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So let me first explain her. She is a short nerdy girl that is almost like me (of course personality differences). First few years of middle school I talked to her rarely, I had no feeling for her of course. Then comes freshman year, we were in the same gym class. And any chance we get to talk we joke around with each other, I call her short, she says I'm obnoxious. And throws playful (but noticeable) punches at my arm. Nows second semester, we are in health class. We sit on opposite ends of the class, but we still make conversation through via mouthing words or gestures. And only till that class I realize I just like her and I don't know what to say or do to make her know this without ruining our friendship.
Didn't mean for it to be so long. | Crushes |
Their is this girl that's I've had a few classes with trough out the year (I can still remember the first time she smiled at me). But this tri was different we had 1-3 hour together (out of 5) so we see each other a lot. I know that if I start to get close to this girl I could not hold back on asking her out. she is the perfect package she's smart beautiful and has this smile that makes my heart pound. But alas my parents are very strict about my education and often take away my phone is my grades drop. I finally got a job at target so I can support myself and getting thing I want but I don't have any mode of transportation other than my parents which would be embarrassing considering I'm almost a senior. I want her to know that their is someone out their who really appreciates her. My plan this valentines day is to purchase a rose that the school would send with a card where I will tell her anonymously that I like her and that she is perfect the way she is and that one day I would ask her out. :l | Crushes |
So it's Valentine's Day in a weeks time and I am trying to work out what to do for my crush and I don't know, I'm confused because I want her to know I like her, I don't want to ruin the friendship and she got dumped by her ex just under a month ago. We work together on a job almost every weeknight for 2 hour shifts at uni and she's awesome, we get on really well, someone else I know who works in the same room as us has made comments about how we are getting along really well and she made a comment that this was her first Valentine's without getting anything for 5 years and she was okay with that, I was already thinking about getting her something for Valentine's Day but I don't know what to get her. I am writing a card but I don't know how much detail to go or if it's okay after her breakup? To get her an actual gift? I'm confused about what to do and so any help would be great. | Crushes |
So there is this guy in my bus. I would clearly give him over 30 years old. He caught my attention about 2 years ago, but I have never gotten the courage to talk to him and eventually I just gave up by ignoring him and minding my own business. Back then, I also convinced myself that he was obviously too old for me.
Plus, I wouldn't say he's the typical "hot" dude. He's the kind of casual guy that has this mysterious and intimidating impression... both enticing and creepy at the same time. So I told myself I should be looking for more 'normal' guys instead.
But then, I started crushing on him a month ago for some unknown reason. Suddenly, his tallness and his intimidating stares became turn-ons. I began to notice his schedule patterns and right now I can pretty much tell at what times he takes the bus in the morning and in the evening. I even figured out that he lives within my neighbourhood. Yet I've never encountered him before...
Eh, the only thing I know about him is that he must play Diablo III because I saw him with a backpack with the logo on it.
But I'm afraid he's already taken or even in a serious relationship.
So either I keep him away and continue to fantasize about him, or I break the barrier to talk to him, at least a few words.
What should I do??
If it's not an issue, please add a brief justification and a quick example of 'how' you would do it...
Thanks so much for your help fellow redditors!! :)
**Edit 1**: I finally had the guts to tell him he is handsome directly, face to face. He replied by complimenting me. Therefore being bold seems to work out well with nice guys!! | Crushes |
Hey guys. Its me again. I'm Mark. 14 Years old. Why does this keep happening? I keep having crushes on girls I don't even know. I started to love girls on the internet. Real life. Every where. I keep. Doing this. I started to like this tomboy in my class. For some reason. I mean. Shes the girl who gave me her attention. She noticed me unlike the other people in my past grades. Could she be interested? One time. This annoying girl came up to her during our conversation but guess what. She still kept talking to me and ignoring her. I couldn't believe what has been happening. I'm just an outcast who gets bullied every. Single. Day. I might confess to her on Valentines. I don't wanna embarrass myself...
If this is a dream. I don't wanna wake up from it. Even if I screw up in that day. | Crushes |
Hey guys so this 1 girl who is my classmate... People thought i have a crush on her because i said it...... In the past. When i didn't have a crush yet. The reason why i said when i do not have a crush on her is because i just wanna stop these people from asking me who is my crush, so i just told them the girl i did not have a crush on her. And gets worse on this day. They keep teasing me about her...... But i did have a crush now. But not her, a different person, but i dunno what will happen in the future just because of my stupid past me. I changed now. I think before i speak. But how could i stop this nonsense now?!
Am i gonna admit i have a crush on ANOTHER person and not her? To stop all this? Or will this get worse? | Crushes |
Long story (semi) short. Need to get this off my chest.
Girl Meets other Girl. I met her while assisting on an interview, and thought she was the most beautiful girl I had ever seen. Literally had no idea she was gay (we are both super feminine / not that it matters, it's just harder to detect) Thought her interview-nervousness was adorable. After several happy hours and 1 on 1 conversations, realized she was also a wonderful person on the inside as well. Everything I had ever wanted. We became friends, and she also let it slip that she was 'sorta seeing another girl'. Come to find out, it is her roommate, who she has been friends with for several years. Pretty devastated when i found out, but did not stop me from wanting a friendship. Since our job is pretty high stress, we were put in several situations that led to us growing even closer and chemistry growing. Little flirtations, touching, getting really close..... Ugh it is just torture. We still went out just the two of us to the local bar and she confided in how her 'roommate' treated her crappy, and cheated on her. Then confessed she "was attracted to people who treated her like sh1t." Obviously this was a red flag. I applied out of my unit and received a promotion just to get away from the distraction. Hard to focus on work when your entire body feels electrified around this one person.
Fast forward to Christmas 2016, I get an invite to her and her 'roommate' aka girlfriends house party they are throwing. I show up with some other coworkers after drinking a ton, and crush is there, obviously intoxicated as well. After staying a couple hours, I go upstairs to the bedroom to get my coat to leave..... Crush is in there. She walks over, shuts the door, pushes me on the bed and starts making out with me. Hard. Over a year of pent up sexual tension 'hard'. Hands start wandering and shirts start coming off, when i start to feel super guilty. I stop her. She drunkenly starts saying how she doesn't regret what happened at all. I get up and start to leave, not wanting to get caught and feeling extremely guilty.
The next day, she tells me it was a huge mistake blah blah blah (you know all the bullsht) I think she just feels guilty. I think she is confused because 1. Her girlfriend treats her like sh1t, doesn't support her or pay her any attention and 2. I make her feel confident, do things for her to help her when she is having a bad day and 3. She is sexually attracted to both of us. Things have since returned to normal. Acting friendly, flirtation, hanging out at bars 1 on 1.... Etc.
How can I get over this situation? Should I? Should I fight for something when deep down I can honestly say I have real feelings for them? Or do I let it go. Walk away and accept that nothing is ever going to happen? She is obviously attracted to people who treat her like crap, and that will NEVER be me. Is total avoidance the only way? The thought of cutting her out of my life is unbearable to me.
Help. | Crushes |
So I sent my crush a text the other day and it say he read it at like 12:14am and then I went to check back on it again and the read time wasn't there, so he must've turned off read receipts. Do you have any idea why he would do that? Does he not like me and want me to think he just hasn't read it yet? | Crushes |
I am 13 and really oblivious to signs that a girl likes me. I consider myself, somewhat over weight, but I am one of the tallest kids in my grade, and I play a lot of basketball, football, and baseball. And I am currently growing up in aupper middle to upper class family. There is this one girl that is really really pretty that is a family friend and is also 13. We recently went on a cruise and she would go back to my cabin with this other girl (also is a pretty family friend) and would knock on my door, barge in and lay on me or close to me and I don't know if she was just joking or not, she would say, and sometimes yell," David, I love you!" And lay her head on me. Same with the other girl. And after the cruise ended, she would snapchat me saying that she loved me and that she missed me. Again, I don't know if she was joking or not. So the night I got back home her and 2 of her friends said that they should come over to my house for a "PJ" party. I was confused about the PJ part, but I just went with it. Although I decided not to wear my pajamas. So, she waited for me outside of the school, so that she could get on the bus with me, and when she saw me she immediately had a big smile on her face and ran up to me and jumped on me and hugged me. She then followed me onto the bus with her 2 friends. FYI, the girls are both the same age as me, but one grade up. And I ended not sitting with them because there weren't enough seats, so I sat near one of the "popular kids" and he just looked at me with awe and just said, "Nice!". And this shows just how HOT this girl is. Like, WAY out of my league. And then we got to my house and she cuddled with me, layed on me, put her legs on me, and play hit me. We watched movies and just relaxed. Her other friend (the other girl in the cruise) also sat very close to me and here and there layed on me. Then at around 8:30 they left because they all had homework. Please note, school ends at 3:00 and they didn't leave me until 8:30. So then about 2 weeks go by of them saying they want to come over, but I had sports every day for a couple hours. But then on Friday February 3rd, they invited me over and we watched movies and continued the same stuff, cuddling and all that, but this time she was way more touchy and on me. She would hop onto my shoulders, she would perfom the dance that she had to perform at a dance convention the next day, she ended up licking my temple area, and pushed me against a wall in somewhat of a sexual manner, putting her index finger on my collor and slowly kind of grinding or something like that towards me. Again I am really oblivious to signs as to if they are real or just jokingly. Then things go by as usual but then towards the end, she had to go to bed (because she had dance early in the morning) and she told me to catch her, so she jumps, wraps her arms around the back if my neck, and I catch the bottom of her thighs and it was very sexual, it was an actual SEX position. The position is called I think, the hanging garden. And after about maybe, 15 seconds, I let go and she hugged me and said goodnight. Then two days later she comes over for a super bowl party. She is again, all over me. And she is asking me who is playing, and how many superbowls each team has won. She then started to stop getting so touchy when other people came around and some adults. And I even noticed some signs that a girl likes you, for ex. She would play with her hair, her pupils got larger and she would laugh at most of the things I say, and she has the same sense of humor as me. She will laugh at the simplest things. Like sometimes my brother would call me fat, retard, idiot, or crab ass and I would just say,"ur mom" or "ur gay" just like calm and jokingly, and her friends and her would start cracking up, straight up dying. The girl's parents and my mom say that she definitely has a crush on me, and refused to go on a vacation if I didn't go with. Just keep in mind that we are pretty young. I just need to be 100% sure that this girl likes me judging on how hot she is and the fact that she is easily the hottest girl in 8th grade (not even close to just my opinion. Please, please, please! Tell me your opinion as to if this girl likes me, ot not. Thank you so much! | Crushes |
I had a huge, hopeless crush on a girl at work for like a year. She;e been gone for 8 months now and I haven't seen her since (except for some facebook photos.) I got over it surprisingly well, my feelings diminished to nothing even though I knew I'd always have a soft spot for her. So two weeks ago I had a random dream where I ran into her and she was upset. I comforted her and it felt so damn good. I woke up to find it was actually a wet dream even though I wasn't aroused in my dream. Since then, I haven't stopped thinking about her. I feel my heart strain as I remember times we had and fantasise about new ones. For two weeks all I've wanted was to see her again and I don't understand why this is suddenly randomly happening. | Crushes |
at one of my school dance my friends dared me to dance with a girl( I have never danced with anyone before) little did they know I had a crush on her and I danced like a retard and made it look like I hated every second of it. Now I have to go to a speech meet and see her what should I say to make it less awkward and seem nicer? | Crushes |
Hello people, listen to me, please.
So, I have a huge crush on this girl right now. She's really nice, really smart and really funny.
So, I don't like to toot my own horn, but I am shy and I *think* that I'm pretty smart, I am pretty funny with my friends, but that's about it.
She only ever talks to me if she has to say thank you for something, or if we have to work collaboratively.
I know for a fact that she's with someone that's essentially the male version of her.
Please tell me my options, and how I can obtain my goals of at least being friends with her, and maybe be in a relationship IF I am **really** lucky.
Thank you to all in advance.
PS: Whenever I see them together, I really want to die inside. | Crushes |
So when I was in primary I really liked a girl so much so that I gave her a flower on the last day before I moved to another school. I was 7 at the time.I used to often see her as I went home as her house was on the way there.
When I saw her by coincidence she would be very shy and avoid me.I haven't seen her by coincidence for over2 years since my route to school does not go by her house so wanting to see her and talk before I go to sixth form (high school) I have been going out of my usual route to go by her house and I go back and forth 3 times before going towards my house.
Should I stop doing this because I feel like I am stalking yet I really want to at least talk to her.
I know some things don't make sense but i want to keep some stuff private. | Crushes |
In mid-november I asked my crush/bestfriend out and she turned me down which really hurt for a bit but i thought everything was gonna be ok cause we were still friends, but now im always thinking of her and just want to move on, even if it were to mean I'd have to stop seeing her. But i could never tell her how heartbroken i am cause she doesnt deserve to know how i feel, when im not around her i miss her, we talk like everyday, and nothing will ever happen between us cause she sees me as a really close friend. I just want to move on but i dont think i can stop seeing her, she's still the most important thing in my life right now. | Crushes |
Long story short, she noticed me first. She is just too perfect; smart, angelic looking and a bit shy. I am a procrastinator, who hesitated for the whole semester now she doesn't notice me much.
The reason I hesitated was, what would she do with someone like me? Why did she look at me? There were tonnes of other cooler boys. I am a good kid, but I look like a piece of shit. I got personality, but I don't think I have what it takes to manta in a relationship? That's why I avoided her. Now I feel like shit, wondered if I hurt her feelings. Was it the right thing to do? | Crushes |
I met him not long ago, he's in my class, he's cute, I kinda like him. He pretend I don't exist since day 1, anyways he remember things I said, just to make fun of me, he doesn't look at me when I call his name. I think he hates me, my friend says he like me.
I resume it, what do you think? He hates or likes me? Or doesn't even care? | Crushes |
So here i was today just playing some games when suddenly i started thinking about my past (for no reason). Then i started to think about my old crush (lets call her Luna) that i liked around 2 years ago. I remember how i tried to talk to her about anything, just wanted to start some conversations. Then i started to remember how she called me a couple times and when i asked her if it was her she would say that's not the person with the same name i was thinking about. I knew that it was actually her because i had her number and she probably didnt know that. Her friend used to drop hints and ask me if i have a gf and if i would date Luna. I thought that she was joking so i would just laugh it off and think nothing of it. She kept droping hints for a couple of months until they stopped. Again i thought nothing of these hints and i was oblivious to all of it. Now im sitting here writing this and banging my head against a wall because i feel like a idiot.
TLDR: missed all of the hints because i'm a idiot | Crushes |
so i posted my breakup on facebook and my crush "liked" it. Does this mean anything? | Crushes |
So I like this girl, and I don't know if she likes me back. I think she does but I just don't know for sure. Whenever we talk we get along really well. I know she is a shy girl but whenever I talk with her, she seems to laugh a lot especially at my jokes.... which aren't all that funny. Well things seemed to change a bit when she walked past the group of friends I am in, and went to go "stand out in the sun". I went over to talk to her, and whenever I was talking to her she would not stare at me directly at all, but seemingly she would glance over. I should also note when i walked over she moved herself from farther away to closer to me on my right hand side. I really need advice on the matter since I know she is shy, and I keep getting mixed signals. Somedays it is like this and others she is coming over to me to talk. | Crushes |
I've been crushing on this one girl for about two months now and I'd really like to have a meaningful relationship but whatever chance I get to talk to her turns into small talk. We're both 17, both pretty attractive, and neither of us have been in a real relationship to my knowledge. Even though I'm 6'4" and captain of the wrestling team, I have some insecurity issues that stem from shitty childhood and current day friends, an alcoholic unemployed father (who taught me my morals and still means a lot to me), and a plethora of other contributing factors. This past wrestling season has given me the confidence to ask her out, but I feel like I need to be more involved with her before doing so as opposed to asking her on a date out of the blue. Any advice is appreciated. | Crushes |
How do I get his number ? We are both awkward and just weird but that is what makes us a really good team ....... so to make this short and quick how do I get his number since I'm such a shy person | Crushes |
Ok so I really like this guy and he really likes me to well so I hope and his parents are really strict and he doesn't know how they would feel about him dating outside his race . What do I do ? Is there any chance his pure blooded Albanian parents will accept out relationship? Should I just give up or what | Crushes |
And how much would it change depending on how attractive or kind or any other specific thing they are? | Crushes |
Wow well where do I start, I invited friends over as well as my crush who is also my neighbor. My friends know I have a crush on her and well they tried "wing maning". They kept suggesting that we were a couple but she kept denying it saying she likes me as a friend and that I like her just as a friend too; which is obviously not true. This isn't the first time she's said something like that, before she told me her friend thought that it was obvious I loved her but she said she denied it claiming the same thing as stated earlier. She's also told me that she can't imagine herself in a relationship and has told me I'll eventually find a better girl to hang out with; I told her I don't want better. After all that my friends kept telling me she likes me but she just doesn't want to admit it, I on the other hand think it might be done for me and that I'll just be in the "friend-zone" no matter what. I don't want things to end up being awkward between us. | Crushes |
Some Background on myself: Grew up in a single school until highschool when my parents started moving around so i had to transfer too. For each year, i've moved from a different school to another, now in my junior highschool year, i think my family has settled down.
I don't know if i have a massive crush on this girl or something, idk what but something about her just makes me feel like attracted to her.
I have some friends i've made here and there, but only a few a girls that were friends of my friends.
How would i approach her to start talking to her? I'm pretty shy if i say so myself but i open out alot when i know people | Crushes |
i just do. i don't know why i kid myself, why i even do this to myself! i'm an adult, a 24 year old woman, but i'm so hung up on my best friend's neighbor. he's 21, just AMAZING, i barely know him but i can't believe i feel this way over such a person. never have i ever felt this. he's a mechanical engineer, a musician, a mechanic and connoisseur, he's refined and polite and funny and really cute to boot and it's like, UGH, why can't i just... yikes, nevermind, i'm getting ahead of myself, but damnit, this is painful. so painful. i feel like i'm fifteen again. sorry for the way this is patterened, i need to get this out of my system before i start crying again.
anyways, he was homeschooled, so i never encountered him until one horrible day when I had crashed my car. when i would visit my friend who lived next door to him, i didn't know he existed -- i remember seeing several, and i mean SEVERAL cars that were just like mine in the yard and driveway. i was looking for parts, just needed to talk to someone about finding a new axle and other things. i left a note on one of their cars, and a few hours later received a text.
it was the owner's son -- he was helpful, friendly, talkative. i have since sadly lost his number and the texts messages but i really enjoyed the conversation. i added him on facebook and we talked ever since.
only recently have i talked to him face-to-face. i'm shy, and he might be too, but i'm painfully awkward as a person. one time when i was at my friend's house a few weeks back, i saw him working on his car. my stomach turned for a whole five hours before i went out to say hi! i was so glad i did, we talked for a whole twenty minutes and it was smooth. i wanted to talk forever but didn't want to bother him so i made an excuse to leave...
a week later my car wasn't doing so great and had an issue, and of course i asked him to help me! he did, and we didn't talk a whole lot that time... still friendly but not much in the ways of alternative conversation. it's funny. i was so anxious, i wore a ton of makeup.
i went home and felt like maybe i was just fooling myself, why would someone like him even think about someone like me? i still feel like that. i guess we talk but i'm always the one obv to start conversation... so i'm definitely just kidding myself, right? he's just my friend, and that's all, right? :( | Crushes |
I've had a crush on a gal for a while, about a year. Only told a couple friends about a month and a half ago. I'm 18, by the way, which is the legal limit for alcohol in my country (it's relevant). So, I was at a party on Saturday, and after letting three ciders soak in, a friend decided it was a good idea to push me to go and just kiss her. After being a bit of a coward for a couple hours, I ended up coming up behind her, poking her on the shoulder and kissed her when she turned around (this was my first kiss, but I digress). She didn't mind, seemed like, so I sent her a message yesterday about whether or not it meant anything. About 11 hours later she answered that she liked me, but not in that way.
So initially I thought it was fine; handled it well and all, and in the following conversation set the grounds for a continued non-awkward friendship. But when I met her today I realized I suddenly feel much more attracted to her. I didn't expect this. And hopefully I'll get over it, but damn I haven't felt anything quite like this before.
I just had to get that off my chest. | Crushes |
When I lost my phone 3 weeks ago I posted to my Facebook wall asking for people to pm me their phone numbers. My friend commented "Awwww, I'm sorry dear. Would you be interested in my new number?" I was kind of shocked because he hasn't talked to me in 5 months. I agreed and he sent it to me. He also asked me for my skype info. Ever since then I tried talking to him a few times but he seems disinterested. Only replying with one/two word sentences and not trying to keep conversation. When I ask him how he's doing he just says "fine." When I ask what he's been up to he says "work, home, work. a routine." Even when HE initiates contact he acts this way! Why would he reconnect just to act so disinterested? We once had a very special connection but that sort of fell out once he started acting strange. It makes me not want to say "hello" anymore. | Crushes |
God do I want you, to kiss you, to lay in your strong arms, to be with you. You have such a beautiful smile, such gorgeous brown eyes. ❤ | Crushes |
Ever since I met her on my school induction, I fell for her(she was single at the time.) I didn't speak to her much as I was too scared to. However there was one thing that took me by surprise. I was in a C. S. lesson with her. I sat down with a bunch of friends I already knew ; it wasn't long before she asked me: "Who would you kiss out of all the girls in our year?" I was shocked, so shocked in fact I simply replied with "I don't know."They sprung into a conversation(the group of girls) for who they would kiss. I remember it was her turn and I heard her whisper my name but her friends decided to make it awkward by repeating what she said out loud. I wish I told her. After that I couldn't stop thinking about her through the summer, I thought that on my first day I would try to get to know her. I was excited but also scared. I knew it was too good to be true. She started going out with one of my friends because he secretly liked her even when he already had a girlfriend at the time. I didn't let it get the better of me. I tried to avoid her since I don't like to talk to taken girls in case their partners think I'm hitting on them. It wasn't long until she started engaging conversations with me. It may seem silly but it escalated from asking to borrow my stuff and copy my homework to listening to my conversations with other people and lying that she played the games I talked about. I remember when I talked to her partner about someone saying I was sad for posting a game on social media, one of her best friends was laughing with the person about it. She heard and even said: "Are you sure it was her?" I confirmed it . Not only did she completely avoid her best friend who she would do swimming with but she even said the other person was a "bitch." I stopped avoiding her when again I was talking to her partner when he asked me who I would go out with I replied with "No one would, I have no qualities." She interrupted with: "Don't say that, you're kind and intelligent." I thanked her for what she said but disagreed. She always relied on me for simple things, like homework and equipment. Always asking me for help. It was a normal free period after testing. I planned to go to the shops with my friends when she asked me if she could go with us. I was surprised since her partner was next to me and didn't ask him. "Of course I definitely wouldn't stop you...but maybe you should ask your boyfriend." I was in a science lesson when she acted really friendly with me, she kept saying hi to me every few minutes and walking over to where I sat and telling me things like " I had a pencil case like that." Another lesson she started playing noughts and crosses with me and weirdly enough she laid her head on my shoulder when we actually did the work. In the group for a questionnaire we had to ask publicly I was chosen to ask the questions since I was the most responsible and "polite" which she also said but I explained to them that I'm really shy when it comes to public areas. Eventually we found a shop where they were willing to answer our questionnaire and I waited outside. She said she had problems with talking to people and waited outside with me while the rest of the group went inside. I felt really awkward and didn't know what to say so I avoided eye contact also one thing I forgot to mention was that she always looked directly at me when I spoke to her. She seemed to be looking at me but I couldn't I was unsure. Later I was assigned to holding all the questionaire sheets and I said my hands were really cold. She kept on offering me her gloves after that. I kept saying it's fine and that it's better for her to keep her hands warm. Recently her relationship is getting more distant and that all they do is argue. She seems to keep glancing at me now. I know it seems she might like me back but although I never argue with her and she's never got angry at me before but I don't want assume that she likes me in case I'm wrong. I think she just wants to be friends with me. I wish I could tell her... | Crushes |
Every third post in this sub is asking how to get over a crush. I'm far from an expert but might have something to contribute.
I am a serial crusher. I cannot remember a time since kindergarten that I have not had a crush on some girl or another. If I wrote a memoir I could divide the chapters by each successive girl or woman who was the object of my obsession. My crush in highschool eventually agreed to be my wife, so that one worked out. Unfortunately, that didn't stop my having crushes and now I'm pushing 40. I've done it all… a college professor, a mom at my kid’s preschool, the woman next-door, family friends, and several co-workers. It can be goddamn debilitating.
In my personal experience there are three ways to get over a crush.
1. **Act on it** - Telling your crush about your feelings will end the crush, with two possible outcomes. One is that your crush reciprocates and you get to have a real relationship. Or you get rejected which sucks like hell but starts you down the path to recovering your sanity. Fear of the latter often makes this a non-starter. And I'm not going to pretend that telling you to “just put yourself out there” will suddenly make something click in your head and you'll have the courage to confront your crush. But I would advise you to think about it objectively, try coming at it from different perspectives, and figure out what you need to overcome to be able to execute here. One hint… recognize rejection as a positive outcome in the context that it helps you move on with your life. One caveat... if you are crushing on someone while you are in a committed relationship with someone else, don't even try this. Trust me. Either end your current relationship before you come out to your crush or skip to number 2. And, no, having a crush doesn't mean there is something wrong with your committed relationship, necessarily. For me, crushing is almost pathological - something I have to manage. But that's a whole other topic.
2. **Find faults** - One of the defining characteristics of any crush is that the object of the crush is idealized. The tendency is to focus on the best and most exciting aspects of your crush and to ignore everything else. Taking the time to identify and then dwell on his or her faults is surprisingly effective at alleviating the constant, random intrusion of thoughts of that person that makes crushes so unbearable. These faults will be something you dismissed initially. Maybe a difference in musical taste, an age difference, a difference in political leanings. One crush I had was an extreme germaphobe. I focused on that for a while and realized I would never be able to get along with her in real life, despite my obsession with her taste in books, our mutual love of the outdoors, and the fact that her smile could make a statue blush. Whatever it is that you've overlooked, focusing on it will help break the spell.
3. **Time and distance** - Frankly, this is how most of my crushes have ended. The upside is that you don't have to do anything. The downside is that it draws out the torment you suffer under, so think about that before you decide to consciously choose this path. If you've held your head in your hands in a quiet moment and just begged for this crush to end so you can gain control of your own thoughts again, go see the other options in this list. The corollary to this one is finding a distraction. Hobbies, a work project, an active vacation, visiting family, or even going on a date with someone other than your crush are all options. Though in full disclosure distractions have never brought me more than temporary relief.
Similarly, here are some things that won't work:
1. **Waiting for your crush to make the first move** - Not gonna happen, wishful thinking, and ends up back at #3 above by default.
2. **Being subtle** - If your crush has feelings for you then whatever circumstance is keeping you from engaging him or her is probably also keeping him or her from engaging you. You will need to rise above that circumstance to get any message across.
3. **Keeping the crush** - You might rationalize that your crush is harmless, that it feels good when you are with that person and what's the harm in that? Well, if your crush becomes a borderline obsession then other parts of your life will start to suffer. Work, grades, family ties, and friendships are all at risk. Having to recover any of these after prolonged neglect is not worth that little hit of dopamine you get when you are distracted by your crush, despite how easy it is to rationalize your addiction.
That's all I have. Good luck out there. | Crushes |
I met a girl in my place of work one month ago, it happens she is very similar to me, in the first time we saw each other we didn`t notice other at all, but in the second time in a lunch with other people from work, we made everyone start talking about mutual interests.
My social skill is very low level, as hers. I spent weeks trying to figure out how get closer to she, then someday we went for a couple beers and she invited me to her house.
The point is she have a totally different perspective from other usual women, she hadn't a lot of female friends in her younger life because she likes weird stuff like rpg, black metal and is shy, just like me, this was an instant issue, because this girl is used to be surrounded of man and they didn`t tried to date her because she always managed to start a relashionship after relashionship.
That's why the title is bad timing.
She dated for 4 years than break up, started new relashion ship for more 3 years and then breaked up, then recently like one month ago dated a fellow co-worker who made she pissed of because he was too different.
Just for context
She invited me to her house again, yet, i couldn't act or try anything, the fear of losing her presence in my life is so high, and we noticed the tensions level were too high, had a sincere conversation and almost kissed, she didn`t want to yet she start to hold my hand and we huged each other. I suck at social skills
So after this day i start to losing hope, but she is confusing as i am, and start to give signs like she had changed her mind. I decided to have patience and try again, so last friday i invited her to drink some beers after work, we went with one more friend from work, talked about 30 mintues and she had to left because a friend (male) was going to her house. She is actually surrounded by male friends
I was devasted because she wouldn't want to spend time with me, i left with no hope and almost giving up my own life, then she messages me thanking for the night, i said i took a different bus for a walk (liar, i missed the bus number because i was drunk) and then she asked curious, why i was walking.
So she started talking out her heart, saying nice things like she had a feeling i`m not a type of guy for a short relashionship stuff so this is why she hadn't kissed me in a first place. Start to say nice things about me but then from no where she states that friendship is better and we will be thankful for it.
As i already were feeling sad, this was the cherry cake of a fucking bad day. I had no ideia what to say so i said: "Lets leave this behind and move in the subject" she instantly got hyped and happy (she was drunk too) and start to say a lot of things, it was completely weird to see her reaction.
After 20 hours i answer telling the truth, that i wouldn't be able to simply give up the interest in her and move on like i had button "turns crush off" and said i was worried about making she unconfortable.
She apologized for the conversation saying she was drunk and saying stuff too confusing, and said never had changed. So we talked for the day.
I decided that im gonna do whatever i need to do in order to achieve her heart or make she change her mind. I made a playlist with a very honest message in order to see if i can break into her confusing mind and make she realize we can be happy together.
I can make things worst, much worst but being honest.
Or i can live in pain being fake friend that is not ~interested~ in more.
I will take the first option till the day i die.
Heres the playlist: https://embed.spotify.com/?uri=spotify%3Auser%3Aspdz%3Aplaylist%3A5ZXaoaonISVXjiVzmLdcAA
Wish me luck guys.
Its my last shot to love ever.
If this fails, im not gonna try again.
And sorry for the gramar, i know its not good.
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I have a crush on this guy, and i've kind of been staring at him a lot but everytime he catch me staring he holds my gaze for longer than normal.
He never smiles tho. recently i've have catched him looking at me when im not looking, he then usully turns away really quickly but sometimes he holds the eye contact.
So what could this mean?
i know i was the one who started the staring, but him making eye contact like this makes me think he's interested
or would a guy do this for other reasons? | Crushes |
Anthony, a drunkin stallion, a crazy Italian, a brown eyed babe, with a wonderfully filthy mouth. How I imagine kissing your lips, of you touching me with your finger tips. You can't help but be bad, but that doesn't make me sad. You're a bad boy, and I'd love to make you my toy. You could be my father, but it's no bother, you are so much hotter then most boys my age. You beautiful man, I'll have you if I can. | Crushes |
So, I had a huge crush on this guy. And gradually I started to get to know him better. And as we became friends, I realized, he has no romantic feelings for me whatsoever.
I glad I never confessed my feelings for him, but any advice on how to get to get over him? | Crushes |
Ok, so this is my first ever activity on reddit. Wish me luck. I go to this Catholic School in Queens, New York. Just some background info. There's this girl, a transfer student from Rockaway, and I like her. Its sort of a baseless infatuation, since I only spoke to her once at this spiritual retreat with my school upstate. Other people were present besides, so it wasn't a one-on-one conversation. However, during the duration of our stay there, I could swear that she glanced at me several times. That, however, was the extent of our contact there. She's in my Math class, so I sort of see her there, but there's been no conversation 'twixt the two of us. The seemingly fleeting glances I had received previously appear to continue, though I admit this may be due to a delusion or baseless hope on my part. Also, not one week ago, in circumstances I am disinclined to reveal due to my preference of anonymity, she chose to sit directly in front of me while there were several other seats available for perusal.I may just be imagining the eye contact, but I would like to be sure. I wouldn't be able to forgive myself if my attentions were unwanted. The last thing I desire is to cause discomfort or displeasure to such an intelligent and beautiful young woman. She is deserving of much a more worthy companion. If, however, my interests are mutual I should like to prove to be loyal, steadfast, and comforting friend and more, if at all possible. I thank you all in advance for your advice, if any is give, and hope to resolve this dilemma as soon as possible.
For any who may have presumed or deduced my identity or the nature of my school, I tell you non scholae. | Crushes |
I need some serious help.
So there is this guy who so seemed to be interested in me ,but I didn't gave him much attention because I don't know him at all and now I'm just utterly confused. He's a senior kind of jock type and most of the time i'm not really attracted to those kind of boys, he's president of the students association, in other words he's the perfect popular jock, which sort of annoys me and is not really a big turn on. ANYHOW, I have noticed him before looking at me at certain times from a distance but I never gave it much attention because I was completely sure it had to be a dull coincidence. Until last wednesday at least. I'm on the debate team you see and wednesday 3 teams got together to debate ideas on a certain matter. I have been apart of the debate team since freshman year but I have never seen him there until of course, last wednesday. On the debate team I was invited to be apart of main table which basically meant I would sit on a table on the middle of the stage and would sort of direct the whole debate. Whilst the debate was going I would look at those debating and talking as everybody else does, they talk to criticise their opponents idea solo yadayadayada. Well , when it was up to him to talk instead of looking to the opponent he kept looking at the stage, which meant me. Though I would constantly look elsewhere because he would look like directly to me , like he was talking to me and I mean holy shit I had never experience such a intense eye contact. WEirdest thing he would actually hold it for as long as he could, because eventually i would feel very uncomfortable and look away and then when i looked again to not be more weird he would again lock eyes with me.When he would also get nervous after we locked eyes like he would just get nervous and mumble and say stuff that didnt made any sense. The day after, I bumped into him on my way to my locker with my friends. Like he was standing there with his friends and I went behind to open up my locker and I think , I mean I think I saw someone (possibly him) looking behind? I dont know.
Now, does this mean anything? Because I mean we don't know each other, we probably have nothing in common is that really worth it to keep feeding this or am i just reading into it too much? HONEST OPINION | Crushes |
Ok....I have talked to several friends about this but I still need more opinions so here goes nothing.
I have a good friend whom I care for a lot, she is currently in a relationship. I entered the dating scene for the primary reason to get over her, and it kinda worked. However, when I talk to her, some of my feelings resurface...I am often reminded of how close we used to be.
*So, should I stop talking to her? :/*
For those interested in the full story:
Last year in september, I've met an amazing girl. We grew attached to each other within 2-3 days. It was insane. It felt like I knew her for years and she also felt the same about me. At some point, I started to develop feelings for her. And I wanted to tell her how I really felt. However, I knew how she felt about 'love' and relationships in general (we talked about it thoroughly, she was intensely negative on the subject) so I didnt know how to deal with it at the time. We were also hanging out with other people and she told me that I was actually the only person she really cared about of that group.
These people already thought we were a couple and often asked us if we were, or they tried to 'ship' us but I noticed that she didnt really like that. Another guy that 'liked' her and that was flirting with her awkwardly for some time started to panic because everyone thought we were a couple. He asked her about it and ofc she said _no we are not a couple_. Then he told her that he liked her.
Here comes the messed up part. After that happened, she came to me to ask for my opinion. She tells me yet again how I am the most important person of em all and that she values my opinion so she wanted to know how I felt about the whole thing. She wanted to give him a chance because he was 'honest'. It really broke me. I was convinced that we would somehow end up together because we were (and still are, just less) connected. She had no feelings for him and yet she wanted to give him a chance. Later on she admitted that she did feel something for me....so it was mutual after all. I told her exactly how I felt but she wouldnt give me a chance. Now they are a couple. For at least 2 months, I felt betrayed. It felt like she fooled me, especially because she gave a chance to an awkward flirty guy (who also knew very well that I liked her), rather than establishing a relationship with me.
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So the other day I told a girl I liked her ages ago then yesterday she was getting all close with me starts touching my legs stroking my leg soooo the next day which is today she still you know talks to me but tries to make me jealous because she realized that I'm developing feelings for her soooo what do u think? | Crushes |
I am really starting to think crushes are bad things that never work out.
It seems like I never get the girls I develop crushes for -- not blaming them, I am sure there is something wrong with me and they can just smell it or detect it somehow.
I pretty much know it's over as soon as I develop a crush!
Is this just the nature of how crushes work? Ugh -- I'm worried that when I get married I will never have the feelings I've had for a crush. I have even had a serious gf and I never really had a crush on her! UGH!
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So no clue why I'm even posting here, but I feel like sharing so who cares that's what this place is for.
Anyway my crush is quite the unofortunate case on my end. I'm currently in last year of secondary school, which is year 6 in my country. I follow VWO and my crush is 2 years lower in year 4 but on havo (this is irrelevant but who cares). I'm 17 and she's probably 16 or almost 16 (I was born "late" in summer). But the reason this is unfortunate for me is because I have simply no reason to speak to her. Even though she's the sister from someone in my class (I'm on friendly foot with him) I have never spoken to her. I feel like I have fucked up some situations where I could've but whatever I guess. As is the case with anyones crush she's incredibly pretty and completely my type. Even though I've ofcourse not spoken to her she seems like a very nice and energetic person. I've never really fallen in love this way but from the very first time I saw her like 3 months ago I was like "woah", she's really goodlooking. So as said earlier, never spoken a word to her, will I one day? Maybe, don't know.
A lot of posts I see here is about their sad situation, and my situation isn't exactly the best. 2 classes below me, never spoken a word and don't really have a reason to do. But I'm still happy not sad about this situation. It's great that someone can make you happy by simply exisiting. She kinda notices me, sometimes we'll have eye-contact and sometimes she's smiling, and that completely makes my day. She very likely has no clue how happy she makes someone in such a simple way. All the happy-feels and stuff anytime I see her walk by are great, I'm hoping that one day I'll have the balls to start talking to her but even if I don't who cares. She's motivating me to be a better person, take better care of myself and I've been the happiest I've been in years ever since I got this crush.
So to all of you I guess I could say, don't be desperate or sad about your cursh but be glad you have someone who gives you those feelings without them likely even knowing. | Crushes |
This girl texted me about a week ago and asked if I would like to do something with her sometime and I said "sure we could do something together". I also get the feeling that she has some feelings for me because she has never said anything to me (what do I know though, she might just want to be friends).
We go to the same high school which means that I need to see the girl often. To be honest I didn't even know if I liked her in the first place because I often just hide all these sorts of feeling so I wouldn't feel bad when nothing happens.
I'm also shy so I won't be able to speak to her there if I would need to.
We texted some more but each day she gave answers that were almost impossible to continue the conversation with and I would be usually the one to start the conversations or at least try to.
This gives me the feeling of mixed signals and it feels weird.
Now I don't know if she just doesn't know what to talk about so I have though about doing something with her (like she wanted to) but I don't know how to ask this, is it too early or when it will be too late.
Right now I don't feel like texting her not because I don't want to but because it's hard to keep it going.
I really don't know what to do as this is my first crush in 5 years and I don't want to screw anything up.
If I was unclear about something just ask.
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How do I find the courage to tell him how I feel? We talk whenever we work together. We flirt. He has asked me for help when he clearly doesn't need it. Should I make the first move? | Crushes |
I have a really huge crush on this beautiful girl in my class. I'm the smallest person In the class and we are both 12. Today in one of My lessons she wanted to give me a Hug(as well as others). I denied the hug since it would be awkward as everyone else said no, as well as if I hugged her my head would touch her breasts(yes, I am really that small). I really wanna hug her but I'm way too small and she's never alone. What do I do?
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So a little context: We're both 18, I'm gay and he is "Straight" but has had relationships with boys too (Let's assume he may be Bi), we're both on the same class.
So we've known each other for 2 yeras but we started really talking this year, and he does some things that make me think he's either interested or just playing with me, these are some things:
* At least once a week he blows kisses to me either on class or in the street.
* He looks at me too much on class, like every 20 seconds he stares at me for a few seconds and then minds in his own bussiness.
* Sometimes he winks at me, even thought is not that common.
* When he's high (Which is common for him) he's usually very kind/affectionate, jokes about things like us being a family on the future. He also hugs me and kisses me a lot when he's high.
I feel stupid for asking, but I'm really clueless because that's the kind of behavior I wouldn't expect from a straight boy not interested on me, but I might be biased because I like him a lot hahaha. Wyd?
P.S: something I forgot to say:
* We usually dont speak that much outside of class ( only class related stuff) but the other day he messagged me saying that he didn't find me last day on some party and trying to convince me to go out that day, he even promised to invite me to a few shots!
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So I'm taking the public transit and I'm sitting next to an old man. My crush of one year gets on and stands behind our seats. He gets up to get off and I move in to the inner seat. She sits next to me, not immediately but about 10 seconds after I sit. I see she has a small present bag and I assume it's for a friend.
We get off and I follow behind her to our school and I could tell she's sort of rushing and giddy. Then she takes a small detour and then I find her in the halls again. She's giving the present to some guy, and she seems super excited.
He's also a good looking guy.
It hurt.
My chance of ever dating her went from 5% to -20%
He's a lucky guy and it seems like they'll be a couple soon if they aren't already (there was no hugging or kissing when the present was given)
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So today during my college lunch period, I was sitting with my friend Evan, who I happen to like, and my other friend Mady.
So Mady was basically interrogating Evan asking who he liked and to give her hints and what not.
I was watching him the whole time and he flickered his eyes towards me and Mady was like "It is her!" and I turn to see Mady hastily stop pointing at me. Evan replies no it's not and then goes on to say "She's in my grade." (Which I happen to be a grade lower) but then before lunch period ends Mady asks Evan what the first letter of her name was and he says "M" which my name starts with an M.
So do you think he likes me or am I over thinking this? | Crushes |
At first, I was having doubts about even posting this on here, but I believe the time has finally come. I've had the feeling to vent somewhere, so I might as well do it, right?
So.. to start off I'm in 8th grade, 14 y/o male, and my crush is named Kim, she's in the 11th grade, she's 16 and about to turn 17.. I need some opinions and advice about what you guys think about that.
I met her about two years ago thanks to the school's band program, but I never actually got to know her until last year. At the beginning of the last semester, we got to know each other a bit better cause I was somewhat close with her best friends, who are also in band. A few weeks later, we had to perform at the local fair, and I ended up tagging along with her the rest of the day. We rode on various rides together, and basically that was the day when my emotions for her sparked up. From that point on, I was looking forward to every football game and band class, since those were the only times I got to see her.
My feelings for her constantly grew from there and suddenly she was on mind. A few days later I got her snapchat and we were texting each other every single day 'till we fell asleep. Her friends usually made jokes about us being "the world's greatest couple" and this one time they tricked us into making a heart. Then at this one football game she asked me to fix her bow. (The game was in honor of breast cancer awareness.) I'd walk around with her and hang out with her at every single football game. It's the little things that count, right? Well.. these things might sound mushy, unimportant, or whatever, but they've seemed to make me feel .. I don't know .. I can't even find the right word to put there. She's that special to me.
However, things have been starting to go "downhill" since around Christmas time. I was going to quit band last semester, but I ended up staying just so I could see Kim everyday. We text like once every two weeks now. She always used to text me like an hour after we got released from school. I'm lucky if I even get a text from her now. We don't talk as much as we used to. I feel like we're slowly becoming distant towards each other. I would really be devastated if we ended up slowly fading away from each other, even if we never may had something "special." I just enjoy having her company around.
I can't go a single minute without having her on my mind. Sometimes I can't even go to sleep. I haven't felt about anyone in this kind of way, ever. Her texts always got me through the day. It feels like hours pass by slowly whenever I'm just waiting for that little notification to pop up on my screen. Lately I've been waiting for a long time. I probably should've said this earlier, but I have no experience about having relationships or anything so ... that probably doesn't help either.
A few months ago, her friend told me she was planning on asking me to go to prom with her, I'm actually not sure if it was a joke or whatever, but it's given me a lil' bit of hope. When Kim heard that, she started to act all defensive and got all blushy and stuff. So .. who knows ?
But honestly... this is only about half of the actual stuff I was going to post. If you actually took the time to read all of this, then I appreciate it very much, thanks. I feel a bit better just typing all of this down.
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I'm a 17yo girl and I've always liked this friend of mine, but kept it extremely lowkey, since three of his friends has confessed to me before. I didn't want to make it any more awkward than it already is. So we've recently graduated from high school, and found out that we'll be going to the same junior college. His friends will be going off to different junior colleges, so I feel like this would be a great opportunity for me to finally confess.
Before that, a little background about the guy. I've known him for only about two years. He's extremely intelligent (graduated with straight A1s), humorous, and is the calmest person I know. He's also a pretty shy guy. We never really talk in high school, since we've never had the same classes together. However, we've had plenty of outings with our group of friends, and we play games with the said group of friends almost daily. I'm sure he has noooo clue that I have feelings for him, since I've never made it obvious, and I think I'm pretty much 'bro-zoned' at this point. We're pretty chill, but I don't think he's interested in me, really. We don't message unless it's important, and we don't really talk unless it's through voice chat for gaming purposes.
I've told two of my closest friends about the crush, and they're telling me to just 'go for it and confess'. I think it's absolutely nuts, confessing without knowing if the person is even interested in you. However they're telling me that confessions work wonders, because from their own experiences, they find that people start to notice you more when you've confessed to them. I'm pretty convinced by this, but I know that the worst case scenario would be him avoiding me.
So, do I take my chances and confess so that he'd start to notice me more, and see me as more than just a friend?
If you've made it through this whole shitshow of poorly written teenage feels, thank you. Any reply/advice/thoughts on this would be great :(
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is it weird that i masturbate to my crushes facebook photos. | Crushes |
He's so cool in so many ways. He's kind, confident, and he unashamedly likes things. Some interests are geeky, some not, but it's obvious that he has things he's passionate about, just from being around him I can tell that, and it's so attractive.
He's comfortable in his own skin, which I think is really hot. I'm not, I'm kind of awkward.
He's gradually become more physically attractive to me. I didn't find him hot at all a few years ago, now I do.
When I speak to him, he's pleasant and polite, but I wouldn't even say he likes me platonically. If I could be his friend, that would be enough, but I don't think he likes me at all.
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Yes, this is the same person who's best friend likes their crush. I guess you could look at that post too for more background??? Okay, so I've liked my crush for months but I'm not sure if he likes me back. I'll just describe us a little.
We have about 4 classes together. While I'm extremely shy in class, he's pretty loud and popular. (But he always sees me like i really am when im with my friends.) We like the same music and music means so much to both of us. He plays drums in a band and he plays covers of bands i like. I started liking him in early September. I noticed he stares at me a lot and blushes. We've made eye contact a couple times (when we'd catch each other staring) and he'd smile at me. Lots of blushing when I'm around. He's randomly went to his locker when i would be at mine (our lockers are pretty close to each other). He's really funny and sweet and we usually think the same way. A lot of girls seem to like him (i think a few like him just to get popularity). But he never cares even when they try to flirt. Today he was staring at me (i was wearing a shirt of one of our favorite bands) and he said it was awesome. He never forgot things about me from the beginning of the year. Is there any chance he likes me back or can these just weird coincidences??
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Just a little background first....
Me and this girl have been friends for over a year and a half. We'll just call her Jane. So me and Jane bonded over our similar interests. We're fans of music that isn't popular at our school, it's so rare that you'd find somebody who likes the genre. And since music is probably the most important thing to me, we became SUPER close instantly. We had a group of friends (two are gonna get involved, and we'll call them May and Ale). Okay now that you know a little background you might understand better or something.
A while ago me, Ale, and Jane went to a concert together. I had thought this boy in a couple of my classes was cute but never really got feelings for him. But that Monday he came to class wearing a tour shirt for the concert me and my friends went to. Then i got a crush...bad. So Crush (that's what we're calling him) is always staring at me, blushing when he's around me, etc. But nothing too major to claim he has a crush on me. I gradually got closer to Ale than Jane so i told her about my crush. Over a month later i told Jane. She sounded disgusted and made fun of me, and trust me, she's a bad liar. So she made it clear (for the most part) she didn't like him. I started noticing Jane would bring up a crush then deny it. She was closer to our friend May and May knew who Jane liked. After months of Jane denying liking someone, i started to ask May about it. She never told me. More lying about her crush and i was a little pissed off. Earlier that day i saw Jane blush when Crush looked by us. I told May and asked if she liked Crush. And Jane does...I knew i couldn't just go on without telling Jane i know, so i had May text her about it. The next day (which was today) we were just talking and acting like nothing happened.
Me and Jane hang out almost everyday after school so this is just pretty awkward. I thought we could handle it by who liked him first but Jane keeps telling May she liked him before me. And i highly doubt she did. I don't want this to ruin our friendship but I'm not sure how to handle this. I was just trying to get the courage to talk to him now my best friend likes him. Has anybody gone through this and can offer some advice?? Please help. | Crushes |
So I've known this guy for quite some time now, and just recently we started texting each other. He asked me if I wanted to hang out with him and of course, I said yes. The town that we live in is pretty boring; there aren't many things one can do that pertain to our interests. He offered to watch a movie at his place and I was totally down with that, but his other family living with him has the flu and he doesn't want to get me sick. Feeling nervous, I asked him if he wanted to come over to my place instead. He said okay, but now I'm extremely nervous... The last time I had a guy over was when I was dating my ex boyfriend about 4 months ago, and I feel pretty self conscious. The guy who is coming over clearly is interested in me, which makes me happy. I'm a relatively clean person, and I'm not very worried about the living place, but my other family living with me. My brother is very socially awkward and I don't want to create any uncomfortable situations. Is there anything I can do with him during our time together at my place? We will probably watch a show or something but are there any other activities one could recommend? Thank you | Crushes |
We already discussed this matter and she seems kinda into me so i woulde like to bring some romance 😁. Whats the best way to deliver it. Hide it somwhere in her school bag, just give it to her? | Crushes |
So the new song by Ed Sheeran in his new album is awesome. I listen to the lyrics and they're perfect for asking out a crush. I have been listening to it all day so i can learn the song but although i know how to sing well, i don't play any instruments. I don't think any of my good friends play the guitar so i can't get them to play in the background. I want to ask out my crush with this because i feel rejection would be very unlikely if we have talked at least once before.
I'm just not sure if i should do this without someone playing guitar and i can't spend months learning it as i don't even have the money to rent or buy a guitar rn.
I'm not sure what i am expecting to hear on this sub-reddit by saying this but i guess i just wanted to get my thoughts out there | Crushes |
I want to ask this guy to a dance, but before I do it, I want to know if he likes me enough for me not to be rejected...
(We're in High school btw)
He and I talk a good amount everyday. He does tease me sometimes and tries to annoy me when we see each other. There's a few things though...He is really talkative so he talks to a lot of people.. a lot, and quite a few weeks ago he has told me about a few girls he was into... which now that I'm thinking about it, it seems like he might not have those feelings for me, but what do you think? Should I not ask him to the dance or try to get over him? I was totally thinking about doing it last week because he seemed close to me, but when school came back from a long weekend, he didn't talk to me as much, I don't know if it was because I didn't want to make it obvious I liked him or not. | Crushes |
A little background, before we get into this. I have a friend Ive known for years, since we were little. I'm 6 foot 3, and she's 5 foot 6, so I look like her older brother, even though we are the same age. She treats me like a brother, which was fine, until we reached high school. I started to notice things about her I didn't realize I liked so much about her, like her long brown hair or sky blue eyes, which I passed of a just being observant, which is stupid, I know. My buddies mentioned that I look a little slack jawed whenever I see her, and I somehow manage to slur all my sentences when I'm talking to her in front of her other friends. This is where it gets a little odd. My school is holding a dance after our first exams, and everybody is going. My buddies have been urging me to ask her out for years, but she's so high profile that even though we're friends, I dont know how to ask. I'm not socially awkward, but as discussed, she's a little hard or me to approach without looking like I think she's fantastic, which I do. How the hell do I ask out the girl of my dreams to an event where im basically broadcasting to everybody I know that we aren't friends anymore? And even worse, if she says no, I'm sure her friends would never let me live it down. Help? | Crushes |
i really Luk a girl from my high school and we are great friends,having same taste .We have been shipped because me and her are pretty close, but she think is pretty silly .During text she is fine but take a while for her to reply and skyped her few times.
Am I being friend zoned ? | Crushes |
I have this crush on a guy, and i don't know what to do! I want to talk to him but i'm not really good with people. I think he likes me but i don't know for sure, he looks at me in class, but it's sort of confusing. I need help... | Crushes |
So, a little over a year ago, I got a job at a grocery store. My mom worked there as well so it was easy for me to get hired. Everyone there is very sweet and I get along great with all of my colleagues.
I quickly developed a crush on a guy without even realizing it. He's outgoing, spontaneous, has a lot of friends and a good sense of humour. Besides that, he can also be very caring and sensitive and I can have intelligent conversations with him but I only saw that side of him when I was alone with him. We had fun conversations that came naturally, we have a lot in common, etc.
Fast forward to July (?) 2016, he quit his job. Out of nowhere. He doesn't go to my school so the only place where I could ever see him, was at work.
I was sad but I decided I needed to get over him, because it wasn't going anywhere. He added me on Facebook and I added him on Instagram, but we never texted or anything, we weren't that close. I think that's when his "shy side" was more visible, because he seems like this guy who's only outgoing when he's with his best friends (who happened to also work at the grocery store I work at).
Getting over him is harder than I thought, it's been months since he left and honestly, I don't know if I want to get over him. I never really see him but he still comes by sometimes to buy groceries. He's always so fast when he's buying groceries because he doesn't want to see the supervisors because they had an argument with him (which is why he left).
Then a couple days ago, I was buying groceries when I suddenly saw him. I panicked, ran into a random aisle, threw random things into my shopping cart and raced to cash register because I didn't want to see him. Every time I talk to him, I always mess up and I know that I have no chance with him.
Within a second, he was behind me in line. The line seemed to go incredibly slow, so ten heart attacks later, I was ready to pay. I was shaking uncontrollably and I have no idea why. It was so stupid and I felt so embarrassed because I was shaking so much without a reason! The fact that he kept looking at my hands didn't help either (maybe he has a thing for hands? Whenever I talk to him, he always glances at my hands). So I paid and while I was packing everything into my backpack I pretended to be surprised to see him and said: "Hey!"
He replied just as enthusiastically, though I know he recognized me before, and we had a small conversation about the things we bought.
Having that small conversation with him, reminded me of how much I love talking to him. He's so sweet and his voice is magical. I genuinely think I don't have a chance with him, though he has showed interest in me before (he always touched my hands when he had the chance, turned his body towards me while we were talking, etc.) but I think that was pure curiosity.
I really want to talk to him again in person but I don't know how. That short convo we had a couple days ago was the first one we've had in months, so if he was interested in me, he would've messaged me before, right? Messaging him on facebook could be a possibility but I feel like that would be weird because we hadn’t talked in months and I’m afraid he’s going to ignore my message and I don’t know how I would react to that.
Is there any way I can sort of get over that nervousness when I see him and just be able to have a normal conversation with him (if I ever see him again)?
(Seriously, if you read all that I respect you, damn.)
TL;DR: I get incredibly nervous when I see my crush. I want to talk to him just because it’s nice to talk to him (I don’t even necessarily want a relationship) but I never see him so I hate that I waste every chance I have to talk to him because I’m so nervous.
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Ok...so I have this MAJOR crush on this one girl that I met through this religious retreat I went to. And since then, we've talked and we've even hung out once, but we're not like close friends; we're more like friendly acquaintances. Well my plan is to ask her to prom, but at the same time, I'm thinking of asking her out on a date. So my worry is that if I ask her out before prom and she rejects me, finds me uncomfortable, etc. than I just ruined my shot at asking her to prom.
So my question is: should I try asking her out or should I just wait for prom? | Crushes |
When youre crushing over someone who is already taken and so out of your league.. 😢😢😢 | Crushes |
I’ve recently had a crush on this girl in my high school (we’re both seniors). We started talking to each other during lunch and a free period recently and it seemed like we hit it off. She would talk to me constantly and whenever I would speak to someone else or start doing homework, she would try to get my attention. I also found out that she got my iMessage from a friend (while we were in class together - she could have easily asked me). But when I asked her to hang out after school with a shared friend, she said that she was too tired. And when I sent her a message (a few lines of text referring back to something in a previous conversation), she just replied with “yep”. I was kind of annoyed with the mixed signals and long waiting periods, so I decided to block her iMessage (two days ago) so I wouldn’t have to feel nervous while waiting for her to respond. But I’ve unblocked her (yesterday) because I decided that my decision had been too rash and now I don’t know what to do. Because she was blocked, I don’t know if she ever replied to the message I sent on Friday (she hadn’t replied for over 12 hours when I blocked her) but if she did then I won’t ever be able to see it. Texting her back feels weird now since she could have ignored the message and now I’d be sending two in a row, but she also could have responded and I just wouldn’t be able to follow up. Should I text her and try to hang out with her tomorrow or should I just give up since she’s already said no to hanging out before and she replied to my messages sparesly and infrequently?
Reasons why she might like me
1. Focuses her attention on me among friends
2. Asked for my iMessage from a friend (but didn't text me until I got hers and started a conversation)
3. We laugh at each others jokes and have good chemistry
Reasons why she might not like me
1. Doesn't reply to messages for a while and often short responses
2. Said she was too tired to hang out after school (another time she said she had a doctor's appointment)
3. Doesn't make the same effort I do to start conversations (but when I do she is very involved)
4. Hasn't sent a message since I unblocked her yesterday (and maybe since two days ago)
Another thing to keep in mind is that she is very introverted and shy, which may or may not explain some of the behavior described.
What should I do? Ask her out and ignore the mixed signals or accept that she doesn't like me? | Crushes |
I feel in love with twins (my first crushes ever, first time I got a weird feeling that I never had before). I went to school with them for 9 out of 10 years, since they're an age younger than me, the thing is I've never gotten over them, why IDK. I really know there's literally no hope but my heart still cares and somehow believes in something, as the years went by (I found the other twin had better personality, IMO) and the worst part I've never actually socialized with them, let me tell you why. I got addicted to video games at the age of 7 and I became addicted, barely socialized and became a very shy person, at the age of 11-12, My class mate committed suicide, at the same time, I started struggling with sleep which I still do and has basically ruined my life (low energy, confidence got worse, more depressed, afraid, stressed, broken, pretending, angrier,) at the age of 13, I got bored of video games and realized how lonely I was. At the age of 13-14, I suffered back pain which led me to quit pursing my biggest dream (football). 2 years later (still depressed and still don't get enough sleep, want to drop out of school because of the struggles and the only people that actually socialize with me are the kids who smoke and drink and do drugs which I don't want to get into) I've always been a shy(lonely) but a kind-hearted, caring, loving and smiling (most know for happy person), people don't know how hard it's been, I'm SO sorry that I had to bring up my short story of my life but I just can't go without mentioning a bit of my background, I really don't see the point of life, people don't know how hard it is living with lack of sleep, it literally destroys you but the only reason why I'm still here is because I don't want to hurt people because that's my weakness and I ask god everyday why do I CARE so much? why do I love so much and why did you make me go through this. I know there a lot of people who have it worse but the fact I can't handle it anymore, I went to a therapist and to the doctor before, I talked to people about this (on FB).
Something you must know: I posted a picture of me with 2 hot naked girls (photoshopped) tagged a lot of people (including them, mostly because of attention) while a lot of people were praising me. It ended up being a huge mistake ofc because there father found out about it and ended up the other twin texted me and was mad asf and I ended up saying sorry but I texted the twin I was into, she never texted back(twice,). She actually called me back in 2010-11 and texted me first, but I was to shy to call back and to shy to text back.
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I am a part of a volunteer club that also helps students with college and scholarships. I'm the activities director and the president is a cute small girl. The president has started talking to me a lot more than thw other members. It's still in a professional tone so I guess she just sees me as more reliable. Anyways I was wondering how can I break the professional feeling and show her that I'm interested in her? | Crushes |
So, i (18 M) had a big crush on my coworker((16 F) and after a while of getting to know her she became my bestfriend aswell as my crush, and after a bit of that I asked her out last November and she turned me down very nicely but it was still the worst thing I've ever experienced. Now, i'm sick of these feelings, every time i get a message from her i get sad knowing that i dont want to have feelings for her and just want to stop. Do I tell her that i still like her and ask for space or something? I dont want to upset her but i hate messaging her knowing nothing will ever happen between us | Crushes |
Hi all,
So I (M20) have been developing a crush for this girl who goes to my uni for a couple of months now after she messaged me on Reddit (We didn't know eachother or bump into eachother before meeting on a different sub) and she's awesome, got good taste in music, video games and a number of other things, similarly ambitious in our future careers and lives outside of careers, (only downfall is she's terrible at replying to messages!) and I think I like her, I think about her every day and I imagine things with her, like dates and stuff like that and if I see things around it makes me think about possibly telling her about it or taking her to see the film or different things like that. I wait around for her at the end of her day at Uni every wednesday, I finish at 12:15 and she finishes at 6:15pm, I still wait those 6 hours finding things to do with my time until I can see her. Whenever I see her or get a message from her my heart gets faster and I get butterflies and the adrenaline rush kicks in giving me the feeling of just wanting to be with her and be proud to be hers.
The thing is, I haven't felt like this in a long time, the longing to be close to a certain person, so I'm not sure if I like her or if it is that I like the feeling of liking someone? She's also the only friend I've made at uni since I started here in september 2015 so I don't know if it's just that I'm being too clingy as a friend or what... I have a tendency to overthink everything and so it gets confusing for me sometimes. | Crushes |
So basically months back a guy I once had a brief fling with randomly messaged me one night; we hadn't spoken for a long time prior, nothing negative, we just stopped speaking after our fling faded out. He was asking what I was up to nowadays then says, 'Oh sorry I can't see your replies, can you text me instead?' And sent me his mobile number. I didn't reply because I was in a relationship at the time and wasn't sure what to make of it. However, I'm single again and looking to maybe hook up and I want to get in touch with him but I'm not certain he was interested? Just wanted to see what you guys think and how I should approach the situation, as this was months back. Sorry for the daft question, I'm crap in these situations. | Crushes |
So I like this girl and in person we have been getting on well, even flirting a little bit and things have been going pretty well, it's just on messages she seems distant usually takes a while to respond and when she does it a short response, there is a also a group chat that me her and few people are in and she sees them messages before seeing my message that was sent before, but she doesn't usually respond to the messages in the group chat either unless they are directed at her, it might be that she prefers you know face to face and isn't really a texting person, but idk | Crushes |
I've liked this girl A LOT for months now and being me I never took action. Now the cement has hardened and I feel that talking to her to get to know her is even fucking harder. She's a really cool person and is really cute and I like her but I just don't really fit in with her friend group or whatever and I doubt she has interest back in me. And while all this is going through my head I try and stop to like her (which I know is all mentally controlled) but then the thoughts of "Maybe she does like me" or "maybe something will happen" begins to come into my mind and I still like her. I've basically lost all hope at this point and it's fucking stabbing me so hard every goddamn day. | Crushes |
Ok Reddit , here's the deal. I've got an intense crush on someone. I'm really into this girl (I'm a male). I want to better myself as a person for her , because she absolutely deserves the best that I can possibly be.
We've gone out as friends , although what we do together other people have playfully mentioned that they're essentially dates. When we're around each other , we make each other nervous. Like that good kind of nervous where you're concerned about what the other person thinks of you... yeah.. that kind of nervousness.
Now , you would think I could just simply ask her on real dates and get a relationship going. But , there's a snag. She's got a boyfriend. However , it's really confusing. She never really talks about him at all. Hell , she has even stated "there are a lot of times where you remind me of my boyfriend". I had literally no idea how to take that (I said "Thanks... I think.. ?").
I do feel that I do 'initiate' our interactions though. It's not forced with her , but I am just so compelled to interact with her. Maybe I should just leave her be and put the ball in her court to initiate something , just to see if she will.
So , I'm really at a loss at what to do. I'm thinking I should just tell her exactly how I feel , but I don't want to be that guy to ruin her potentially good relationship already (because I care about her being happy). But I want to be the guy that she wants.
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Before u read. I'm a guy not a girl : )
Today I found my crush sitting alone in lunch break so I went to him and said hi.
He is younger than me by one year. I asked him about "This is the only thing that came to my mind lol" a course I failed one year ago & I will take it again next semester "we have blocks system" and he passed the course. I asked him about the exams, assignments, presentations... etc. He told me his grade and I complemented him. I was smiling and looking him in the eyes the entire time.
I didnt want to make our first talk super long... my friend came "luckily" and pulled me.. I said thank you to my crush with a big smile, he smiled back without saying anything then looked down.
Now idk what to say to him next time : ) | Crushes |
I know this sounds stupid, but each time i see her with tight clothes i feel wonderful, if u understand guys.
It all started when i didn't know how to flip, so she obviously stepped up to show me. And what i saw was magic in the air. But i think she also has a crush on me because one day she told me " Let's go to the director's office alone " plz help me i always go th bathroom during pe i can't control my emotions anymore i'm thinging on asking her out to have dinner and a new experience ;)
Her name is fayrouz ben ahmed
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I quit playing LoL like 3 years ago because I hate PvP but the person I like said they play and somehow this morning I ended up redownloading the client and ran a couple bot matches to figure out new items and abilities and I REGRET EVERYTHING | Crushes |
she has a boyfriend. I was foolish to wait until it got to a closer level, and now she has a boyfriend. I just can't really believe it was this soon considering we just came back from our holidays this week and my only new years resolution was to man up and ask her out. moral for today, waiting is bad. man up as early as possible.
I know I'll get over it eventually, I did the previous times but this feels different. she was absolutely wonderful in my eyes, it'll take a while before I forget I fear. well. now I wait until the relationship goes downhill (half joking). | Crushes |
The cute sonographer at medstar southern maryland hospital.
Just want you to know I think youre cute. One of the reasons I enjoyed working there. Hmu. | Crushes |
So I really like my best friend, and she has told me that she believes she is bisexual. We always cuddle, but it's always been platonic until recently. A few days ago, we were cuddling and we started holding hands on accident while watching a movie. Her sister was also there so I'm not sure if that affected what happened or not, but I don't know what to do. | Crushes |
So let's start off sophomore year...my best friend, a straight girl, tells me she thinks this guy is cute in her class. Then she points him out to me, I'm a gay guy btw, and I don't obsess. He's decent. Flash forward to the summer before senior year, she decides to send him a somewhat "seductive" joke on FB message and it's late at night and we've just got the thrill in us to do it. So we do and he ends up opening it and reading it...but no repose. So i take the fall and tell him "oh I'm sorry I was messing with her phone sorry" and he doesn't really react. So then flash a couple months forward to senior year. I'm running late and I have to turn this assignment in to my teacher so I go to her class and she isn't in there and the boy is waiting outside for the teacher as well. So I ask him if he can turn my assignment into her for me bc I had to be somewhere. So he does and is really nice about. Later that day that teacher gets a on to me about how she thought the boy was cheating cause he had my paper so I reassured her that he wasn't and I asked him to turn it in. So later that night I message him on FB message about how sorry I was and he was not mad at all and said he would do it again! So then we exchange numbers just in case we could help each other out in that class. I end up texting him so he has my # and we talk for a while. About how I've never been to a high school basketball game or football game, he plays basketball btw, and he offers if I ever wanna go with him that he'd be happy to take me! So I take him up on the offer. It never went through though. So we talk, meet up a couple times during lunch to work together. He tells me he loves Beyoncé, and went to a concert of hers...and I was a little surprised bc he's "straight". Not to stereotype but idk. So I start to have feelings for him and I end up telling him on Snapchat. Meanwhile I'm not necessarily "out of the closet". He turns out to be 100% cool with it! Claim he's straight but would really want us to continue to be friends. But the thing is is after that he would only message me for answers. And I got tired of it so I distanced myself. But he would call and message and stop me in the hall to talk. And I ended up getting pissed! I thought he fucking rejected me but is still trying to be friends? It's sweet but idk I can't just "be friends" with the guy I think is hot. So then today I actually message him for a favor and he doesn't respond!! And when he does it's one wordy responses!! And this is a guy who sends good length messages with emojis! And talks to me any chance he get! So idk I guess what I'm saying is is he gay or straight? And should I try again or does he not want me... | Crushes |
I really need help, I am crushing hard on a Barista at the local coffee shop I frequent at. At first I never noticed any interest from him but as I have began visiting more often the staff have started remembering what my usual drink is. It began when he attempted to assume my order, (since I usually get the same each time) but when he guessed it wrong he said "Oh, I thought I would Impress you this time" ahahaha.... afterwards the embarrassment was obvious but it was kinda cute. It caught me off guard since I never get hit on and he is not my usual type but I have no idea if he is just being friendly?? Now every time I visit he starts a conversation and we both end up laughing and smiling at one another like we have out own inside joke. Once he began telling me about his day- "It's been a long day" like he wanted some kind of affirmation? It is hard to tell because it seems like he is enthusiastic person naturally and nice to everyone? One of his work colleagues mentioned to me his name because at the time she was not serving and she went on to apologize and told me that "____ will be here in a minute" So I was like 'oh'? So of course I then proceeded to social media stalk him as my curiosity was getting too much and I soon discovered that he is bisexual? I accidentally liked one of his pictures 'Facepalm'. My friend encouraged me to just add him on Facebook, he has accepted the request but has not initiated conversation yet. I am so confused yet fascinated by this situation if he is flirting. | Crushes |
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I told my crush that I like him via facebook on NYE (I always do this face to face but the circumstances were different this time). The next time I see him he gives me a big hug and we talk like we normally do. He never gives me a definitive answer of whether he likes me or not. But he does say that he reacted to my message by "blushing his way around nyc for the new year".
He does not out right reject me. He's said that he's shy before and we flirt all of the time. I'm confused as to why he wouldn't just say "sorry, I'm not into you like that, let's be friends" or any sort of direct reaction to my confession.
I can't tell if there is a still a chance or if his lack of a reaction is a rejection. I need to know so I can move on and not keep being hopeful! Should I ask him for clarification? Send help! | Crushes |
So I'm 19 and recently just realised that I still have a crush on a girl from high school. The problem is I don't know what to do about it. I barely spoke to her in high school, she is now at uni and I have a full time job. I can't just pop up on facebook that would be weird and creepy, so what do i do? | Crushes |
The girl I liked. She was in my elementary class but now she's in my 2 classes in High School. Cute. Shy. Interesting. I kept eyeing her for some reason. I loved her but I didn't have the chance to say it to her. The black hole in me that kept sucking my confidence. I walked in class. Sat down. She didn't talked a lot. She just. Stayed quiet. I heard her talked sometimes but that made me felt like a creep. A voice that's beautiful. Maybe it was time to make a move. Math class ended. Fast forwarding through recess. Recess was boring as usual. Just walking talking to my friend. A girl came up to me. "Hey look at these girls and who do you want to marry" It was the girl sitting on the bench. I stood there. Staring. She smiled and looked at me. Her mouth open. Her smile... She. Was perfect. I loved her. I think she likes me I wanted to admit it to her but I might get it all wrong. And I ended up doing nothing.
This was always the story we always have... | Crushes |
Hi, just to clear things I'm a guy not a girl.
I always get this feeling around him and everytime we make eye contact he just look somewhere else and so do I, one time we looked at each other then looked somewhere else then made eye contact again then looked away for 3 times "and we make eye contact everytime we meet"
Today I saw him standing in the parking lot. I built up my courage and went straight to him to say hi "I never talked to him before"... I fixated my eyes at him, he looked at me too from afar but when I was so close "like really close" he just touched his pockets like he forgot something and went back to his car.
So my conclusion is... he wasnt ready and didn't know what to do so he just did the first thing that popped in his mind to get out of the situation.
Please help, idk if he really likes me or he just forgot something in his car for real. | Crushes |
I spoke to my crush again, and she told me that she's sorry for never saying hi or waving; which was something I wanted to apologize for, she said it was because she didn't want everyone around to think something's going on, that "I'm just friends with this guy". My other friends tagged along and she jokingly (I hope) told them she "friend-zoned" me. While we were all hanging out we kept looking into each others eyes and smiling, at one point for a solid 8 seconds. She touches me a lot, if she weren't my crush i'd consider it a bit annoying, she laughs hysterically at my jokes sometimes she laughs when I don't even make a joke but she clearly laughs more at what I say than what my friends do. Whenever my other friends would insult me she would defend me and she likes to mock me a bit herself. She's always paying attention to me and looks at me occasionally while the others talk. My question is, does she really just want to be friends? | Crushes |
I like someone, a lot, I thought it'd go away but the feelings have just grown stronger, she's in a relationship and I don't think I should try to ruin it. Opinions? Should I just try my hardest to get over her? I'm head over heels for her, it's ruining my life haha. | Crushes |
So there's this guy in my class who I have seen as a younger brother and he sees me as an older sister as I am a year or so older. But recently when our class had a potluck we sat next to eachother and each time we would had to pass around the food his hand kept touching mine and I'd freeze and my heart would beat like crazy. And at the end of class he stood next to me for a class picture and again My heart was beating like crazy. And that night I kept replaying the closeness and his hand touching mine. He even popped up in my dream!
What should I do I'm going crazy?!?! I mean he does for my ideal guy but I never thought of him that way until that day and I don't want to ruin our friendship. | Crushes |
I have known X (20M) for half a year and I realised two months ago that I like him more than a friend should and this is the first time I am feeling this way (jealous when he told me that he's seeing someone, bubbly when I see him)
Well... the problem is he's now getting to know Mr. A, a guy he met on a dating app and I wouldn't want to make it more complicated and ruin our friendship! What should I do??? 😥😥 | Crushes |
I have a friend 11 years older than me that I'm starting to find more and more attractive. I think it's because she's young enough to still be able to relate to me in a lot of ways and still be very pretty, but old enough to have life experience and be mature. She kind of makes me feel safe because she always knows what to do. We've been hanging out more and more lately and I've known her friend 5 years but I just started crushing hard on her about 4 months ago. Is it weird for me to find someone so much older than me attractive? And should I tell her? | Crushes |
So I'm a junior in high school (guy) with not much experience with girls, but there's this girl who I started crushing on in early November. I was too shy to say anything, but, luckily for me, she started giving me attention, especially these past two weeks. We have government class together, and she has done things like playfully tap my desk during class and tease me (I tease her back, of course). I pretend not to notice, but I have seen her staring at me in class a LOT. Every girl is different, so I'm really not sure if I can take these things as signs as she likes me, as she may just want to be friends. That being said, I really like her based on what I know about her and want to get to know her better (we haven't really had many actual conversations yet). If anyone could provide some insight, do you think she likes me? Also, there is going to be a partner project in our class after winter break. Would it be weird to ask her to be partners with me? I really want to break the ice, so if things go well, I can ask her out at the end of the semester. | Crushes |
Margot FUCKIN Robbie. | Crushes |
So, a while back I asked this girl out and she said no. Then I told her how i really felt, and she in no way felt the same. I just started talking to her recently after not talking to her for the better part of a year, in the hopes she might start liking me, only because I've "grown up" since then and we have a lot in common now. How can I turn us into a thing? | Crushes |
What are the best ways to keep a conversation going, or spark a long deep conversation with a person (preferably a woman,lol)? Show examples, theres always the simple "what are you doing" but how do you expand the conversation to get deeper?? Or how can you ask a person to open up to you about there personal life?
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I'm a guy who is having a crush on a guy :)
15m ago we were in the parking lot, we parked beside each other... he was in his car using his phone and I didn't know what to say! I wanted to start a conversation or something but I couldn't just go to him in his car and knock the door to start a conversation
Please help, I really don't know how to deal with this... I always Have chances but I chicken out
+ I think he likes me too, he always checks me out, and every time we make eye contact he just look somewhere else and then look at me again. "I do the same lol". And he was the one to park next to me.. does that mean he likes me ?? | Crushes |
Have any of you married someone only to realize that you are infatuated with someone else? I married a man six months ago, but then my -crush- of 2009-2013 started messaging me again. We hadn't spoken from 2013-2016. My husband and I wed in 2016, but I was unprepared. I married him bc he is ~logically~ the perfect husband. We have never fought, we agree on every important decision, he loves me regardless of my weight, makeup, attitude, etc... However, I am not sexually attracted to him. I love him, but sex just isn't enjoyable. I lust after other old crushes, but I am stuck in an odd place. I can't tell my husband, nor my old crushes whom I still talk to, how I feel. I'd never cheat on my husband, but I am just so bored and feel a lack in our marriage. How do I fix this?
Thank you - 22 yr old, F | Crushes |
Not only do I tend to be attracted to men old enough to be my dad, but they're usually jacked up men. Like right now I am crushing on Anthony cumia! What the fuck?! 😰 | Crushes |
I'm going on a date with my crush on friday, but i'm going to be seeing him a lot before then. Is this awkward? How do I even deal with this situation????? | Crushes |
So not to any known reason to man, i spontaneously got a crush on a random girl, about 2 years ago. Obviously haven't made any moves.
2 years past, things moved on, I had to quit college due to BP and well... everything moved on besides me, still crushing… though through some fb stalking I've managed to figure out that she studies in a university like 200 miles from our homertown I keep fucking seeing her. Randomly and spontaneously.
I can't keep going into random panic attacks whenever. Honestly, every damn weekend at every fucking bar.. this just can't keep going like this.
Any therapeutic help or anything anyone? I got my own problems and life to get into. I can't keep up with universal randomness, I need clearance, this is disturbing. | Crushes |
So not to any known reason to man, i spontaneously got a crush on a random girl, about 2 years ago. Obviously haven't made any moves.
2 years past, things moved on, I had to quit college due to BP and well... everything moved on besides me, still crushing… though through some fb stalking I've managed to figure out that she studies in a university like 200 miles from our homertown I keep fucking seeing her. Randomly and spontaneously.
I can't keep going into random panic attacks whenever. Honestly, every damn weekend at every fucking bar.. this just can't keep going like this.
Any therapeutic help or anything anyone? I got my own problems and life to get into. I can't keep up with universal randomness, I need clearance, this is disturbing. | Crushes |