up falling asleep. I’m so sad I will never be with him. The girl who will win his heart will be so lucky to have him. I hope I will be with someone as good as him one day and if not better than him. How do I get over him? | Crush |
Should I compliment my crush to start the convo, we’ve never talked before and our lockers are right next to each other! Kinda want to make the first move !!! | Crush |
Help!! I just added my crush on Facebook, who is a former coworker. Well, actually, one of my friends grabbed my phone and added him for me. We haven’t worked together in seven months, since he got moved to another office. When we did work together, we barely talked except for “hi” or “good morning.” Do I look like a stalker for adding him seven months later? We do have a few mutual coworker friends on Facebook. | Crush |
I recently watched a very early 2000s movie which starred and actor that made my heart skip a beat and I was instantly in love . She’s in her 40s now and I’ve spent the last 6 hours researching her career looking and interviews and even bought a poster of her. I feel like as every second increases I want her more. Not surprisingly she looks a lil older now which is kinda discouraging but I would still get on my knees for her. I wish I were born earlier so I could’ve had a chance. How do I get over this obsession with someone I never met and why am I infatuated with this woman | Crush |
Honest i need help. My ither flatmate as also noticed. Its weird. | Crush |
I've been having this crush on a girl since I was 7, and now I'm 18. When I confessed my feelings a few years ago, she simply told me that she knew. That's it. Now she has a boyfriend and I'm here stuck trying to move on. I've stopped using social media to get my mind away from her, but its not working. When I told myself that I've moved on, she just comes out of nowhere and just stays in my mind. What should I do? | Crush |
So there's this girl I started texting during the holiday and we vibed so we both planned to meet when we got back to school. Meeting in school was quite hard cause she's mostly busier than me but we finally met and when we met for the first time we were both very nervous, she just kept smiling and I couldn't stop but smile too. She looked way better in person. So that night I texted her recalling what happened when we first met and she responded well, I complimented her and she complimented me too saying I was cute and taller than she expected. I was so happy ngl😂. After that we've seen each other a few times around. One time we planned to meet at a concert in the school chapel, she said she was going to be with her friends until the concert ended so we could meet after the concert but before that she told me she had a test the next day so she wasn't sure she was going. During the concert she texter me saying how she was very sorry and couldn't make it out that night. After that we still texted for like a week or so then I got tired and told her we needed to meet again but at the moment she was quite busy with tests again meanwhile I had again all the free time in the world. So finally she agreed to meet me on a Saturday it went well I guess and then as she got to her dormitory I found it hard to hug her, I was very nervous. I forgot to mention during the week I ran into her at the cafeteria and she tried hugging but I didn't respond on the time so it was akward. Also we texted after meeting that Saturday again and I thanked her for making time to meet me and I mentioned how I found it hard to hug her....she was like "am I that scary" then I told her what really happened. When we met that saturday her crush passed us but they've only spoken once so she didn't say hi to him and there I was heartbroken cause I have a crush on her too. Funny thing is how when we text I flirt with her and she flirts back too so I'm like she might be attracted and interested in me...reason why I haven't given up on her yet. I told her I was gonna tell her something when we go on Christmas holidays and she was curious. I want to tell her I have a crush on her and know how she feels. What do I do? | Crush |
SHE TOLD ME WHO HER CRUSH IS TODAY
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IT'S NOT ME
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NOT EVEN CLOSE
\*proceeds to continue the internal screaming that's actually been going on since lunchtime at school\* | Crush |
i basically have been rejected by my crush after a few dates because they aren’t ready for a relationship, which i am not either. point being, there’s another person who is trying their hardest to get my attention and we have everything in common. but i just can’t seem to force myself to enjoy the attention, and i know that sounds pathetic, because here i am, asking to be loved when someone does want to try. am i bad person? i want to so badly move on from my crush but i can’t. i try to avoid them and they still do whatever they can to talk to me. HOW AM I SUPPOSED TO MOVE ON? | Crush |
Let’s call him A, basically I’ve had a crush on A since the beginning of first year of uni but I didn’t get a chance to speak to him because I didn’t have any classes with him. My friend is really pretty and she has mentioned to me before how she’s friends with A and it seems like he might have a crush on her. So I stopped thinking about him. But now In second year I have had a few labs with him, and he approached me in one of the labs. He brought up how he’s friend with my lab partner and he follows me on Instagram but I don’t have any posts on there. Also he asked me where I’m from and I’m Afghan but he’s Chinese. He was very intrigued by how I’m from Afghanistan, he was acting like I’m a really exotic person lol. Before the next lab I was hanging out with another friend and she waved at him but I didn’t wave and him so he didn’t approach me in that lab. But I noticed that he kept looking at me as if he wanted to approach me but was hesitating. The next week i attended the same lecture as him and I walked in like 5 minutes late. (If I’m going to be honest I looked really nice that day lol). He was sitting near the front and literally stared at me as I walked up the stairs to the seats at the back. Before the lab that day I said hi to him and he looked a bit relieved. I also posted a picture on Instagram 2 days before the lab. He asked me about the insta post in the lab and even mentioned the comments I got on the post. He finished his lab an hour earlier than me but still stuck around and talked to me whilst I finished mine. he would talk and stand reallyyy close to me and kept making small flirty comments like how my eyelashes were really long lol and that my earrings looked pretty. But i wasn’t sure he was flirting with me or if he acts like that with other girls too like my friend. I then saw him also approach my pretty friend and talk to her. Later I went to talk to my friend and she told me that he kept talking about me to her. So I feel like he might like me since he wasn’t being flirty towards her and was just trying to get to know me a bit more through my friend. He asked me later why I always sit at the back of the lectures and how I should sit at the front. Idk if I should try and sit near him in the next lecture or if it’s not worth trying shoot my shot like that. I also have just been assigned a group project with him so I will get to work more closely with him. I’m quite excited because I was always interested in him and it makes me feel happy that he’s showing some interest in getting to know me. But I’ve never been in a talking stage or relationship with anyone so idk how to go about things. I’m also unsure if he’s just really friendly and I’m just another girl that he wants to be friends with. | Crush |
We've started talking more lately which is nice but some of the things she does to me is weird and I've never seen her do it to others. She held a knife to my neck and poked it once, she carved an O because we were playing tic tac toe on my fingernail, and slapped me actually quite hard on my chin. I know she doesn't hate me because we keep hanging out and talking sometimes, and while she always tries to keep a though and cool facade (meaning juat always teasing and making fun of me) she does occasionally break and tell me nice things, like how everyone should have one of me in their lives, how I'm a genuinly kind-hearted person, etc etc. She also constantly calls me a nerd. I know she isn't looking for a relationship because she flat out said so, so i don't make any moves on her, but damn how would y'all react to all this? | Crush |
I’m a 27 year old female who doesn’t date much at all. I keep busy with my career and friends, and never really go on dates/ get asked out. Off and on, I continue to have a crush on a guy I went to high school with. I’ve run into him at the supermarket, and chatted online here and there with him. We share similar interests and I have always found him secretly adorable. We were in hand together, him being a year younger. It’s not like I see him in person, but I still feel like I have this crush that I haven’t moved past all these years later. Is this something I should be brave and say, or just leave it be? It’s been a long time, but I can’t figure out why I can’t seem to let it go. Any kind advice would be helpful. Thanks! | Crush |
My crushes usually last for two three months but there's this guy who happens to be my senior who helped me many times and is quite friendly with me. I fell for him too hard, maybe because he gave me attention too? He used to send me pickup lines on snapchat but ig he sent it to a lot of people observing his snapstreak. So I always thought I'd move on eventually as it was clear that he is not interested in me even a bit and I am the shy type in relationship kinda stuffs. But everytime I see him with another girl idk why I feel so bad for myself like why can't it be me? And few days ago he got back together with his ex😃. Now I just want to move on as soon as possible because few of my friends know that I liked him and even then they discuss about him in front of me and I just have to act like yk as if I don't care. | Crush |
This question has been on my mind quite a lot because friend to friend, we get along very well, but to confess my feelings and the desire to transition from friends to a couple gives me second thoughts. If I speak too soon, this may cost me our friendship. If I keep waiting to confess, it will be too late and I'll feel hurt. Although I may lose my crush to someone else because of a romantic relationship, at least I didn't lose my friend. I don't get in between my friend and his lover. But the question still remains, is it weird to have a crush on a friend? | Crush |
Lol im the quiet girl that no one knows, And he's an idiot, A cute one, It hurts a lot lol.
Im F16 and its been online school for 2 years straight, this year school's gonna be offline and we're not even gonna sit in the same section, when i heard we wont be in the same section i got pretty sad.
And its my last year of high school so i wont get to see him much, maybe its good for me cause i can get over him, but then again, 2 years of covid and im still in love with him.
I know for sure i wont be able to confess to him, im very shy. And i know he doesnt even care pretty much, maybe he would if we had ever talked before offline, we've only talked online a few times.
Man i just wanna be ok
Pls give me tips on how to get over someone i find the most beautiful human being in the world
I want to run away from the fact that im madly in love with him and he probably wont ever even wanna look at me
Anyways i just felt like venting it out a little
Thanks for reading all this, hope you're doing well | Crush |
I’m honestly so confused of how this guy I work with feels about me. I don’t like him at all romantically and he has a girlfriend. He asked if I thought he was ugly and I told him what I honestly thought. I think he took it personally and start boasting about how his gf is beautiful and only her opinion matters, and I’m just confused, like why ask me then? 🤨 also he sometimes seems nervous to talk to me and always tries to talk to me. Plus, he seems to get jealous if I’m talking to other coworkers or saying I really like working with this one person. I said, “I love (insert coworkers name)” and he said, “then why dont you just marry her🙄” plus I used to make fun of him jokingly and I kinda stopped and he’s alway bringing it up saying “your always making fun of me” like he likes that sh*t and that’s why I kinda stopped. It’s just getting weird. I’m 18 and he’s like 7 years older then me so it’s all just really weird. I need opinions | Crush |
It's been 10 years I've had a crush on my front
house best friends sister. I've always kept it
nonchalant because of her brother being my guy.
But it's been 10 years. It may sound corny but I
feel like I should say something or message
something like. Should 1? And if so. how; (IF I
WAS: I was thinking like maybe be like
*respectfully 10 years is coming up of me having
a hardcore crush on you or sum yag like tha… | Crush |
hello reddit,
i really need help. i do a sport w the sweetest, hottest, most considerate guy i've ever met. and ive know a lot of asshole guys. anyways, even tho i don't see him at school, i think it's safe to say i have a fat crush on this guy. i'm in high school, and i kinda want to date him. we talk, but i want to be with him constantly. ik, i'm invested. basically, how do i make him fall madly in love with me? more realistically, how do i ask him to ft me? guys i'm desperate here please help. | Crush |
I'm not having a good week. I broke my ankle so I've been laying in bed feeling sorry for myself unable to move and in a great amount of pain surrounded by my messy room that I can't clean. When I go to school I'm in a lot of pain and there's people always staring at me and I'm just a burden to everyone. I'm not very happy. I just want to text her and talk to her, but I have nothing to say. I texted her yesterday and I thought it was going better than usual, but she just stopped responding and even though she was online several times last night, she never looked at my last few messages until this morning. She is a terrible texter, I much prefer hanging out in person,because it always goes a thousand times better than when we text.
What do I do | Crush |
I have a huge crush on my co worker. Lets call him Dany. I asked if he had anyone he liked and he said yes so I didn't push for anything.
One day when I got home I saw Dany outside and realized were neighbors! I barely leave my room and also we go to different schools.
A month or so later after I joked at work about staying a extra hour and Dany got all serious and kinda begged me saying that we could walk home together. I caved and stayed the hour.
While we were walking he askes if I want to go to prom at his school with him. WHAT I am freaking out internally. I tell him I will think about it and he says to tell him by the next day at work. Next day I get off early so I cant tell him so I do the creepiest thing ever.I go onto the work app look for his name. His contact info is there but I know he got his phone taken away so I email him. He responds 3 days later: "no worries we can talk on Friday" god at this point I feel like I screwed everthing up but when friday comes along After I get home I get a notification on my phone from email. Its Dany messaging me about If I want to go prom shopping with him. I say yes but the thing is I literally had bought a $140 dress that same day.
This all makes it seem like he likes me but he doesn't show any signs actual signs. I don't want to confess since we live right next to each other and work at the same job. I really like him but I don't want to cause issues at work. I feel like he asked me to go with him as a friend but ever since he asked I think about him way too much. | Crush |
Ive been talking to this girl i share class with for months and she always vented to me, and we talked for hours late night, i like her so much. But saturday we hang out for the first time since it was her bday, she stared at her phone for hours and when i gave her a gift (she likes a manga series and i bought her a few volumes) (i already gave her other volumes for xmas) she literally said: hm… again and that hurt me, before going home i opened my arms to give a hug and she said while staring at me: i dont like hugs, i walked 3 km crying that day, then i hang out with my homies and she texted me : i read the letter in the gift and since you are important to me too i decided to tell you one thing : im lesbian and i like (girl name we both share class with)
I spent the whole night crying, on sunday i told her that i liked her and she didnt treat me well the day before, she just made some excuses instead of saying sorry and she asked me if we will remain friends, now i dont know if i should drop her because i hope that if we remain friends maybe she will change her mind or smth | Crush |
Hey y'all how do you console yourself when your crush of 7 years is shifting to some other town??? | Crush |
Alien someone else. Well I have a new crush. | Crush |
Background info: So I started hanging out with this friend group in seventh grade but one of them were really touchy-feely(not in an emotional way) but she was kinda like that for everyone. For examples, one day she fell asleep on my shoulder in math class near the end of the year.
Anyways, the year ended and I didn’t see her all summer. When the school year started up again we were talking more and more and she even started holding my hand. People bring the hand holding thing up and it annoys her because she keeps saying we’re just friends.
Then, during art class one of our mutual friends showed me a message from her telling they like me but she doesn’t want to ruin our friendship. I’m like freaking out because I didn’t know if I had a crush on her yet. I started asking her about who she liked hoping for something to happen but that’s pretty unrealistic.
I decided to go to a volleyball tournament for her(which I’ve never done before) and it took 8+ hours. I thought this would bring us closer together but then today she said that she might even be getting over her crush when I was asking her about it. This is the exact moment I think I was almost certain I liked her apart from other attractions because I felt horrible hearing that. The rest of the day I was self conscious about how I was around her and I think it came off awkward. Even right now my heart is beating rapidly at 104 bpm.
Should I ask her out, leave it how we’re just friends, is there any way to tell if she is seriously losing interest or if she is just trying to get me to stop asking? Please help me!! | Crush |
Hi im 23 F and have a crush on this guy in my uni for 2 years now. I don't know much about him because he doesn't really talk to anyone in university. I feel attracted towards him since 1st day and I have never liked any other guy besides him.
Recently I've been making some efforts to talk to him since he gave me some hints ( or maybe that's what I thought)..
But I don't wanna come off as someone who is too desperate.
WHAT CAN I DO TO GET HIM OFF MY HEAD?
P.s. he is kind of egotistical and rude and im really shy and never been in a relationship. | Crush |
oh god. (He stays in the same state as me, and city too ) Basically this lad appeared on my tiktok page, and I thought he was hot. Didn’t think much of it. Anyways the next day he posts a tiktok and a Buch of people Slide into the comments. I dm’d him ( but he doesn’t folllow back so it appeared in the requested) he didn’t say anything so I didn’t think much of it until later. I then commented on his tiktok and he replied back, and three hours later he likes three of my tiktoks(my page is public) Anyways four hours later ,he texted me back and asked for my gram!!!!!! I’m not tryja get my hopes because he might just be very friendly. This is also my first time sliding into anyone’s dms, please leave some advice down below !!!! | Crush |
But not for their looks
First time ever it's for their niceness and their love for myself.
A bit of their prestige.
I like how he has a heart of an angel.. so caring and loving to his gf..
How he sees things as peace
A total different human
So clean with his heart and hands
I feel that I am dirty and healed me
He loved me by healing my body and caring for my wallet
I am happy to encounter this man
I still remember my ex and he looks like love
But this man doesn't look like it.. it's a form of healing.. in a professional sense.. but the body knows
This man is a healer..
I realize not many good men come into my life to heal me. This is one of them. | Crush |
I’ve confessed my feelings for him, twice. Now is the third time I reached out and I am tired.
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First time he praised me for being brave and acknowledged the bond between us and I am a friend he cherish and don’t want to lose. But he didn’t think we could go further than this current state of friendship with connection. Since he needs physical contact (date, movies, dinners, not necessarily sex) to develop feelings for me, and we haven’t met in person yet, so as for now, he does not have the same feelings as I do. I asked if you don’t like me, why keep thinking of the difficulties? He said cause difficulties are there, and there’s a bond yeah?
I was upset for several days, but I realized he was right. We both don’t want a long distance relationship, so even we like each other, it’s unwise to move to the next stage beyond friendship. (Or simply he’s just not that into me) He considered the difficulties of us being together while I was just carried away by liking him and wanting him. Though rational and stubborn as he is, he did comfort and support me a lot whenever and wherever I needed the most without realizing it himself. So the second time I confessed, “my crush for you officially ended today”, “now I see you and like you for just being you, it’s more soliddd.” After the first part shocked him and got him lost, the second part made him happier, but still talking about us lacking physical contact again.
So I think as long as we meet we can solve this biggest problem right? I picked up the courage to ask him if he wants to meet me in the summer. (I’m moving from my continent to his for studies) He replied he would be away for vacation from July and only bought a one way ticket, so he can’t say one day or another when he will be there, not before September for sure. I demanded a simple yes or no, he said for now it’s no, until September he doesn’t know what he wants to do. I behaved very mature, (I hope) saying enjoy it while it lasts as everything will all come to an end, summer or a crush.
I…I am just once again disappointed. It seems to me he doesn’t even want to try to make us work… maybe he is just enjoy being liked by me, but doesn’t give a shit about me… stuck in the sad and fake friend zone. | Crush |
I’m married with 3 young kids and a husband who is a workaholic to the detriment of family life. Long story short I have been attracted to a dad at my kids school and I have really fallen for him. We walk together if our paths cross (we live very close) and I chat to him at least a couple of times a week. I feel like the feeling is mutual but he isn’t the type to cheat and honestly neither am I. The fantasising is an escapism from my life and issues in my marriage (which I’ve addressed many times with my DH but nothing much changes. He’s a good man but work always comes first). Since lockdown and this dad working from home and doing more school runs, my crush is getting out of control. I’m always hoping to bump into him and I take care of myself so I’m always looking good if I know I’ll definitely see him. Sad I know. I know no good is coming from feeling like this, but I’m stuck seeing him for many years to come whilst our kids go through the school system. I’ve tried avoiding him but end up seeing him one way or another and as soon as we start chatting that’s it I’m smitten again.
What practical things can I do to move past feeling like this? I hate that it’s been over 4yrs and I’m still not over him. He added me on Facebook a couple of months ago and that’s made it worse! He always checks out my stories and likes my posts. There’s never been any messages or anything in appropriate.
Would appreciate any help!😌 | Crush |
And I(26M) sold her(23F) a bike a few months before my relationship of 3 years ended. I brushed it off because i respected my partner and my relationship a lot. She came back in not too long after everything went down and invited me to go ride with her. Since then we've gone on several ride and she even invited me to go tubing down the river and smoke weed, drink beer and have conversation. I know that my feelings for her are starting to become stronger and stronger. I just don't know how to tell if she even feels remotely the same. | Crush |
I (19F) have started developing feelings for my (23M) coworker (both of us work in retail for clarification). He’s the one who originally trained me, so I’ve always had this connection with him and I really look up to him as a coworker. There was always some sort of tension between us, but I’ve noticed that he seems to be a lot more nervous and awkward around me lately. He also appears to be changing his schedule to work Sundays with me in cashiering, and I love it because I barely ever get scheduled with him.
We had a whole 8 hour shift together last Sunday, and while it was a crazy day, I loved how he would come over to talk to me about random stuff when he got the chance. We usually say hi and make occasional small talk, but we don’t have a lot of lengthy one on one conversations, so this was a new one for me. He acted kind of nervous and stuttered a bit when he was talking to me, but it was so cute. We made a LOT of awkward eye contact the whole shift, and he was constantly fixing his hair and uniform whenever he was around me.
Sorry if this became kind of long. There were so many things that happened that day and I kind of just wanted to vent on here about him. I’m semi-convinced he may like me at least to some extent, but I’m still not entirely sure. | Crush |
Guys, what do you usually do when you have a crush on a girl? (like getting close to her, touching her, teasing...). | Crush |
So this girl and I have been hanging out and texting a lot. I mean texting this whole year (2021) and been hanging out a lot every chance we get.
There is this specific thing that makes me wonder tho. So first she can’t drive so I drive her around when her girlfriends can’t.
Anyway but this past Sunday we went to the zoo with my parents, my brother and his lady friend, and my sister and her wannabe boyfriend.
After the zoo we went hit snowcones and then went to chill at my house (everyone did). So I planned to take her home whenever but then she invited me to her family dinner and they have family dinners every Sunday.
Please help me
I think family dinners are only for close same sex bsfs or a boyfriend at least for a girl like her.
We enjoy each other a lot but I think we may be too similar to make it work but idk. She also is like often close to me and when we walk she’ll like be so close we bump arms.
Idk
Reddit community help please. | Crush |
Shes on my soccer team but i don’t really know if she likes girls, I think i caught her a few times looking at me. I don’t currently have her number and she doesn’t have any socials. We talk sometimes but I really want to get to know her because she seems like a really great person. ALSO I do not know her sexual orientation but she does follow a bunch of queer people and she has she/her in her bio so i’m thinking she supports?? She also follows this like christian queer account that like says that Jesus loves you and being gay is acceptable i’m just getting a bunch of mixed feelings and on her page she doesn’t seem to post about boys either so what do you guys think!! HELP IS SHE POSSIBLY BI OR MAYBE SHE MIGHT HAVE SOME SORY OF ATTRACTION TO ME IDK I JUST NEEDED TO GET THIS OFF MY CHEST | Crush |
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Idk how to explain the ridiculous situation but I'll try to do it in the shortest way. The problem is: I got a crush. Well, the problematic part is, I don't know her and I somehow had a crush on her by her Spotify account. This is embarrassing tbh. I really don't know how and why this happened. Like how??? I think, idk, I felt we liked the same kind of stuff. Then I stalked her a little bit (duh) and I saw some more things in common. I couldn't even understand her face from just a few photos. But somehow, I can't stop thinking about her and check her Spotify account every day to see if she created a new playlist. Just for your information, I am a woman and recently came out to myself as bisexual. It did not happen suddenly, of course, I only recently started to identify myself. Whatever one of her playlists' name is "kissin girls" and that makes me feel more excited. She might have a bf tho, I feel like she does. But today, after a really long time, she made a playlist called "wouldn't you love to love her" I mean, I cried. Every cell of my body wants to send her a message that says: WOULDN'T YOU LOVE TO LOVE HER? We live in different countries in fact different continents and whenever I want to write her sth, I give a pause and start to think logically. Let's say I wrote her. Then what??? What's the point?? And also how could I even say I had a crush on you from your Spotify acc??? She'd block me anyways for me being a weirdo. Long story short, I really can't get her outta my head. | Crush |
I am a guy just so you know. But so like I go to this new church and attend this lifegroup there for singles. There is a girl in the class that I really huge crush on, but everyone time she’s is every around me the only time I can get even look at her is when I think she is talking to the group or to someone else and I can’t help but glance at her. What’s bad is her very close friend (let’s say her roommate) I used to like as well but as I got to know them more I realized that her roommate would be a better friend than a girlfriend for someone like me.
But now I can talk to strangers like nobodies business and whenever we have the class and we discuss the Bible I can say things that might make everyone else turn their head because well I’ve been to a Christian school and my dad was a pastor so I have a huge background in the church and I know well enough about the Bible to always have an answer ready when given the opportunity.
But every week after class is over I rush out and don’t really say anything other than bye. But like tonight we met somewhere and I was able to talk to pretty much everyone ELSE but my crush. Heck she was behind me in line and I said hey (she was all alone) and that’s it.
But her roommate and everyone else I don’t have a problem talking to but everyone was leaving and it was just me and her and their other guy and her roommate and she sitting right in front of me but I get it and ask both of their something about their house and her friend shows me a photo then I said bye and left. So outwardly it may look like I like her roommate but I obviously don’t.
HOW DO PEOPLE SPEAK TO THEIR CRUSH?
Plus I think the other guy may like her or unlike me he and her talk or I’ve seen them talk and at least be friend but when I talk to her if EVER I can only be super formal and say something stupid like hey or bye.
I am a freaking idiot.
Anybody deal with this?
And just so y’all know I don’t want to ask her out or try to talk to her though texting or DMing because I think if I did that would mean I am not a man. I think this girl and every girl deserves a guy that will tell her to her face that their interested (unless you meet online obviously) but luck me I didn’t so yeah that won’t work.
Any advice before I mess up for good or before it’s to late? | Crush |
So this is going to be quite an extensive thread of how it has all unraveled.
Back in September, when school just had barely begun. One of my teachers had assigned a research proposal for a psych course I was taking, and we had to present in class with a partner. It was both stressful and exciting because our class had not really done an assignment like this before. So, needless to say, I partnered up with a guy, and despite all the research and writing that we put into this presentation (which we never even presented because our teacher dropped it all), only one person presented in our class, and that's where it all began.
The day she went in front of the class, she looked fantastic and beautiful with a confident smile crossing her face, and she overall gave all of us an excellent first impression. I still remember the grey blazer she wore, and her confidence radiated all over her. Our teacher had given us advice on how to leave a good impression, and I suppose she took that advice and put it into action, and again she for sure left a perfect impression in the class.
Time continued to cycle, and I continued to have feelings for her, but my shyness and low confidence restricted me from making the first move. From time to time, I would make silly remarks in class, and she would laugh along with the class, and sometimes I suggested things to our teacher, to which, at times, the class would agree with me. However, never did we engage in an actual conversation, so my feelings for her continued at a constant flow.
November arrived, and news about the school prom began to circulate. This was it. This was my moment to ask her if she'd like to be my prom date...but how? I tend to overthink a lot, and instead of taking charge, it's always an endless downward spiral of emptiness. December now approached, and sooner or later, I knew that I had to overcome my fear. If I wanted to know this girl, I had to step into this fear that had consumed me. Unfortunately, tragedy struck my family as my older brother passed away. He was significant to me, and I LOST all interest in this prom and everything for a brief moment while I was grieving.
Slowly as the new year approached, I decided to set one of my new year goals and challenge myself to ask her to prom and get to know her. So it became a new year resolution for me, and I was determined to make it happen.
To my surprise, the new year came with a hard blow to my family and caught us off guard. My parents, I got covid, and therefore we had to quarantine. I didn't go to school, and because my parents are elderly (I am adopted, which explains the huge age gap between my adoptive parents and me), I was the only one at home to hold the fort and take care of the 2 people who I cared about the most. I was left hopeless as their condition worsened, and they had to go to the hospital. I was left alone at home without anyone to hold or talk to. I was alone. Suddenly, word spread around school about why I was out of school, and shockingly, my crush texted me. She offered me to bring me lunch or anything I needed, and she would keep me updated with any school work while I was absent. I was so thankful and touched by her lovely gesture.
Although she offered me lunch, I decided to kindly decline the offer out of an abundance of caution, for I did not want to spread her somehow the virus. As my isolation period slowly ended, my parents thankfully returned home, and I could have both of them back.
February arrived, and now I had to somehow thank her for all she was able to do during my absence, so I purchased a thank you card, and wrote on it and thanked her for all she did and told her that I hope one day I could return the favor someway. I gave her the card after class, and she thanked me and left abruptly. She later texted me that same day and apologized for cutting our interaction very short. We texted for a bit and ended our convo. Days went by, and this prom idea reemerged, so I was ready to make a move...until I found out that she already had a date and she was going with a guy friend and told one of my friends that they were going "strickly only as friends" so I was not very sad about this news.
Time went by, and now we approached the end of our senior year of high school, and we had a final project assigned, which we had to present in class. It was my turn to present and give a good impression. I was up next to go in front of the class and present. However, our teacher had procrastinated a bit and could not present due to the time of the class coming to an end. I had out my favorite navy blue suit jacket and a pair of nice boots and jeans, suddenly my phone rings and it was her, expressing how saddened she was not to have been able to hear my presentation, we texted for a bit and jokingly discussed how nothing ever gets done in class. The next day was my day to present, and now it was my moment to shine. My presentation finished, and after school, she texted me saying that I had killed it and that I seemed very confident, I thanked her, and we kept talking for a few minutes.
The school year rapidly came to an end, and we all went to drop off our supplies and pick up our yearbooks. I had friends sign my yearbook, and soon, I knew I had to get her to sign my yearbook and likewise. Unfortunately, I didn't see her anywhere, so we were not able to sign our yearbooks.
A week after school ended, I decided to text her to see what she was up to, and she replied, and we talked for maybe 30 minutes. I decided to shoot my shot then and asked her if she wanted to hang out sometimes and get something to eat. She said she couldn't because she busy that same week and thanked my offer. I knew I wasn't going to give up, so I told her that the offer still stood, and she said, "Okay, awesome! maybe some other time soon.". 2 weeks went by, and graduation came, and again, I didn't see her anywhere. I texted her and congratulated her on this accomplishment that we all had obtained. She replied and again talked for a bit.
Soon after, I submitted my college application into an honors program at a school nearby and was accepted; I texted everyone I knew, including her. She congratulated me and expressed how proud she was about me reaching this goal. I thanked her, and we had a small little discussion. I then decided to throw in the idea of having lunch together and said she would be up for that. Still, she was going out of town this time and visit family, whom she hasn't seen in a long time, but she said that we could find time to catch up when she returned when she comes back. I agreed, and now we arrive at the present.
There is another prom happening next week, and I think that instead of having lunch together, I could finally ask her if she likes to be my prom date and come to the prom instead since it's next week and she will be back by then. Should I call her tomorrow or sometime very soon before prom or text her about it? How do I approach if I'm rejected, I surely don't want to make it awkward, and if pursuing a relationship with her isn't plausible, I surely want to keep her close to my friend circle.
If you are still reading this, thank you for staying until the end, and I hope that at least this read was sweet and concise. Thank you | Crush |
Its been seven years but I still remember the first thing she ever said to me. We met in 2014 and didn't really talk much, but she really left an impression on me. Throughout high school and the year after we were more like acquaintances and never really friends. I was really shy and never had the strength in myself to go talk to her. She had a life, eventually got a boyfriend, had her circle of friends, but I was that quiet guy who often kept to himself. We kept in contact but even then didn't talk much, mostly just liked each other's posts. In 2019 I dropped out of college and joined the Army. The day before I shipped out I sent her a message. I told her how I really felt and that even if she didn't feel that way back, I'd always like to be her friend. I know she got my message because she blocked me.
One year and ten months later I'd like to believe I've moved on. I've got a steady income, I love my job, and I've made new friends. I've finally come out of my shell, I've finally gone out to Friday night parties, and yet... I still see her. I'll see her in my dreams. I'll see her face on stangers, the smallest things will trigger memories, and whenever I hear her name I always think of what could have been. I've tried meeting new people, believe me, I've done my best but my best hasn't been enough. The best I can do is distract myself, and it works for a while. But no matter what I do she always finds a way to come back. | Crush |
Well my gf of like a month left me and it's whatever what pisses me off is that she posted the same day she left me that she was just leading me on and that I was just too clingy so my question is how do I prevent this kt better yet how do I stop caring for them | Crush |
“Backstory”: So, beginning of the year, I saw this girl in one of my classes. And, we’re both in FFA, after a few events/ socials, I get to talk to her a bit. Last week, I found that she had a boyfriend( a friend of mine who never told me), and I’m also not as interested as previously thought. Anyways, I’m now interested in one of her friends who I’m confident is not dating anyone.
So, I’ve seen a couple signs that she may be interested, though I’m not entirely sure. I’m out on summer break, and I don’t have her number, but I might be able to get it. I’d appreciate any advice on how to tell if she *is* interested and how to ask her out. | Crush |
im so in love and its gonba hurt like bitch when she rejects me;) | Crush |
So there's this guy I(M) like, he is my age, lives near me etc. and we met 2 or 3 weeks ago when he joined my football team. At first I was like yeah I like him but he's straight, whatever.
After a week we added each other on snapchat and we texted each other, talking about football and nothing much really. He gave me his insta and tiktok too and one of his tiktok vids was "Me:99% straight. The other 1%: (a football clip of someone being kicked in the balls xD)".
So this made me assume he was bi, right? Well idk but I do know i developed a crush on him and we're friends, only know each other really a week so obviously I'm not gonna ask him out. But I want to know if I can get with him but I need to somehow find out if he's actually bi. Now I think he likes me as a friend for sure, just idk anything more. He's always the first one to see my snapchat and insta story and he likes all my tiktoks but it takes him ages to text back (a few mins sometimes hours) and doesn't text much.
I've been 'stalking' his socials to see if he has a gf or likes guys but so far its been inconclusive really. Fyi I have a lgbt flag in my bio so I think he knows I like guys. So if anyone has anything to say about this pls lmk | Crush |
So I asked my crush out to a movie with me Monday night, never explicitly said it was intended as a date and now she’s talking to me about all these cute guys on tinder please provide f’s in the chat if you feel like paying your respects. | Crush |
There’s this really cute girl in my year. I wanna start by saying that I have talked to her b4 in science and a few days ago. I sat next to her in science again and I said hi and she smiled and then she talked to me and I asked her questions and she asked me questions so I can tell she’s not dry. Today my friends dared me to go up to her and spod her and I did and she spodded me back. Later on I felt that was awkward so I asked her what lesson she had after English and she said idk but we were pretty busy and didn’t have time to have a convo. I don’t have the confidence to go up to her and start a convo and it feels awkward. We get on at the same bus stop in the morning so I guess I can talk to her there but again it’s kinda awkward and she’s always on her phone. In school she’s always around her friends which makes it even more awkward to go up to her and talk but when she’s alone it’s way more comfortable. I’m thinking of trying to sit next to her in one of my subjects as I don’t sit next to her in any and maybe I should also complement her sometimes but I don’t want to seem desperate. If you guys have any suggestions or advice on how to talk to her more or anything plz let me know. | Crush |
(This is a pre pandemic behaviour and I am asking because it still makes me question it sometimes) . (Writing it in present tense to follow the timeline of the events)
I needed your help in interpreting this behaviour of a guy I like. So, it started with me noticing him quite often gazing at me from across the room . We have had an opportunity to speak to eachother once, it was light and friendly but there is a slight tinge of attitude in the way he speaks because he is self aware that he is quite handsome and is quite often favoured by his faculties , endups leading the student activities and all and ofcourse he is my senior . I have had girls from my class fawn over him.
So, his behaviour of him looking at me hasn't gotten unnoticed by my group of friends. But recently I decided to look back at him and he doesn't shy away from looking. In fact he holds my gaze for quite sometime . But doesn't do anything further. What do I interpret of his behaviour? | Crush |
After texting her for a while, I decided to asked her out with all of my best and what she responded made me happy :
Me - So hey, you wanna go out next weekend
Her - Sure, I would love to go out with you :)
Me - Me too :) so do you want me to invite more people?
Her - Nooo pls don't invite other people, only me and you ;) | Crush |
(Well he actually kissed me but whatever)
So last night we were watching a movie together and he was rather tired and wasn't paying much attention to the movie. Anyway, I looked down at him and I really wanted to kiss he his cheek cause he looked so sweet lying there. And so I mustered the courage a did.
Time skip to a little further in, he's a bit more awake. He keeps looking at me and I believe he was looking at my lips, it was a bit dark. He leans in and whispers in my ear that he loves me and so I do the same but as I was leaning back he quickly kissed me and the butterflies just went crazy. I'm so happy, he's literally perfect | Crush |
Ok so I have a crush on a girl that I didn't use to talk but we became really good friends because of a friend of mine. I need to know if you guys think I have a chance cause I didn't use to talk with her and rn we are like 3 best friends all together that talk every day, the only problem why I'm a bit stressed to confess it's just cause I'm scared of our mood turns into a really cringe mood and we stop talking to each other
I mean I don't talk to her on private messages that much and when we go out we always go with friends so idk if it's worth telling her how I feel.
What do you guys think? | Crush |
I have a crush im very unpopular and she’s very very popular and I think she knows I have a crush on her I want to get with her what do I do | Crush |
Never would I ever do anything but I do think about my co worker sometimes. And he’s funny as hell and so is my boyfriend. My boyfriend is the love of my life and a guy I want a future with. But sometimes I think about...where could my and my co worker relationship go. Not saying I’m in a relationship but you know what I mean. He seems to get a lot of girls. But he likes how funny I am. And my boyfriend makes me laugh and I make him laugh but I guess my boyfriend makes me feel one way and my co worker makes me feel another. Does anyone else have this problem? Like what do people do? | Crush |
This dude that i obtained unexpected however very welcomed feelings for. I don’t talk to him at all, He doesn’t talk to me at all. let me tell you about the few times he did speak to me though,
we had to do something in class and i just happened to be sitting near him, he speaks to me so i give him good eye contact meaning i can see his face constantly, when i looked at him he would look at me for a few seconds and then break eye contact,
he’s quite polite, like he is a young gentleman:)
when he talks to other people he’s so confident and makes little funny comments and laughs with them, also i wouldn’t say he’s a social person but he isn’t the antisocial type, he is quiet but well spoken and he has a really good vocabulary.
he is extremely intelligent in my opinion, but when he speaks to me, he does reply but it’s usually a “hi” or a snappy comment back but not in a mean way, it’s more like “i don’t want to talk but i don’t want to be rude so i will just say my words quickly to avoid awkwardness and anything embarrassing”
but when he talks to others ? he’s basically a human dictionary lmao.
he also somehow manages to be close to me about 70% of the time, when he isn’t i try to take a mental note of where he sits, not like that matters anyway because i can feel a pair of eyes glaring at me but i don’t look up because i’m gonna stare back, like a full on Lawliet (death note) stare. anyway i don’t 100% know if he does stare at me but when i take a mental note of it and feel eyes coming from that way i do just assume he’s staring. Does he like me or am i just tormenting the poor guy? | Crush |
I like this girl, I have a crush on her, but I have a boyfriend and still love him. I told him I liked someone else and he got really mad at me. I thought it was best if he knew but I guess I was wrong. I’m not even sure if I want to be with him anymore, or even can like him anymore. | Crush |