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SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by browsing the ASOIF subreddit. No spoilers.
POST: Ok so I know this is going to be buried by more interesting posts, but here it is anyway.
Unlike most TIFU's this happened a couple of hours ago.
So I was bored and decided to browse Reddit like most people here and I found my way onto the ASOIF subreddit as I am currently reading the books, currently on A Feast for Crows, so obviously there is a lot of stuff yet to happen. And obviously it's pretty retarded to be on there anyway but I kept scrolling up and down on the first page getting a thrill from knowing I am so close to having things spoiled for me. And as I continued doing this the scrolling got slower and slower until eventually I caught a glimpse of one of the titles and absolutely shit the bed.
Now I'm sat here Mourning over one of my favourite characters who has died and annoyed that I was idiotic enough to be on the page.
TL;DR: | browsing the A song of Ice and Fire subbreddit, and seeing a massive spoiler, now I want to die. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My[22F] boyfriend [22M] have put me in a guilty position where whatever I say is a lie.
POST: We have been dating for over a year. In the past, I have dated two guys before him and there are things I lied to him about because I was afraid he would get mad.
Recently, I finally broke down, and told him everything and about all of my lies regarding my sexual relationships with my last one. There are things I am not proud of while I was with my ex, and I chose to leave it behind. My SO is the type of person to dig every little details up in regarding to my last one. I told him everything that he wants to know but still have trouble believing me and thinks I'm lying about every bit of it.
I don't know what to do because if this keeps up, our relationship might not make it. I need some advice please!
TL;DR: | I've been telling the truth but my SO still thinks I'm lying. Don't know what to do from here. |
SUBREDDIT: r/offmychest
TITLE: I've slept with 3 guys and i don't feel guilty...
POST: I've been in a 7 year relationship with my SO. We've been having a lot of problems recently and it's causing us to grow apart from each other. Since I'm working two jobs, we haven't had the chance to see each other or have sex. he never makes the effort to come to my apartment either. (He lives with his roommates and goes to college)
Recently, I've been hanging with two friends of mine. they've been caring enough to hear my bitching, but they asked me separately if I would sleep with another guy. I would always say, "Of course not, i love my SO!" but that changed... I ended up thinking of other guys and wanted to explore my sexuality more. I finally gave in and slept with my two friends, but separately. The third guy is a long time friend and we always had feeling for each other. We ended up going out together drinking and we fucked at some random hotel too. to sum it up, i actually don't feel guilty. Is that a bad thing and I know my SO is seeing other girls... there's just too much and i don't know why we're still together.
TL;DR: | I'm sleeping with three different guys, but I don't feel guilty. My So and I won't break up either. |
SUBREDDIT: r/Pets
TITLE: Help! My sister's cat is trapped (x-post from /r/AskReddit and /r/cats)
POST: My little sister's [karma machine] has somehow escaped into the walls of our parents' house. As you can see she clearly enjoys enclosed spaces. We live in a really old (100 years plus) Victorian era terraced house. There's been a hole in the plaster on the top floor of three (ex-attic) because of a leak, but yesterday we finally got it plastered up. We think she must've sneaked in just before. After listening all round the house we eventually heard her seemingly coming from behind a wall all the way downstairs in the front garden. She's not really been moving and we think she maybe fell some of the way and hurt herself. We can't start hacking through stone. And we can't pull down the plaster and go in because none of us will fit. She's a tough rescue cat and has survived 5 days of being trapped one other time so will live a little while longer but I'm really worried it'll destroy my little sister if she dies. Especially in such a horrific way where she'll be able to hear her the whole time.
What can we try reddit? Anything, no matter how crazy, will be considered.
TL;DR: | Sister's cat is trapped in the walls of our super old house. What can we do/what would you do? |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Cat owners, vets, and pet trainers: How can I deal with my friend's aggressive cat while I pet sit?
POST: I'm watching my friend's cat this week and he has attacked my legs several times. He managed to latch onto my left calf pretty good a few days ago and now I have some bruising around the little teeth marks. He's never been friendly, but he wasn't so aggressive when I watched him before. There used to be two, both unfriendly and aggressive, especially with strangers. The other cat had kidney failure and was put down a few months ago. The remaining cat started to be more friendly now that his friend is gone, but had taken to biting as I walk around the house to feed him, clean the box, etc. Pretty sure he's fixed but not declawed. I know better than to be aggressive back and usually just clap loudly and/or say "no!" sternly, but this only works temporarily, and he'll bite again after a few minutes. Is there some way I can show him I'm in charge or teach him not to bite, or is this something I'll just have to deal with when I watch him? I'm not exactly a stranger as this is a good friend's cat. Know any tricks to get me through the week? So far I'm just wearing pants and hoping for the best, but it's a hot summer. Internet and other Reddit post searches have proved unhelpful. Please help! Happy to answer questions and give more details if necessary. I'm a work now, but will try to stick around. After 5 I'll be around more. Thanks!
TL;DR: | My friend's cat is a biter and I want to know the best way to avoid bites while I watch him. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [24 F] with my ex [34 M] 1 year, It's his birthday today
POST: I'm just looking for support. About 6 months ago, my dbf of a year broke up with me 4 days after me supporting him through rehab. He wanted to be friends for awhile, and I asked to not hear from him for a few months, because quite honestly I couldn't stand to see him happy at my expense.
Today's his birthday. The sadist in my head had me look at his facebook, and I realized he hid everything he could, which means he's probably dating someone and changed his picture to the two of them. I feel so empty inside, only filled with a dull burning. On some level, I hoped he was miserable without me, and I was using the possibility of getting back together (even if I probably wouldn't do it), to use as a band-aid in my own head.
I hate that his sobriety came at the cost of my depression.
TL;DR: | Alcoholic ex's birthday, pretty sure he's got a gf and it hurts. Looking for support, thanks. |
SUBREDDIT: r/Parenting
TITLE: Grandparent rant; need advice
POST: My son is almost 3 years old and he goes to my parents Monday to Wednesday nights because I have evening classes and husband works night shift. My son is a little behind with talking.
Both of my parents still talk to my son like he's a baby. An example would be; he would call a dump truck "ump ump", I even told my parents what it means and they don't correct him to say the word correctly. My father even told my son, "You can call dump truck "ump ump" because you're in my house".
It seems useless to talk to my parents because they don't listen to me. I have told them plenty of times what it means and it's not the first time where they have not listened to me. There was a different time with brushing his teeth.
We were thinking of getting a babysitter but there are nights that I don't come home till 11p.m. because it's a 45 minute commute; husband works til 2 a.m.
TL;DR: | Toddler son late talker, Grandparents talk to toddler like baby, and they don't listen to me. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [23F] might have to meet my girlfriend's[28 F] ex FWB
POST: Okay guys, I'm in love with a wonderful, beautiful woman. Let's call her L. L and I hang out with a few of her friends, with my friends, it's all great. But, L invited me a few weeks ago to be her date at her Halloween party. Her entire friend group will be at this party, including some people I haven't met. She told me this week that, full disclosure, she fucked one of her friends a few times this summer. This friend, let's call her M, will be the Halloween party.
L and I had a talk about this, about how I don't like being friends with any type of ex. We decided that she would always hang out with M in groups, or tell me ahead of time if it was a one-on-one thing, and that I would never be forced to meet M. I felt good about this.
Now, knowing that L wanted me to go to the party as her date, I assumed she had made arrangements for the party. I asked her last night - what's the deal? She said M was invited before and so I would have to decide if I wanted to come. I told her I have no choice, I can't meet someone she's fucked, because shaking a lesbian's hand is like shaking her dick, and I can't say "Hi, nice to meet you" and shake something that's been inside of my girlfriend.
So, here we are, L is totally unsure of what to do and I honestly wish she could just not be friends with M. I'd never ask her to do that, that's terrible, but it god would it be easier.
TL;DR: | I don't want to meet my girlfriend's ex FWB, but I can't be fully in her life without doing so. |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by not checking what i checked twice
POST: Some background: I'm a 17 year old guy from Norway. I'm done with my second year of high school and this year was supposed to be the third and last.
Before the summer you have to check which school you want to attend. I had 3 shcools selected and that was it. After a month you get a mail where it includes which school you got into or what place you are in queue. As i was attending the same school 2 years i had the first right to get in for the last one too, but i wanted to change school for the last year as i only needed the last school for good teachers in foreign language.
After a month of vacation i get a mail that i can proceed to continue at the last school for the third year, and that i'm number 5 in queue for the school i want. You get 3 options on what u want to answer: I decline, I accept or I accpet but will change school if the other school got a place for me. The mistake i made was that i checked that i Decline on the offer. And now i sit number 2 in queue and can't get to the other school as someone else got my place instead. The worst part is that the teachers here are in (strike?) meaning that no one is to answer any of my mails that i've sent to the schools
TL;DR: | Checked wrong, sitting without a school, teachers are in (strike?) no one to answer on my e-mails |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: 6,000 mile distance relationship.. is it worth it?
POST: I am 20 years old and spent the last year teaching English abroad (I am from the US). I ended up falling in love with an amazing guy. We lived together for 6 months, went through a revolution together and even went to a tropical island for a month as a fake honeymoon. This is my first time being in love. He came to visit me over winter break and we had an amazing time.
The problem: I am now back in the US and am about to start my second semester as a nursing student, so I have 4 more years until I graduate. He can never move here (because he owns a very successful company in his country) and I think I will only see him once a year, UNLESS I study in his country next year. I feel like maybe I am putting too much into this relationship that most likely won't work out in the long run. I think about him all the time, I send him things in the mail and I am even learning his language (Arabic). Is it worth it to become more and more emotionally invested in a seemingly dead-end relationship?
Sorry if this is unclear, it's my first post and I'm a few drinks in..
TL;DR: | I'm 20, bf is 25 and we live 6,000 miles apart. Is this relationship worth my effort? |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: My doctor misdiagnosed me. Am I still responsible for the medical bills?
POST: Okay so last January, I had some bumps on my skin. They got worse and itched like hell. I went to planned parenthood and their doctor said it wasn't herpes, that it was a bacterial infection. I took antibiotics for a month, they didn't help. I went to my doctor back in my hometown. She was convinced it was herpes. She attempted to break one of the bumps and collect the liquid underneath, but there was no liquid. I told her that Planned Parenthood said I DIDN'T have herpes. She told me, in her professional opinion, that I had herpes and I needed to get my blood checked for it. So she does the blood work, charges me $400 dollars, and tells me I will know by Monday the results. She prescribes me a herpes medication. Well, Monday comes and goes and I call the office. My doctor wasn't in so I told the receptionist to have her call me. Well, Friday comes, my mother calls the office and complains about how I didn't get called back, and finally my doctor calls me and tells me I don't have herpes.
I really feel like I shouldn't be responsible for the $400. I knew I didn't have herpes and only got the test because my doctor told me I did.
TL;DR: | My doctor told me I had herpes after I told her I didn't and is charging me $400 for it. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Am I (26/f) naive or insensitive?
POST: Ok, have been in 3 relationships now (4 years, 1 year, 4 months), but seem to be always blindsided when they break up with me (yep, I'm the one who always gets dumped.)
They always surprise me because what usually happens from my point of view is that everything is going smoothly, we're having fun, when suddenly we have a petty fight which leads to something more serious and then we break up.
After 3 relationships ending the same way, I've started to think it's about me. Maybe I'm too insensitive that I don't sense something's wrong? I do at times ask them if everything's okay but they always say yes and then it still happens. I don't want to keep asking them if there's a problem :-/
Or naive cause I believe that if they have a problem, they'd tell me without having to break up so that we can work on it together?
Or is this all just part of the learning process? Am I just immature at the moment that I don't know the warning signs?
TL;DR: | Always the dumpee, and never saw any of it coming. Want to learn how to avoid in the future. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I, (m 16) am about to be in a relationship with a girl (17) who has a <1y/o child. Thoughts?
POST: Okay, the child is not mine.The baby is also currently in the hospital and has been since birth really, but will probably be home in the summer. She had the baby and the dad went off to college. I honestly could care less that she has a baby, I do not judge her for it and I don't see her any differently. She makes me very happy and I enjoy every moment we spend together.
However, I am concerned as to what others will think of this. My parents do not know she has a child... yet. I am also worried as to what will happen to our relationship when the dad comes home from college... what do all of you think about this situation?
TL;DR: | I(16m). soon-to-be girlfriend (17) has a young child (isn't mine), thoughts? |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by getting facejacked
POST: Ok so i really screwed up. I have a great girlfriend, but we fought 2 days ago because I was reluctant to meet her after her job interview and instead wanted to focus on my project. Deadline was coming up and I'd be letting my team down.
I was upset at that point, that she didn't seem to care that I had work to do. She told me that she had confided in her friend and decided that she was going to keep her distance from me. I was at a loss and Facebook messaged her friend, telling her my side of the story and venting.
After we patched things up, I left my account logged in at her place today and she happened to see my secret conversation with her friend.
Now she's seriously upset and hurt, feeling betrayed. I feel terrible and can't sleep...all the words I said in a pique were all there.
TL;DR: | confided and vented to gf's friend after a fight, gf found out and is supremely pissed. |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU: Manged to ruin my IT guy's day in 0,8 sec
POST: This will be short. Accidentally (This was an accident!!!) I dropped my Outlook "Sent Items" into "Drafts" just by drag and drop. There is no way back! It didn't show expansion. I dear you to try and fix it. JFGI does not help. Took half a day but he did it (Thanks Riho). He moved magic and voodoo in the server, in my web-mail too, some of the mail from the old server went to a personal. Now they are copying again from one to another. Then we should be done.
Funny that there is no easy option to undo. The arrow at the top corner does not work. It took us half a day. I just used the laptop touch-pad and did it by accident.
TL;DR: | MS Outlook, dragged "Sent Items" into "Drafts". Took half a day to fix it. NEVER DO IT! |
SUBREDDIT: r/personalfinance
TITLE: Help! I have bad credit and really, really need a new car!
POST: I know nothing about credit, but here we go. A few years ago I was going through some huge problems with my money and myself, got kicked out of my parents house, got my car repo'd was dipping and dodging all kinds of debt. 3 years later I've paid all debt off and I'm 100% better and I feel I'm ready to start making payments on a new again. But seriously doubt anyone would give me a 2nd shot. Can't have anyone co sign because my pops did on the car I got repo'd. Since then paid back the $7,000 they put up to get the car back.
TL;DR: | I have bad credit, Tired of car issues, just want a new one! Any hope? If so, ELI5. |
SUBREDDIT: r/jobs
TITLE: I feel trapped in my job.
POST: Not sure if this is the place to post this, but I wanted to get this off my chest and hopefully find some help. Also cross posting in r/networking
I'm currently working as a Network Engineer for a small company, which the job title is something I've been working for since I was 15, currently 26. I thought the work load would be higher and more challenging. I thought I would be challenged on a daily if not weekly basis. But, lately I've been on Reddit/ my phone more than my work laptop.
Typically I can keep myself busy by finding something to do, but I can't touch anything with out business justification too. I've already cleaned up our local network IDF and supply room. I can't find anything else to do.
My biggest regrets about taking my dream job is missing doing physical Blue Collar work, the weight gain, and income. Working with my hands and body kept me fit and I felt healthy and more energized all day, but the salary isn't there and now I have a 1500$ mortgage and a baby on the way, I can't go back to it.
TL;DR: | I hate my dream job but make to much money to go back to what I didn't realize I enjoyed more. |
SUBREDDIT: r/dating_advice
TITLE: Should I call, text, or leave her alone?
POST: Last Saturday, I (30 m) met a girl (30's f) at a bar; we didn't have much of a conversation because there was live music (it was very loud), but it was very obvious that there was mutual attraction. We hung out for an hour or so, we danced, I asked for her phone number, and just before I left, she gave me a very intense kiss.
I sent her a text the following night saying that I had a great time and that I would like to get to know her better; this was two days ago and she has not responded yet.
Should I try to contact her again, or should I chalk it up to her just having a good time that night without any intention to take it any further?
Any advice is appreciated, specially from the female perspective. Thanks!
TL;DR: | met a girl at a bar, we made out, she hasn't texted me back. What to do, what to do.... |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: [M/19] Did I do the right thing?
POST: I received a disturbing text at 2:30 am from my girlfriend [F/19] who lives 3000 miles away.
Back story. We're both freshman in college living across the country from each other but we met in the 6th grade and have been together off and on since then. We know we have something special.
Her text was "I fucked up" which got me thinking the obvious. She cheated. Due to the time zone. By the time I saw it she was asleep so I had to wait until she woke up and then she told me. She told me she was sorry and it was a mistake while she was under the influence of pot and alcohol. I forgave her and told her it was okay. I told her I wasn't mad, just really hurt.
Why? Because early in the summer of 2015 I cheated on her twice with the same person and hid it from her for months. I also made the choice to cheat on her while 100% sober. I feel like I can't get mad at her for doing something under the influence I did sober.
TL;DR: | She cheated, but I cheated first. But she told me and I forgave her and am trying to make it work. |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: What do you do when you're getting terrible customer service?
POST: Hey reddit, so I recently bought a new refurb computer and everything was going great until the second day: the up arrow key fell off. I took it to a few service shops / googled the problem but couldn't fix it on my own because I guess it was missing a hinge. So sent it back (had to pay $28 for shipping) , waited a month and got it back yesterday. Today the same broken key stuck to my finger and just lifted off.... again. They didn't do anything to fix it. I bought it from an online retailer and regret it but now I'm wondering the best strategies for getting the most out of this shitty situation? (may return it, may want an upgrade, not sure)
TL;DR: | Bought new computer, broke, sent it back, was *serviced*, broke again. How do I handle this? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: [29/m] My girlfriend (28/f) is very successful and I'm not.
POST: My girlfriend makes a lot of money and I don't. Even though I like doing my job, it's nothing to write home about. She has a lot of time on her hands to meet new people, to go out and do things. She's very smart and sophisticated. She talks with people about stuff and sometimes I don't understand what they are talking about. I feel like an outsider when her good looking friends come over. I can't hold a conversation that well, my job isn't interesting to talk about, I spend my time working and when I'm off I play videogames, guitar and try to spend time with my girlfriend.
I've heard her friends talk about me that they don't understand why she's with me. 'Hes too dumb, he has a shitty job, he's skinny and can't protect his woman......' yadda yadda yadda. It makes me feel worthless.
TL;DR: | I feel worthless and I wonder if my gf will want to stay with me if I'm regarded as such a loser. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [24F] with my Ex [26 M] 4mths, incessantly insists that we remain friends which I do not want
POST: Was seeing a guy in my class and I initially did not want a relationship because of personal reasons mainly an abusive previous relationship which I told him about. We decided to have a relationship for a short duration (would break up when he left to go home after semester finishes and we graduate).
About a month ago I was being distant with him, I was having second thoughts, I didn't want the relationship etc and tried to end it. In the end I decided I didn't want to end it so we continued seeing each other but things didn't improve. I left my computer at his house and he went through it all my messages, history, etc. I found out immediately after and ended it.
He explained that he thought I was cheating and that it was justified because I had tried to end it 2 weeks prior and he was confused as to why. It's been back and forth since then (2+ weeks). He said I'm being unreasonable not being his friend or wanting to sit next to him in class. He also said he loved me. But admitted that in no way does he want the relationship back just that he wants me as a friend.
But after all of the stuff he has said to me recently and just the mess this 'temporary' relationship has resulted in I just want it in the past but he said that's selfish, and now he isn't coming to class anymore.
TL;DR: | Am I being unreasonable? Should I try to make an effort with this 'friendship' which I don't want? |
SUBREDDIT: r/personalfinance
TITLE: Should I get a credit card? If so, which one? Info inside.
POST: Just a bit of background.
I'm currently a college student. My father recently passed, I received a decent sum of money which I used to put a down payment on a house that will be paying for itself once I rent a room out. All my previous debt has already been paid off (just car payment and student loans). And have a decent sum (above 40k) as emergency savings and a little bit as "income" so I can quit my shit job and focus on finishing school.
I've never had a credit card. My dad, while great with money, never taught me a damn thing about credit cards. I really don't spend huge on anything. I've lived off about 15k per year for the last 1.5 years. I was raised lower middle class so I just don't really know or want to spend money extravagantly. I always have just paid with a debit card for everything.
For example, I use Amazon for a good bit, so I looked up their credit card. A review said if I spend less than $1250 a month(!!!) on Amazon it wouldn't be worth it. Seems ridiculous.
From what I've read on a few posts here, credit cards can clearly be a useful tool, but I honestly don't know if I spend enough to warrant one. Would the interest overtake the rewards? Is there even interest if I pay it off in time?
TL;DR: | I don't know if I spend enough money to warrant having a credit card, if I do, what should I get? |
SUBREDDIT: r/cats
TITLE: Need to gain kittens trust.
POST: Ok, so my roomate works with animals and she brought home a rescue kitten, the animal shelter said they'd prob put her down. So we decided we'd either keep it or find an owner. Well, it ran away the night before last. It's all black, tiny and fast so we had no luck finding her. Today, in the pouring rain, we heard some meows. I tried to find it, my biggest fear was that it was stuck in my trucks undercarriage or a drainpipe or something. Well, after me and my roommate crawling under my truck, searching through the semi- wooded area around my house, messing up my ankle, my roommate getting cut and the stopping of the meows we gave up. Well this morning I heard a meow, it was her, she has been living under my shed. I left her food in two different places after she ran from me. If she wants to be an outdoor cat, that's fine. But i'd rather her get comfortable also coming in the house. I am worried mostly about raccoons. There are a lot around here and they are viscous animals, I've seen the damage they did to my friends adult cat and if he hadn't ran out to stop it the cat might have lost her life. So, how do I gain this animals trust? I want to get it taken care of by the vet, and tagged just in case she wanders away, etc.
TL;DR: | lost kitten, found it, but she runs and hides from me, how do i get her to come back/ trust me? |
SUBREDDIT: r/travel
TITLE: Advice about traveling to Europe. Not sure where to start.
POST: *cross-posted from AskReddit*
So I've been on quite a few vacations with my family but have never left the country. I finally got my first "big boy" job and would like to go to Europe in August of this year with a friend or two. I've always wanted to take part in La Tomatina.
Ideally I'd like to start in Amsterdam, visit some landmarks and "coffee shops", though I'm not sure where I'd go?
and I want to end my trip with La Tomatina in Buñol, Spain (which is the whole reason I want to go).
Obviously my vacation would be limited to 10-14 days, which I realize isn't much time. I was told trains are expensive? What advice do people have for getting everything in order from across the sea?
I've just begun doing some research but seeing as how I am new at this I figured tips from fellow redditors would help get the ball rolliing!
and yes, I have a passport.
TL;DR: | I want to go to La Tomatina in Spain but have no idea where to start when it comes to traveling. |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU By revenge farting on my dog
POST: TIFU by trying to get back at my dog. I got a rescue dog, Dobby, about a month ago and he's been really awesome. The only thing is that he has wicked bad farts, I've got him on a consistent diet and took him to the vet to no avail.
Well tonight at my boyfriend's house we're all settling in when my boyfriend takes a phone call. He leaves the room and Dobby is snuggled under the covers right at my butt. I have to fart and my immediate thought is, "haha! Now you'll know how it feels to get farted on!" So I let it rip and feel him jolt in surprise and then scurry away to the other side of the bed. I laughed smugly at the good joke I played on him and move my leg a bit. That's when I feel the wet spot.
At that moment my boyfriend comes back in the room and I have to tell him that Dobby wet his bed. But I don't want the dog to be banned from the bed because it's not really his fault that I surprised him so bad with my deadly fart that he pissed a little. So then I have to explain while my boyfriend shakes his head in dismay. Turns out the more you explain out loud why you farted on your dog on purpose the less credible you sound.
We changed the sheets and Dobby isn't banned and we're laughing now. Exciting evening though. I guess Dobby kind of won that round.
TL;DR: | farted on my dog in bf's bed, surprised dog pissed the bed, had to explain to my bf what happened. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: Asking a guy out
POST: So, I went to a concert last night and met a guy. He's a friend of a friend, we talked, made out, exchanged phone numbers, went our separate ways. Our mutual friend kept texting me to try to get me to go back out with them after the show (I went to a friend's house and then went home). I turned them down, I was tired and had to get up early. So I texted this guy and told him that I wasn't blowing him off, that I was really tired and needed to sleep but that he should call me sometime. He didn't reply. So how long should I wait for him to call before I call him? There's another show Friday and I was thinking about asking if he wanted to go, so should I wait until, say, Wednesday or Thursday and then ask if I haven't heard from him?
We are both mid-thirty's and I've never gone after a guy before, just waited for them to come to me. My friend said this guy is shy around girls, so I have a feeling I'm going to have to be a bit more aggressive than I normally am and have no idea what to do.
TL;DR: | Met a guy, he's shy. Don't know how to peruse him without coming off as a psycho-stalker. |
SUBREDDIT: r/jobs
TITLE: How do you avoid getting your hopes up after the interview?
POST: I had an interview on Monday for an amazing and rare position that happens to be both what I've always wanted to do and for which I am uniquely qualified. They told me it was down to me and another candidate. I know they like me, but I don't really have a handle on the odds. Let's call it 50/50.
They initially told me they'd call Thursday, and I was crazy nervous all day long. Yesterday afternoon the hiring manager called and politely put it off until next Wed. I believe him when he says he hasn't had a chance to sit down with his boss for final approval. I do feel a lot less anxious, but that's probably temporary.
TL;DR: | he didn't tell me I had it, I don't think it's a brush off until the other person commits. |
SUBREDDIT: r/Advice
TITLE: What do I (f22) get leap day bf (35m) of one week for his birthday?
POST: I posted this to another sub but they deleted it. This one is a bit lighter, but I'm stuck for ideas. We met due to work (not together but our companys do business together so we bumped into each other) and eventually I developed a massive crush on this guy. He's charming and handsome and pays attention to you, like if I said I had a sick relative he'd always ask about them even if we hadn't seen each other in weeks. As it turned out I had to convince him to go out on a date last weekend because he was too nervous to ask me lol.
Anyways I found out through the grape vine that his birthday is leap day (which is cool!) and that he'll be 36 (but he says technically 9 like in Pirates of Penzance). The unfortunate thing is that he already had plans made before we started dating, and I was really hoping to do something unique for his unique birthday. Any ideas on what to do for a leap day baby that won't happen til March 5th? And that are appropriate for such a one week old relationship? Thanks!
TL;DR: | bf is a leap day baby but will be out of town that week, want to do something unique for his bday. |
SUBREDDIT: r/personalfinance
TITLE: One partner has lots of debt, the other has none. Advice?
POST: I'm in a relationship where one partner has lots of debt and the other is debt free.
I'm the debt free BF who makes 50k a year and feels like a dick when I don't plan on taking my GF with me on awesome vacations.
The only reason I am debt free today (it was a huge battle) was not going on vacations until now. Lifelong dreams of trips to europe and tokyo are spurr of the moment decisions now and it feels great. However, i have a loving girlfriend who would need massive subsidies to go with me. I feel like that is a huge compromise and that people would look at me like an asshole for leaving her behind.
I'm looking for advice for both parties. Things you would tell her if she asked "I have tons of debt and my BF loves to travel. What should I do?"
Would the advice to her be "if he can't bring you with, fuck him" or "why doesn't he help you with your debt instead?" To which my response would be, "Why should i pay for her?" and "Why pay debt that isn't mine?"
I struggle with this concept even when applied to married couples, but it makes hella sense to not pay out for a GF, no matter how much I love her.
I am having trouble keeping this cohesive because there is such a mix of emotion and fiscal responsibility that it makes it difficult. I guess I would just really like some anecdotes and various approaches others have taken.
TL;DR: | GF has 50k in debt, i have none and want to travel. Need advice on how to not be a dick. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: Thinking about ending an LDR. Thoughts/advice? (18M)
POST: Hey, /r/relationship_advice, 18M here. A couple of months ago, I met this girl on Omegle, and we hit it off. It turned out that she lives forty miles north of me. We ended up sort of starting a long-distance relationship.
The problem is, I'm in an awkward position, as her parents are aware of my existence, while mine are unaware of hers. She's pestered me about it a few times, but I frankly have no idea how to broach the subject with my parents.
To complicate things further, a girl who goes to my school has recently begun talking to me, and I think she may be interested in me. I have definitely thought about ending my LDR to focus on this girl, but I am both unsure how to break the news to my "girlfriend" and whether this new girl actually like me or not.
I realize this may be all just hormonal bullshit, but I feel like I'm stuck between a rock and a hard place. What would you suggest I do?
TL;DR: | Met a girl online, started an LDR, girl in my area may be interested, unsure what to do. Help? |
SUBREDDIT: r/pettyrevenge
TITLE: Your change, Ma'am.
POST: I work at a sandwich shop in a local shopping center. The kind of shop where people get choose their sandwich fillings and the poor drone behind the counter (i.e. Me) fetches and creates said sandwich. I've had the unfortunate pleasure of dealing with this one rude older woman who speaks English with very strong foreign accent, however she is quite fluent. The old slag and her friend would constantly harangue myself and my fellow drones for not putting enough in their sandwiches, overcharging (when they had a billion things jammed in there), not being able to understand them etc. On top of that there was one time where I gave her her sandwich and she simply walked away without paying. After not seeing her for a while, she came back with her troglodyte friend and ordered a sandwich which my manager made. I jumped in, petty revenge burning in the forefront of my mind, and rang it up on the register. I can't remember how much it was exactly, but her change ended up being about $4 (AUD). I lied and told her we had only small change left and gave her her $4 in 5s, 10s, and 20s (only like... 3 twenties, mind). Australian coins look like [this] Her face was worth it. Enjoy your shrapnel, bitch. Oh, and my manager thought it was hilarious.
TL;DR: | Asshat old lady is a bitch to me at work, so I gave her enough coins to drown a hobo as change. |
SUBREDDIT: r/Advice
TITLE: Forgive hubby or move on?
POST: So my husband and I have been married for 8 going on 9 years now and he has always been someone who needed that extra attention from people, maybe because he had a low self esteem issue, maybe not. He has a habit of texting/sexting other women which I was extremely upset at when I found out but he apologized and said he wouldn't do it again. This morning I come to find out he is 'seeing' a coworker and has spent time alone with her. I know this includes making out, etc. but probably not sex (I'd like to think he wouldn't go that far). He hides his phone and is shady and I was expecting him to be doing something like this but every time I asked he would vehemently deny it. Now I have proof. What should I do?
He says he is sorry and feels bad about it and wants to end it. I, on the other hand think this is now part of a pattern and don't want to be with someone I cannot trust. I love him he is a great person otherwise but if he truly is happy with someone else I think he should go and let me be free.
TL;DR: | husband cheated on me (making out, probably not sex), has a habit of doing so. What should I do? |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by opening a random subreddit in class.
POST: So today I'm sitting in class like normal looking on some of the normal subreddits I hit up. I'm bored looking through them and say to myself "you know what, lets go for a random sub." Should be no big deal, and I expect something interesting to come up. My seat in class is right in the middle of two big sections. This means that the entire back section can see my screen. I click random and while waiting for it to load I'm paying attention to the lecture. I look back at the screen 5 minutes later and my god... /r/gaycirclejerk . I was so embarrassed and some of the people looked at me like Wtf.
TL;DR: | Tried to open a random sub, ended up opening /r/gaycirclejerk in front of 200 people. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: This girl I'm seeing [23 F] just got out of a four year relationship and told me [27 M] she didn't want to jump into a relationship with me. Does that mean she's down to hook up with other guys?
POST: We started talking less than a month ago and this week we started sleeping with each other. I feel like a couple when we're together but she always telling me it will take a long time for us to be boyfriend and girlfriend. Tonight she went to the club without me so I asked her what was going on between us. She didn't give me a straight answer just that she didn't want to be burdened by a relationship and that we should work on our friendship first. That all sounds good except it could also mean she wants to be with other men too. Her drunk friend told me she has a different boyfriend every month and she has an account on wealthymen.com :(
I lost my virginity to this girl. I've never even kissed anyone else.
TL;DR: | I don't know whether this girl I'm seeing is flaky or not but there are a lot of warning signs. |
SUBREDDIT: r/self
TITLE: To Leave or Not to Leave...
POST: I am a college student nearing graduation with promising job offers but am I wrong to think I'd be better off leaving the U.S. (Not feasible at this time but in the future)? As a nation we seem to be isolated from the rest of the world (TIME articles targeting legitimate world subjects while we receive 'Animal Companions') and our legislature is unable to function let alone consider the interests of anyone besides the wealthy. Congress can't even pass the STOCK Act that would require them to follow the same insider trading laws that all citizens abide by because our legislators are too busy enjoying manipulating markets and increasing their earnings as a result. As a young adult (with admittedly less knowledge compared to others) I realize our Congress is bought by special interest groups, Presidential candidates are bought by political action committees, and I love the foundations of our nation but it is clear this is no longer a government for the people by the people and I see no progress being made towards leveling the playing field. Call me a pessimist but with the amount of money in politics I can't see things improving without drastic measures.
TL;DR: | Corrupt U.S. politics (duh) and I want to leave the U.S. but I'm sure I'm not the only one. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My girlfriend of 5 years (F21) and I (M20) have a kid together but recently broke up. I can't move on, help?
POST: My now ex and I broke up about three months ago. I was blind sided by the break up and thought everything was fine. The problem is I can't move on. We did everything together for
5 years and now I feel lost. We have a son together and every time I contact her to see our son, it brings back all the memories.
I know a lot of advice for breakups is to exercise but her and I were work out partners and every time I go to the gym it reminds me of her.
Anyone been through something similar that can offer advice?
TL;DR: | gf and I broke up but I come in contact with her every week so I can't get her out of my head |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [20F] with my SO [22M] 2 months, something has changed
POST: My SO and I had a wonderful relationship. When we first met things were so perfect. We got on well, had fun and were really into each other. We both tried to think about the other person and take care of them.
Recently he's just stopped making the effort so much. Then, a few days ago, he virtually started ignoring me. We've exchanged a total of four txts in the past week. I don't know what happened but it's really upset me. I feel so empty and I miss him so much.
He's not been acting like the same person I used to know. I almost feel like things between us are already over. I don't even know how to begin fixing this.
TL;DR: | Can* I fix this or do I cut my loses and let him go? Also, if I can fix, *how*? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: 20y/o f need to get out of relationship with 24y/o m but living together & don't have $ to find new place...
POST: I will apologize now for the grammar and misspellings, I am on my phone. As the title suggests, I am in a relationship that has been going downhill for the past year or two and I need out. We have broken up a million times and somehow just can't get apart. I have no social life anymore because of him. He basically trapped me into living with him and I hate my life. He "makes money with no job" and that is totally against my morals. I have told him I want to break up and don't even like him anymore and it's like he doesn't believe me.
I don't know what to do because I basically don't have enough money to get a new apartment on my own. This may be a rant but I can't live like this anymore. He thinks we're going to get married or something but I HATE HIM. I want to kill him every day and myself. He is lazy, worthless and has no goals or aspirations. REDDIT HELP ME!!!!
TL;DR: | I am living with my lazy "boyfriend," who I hate and need OUT. Too broke to find a new place. Help. |
SUBREDDIT: r/Advice
TITLE: Found out about my bio dad almost 6 years ago. Should I reach out?
POST: I'm 24F and I found out a month after my 18th birthday that the father that has been around my whole life isn't actually my biological father. I had just gotten a job and I was looking for my social security card in my personal file cabinet. I found child support papers and a baptism certificate with my birth father's name on it. I confronted my mom and asked who it was and she replied "that's your father. He was my boyfriend and he wanted me to get an abortion when he found out I was pregnant with you. I never told you because you were already messed up." yay for Filipino bluntness.
It was really hard for me to take in. And it still haunts me to this day. August 17th it will be 6 years since I found out about him. I know he has kids. I know nothing about him or his family. I always wished for younger siblings as a kid which makes me wonder which one was conceived each birthday I made that wish.
I want to know if I should reach out to them ever. Or maybe even reach out to him. Since there's 2 sides to every story. If I had cancer that would be my MakeAWish to at least meet his kids.
TL;DR: | [24F] found out at 18 about bio dad. Wondering if I should reach out to him to meet his kids. |
SUBREDDIT: r/loseit
TITLE: [22F] 5'5, 167lbs and Confused for Being Pregnant.
POST: Hey LoseIt,
I recently committed to purchasing a gym pass after a traumatic experience of being confused for being pregnant. As the title says, I'm 5'5 and currently at 167lbs. Now here's a bit of a dilemma:
Although I'm technically overweight, I'm actually pretty muscular naturally as well. I have thick muscled legs and biceps with it's fair share of fat but a big fatty stomach and love handles that surpass my tiny hips. I've always been a little big larger than other kids and am often receiving shocked expressions when I reveal my weight since I'm normally good at hiding my tummy.
After a guest at my hotel kindly yelled out "OOOH GIRL I KNOW THAT WALK. HOW FAR ALONG ARE YOU?", I figured it's really time to get into shape. Problem is I'm not quite sure where to start and what to eat provided my body type. I never really worked out steadily and living the full time desk jockey life.
I want to assume cardio will help me lose the fat and something along the lines of Keto would be the perfect diet for me, but I would love some second opinions, pleaaaase!
TL;DR: | 22, 5'5, 167lbs, confused for being pregnant, signed up for gym membership, need help starting off. |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU By fratting too hard at a hotel
POST: So we were in Chicago for a Model UN conference (college). On the first night, my friend and I ate a bunch of edibles, and then invited the delegation into our room for drinks (mind you, the hotel has a strict no alcohol policy). We then proceed to receive noise complaint after noise complaint, until the hotel night manager decides she's had enough and brings a security guard up to our room. She then starts pounding on the door, at which my my friend and I answer the door. We then proceed to ask her what the matter is, and she says that we're about to be evicted from the hotel. When I go to answer, she cuts in and asks if I'm intoxicated. I say no, just pretty drunk. But then I tell her that I came from a bar, and that it's not against policy to be drunk (all the while, I'm holding a slurpee that is about 30% vodka). My friend then diverts the conversation, but the manager insists that we are being far to loud and that we need to stop immediately. I then inform the manager that "I have it under control, I'm in a frat!" She then has no words, and says that we have to go to sleep immediately, and that one more noise complaint and we will be kicked out immediately. Also, she gives us a fine for $250, the cost of reimbursing this Russian lady down the hall who had been filing all of the noise complaints.
TL;DR: | Hotel manager tells me that I'm being too loud, I tell her it's ok, I'm in a frat |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [23f] with my friend [23M]. I am friends with his ex and don't know how to continue
POST: Hello! I was thinking of posting in r/dating, but thought this might be more appropriate.
I've known this guy for about 4 years at this point and we used to work together. I had a small crush on him, but never went through with anything. About 3 years ago, he started dating this girl, and I completely stopped any feelings I had towards him. I had not met her until earlier this year. In about April of this year (up until September), I would hang out with the two of them and a bunch of other friends (sometimes at bars, sometimes at their place). We hung out multiple times a week.
I have become friends with her, and I really do like her. I was very happy for the two of them. About a month ago, she told me (in person, after bringing him up - he wasn't there, still with a group of friends) that they had broken up. I felt really bad for her and told her if she needed anything, to let me know.
At the same time, I reached out to my friend to see how he was doing. I didn't mean anything by this, except trying to be a good friend. We have been talking ever since. My friends seem to think that he likes me, and I think I like him, but I am afraid of upsetting his ex girlfriend.
I was friends with him way before her, but I feel like I am somehow betraying her.
TL;DR: | Friends with a couple, they break up, and I have a crush on the guy. Don't want to upset the girl. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [19M] have been really shitty to my girlfriend [18F] the past few days and I feel horrible. (Been together for 4.5 years)
POST: My girlfriend and I have been together since high school and she is the biggest sweetheart and such a kindhearted person. I try to be extra gentle with her, especially with what I say, because she is a bit sensitive and I don't want to hurt her feelings.
Three days ago she told me that I've been criticizing her a lot lately and we argued over it to the point I screamed at her and made her cry. Two days ago she had a sporting event and I promised I would be there only to show her up and then blame it on something else. Yesterday she hugged me and told me she loved me and I pulled away and got angry and made her cry. I didn't mean to do any of it and right now she's in our bedroom crying and she told me to give her some space because according to her this is the first time I've ever been so mean... What do I do guys? I love this girl and I feel so bad that I'm about to cry myself.
TL;DR: | Been a douche to my sweet gf who is in the other room crying and wanting space. I need to fix this. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [20/m] don't know how to feel about my "friend" [20/f] who is now 3,000 miles away
POST: My friend and I are both starting our 2nd year at universities on opposite coasts. This friend and I have known each other and were pretty good friends through high school, and this summer she admitted to having had "a huge crush" on me during high school, which blew my mind because I was obsessed with her in high school, despite both of us always dating other people.
Midway through the summer, we went to a movie, went back to my place and hooked up. We continued to hook up for the summer but we also did a ton of coupley things like go on cute day trips and cuddle and watch bad movies. She asked once or twice to make sure we were "just having fun" but it feels to me like there was a lot more than that.
Cut to, we leave for school, we have a long, drawn out goodbye in the pouring rain. We've texted once or twice since I moved back but I just talked on the phone with her, and realized that we had been talking for almost an hour and I didn't even notice! It just felt totally natural.
I guess what I'm saying is I at least have feelings for her and I think she feels the same. We've both been in long-distance relationships that didn't work out and I don't think either of us want to go there again. I don't know what to say to her, if I should say anything at all! Can anyone offer some advice or tell me about a similar situation?
TL;DR: | I think we both have feelings for each other, but are 3,000 miles away from each other. What do? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Mutual Spark or Friend-Zoned (M17)
POST: This is my first reddit post, so cut me some slack. About a month and a half ago I broke up with my girlfriend(F17) of about a year over a multitude of things. Since then, a. lady friend that I've had for years has been talking to me. Naturally, I've built some affection for her, but she sends mixed signals. We talk daily and she gets upset when she can't sit next to me in social situations, yet certain things she's said and done have led to me believe that I've simply been friend zoned. For instance, last year (prior to my relationship) she was made aware that I had minor feelings for her and a few weeks ago we talked about it. I lied and said that those feeli gs had subdued because I knew they probably weren't mutual and her response was that she understood but was glad I hadn't pursued her. But then she ended the conversation by saying you should never apologize for your feelings. So that's a shit situation. Another one, recently we made group plans to go see Christmas lights. I was psyched to get some evening time with her even in a group. But yesterday she said we should include my ex's best friend and my ex. (X and I are okay socially). Part of me thinks if a woman likes you, she wouldn't want to invite his ex around. I'm certain I've been friend zoned. Any sliver of chance, men and women of reddit?
TL;DR: | I like shy girl, can't tell if I've been friend zoned, or low self esteem has just made me doubtful |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [25 F] with my EX [25 M] had sex with me, then dumped me again.
POST: I'm sorry for spelling mistakes. I'm in too much pain right now.
We broke up 1 week ago, I accepted it and we talked like friends. Yesterday he asked if he could visit me, in only 1 hour and a half, he managed to have sex w me. I didn't want that because I didn't want to be his Fwb or sth. But I still have feelings for him and then I agreed.
I felt sth wrong so I asked him to come by my house to talk. He agreed and right after he came, one of his pretty friends called him to have a coffee with her, he agreed to meet her in an hour. So he had planned to meet me in only half an hour. That's what he treated a free prostitute like me.
And after I told him my feeling, he decided to no contact w me again. And he continued blaming me for my past mistakes that lead to this result. He said he had no fault at all.
I'm crying. I dont know how could I chose him in the 1st place. I should have listened to my friends and my mom to break up with him 1 year ago. I feel so stupid and painful right now.
TL;DR: | my( 25F) EX [25 M] had sex with me, then dumped me again. How not to feel self-worthless ? |
SUBREDDIT: r/self
TITLE: Do you think I am too soft?
POST: I came back home from college today and was with my mom and brother. We stopped at one of these side of the road flower stands, and I stayed in the car that my mom left unlocked (its a more rural area, like it was a house and a farm and fields).
So I was just sitting there, when all the sudden this lady comes up and starts to open the passenger door (I'm in the back and the windows are tinted). She then just quickly grabbed a bunch of cash from the front and left didn't see me. I opened the door and just said "hey hey!" loudly, she handed it back to me quickly said "I'm sorry" got in her car, and sped away. I told my mom and brother when they came back, and they were furious went and warned the flower shop etc.
Though, I just kind of felt sorry for the lady. She looked like she was on some sort of drug, and I just kind of think more of what her struggle is rather than getting justice. What is going on in her life that she's breaking in to cars stealing money. I mean, she did give it back and said sorry, but breaking into a car and stealing is wrong.
My mom and brother acted like I was too soft, saying "fuck her! whats wrong with people!" but idk, wanted to see what Reddit thought of this.
TL;DR: | Lady tried to rob money from our car, she gave it back and said sorry, and I felt sorry for her. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: I (18M) hate drinking, my girlfriend (17F) just started and lately has been doing it a lot. How do I get past it?
POST: I hope I'm in the right place for this as I have never posted here. My girlfriend and I bonded over the fact that we were both in high school and not drinking. (Not just that, but it was one of the things I loved about us.) Anyways, recently she started hanging out with a friend That got her to drink, and she's slowly doing it more often and more often. She knows I hate it, but kinda just does it without bringing it up. I really don't know why I hate drinking so much, I just find it trashy going out to just get fucked up. I can't risk getting caught because I'm on the fire department, and would be removed, so getting drunk is out of the question to understand where she's coming from. How can I deal with this? How can I make it so it isn't as big of a deal as I make it? I love her (I know, teenage love, we're probably not gonna make it, date other people, ect.)
TL;DR: | My girlfriend who never use to drink, is now drinking. How do I stop it from bothering me so much? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My ex [29 M] is still living in my [23 F] apartment on the couch, refuses to leave because he's on the lease
POST: We had been dating for 2.5 years. Back in July, I broke up with him. He moved on to the couch and started paying me rent the next month. I told him that I would prefer he not live here. I was told to be respectful since he was on the lease. We signed the lease in April for 13 months (with only my salary to qualify as he didn't have a steady job and hadn't since before we started dating). All bills are in my name.
Now, about 3 months later, this is getting to be a more difficult living situation for me. I've made it very clear I am unhappy with the arrangement, but he refuses any options to go stay on a friend's couch or at his parents'. Part of that is related to not wanting to ask favors and part of that is needing good internet to do the job he has now (telecommuting). He won't look for an apartment elsewhere either because he "loves this location".
I have never lived with someone else before and, consequently, never needed to deal with this kind of predicament. I'd love any advice on how I might go about removing myself from the lease, moving to a different unit while transferring my utility services and allowing him to initiate his own.
TL;DR: | Ex won't leave, so I want advice on how to adult/what steps I need to take to move elsewhere. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I[25/M]have a huge crush on this girl[26/F] who's going to leave the country in a month.
POST: So far in my life, there was only a one girl that I got truly interested in and had a relationship. It was ended about a year ago and a few weeks ago I had a similar kind of an interest towards another girl that I met at a party.
We just had a chat that day for about half an hour - which led to nowhere, just boring day-to-day stuff.
The bad news is that she leaves the country for further studies. - to US, in three weeks, which is about 8000 miles from where I am.
Mutual friends in our network saw that we were talking for a time that's a little bit too much and now they want me to make a move.
I did nothing other than a facebook request.
I understand that going to US will open up herself to a plethora of opportunities over there. And I don't want to 'lock' her to me within the following three weeks (say if I succeeded).
She's been single for three years now. And the legend says there's a force field around her that defaults her answer to 'NO' for every guy - for unknown reasons.
I want to take this slow. I'm okay with a Long distance relationship. Anyone out there who had a similar situation and made it through? What's the plan you'd suggest?
Thanks!
TL;DR: | I have a crush on a girl who's about to leave the country in a month. What should be my approach? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Thinking of popping the question soon but gf for 5 years (24) mentioned recenty she really doesn't want kids and I do (m 25).
POST: My girlfriend (F 24) and I (M 25) have been dating for over 5 years and I love her a lot. She makes me a better person and I really want to spend the rest of my life with her. Recently she mentioned she doesn't really ever want to have kids and we spoke about it. She says that she just doesn't feel anything for it and she wants to focus on doing bigger things with her life. Basically that she just doesn't have a desire to have kids (biological or adopted). The problem is I really do. I was going to pop the question in a few months and now I don't know what to do. Anyone ever been in a similar situation?
TL;DR: | gf of five years doesn't ever want to have kids and I do. Popping the question soon. What do I do?? |
SUBREDDIT: r/dogs
TITLE: Help! Dog limping, and wont walk in back, left leg.
POST: I was on my way home from running a few errands, and left my dog (Great Pyrenees ) outside (as usual), I have a pretty big, fenced in yard,and found him to be laying down in my yard. He is not such an active dog, so I called for him to come inside, I noticed he was limping and wouldn't put pressure on his back leg. After investigating on what he problem was, I came to no conclusion, however, I noticed It had rained the day before and my dog was muddy and I saw a paw print in the ground that looked like me dog slipped. He shows almost no signs of pain but won't move it. I have a vet appointment set up in the morning. My family is not such a wealthy one and might night be able to afford anything if it comes down to surgery. HELP, I don't want to put down my dog, he is vary nice and peaceful, my mini dachshund wouldn't know what to do with her self if he passed.
TL;DR: | My dog is limping and won't put pressure on back, hind leg. he shows almost no signs of pain. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: (update)Now my MOTHER is refusing to come. I(25f) am getting married and one of my brothers(23m) refuses to come if the other one does(23m). Help?
POST: I read all of your invites and decided to invite both brothers and just persuade Tripp to come and Brant to be on his best/least smirking behavior and wash my hands of it. Well, that was my intention...
Before I could do so my mom called and was furious. Tripp had told her he might not go. My dad divorced her last year for his latest woman and she gave up passively tolerating Brant after that. She sees no reason why Brant should be invited when it will upset Tripp. She was screaming and furious.
When that didn't work she tried to cajole (It will be awkward having him there, do you want to explain to everyone why you have two brothers who are the same age and not twins? You know Brant will cause a scene, he is incapable of being selfless), bribe (Wouldn't you like a longer honeymoon? How about a brand new car?), and then she threatened.
She said if I chose my father's son over hers and invite Brant she wouldn't go at all. She has been texting me incredibly hurtful things since and I have no idea what to do :/ If the wedding weren't already paid for, I would happily run away at this point. it's been nothing but bad since.
Help?
TL;DR: | now my mother is going to boycott my wedding is Brant is invited. Fml, maybe I should elope. |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by trying to clean my ears
POST: So last night I got really high with some friends, and after they left I played some League before watching netflix and heading to bed. Mid League session I can feel the wax in my ears and if I press on the part of the ear that closest to your face I could feel it stick a little so I knew there was a decent amount of earwax. I get my q tips but I'm still trying to play, and when I get the chance I start trying to clean my ears. A little time passes and as I went to put another q tip in my ear I got ambushed and just jammed it in my ear to try to react.
Being high my reaction was super late and died anyway, but now my ear hurt really bad. I didn't realize it until I woke up this morning, and I couldn't hear anything in my right ear. I did some googling and I'm assuming I got earwax stuck. Just now I left my dorm to go to CVS to get earwax removal drops and they aren't working so I don't know what to do now.
TL;DR: | Jammed a q-tip into my ear and now earwax is stuck and I can't hear in 1 ear. |
SUBREDDIT: r/dogs
TITLE: [Help] Advice about dog parks
POST: I have a 14 lb, 1-year-old Rat terrier (Maggie) who has endless amounts of energy. Currently, we live in a 1 bedroom apartment and she's pretty chill most of the time when we're inside...but then she gets these random bursts of energy and turns into Speedy Gonzales running laps around the apartment like a madman.
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Maggie is great on leash too and thanks to Pokemon Go she's been going on walks daily for 3-4 hours with lots of time for smelling. Usually, my husband and I go together so I bring the fanny pack with treats to work on her manners during these walks. Unfortunately, we can't go running due to health issues.
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Honestly, she's a very well trained dog and very friendly with other dogs (good manners). But her terrier instincts get the better of her and her recall sucks. Is going to the dog park ok? and will it wear her out more? Obviously with all the games, training, walking we do with her she's not worn out and I'm looking for a new outlet for her to spend her energy. My husband and I are both in college and can't afford doggy daycare, so that's out of the question. Any thoughts/suggestions? Thanks!
TL;DR: | Dog sucks at recall, but is it okay to go to a fenced dog park to let her release her extra energy? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My Fiancee [21/F] wants to have a MMF threesome. I [22/M] am hurt and don't understand the fantasy.
POST: We've been together 7 months.
I can understand the appeal of "two ~~chicks~~ dudes at the same time, man". Having two hot chicks do sexy things to me would be a memorable experience to be sure! However, I see it as something one does while single where the chance of confused feelings/someone getting deeply hurt is minimal/nonexistent. She's brought it up twice over the course of our relationship and both times I've voiced being uncomfortable/hurt about it.
I want my fiancee to feel fulfilled sexually but I also do not want to feel inadequate. Is it wrong to feel inadequate about this? She says that it's not that my sexual attentions are insufficient, but that having two people focusing their sexual attention on her would be a more intense experience. I have trouble coming to grips with that. How are my attentions not insufficient if there is a more intense experience available? I don't think I could look at my fiancee giving another guy's dick attention and not be immensely hurt by the experience.
Could someone please explain to me the mentality behind the fantasy? I want to understand her perspective.
TL;DR: | Fiancee wants two dudes at the same time. I'm confused and hurt by the idea of it. Wat do? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I (21F) am going on a first date with (22m). Advice?
POST: We met at a singles night and talked for a couple of hours, and really hit it off. We have a date (or what I called a "meetup") on Sunday and I don't really know what to do.
The only time I've been on a first date before was with my first bf who I met online and then in real life. This one is more traditional but seeing as we're both young I don't know how traditional it will be.
We're meeting in the city at lunchtime, but I'm not even sure if it's a real date. We hugged when we said goodbye at the party but that could mean anything. Advice?
TL;DR: | Met a guy at a party, and we're going on a "meetup" Thai weekend. Is it a date? Advice? |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: a difficult decision...
POST: First a little background, I lived where I am now for more than half of my life my dad got a promotion and we moved to Houston for about 6 months and had rented out our house. My parents then got a divorce and me, my mom, and younger brother moved back in to our old house this past February. then my dad asked to get transferred to New Orleans so he can be closer to us (this was in September). My mom can no longer afford our old house so she is moving to a smaller place, in the same town, and selling our house. She said I'm more than welcome to move with her which i was going to do until my dad called and asked me to move in with him. So my choices are stay in town or go to N.O the pros of moving are that i would no longer have to put up with my brothers bullshit( we have issues), nicer area, more opportunities better for my mom financially , cons are not as close to my father as i am with my mother and have to find a new job and general moving into a new area right now im at 60%/40% in favor of moving to N.O
TL;DR: | stay in town with mom and keep my job or go to N.O to live with my dad and have to find a new one |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I(17) like a girl(17)i went out with once,but have talked with almost every day on facebook for 6 months.Do i tell her now,or wait,and have more dates?
POST: Basically,I have a girl-friend,which has known me for 6 months.We talk on facebook almost every day,but we have gone out only once.It is because i live in czech republic,but had to leave frequently to my home country,for small times,and basically,i don't know czech that well,and i am kind of afraid of going out with her again,and telling her i feel.I really like her,she is a geek,like myself,we enjoy the same games,we enjoy the same cartoons,same movies,same music.I am fairly sure she likes me aswell.
Reddit,do i go out with her for a few more dates,before telling her,or should i tell her now?
TL;DR: | I have a girl-friend,which i like,but do not know,should i tell her now,or later? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My (24f) Bf (25m) wants us to lose weight
POST: I am 5'3" and I weigh 123 lbs. My bf is 5'8" and 165 lbs. I think it's safe to say neither of us are really overweight. We go the gym twice or thrice in a week and try to eat healthy few days of the week.
When I go to the gym, I end up biking for 45 mins for my entire workout. He on the other hand, runs two miles and does some lifting to build upper body muscles.
Now my point is I go the gym to get fit and tone myself. I do not want to lose any weight. If by toning myself, I lose weight, that's fine by me. But I'm not actively trying to lose any. My bf thinks for us to be healthier we need to lose 5-10 lbs. He keeps suggesting more strenuous exercises, but I am happy with my biking regimen. This has caused some tension between us as he has continuously brought up his opinion on the matter.
Should I think about changing my routine and diet to help us both lose 5-10 lbs even though I don't believe it's necessary?
TL;DR: | My boyfriend wants us to lose 5-10 lbs to be "healthier" but I think I am fine. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me 28F with my new BF 32M, not sure how to initiate anything
POST: Hello redditors!
I got out of a long boring relationship that was headed no where fast after I found out he wae cheating on me in Jan.
In April, I met this phenomenal guy who unexpectedly instantly took my breath away and made me wonder why I'd ever wasted time with anyone else. We've hung out 2 mos now, and recently became an official couple.
Through a family member of his, I found out he's extremely crazy for me, and doesn't want to mess things up by going faster than I'm ready for ever and is scared, essentially. So, we have yet to make out. We kiss a lot, and have had sleepovers and stuff, but havent made out or had sex. Well, I wanna freaking make out with him, damnit. But its been a LONG time, and I also dont wanna freak him out...sooo how do I properly initiate something like this? Sounds pathetic even asking....
TL;DR: | used to old boring bf, have new bf, wanna initiate stuff because he's too scared to. Not sure how? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: [22F] and [29M] Should I *wait* for my boyfriend to return the feelings I have for him?
POST: My boyfriend and I have been dating for a little over 2 months. We recently had "the talk" about our relationship. He expressed that he was not in love with me, but it's possible that he could be in the future.
The reason why this is a dilemma for me is that I want more out of the relationship (more love, energy, affection, commitment, etc.). And at the moment, I would consider our relationship to be in a constant state of uncertainty. How can you tell if you're a placeholder in someone's life until somebody better comes along?
If I break it off now, I'll have a better chance of getting out of this without too much of a scratch (emotionally). If I stay, there's a good chance I could get hurt.
TL;DR: | I am ready to jump in emotionally. He is not. Should I wait and keep trying, or jump ship? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I(24F) don't want to look threatening to my best friend's(24M) gf(23F?).
POST: Me and my buddy K have been super close friends since our freshman year of college (5 years) since we were both comp sci majors at a small college. He had a gf back then but she was alright with me and they broke up a year or so after I met him. Since then he's been single till now with just a few dates here and there.
I'm sorta insecure since most my friends are males (due to my interests) and they tend to get told to not hang with me by their gfs when they get them. Its happened numerous times in the past.
I have just shrugged it off in the past but K is my closest friend and the person other than my bf(dating for 4 years) that I hang out with the most. Is there something I can do or say to this girl if this pops up or should I just fade into the background and chalk it up to not being a loyal enough friend?
Any suggestions would be appreciated. If you need more info let me know. Thank you! :)
TL;DR: | I am worried my best friends gf will tell him not to hang witg me like other friend's gfs have. |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Today I found out I have a $3,600 bill due but only have $450 in my bank account. What the hell am I suppose to do, Reddit?
POST: I recently withdrew from college because I wasn't happy being there at all. However, I withdrew during the third week which means I owe the school around half the tuition for the semester. I accepted full coverage in loans so I thought everything was squared away when I left. Then I found out they did a recalculation of my loans and took away all coverage except for $530 so now my balance is $3,675. I don't qualify for another loan and my parents don't have the money to help me out. I have a job bussing at a restaurant but it's not good money and I barely have any hours. I've been looking for another but business is slow in my town as everything thrives off summer tourists.
TL;DR: | Withdrew from school, have no loan coverage, no job and no money. Now I owe $3,675. |
SUBREDDIT: r/dating_advice
TITLE: How would you ask this girl out?
POST: Ok so there's a girl named let's say Blondie and she's very pretty, I've known her vaguely throughout my life, she's only gotten prettier and prettier. So much so that I've always thought of her as out of my league, very outgoing, dropdead gorgeous. I'm not head over heels in love with this girl, but recently she has seemed just a little extra friendly in class, but I've steered clear from her for the most part, not thinking she'd actually be interested. But today so I figure why the hell not? I'll ask her out. I asked her in class what she was doing this weekend, she said working, until Monday, which she made sure to make clear she's dreading because she has nothing to do... I almost asked her out right there to a simple movie date or something, but I figured she works a minute from home, I'll do it more personally there (she works at a sno cone stand, so I don't feel like it's too unprofessional) anyways my question is simply... How would you ask this bubbly sno cone girl out, cleverly. Something that I can do before/during/after purchasing a snow cone that's more interesting than just saying "soooo, you wanna go to the movies with me Monday?"
TL;DR: | want a clever way to ask a cute, bubbly girl out who is going to be working at a sno-cone stand |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My [22 F] SO [23 M] of 2.5 yrs is thoughtful and generous. I suck at taking care of people. How do I balance the scales in this relationship?
POST: My boyfriend is an amazing person. I mean really freaking amazing. I've never been the kind of person who needed help to do things, but he's always taking care of me: getting me lunch when I'm busy working, doing my laundry with his and folding it for me, sometimes even making me brownies just because! I feel completely and totally spoiled and even though I've insisted that I don't need him to do these things for me, he always says he enjoys doing it because he loves me.
Sometimes I worry, though, that I'm a parasite in this relationship. He gives and cares for me so easily and freely, but I've never been that kind of person. I wouldn't say I'm completely selfish (I happily share and do things for him when opportunities present themselves), but I'm definitely not particularly thoughtful. I sometimes seek out opportunities to treat him, but am more often on cruise control. I want to return all the favours, but I'm a moron and, even when I actively think about it, I can't come up with anything I can do for him!
What can I do to show my partner how much I care? I'm worried that he deserves better than me and I want to be worthy of all he does for me.
TL;DR: | As the title says, my boyfriend's a giver and I'm on cruise control. How can I ever pay him back? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My[25M] ex[f24] cheated on me. It was a year back. I can't move on.
POST: My ex cheated on me during our relationship. Twice. First with her ex a year into the relationship. I forgave her. Next, a year later with a co worker. What followed was a shit storm of emotional confusion, me telling her shit and then apologising later when she was hurt. It's been a year. I should have moved on by now but I haven't. I have tried to be rude with her. Doesn't work. I feel so terrible later that I end up calling her and apologising. I have tried to forgive her and tell her it was all my fault (in a desperate attempt to get her out of my life). This made me feel pathetic and I feel terrible. The worst catch 22 in my life ever. A year after the breakup, I'm still emotionally tangled. I texted her today and told her that I want her out of life for at least 3-4 years (after convincing her how what happened wasn't entirely her fault and that she's a nice person blah blah. For those judging, I know that's pathetic)
I can't stand the fact that she might call or try to get in touch again. I value my time and don't want to waste even a second more on her. I just want some peace in my life. I want to be able to breathe normally, enjoy sun and rain and my life. And be able to work without worry. Any practical, workable solution to this conundrum reddit, please?
TL;DR: | Ex cheated. Twice. That was a year ago. And I still haven't been able to lose contact. I feel weak. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [19F] with my boyfriend [22M] 1 1/2 years, how to get my boyfriend to clean up around the house.
POST: My boyfriend and I have been living together for 5 months now and he's way too messy for me to handle. He leaves cans, bags, plates and silverware out after eating. He won't do any of the house work like laundry (neither his own or both of ours) and it's a hassle getting him to take out the trash or do his dishes. I don't know what to do. I've told him i don't appreciate how messy he is and he either responds very immaturely (Him: "Thanks, mom.") or just doesn't do it. I go to work 5 days out of the week and go to school 4 days so my schedule is crazy. I get home a lot of the times at 1 AM. I try my best to do my side of the work although it gets tricky with me. I don't have time to clean up after him though and i don't want to. I still wan't to live with him but he is impossible, what should I do?
TL;DR: | My boyfriend is a slob that won't do his side of the work. How can i get him to clean? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me and my ex gf are talking again. I want to try again but not sure how to get there
POST: We broke up a few months back. Im 22/m shes 24/f and we dated for a little over a year. I took it hard practically begging her to come back after she left me and started talking to another guy.
That guy treated her like shit and after about a month of no contact she called me. She said she'd been sending me text every now and then but I didn't get them because I blocked her from pretty much everything. She said she just needed someone to be there for her and I was ok with that.
I didn't want to have another relationship with her originally. I know I love the girl but I just don't want to go through the same thing. But now I really do think that I want to. But I think I'm friend zoned. Like she called me babe a couple weeks ago and then hasn't done it since. Idk what to do or what steps to take.
I told her I still love her. I basically poured my heart out. Do I just wait now?
TL;DR: | ex gf and I have been talking for a little over a month now and I want to try again. What do I do? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I (19M) support myself in every aspect. My parents (MF40s) get angry with me when I do things they don't approve of. How should I handle this?
POST: This particular instance was caused because I withdrew from community college to take a good job opportunity with benefits I'm still taking classes in the spring. They found out last night and have been trying to contact me. I've been ignoring them because they will just comment on how stupid it is without listening to my reasoning. Finally I responded after they threatened to come to my apartment and bombard my and my girlfriends phone with texts and calls. Honestly I don't want to seem like a bad person but I dont really feel any connection to them. I mean I respect them for supplying me with food and shelter but that's about where their parenting stopped. Anytime I had a problem I went to my friends they always felt like my actual family, but my parents guilt trip me whenever I say that. I'm not sure how to handle the situation I don't want to take away from what they've done for me but I want to live my own life.
TL;DR: | I don't feel connected to my parents and want to live my own life, but don't want to hurt anyone. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: [24/m] Been talking to a girl (26/f) a good six months or so, however, out of nowhere, she stopped texting back. What should I do, if anything? Should I just let it go and get on with my life.
POST: So I'd been talking to this girl a lot over my time in college, and we were doing great via long distance, talking about life, all that good stuff. We had a lot in common: videogames, relying on our parents, being generally awkward, all sorts of stuff.
But when I got back home and we went on another date, things got awkward, which was mostly my fault. I was supposed to meet her for a date a few weeks ago, but my Dad's birthday came up and things had to be changed around. Eventually, though, I text her back and she doesn't respond. I admittedlly sent her a voicemail message saying that I may have screwed up and if she'd like to be friends.
All of this said, is there any way to keep her in my life even if we just stay friends?
TL;DR: | Met girl, grew together while away, grew apart while close. NOt responding to texts. What do I do? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [15m] with my new girlfriend [16f] -- doesn't want me to tell her brother [15m] we're dating but he's my best friend
POST: kind of dumb teenage drama, but i need advice and can't go to my older siblings because they'd tell everyone. basically, to start off, i've grown up with my gf -- Anna -- and best friend -- Liam. our dads are best friends and our older brothers are actually engaged. me and Liam were always hella close and we still do just about everything together
now Liam knows that i had a crush on Anna. (pretty much everybody does... i'm not very subtle haha). i hadn't asked her out because i wasn't sure that she'd have feelings for me because we did grow up together. until her friend straight up told me that i needed to ask her out, i probably wouldn't have done it
Liam knows that Anna and i were hanging out. we went to a baseball game since my dad had gotten tickets from a friend (i'm not a sports fan, but Anna is). we had a great time and she kissed me after driving me home. she was the one that suggested us being boyfriend and girlfriend, but she made me swear that i wouldn't tell Liam
i get why Anna is hesitant. she and Liam have two older brothers who are about ten years older and very protective. she's sure that Liam is going to react the same way, but i don't think he is. even if he does though, i can't exactly lie to my best friend
TL;DR: | dating my best friend's sister and she doesn't want me to tell him, but i'm not cool lying to him |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: How I [16 M] should deal with being friend zoned by my crush [15 F]
POST: I've been friends with this really pretty girl in my school and we text a lot and talk a lot in school and she thinks I'm funny and cool. Well, I asked her friend if I should ask the girl out to Jprom and she went ahead and jokingly brought it up to her and the girl just laughed and said "uhh no" and then the girl's friend told me how she doesn't like me that way and isn't interested in relationships etc. The thing is though I get really emotionally attached to people and its just gonna feel like shit that I'm pretty much in a "friendzone" every time I talk to her. I tried ignoring her for the past two days but her friend brought it up to me saying "She thinks you're being an ass for ignoring her and thinks it's weird". What should I do? I don't want to be in a relationship where I'm emotionally invested but only seen as "that friend".
TL;DR: | I like this girl, she friend zoned me. I ignore her, she thinks I'm being an ass. What should I do? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [00 M/F] with my ___ [00 M/F] duration, short-description
POST: So this girl and I are pretty close friends at school, I like her, but I don't know is she likes me, but we are still pretty close.
Recently though, she just ignores me, and other times she just comes to me and starts talking to me like everything's fine. For example, my friends and I are talking at Brunch (High School term for "recess") and she just joins our conversation. I'm ok with that, but when I try to approach her or talk to her, she just loses interest in our conversation and tries to end the conversation quickly.
When I try to say "Hi" to her in the hallways, she just ignores me. Like completely. As if I'm invisible. On the other hand, we chat on Facebook 24/7. I don't think that she is embarrassed being seen with me, because we used to hang out at Brunch and Lunch.
At this point, I just don't know what to do I'm not sure if I'm being too pushy, she just needs time by herself, and I'm pretty sure I have not done anything to piss her off. Or she's trying to friend zone me, but I still want to reach a mutual consensus with her. Please help me put with my situation. Thank you!
I am a High School Freshmen male.
TL;DR: | I like girl. Girl is friend with me. Girl now ignores me. Why? Please read above :) ^^^^ |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by pissing on my work uniform
POST: Not that it really matters, but this actually happened a few years ago while I was working at a grocery store.
So, I'm working as a seafood clerk and, as part of my uniform, have an apron on. I take my dinner break and, before heading downstairs to resume my shift, decide I need to take a piss. I should also mention that I'm a bit tired and the fluorescent lighting in the store was not helping me keep my eyes open and my mind sharp.
Standard procedure, zip down the fly on my jeans and pull my apron to the side. Everything is fine for a few seconds until I somehow let go of my apron and start pissing all over it and also partially on the button area of my jeans (because of back spray). Thankfully, no one else was in the employee bathroom while I was and I was able to clean up.
I went back downstairs to the seafood counter and convinced my boss that I had forgot my apron at home, even though she saw me with it on earlier that shift.
TL;DR: | Took a piss at work while wearing an apron and ended up pissing on my apron and jeans by accident. |
SUBREDDIT: r/running
TITLE: Would the smaller woman's Garmin Forerunner 10 fit a man's wrist? I just like green...
POST: Or would it just look awkward? I just don't care for black/red. 5'8", 165 lbs.
**Just wanted to update.**
I ordered the green one on Amazon, got it 5 days before the estimated free shipping delivery, and it does indeed fit great. The actual watch part (face?) is nearly exactly the same size as my men's Timex Expedition digital watch, which you can see first hand at any Walmart. So, there's no worries about it looking awkwardly small. My wrist takes up 9 holes on the band, with 5 remaining. I'd say my wrists are a little below average (bony, skinny) for a man, so that might be a sizing concern if you're above average in wrist size. The band itself is a bit less wide than my Timex, and does stand out a bit to me, but I don't think it'll cut or anything.
TL;DR: | The watch size is fine for a man, but the band size might be a concern if you're over 200lbs. |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by forgetting I am schizofrenic
POST: So... I was just minding my own buisness, walking down the streets, when I realized I had forgotten to call my girlfriend to tell her I was going to go out with my friends. So, naturally, I take out my cell phone and I called her cellphone. Something fell weird, but when she answered it, I just started talking, like a complete retard. "Hey, darling, I will go out with my friends and we'll be back by midnight, OK?" Something was defenitively wrong. "OK, I guess." Anxious to know what was wrong, I quickly said "Love you babe. Cya." Halfway downroad, I realized what was wrong. I am a disorganized schizofrenic, which basically means my head is a mess, and I also hear some voices when I am really stressed out. Anyway, I also have some weird, fake illusions. The girl I just called, whom I belived was my girlfriend, was my crush, and I was fantasizing about her being in a relationship with me for some days. Anyway, now I have to tell her that I am schizofrenic, and that will probably mean a bad ending.
TL;DR: | Called my crush, whom I thought was my girlfriend, told her I love her. Fuck schizofrenia. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: I'm (f/24) afraid I'm going to lose my best friend (m/27)
POST: So I've been living with my boyfriend for 2 years, we've been dating for close to 4 years, I love him more than anything. A year ago we decided to get an apartment with his brother (m/28) because he was down on his luck and we felt bad for him.
Now it's almost a year later and I didn't really like him to begin with. He's messy, careless and barely pays any rent/utilities. In addition to that he's like a little tag-along..which drives me crazy... he tags along grocery shopping and the gym, etc. I feel like I have nothing left. It's pretty sad when I look forward to grocery shopping because we can spend some time without him...and now I don't even have that. I've mentioned it to my boyfriend but he just says "Well, he's my brother..."
I just feel like all my boyfriend and I fight about right now is his brother. He went on vacation for a week and we didn't fight once. And now his brother has started being even more of a douche...to the point that I told my boyfriend that I don't want to live with him anymore. My boyfriend is now upset with me because he feels like I'm asking him to choose between myself and his family. I love my boyfriend more than anything and I don't want him to feel like that but I don't know if I can stand to live with his brother anymore. It's tearing us apart. I don't know what to do. Any suggestions?
TL;DR: | Don't want to live with bf's brother, bf feels like he has to choose between me and family. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: [22/f] My SO [24/m] is always making "helpful" little suggestions...
POST: This argument started yesterday because of our mirror in the bathroom that can extend off the wall, he came out of the bathroom specifically to tell me that I need to remember to put it back when I'm done using it, which he's told me many times before and 9 times out of ten I do, he just feels the need to remind me everytime it happens. There are many other instances where he does things to "remind" me to do stuff like throwing garbage directly into the bin with out a garbage bag in it if I forgot to put one back in when I took the old one out. How do you suggest I deal with this? He's driving me up the walls! I understand that I do forget things from time to time but he acts like he never does, these are little things that don't matter to me but seem to infuriate him. I just don't know what to say to him anymore without it starting a huge argument. I don't want to be a doormat and just "yes dear" everything he says. Advice?
TL;DR: | Boyfriend makes alot of "suggestions" for things I need to do around the house. Drives me nuts. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: How do I [20 M/F] know if it's okay to break my three year relationship with my boyfriend [20 M/F]?
POST: My boyfriend and I have been dating for 2 2/3 years. I don't love him passionately, but he loves me to the ends of the earth. He loves and accepts 110% of me, but I don't make sacrifices for him (he makes them for me), he's a bit low on my priority list, and I'm just overall selfish. I think I've been too spoiled by him (this doesn't mean he's perfect either, but no one is).
Anyhow, I know I love him (enough to cry thinking about breaking up), but I don't know if he's "the one" for me.
Part of me really wants to do this for him because I'm 90% of his life-- he depends on me for his happiness, which I don't think is very healthy. I also want to gain some independence myself.
Am I being stupid? Will I be okay? Will I find someone I fully love passionately? Or should I stay? I do truly care for and love him, I just don't think I love him like he deserves to be loved.
TL;DR: | I don't love my boyfriend passionately, but he loves me so much. Do I break up with him or not? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [22M] and my problem [20F]'
POST: So, this girl, M, and I went out for a while. Maybe a month. Maybe more.
We were fine. But she had just gotten out of a relationship. A crappy one. She didn't want me to be her rebound or something. So we stopped seeing each other for a bit.
She messages me about a week ago, and we agree to meet up.
When we met up, everything was back to the way it was even we were together. So I asked her if it would be okay for us to go watch a movie as friends.
I made this perfectly clear. FRIENDS.
She agreed. We watched the movie on Valentine's Day. As friends.
Afterwards, she started touching me more. Like moving my hair out of my face and bringing her face close to mine whenever we stood in a line.
I took her home that night. And she kissed me. I told her that I liked the way things were. As friends. And THAT I didn't want to fuck anything up.
She said, "don't think negatively."
So we continued to see each other after that. Eventually doing all the things we did before.
This happens for a good week or more.
Then her friends ask us, "so, what are you guys?"
I waited for her to answer. But she didn't. So I said we were friends. Cos I didn't want her feeling like she had to label what we were.
Though I'm not in any way trying to just mess around with her, I kind of want her to be sure that this is what she wants this time.
TL;DR: | I think I'm the fuck buddy of a girl I really like. But she won't tell me what we are. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [25 M] have never been in a relationship before. Is this odd?
POST: My bad in advance if this is in the wrong section, but you folks should be able to clear a few things up.
Anyways... I've never had a gf, but I'm always told that "That's impossible!". I'm always asked if women ever approach me, or check me out, and I haven't ever noticed it. I'm not sad, or depressed about ever not having one. Quite happy actually, but I will admit that I tend to sleep around. Commitment may be something I should try working on at some point. I know the traditional approach has been for the guys to make the move, but I'm simply too lazy and have always expected someone to make it happen. Am I wrong to think like this, or that an expectation is set for someone like myself to have been in a relationship before?
TL;DR: | I'm 25, and never had a gf. Everyone says I'm crazy, or that it's just weird. Is it? |
SUBREDDIT: r/Pets
TITLE: So my cat has started eating her own poop....
POST: We've had this cat for almost 2 years. She is approximately 5 years old. I came home from work a couple of weeks ago and I hear this strange noise coming from under the table. I look below to find my cat in a hunched position and about to throw up onto our rug. I pull her out onto the tiled area and she throws up what looks and smells like poop. She continued to stagger around the house vomiting some more, but no more poop. Today. I find her in the bathroom about to throw up on our bath mat. I pull her again to the tiled area and she throws up poop again. She tried to walk onto carpeted area to continue throwing, but I kept redirecting her to tiled area. She threw up some more, but once again, no poop this time.
I don't know why she suddenly feels the need to eat her own feces. But she has never eaten anything inappropriate before, and any insight/advice/experiences would be great.
TL;DR: | My cat eats her own poop, tries to throw up where there's carpeting, and throws it up. Help?? |
SUBREDDIT: r/Pets
TITLE: Hi r/pets, my dog is sick and I have no idea what to do.
POST: Basically starting from the last two or three days my dog began to throw up his very frequently (around once or twice a day). The throw up is very watery and will usually have some leftover food bits in it. He is also very lethargic and practically sleeps or just lays on his bed the whole day now. He still responds when I call him up and is eager to go for walks but either than that he does nothing.
Also I probably can't take him to the vet (why else would I be here) because both of my parents are unemployed right now and I don't think we can afford it (but I'm sure if he is in dire need they will take him) and my dad, who usually does most of our families "stuff", is currently out of the country and may not be back for some time.
My dog is a 13 years old and is a mainly a Beagle.
I appreciate you for taking the time to read this and any opinions or advice you have to offer.
TL;DR: | My 13 year old Beagle is throwing up a lot and I probably won't be able to take him to a vet. |
SUBREDDIT: r/personalfinance
TITLE: College Debt Question
POST: Am I making a mistake in going to a University that will put me in $50,000 - $60,000 of debt? It is a state school, and I would be paying in state tuition. My father is paying for room and board, and some misc expenses, and I am responsible for books and tuition. The school has great placements in co-ops and internships so I am going to pursue them to avoid taking out the higher range of the estimated total debt. The university is highly ranked in engineering, has great programs, and is one of the most recruited schools in the nation as ranked by the Wall Street Journal.
From my research everything about the school is great, I visited multiple times and loved it. The bad part is I was offered no scholarships, and wont be getting any aid from the FAFSA because of a family situation this year. I only applied to in-state schools that offered engineering, the other schools are marginally cheaper, but aren't nearly as highly ranked or have as many support and supplementary programs. The average starting salary for engineers is $55,000 - $60,000. Considering this information is it fiscally irresponsible to commit to a college in which I know I will take out at minimum $50,000 in debt? Any other advice?
Note: I would take out max federal stafford loan amount over the four years($27,000), and the rest would be from private lenders cosigned by my father.
TL;DR: | Am I making a mistake in going to a University that will put me in $50,000 - $60,000 of debt? |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by shooting my mom in the face with a potato gun
POST: This didn't actually happen today, I think I had just turned 15 so 13 years ago.
For my 15th birthday my dad got me a plan for a potato gun w/ all the parts including an piezo electric barbecue starter that we would install in the chamber. Idea was we would have some father son time building/shooting it. I was sooooo amped about it. We built it later that night complete with the push button sparker, which I was very proud of having installed. Naturally after it was done and the PVC was drying I was telling my mom about it and how great it was. Here's where the FU starts: I really wanted to show her gun and how the sparker worked, so I say: "hey why don't you look down the barrel, and I'll spark it!" so she can see the spark in all of it's glory. Unfortunately neither of us were considering the fact that the volatile PVC cleaner/glue fumes had built up in the chamber of the gun.
When I sparked it, there was a satisfying *whump* and cone of fire shot out of the barrel directly into her eye. She ended up going to the hospital and through some act of god the PVC shavings and fireball only temporarily blinded her. Needless to say I never got to shoot the gun and learned an important lesson about never looking down the barrel of a gun.
TL;DR: | built potato gun w/ sparker, showed mom sparker, PVC fumes are flammable... Shot mom in face. |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by telling my longtime married crush that I have feelings for her
POST: So this actually happened about 2 weekends ago, but a little backstory first...
I first met "N" during med school, and it was pretty much love at first sight for me. We are both part of a very tight knit group of friends, and so I always had the opportunity to hang out with her. I never made a move on her since she had a longtime boyfriend, who was honestly a great guy. So it should come as no surprise that she marries said boyfriend after graduation. I was invited but made up a lame excuse why I couldn't attend.
Two weekends ago, I finish my shift at the hospital and go out for drinks with a few of my co-residents. The drinks keep flowing and of course I spill my guts about the girl who got away. Long story short, liquid courage compels me to tell the love of my life that I've always had a crush on her. I think nothing of the text until about half hour later when it slams into me what I've done. I immediately text her again apologizing profusely, and she responds back with a "lol someone is inebriated" text.
The next morning I text her again saying I wasn't in the right frame of mind, and apologize again. Classy lady that she is, she replies "lol no stress my friend". And I haven't spoken to her since :(
TL;DR: | professed my love to a married friend. Got lol'ed at. Don't think we're friends anymore. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [24F] found out I'm the other woman to a [27M] for 6 months (wife's age >27)
POST: In January I met an amazing man (B) who was in town for training. He was with another friend of mine (A) who I had known since high school. A told me that B was single, B verified this several times.
We spend a week together and didn't waste time. Texts and snapchats were exchanged near-daily after he left. I flew and visited him in April, and have another trip booked to see him in August.
I discovered his and his wife's shared Facebook account today. My girlfriends and I spent quite a bit of time researching her after that.
She seems sweet, a little insecure, and not as attractive/fit. She posts things like, "best friends for life, husband and wife." And talked with a newlywed about ow great it is marrying the right person.
Do I contact her and inform her that her husband is unfaithful? Do I confront him? Any opinions and experiences are appreciated.
TL;DR: | Unknowingly had a relationship with a married man. Do I tell his wife? Do I tell him? Help, please! |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by wanting to take a nap
POST: Okay, so this happened yesterday but I'm still feeling it today.
I'm a fresher at uni, living in halls. So we all have our separate rooms and share just the kitchen, this kitchen becomes the social hub n whatnot.
So yesterday afternoon I come back to my hall from a book club meeting to find two of my flat mates asleep in the kitchen. I say hi, grab a drink and sit down at the centre table.
For some reason, the sound of people sleeping also made want to sleep, I feel asleep on the table. I wake up thinking 'why nap on the table when I can nap on my bed'
I get up, my leg is dead but fuck it my room isn't far away. I walk two paces and my dead ankle gives way, I fall and my flat mates wake up pissing themselves laughing.
Turns out I fell funny, sprained my foot and now limp everywhere. Flat mates now call me peg leg.
TL;DR: | fell asleep in my kitchen, leg fell asleep, tried to get to bed, fell and sprained my foot. Fuck. |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Should I confront a facebook friend that mentally ill and probably a danger to themselves or others, or just unfriend them?
POST: Ex-GF from way back. She's paranoid schizophrenic, kinda ok when she's on her meds. Lately, she's been posting some crazy stuff on FB. Either she's off the meds, or they're not working. She says she had a bluetooth device implanted against her will, and people are speaking to her through it 24/7. Claims she's going to join "the military" because they're the only ones that know how to get it out. Apparently "They" are out to ruin her academic reputation and force her into prostitution.
So, should I suggest to her that maybe the voices are coming from inside her own crazy brain, and that she should seek help, or do I just ignore her? I kinda feel like somebody should say something.
TL;DR: | Ex-GF is a dangerous lunatic. Should I tell her to get her brain sorted out, or just ignore her? |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: What are the helps that you stolefrom society, and what did you do to payback?
POST: I went to the gym, as I was walkin out, it had started to rain pretty hard. I live quite far from the gym, and I had forgotten my umbrella, so I was gonna get totally wet. There was a bunch of umbrellas, left unguarded by other customers, and I thought "probably the 80% of the people here has his home quite near, so they won't get really wet, if I take their umbrella. Then, I will put it back here next time, as someone might need it, and steal it as I did"
I stole one, didn't get wet.
It's just mathematics: I did a bad thing to a person (-1), but I did a good thing to myself (+0.5) and almost* another person (+0.5). In the worst scenario, the sum is 0. If the second guy, uses it to help someone as I did, we're 0.5 over, and so on.
TL;DR: | STOLE AN UMBRELLA, BUT TOOK IT BACK TO THE PLACE TO BE STOLEN BY SOMEONE ELSE |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [26 M] with my GF [24 F] of 8 months, I can't stop having anxiety/Jealousy over her being unfaithful or leaving me, i don't want to ruin everything.
POST: I love my girlfriend and she has made it abundantly she loves me to the end of the world and back. She has been cheated on before as have i and we have talked about how shit it is and we would never do it. I believe her entirely and i trust her but i have issues with anxiety but ive never had issues in a relationship before. This is different, as i've never felt like this about someone before (and she sees me the same way). My anxiety will always immediately go to the worst possible situation that could ever arise regardless of how unlikely it is.
My last relationship ended because i was depressed and couldn't see the point in anything so i needed to re-build myself and i am happy with who i am now.
I use meditation to help (which it does a lot of the time but its still hard). I don't want to push her away.
TL;DR: | I freak out in my head all the time, don't want to be a jealous arse / the woman i love away |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [25/F] with my customer-friend-crush [4? M/], four months-ish, how to ask for contact?
POST: So there's this slightly older guy that comes into work and we totally hit it off, but the thing is, because he works too, he only comes in at the busiest part of my day - lunch. I am plenty awkward but am also pretty sure he's into me. Before the season picked up, we could chat a little, and now we're straining to say more than hi. I have been attempting to give him my number for two weeks, but it hasn't happened. I am going away next week for two weeks and don't want to drop off the face of the earth. I'm not even sure if I want to ask him on a "date." I just want the chance to talk.
Is it weird to contact a guy via email? The other alternative I have is going to his work *after* my work, but he works in a rather small open-concept office. And if he IS attached (I don't think he is) it could cause problems when a 20-something barista shows up.
TL;DR: | I want to ask a customer out; should I approach him at work, or should I email, visit his office? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: [18/F] and a (23/m) is there something here or am I just wishing?
POST: Ok background:
I went to a concert about a month or so ago and after I was talking to the guitarist after (he started the conversation) asking where I am from and just small talk.
Now a month later I went to another one of the bands shows (to take pictures) and he remembered me. He came up and gave me a hug, talked a little before the show went on and played. After I told him he do a good job and such. He said he hopes I took some good pictures and to find him on Facebook to show them to him and then he had to go.
So my questions are:
1) I found him in Facebook and facebook stalked him, should I friended him? If so do I message him? What would I say?
2) Am I just wishing that there's a possibility of a relationship or is there something?
TL;DR: | a guitarist remembered me told me to friend him in Facebook, should I? If so what do I say to him |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Cancer survivor looking to get first tattoo here, can anyone draw this?
POST: Being cancer free for 5 years, I have decided to get a tattoo as a reward for accomplishing this task. Here's my idea: after searching around I have come to the conclusion that I want the zodiac sign for cancer (crab) with a knife impaling it. I think this encompasses my "killing cancer" quite powerfully and I would love to see what the folks on Reddit can create. BE CREATIVE! Also, if anyone has another suggestion for a tattoo of this type, feel free to draw one up anyways! I am very excited to see what people will come up with. I will pick the one that I feel best fits this category and will post pictures once I get the piece done. Thanks guys!
TL;DR: | Draw me an awesome picture of a knife killing the zodiac cancer crab and I'll get it as a tat. |
SUBREDDIT: r/Advice
TITLE: I'm not sure whether to withdraw from college or not. Any advice would be great!
POST: Hi, throwaway here. I currently am enrolled at UCSD as a freshman. Problem is, I've been there for about a week and I hate it. The strict academics, the really insular crowds of Asians and the surrounding city is impossible to have fun in unless you're old and rich. Ive done some soul searching and I really just want a California party school with good academics. My only option to get out of this school and go to one that I want is to withdraw before the 2nd, then reapply to the California schools that I want to go to, and then a year from now, I can enroll again as a freshman in a school like SLO or UCSB. So I'm not sure if it's worth a year of terrible misery for a chance to have fun in college and I really need advice on this.
TL;DR: | hate ucsd, is it worth taking a year off of school to go to one that I'd like to be at |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [m/18] have a problem with my crush/bestfriend. (first post on this sub, sorry if there are problems)
POST: So, I liked this girl forever who is my age, I told her how I felt, and she rejected me. We grew closer after that so I tried again. Rejected. Time passed and we've now been best friends for a while and have been through a lot, but I still really like her. The problem is since we're best friends its almost like we're dating, we hang out everyday.
I've never had a girlfriend myself and she's had numerous boyfriends and I know its just a matter of time before she does again and I get hurt and forgotten. How do I handle this?
TL;DR: | In love with best friend, she doesn't feel the same. It's a matter of time before I am heatbroken. |
SUBREDDIT: r/askwomenadvice
TITLE: 15m Need valentines day advice
POST: Need advice, so valentines day is coming up and I want to get this girl **(she's 16)** a gift (I have a crush on her). The thing is, I known her for a year, but we rarely talk, we talk sometimes in the hallway but that s it. When I first met her she said I was cute and we flirted before in the past but nothing more than that. I wanna get her a gift (a bear) because I know she will like it and I also wanna be nice, but I don t know if I should get it because I think it would look creepy, should I get this girl a gift?
TL;DR: | Wanna get this girl a gift but we don't talk a lot, I don't wanna be a creep about it/be creepy |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: What's the best thing you ever did to a teacher? Or if you're a teacher, what's the best thing you ever did to a student? Share your stories!
POST: So, i have seen some 'negative' questions about students and teachers the past weeks, let's change that, tell us what you did!
I'll start:
So after couple of weeks after skyrim been released (you know, the one with dragons and all) i started saving money for it, the price for it was about 90$ here for some reason, so after a month and a half of saving i finally got the money, i was so excited to play the game, i decided to wait for the weekend to buy the game so i can play the game for most of the time, anyway at the same week a teacher told us about buying a new equipment (a projecter, new tables and chairs, new white board, etc) for the class and he's willing to pay half of the cost, so at the end of the week we were about 80$ short and no one was willing to pay and as a Good Guy Greg i am i gave my 90 bucks to the teacher.
I was kinda devastated, but meh. I know it isn't much but that all i have.
TL;DR: | I saved bunch of money to buy skyrim, gave it up to a teacher to buy new equipment for our class. |
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