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SUBREDDIT: r/pettyrevenge
TITLE: Get snarky with me? Get a noseful of this!
POST: I've been helping my boyfriend move for three days now. Boxes, food, a huge, 100 lb planter box for the garden. He is using my mom's garage, fridge and freezer to store everything except furniture, for which he is hiring movers and renting a storage pod. Weather here is 107 in the day, 30% humidity. He lives in a second floor apartment, so we've been trekking up and down stairs and walking quite a distance to the parking lot.
Now, I am game to help, but the weather is miserable and I have a bad back. He's been so anxious about clearing out the apartment that we have done a majority of the moving in the day rather than early morning or after 8pm. Consequently, I've been sweating like the pig that knows it's breakfast, and my face is redder than an heirloom tomato.
If I had known he had so much stuff I would've paid half his moving expenses so as to avoid three days of hauling stuff.
Well, he got pissy with me today. I have a job interview tomorrow, and I spent five hours helping him instead of prepping for the interview.
Oh, HELL to the no.
He's moving in with me tomorrow until we secure a house together. So, tomorrow afternoon I'm going to load up on yogurt and cheese. With my lactose intolerance my butt brew is sure to be horrific!
TL;DR: | Been helping bf move. He got snarky today. I will be blasting him with raunchy gas for hours! |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: [Serious] When heartbroken, how do you compartmentalize at work, school, or when working on a project/paper? How do you focus your thoughts on anything anything constructive?
POST: A little background: I've been in an on/off/on LDR for many years. During the years, we've dated other people yet always remained close to one another. About a year ago, we reconnected, and it's been full steam ahead. Now that I'm older, I'm in a good place and can move to where he lives and be with him. He says he has never stopped loving me, and one day, he wants to marry me. Currently, he's going through some kind of vague problem right now. He hates his job and is struggling with time management and juggling all he's got going on in his life. He won't discuss what's going on, and he'll go a week without speaking to me. I feel like I don't know him anymore. In the past, he never ignored me and spoke to me daily. His actions toward me hurt so deeply that I can't eat, sleep, or focus on anything I'm doing.
I am specifically asking for advice on how I can compartmentalize so that my issues with him don't overwhelm my thoughts and I can focus on my work and projects.
TL;DR: | – LD BF is currently avoiding/ignoring me. I can't focus on my work. How can I focus? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: [20 M] wondering the reason for these feelings.
POST: I just had this thought pop up in my mind, and I don't know what to make of it.
I've been thinking a lot about dating, and relationships and sex lately, particularly as it relates to my life. Mainly I just don't see the true benefits to it all anymore, or sense a strong desire in me for it, at any point in my life.
To elaborate, I truly don't believe I'll ever have a meaningful, intimate relationship with another woman (straight cis-gendered male). I can communicate fine with other women, and I like to think I don't come off as incredibly nervous, even to those I find attractive. But I just don't ever really feel like dating or putting myself out to the relationship game to be honest.
I find a ton of girls attractive, but I don't really have a strong desire to date or be in a relationship. I'm more like "ok, it occurs but I don't think I really want one". Same boils down to sex. Personally I'm not one for one night stands or casual relationships, but sex doesn't really pique my interest even if I had a deep connection with someone.
I'm really blasé about everything I suppose. A fair bit jaded too as well.
I just don't really know how to describe this all, or if it is even "normal" from some conventional reference. I feel the whole partner concept is sort of foreign to me and doesn't mesh well with me.
TL;DR: | I don't think I wan't to date/have relationships/have sex but I'm in the air about it all. |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Girl had nip slip in photo, Blamed on me.
POST: I was with friends and we were going through pictures on facebook when we came across this photo from this years prom where a girl has a nip slip. It is barely visable, but we noticed it. (I should have reported the picture for nudity, but with friends i didn't think of it. We agreed to not tell anyone about it. However on of them ended up telling one of his friends, and that friend told others, and it spread to mostly everyone in the school. The girl in my school now found out from a kid. that mostly everyone doesn't like, that "I have a picture of a nip slip, work on yearbook and prom commity, (which i don't) and showed everyone."
What should i do, I already told the girl that i am not involved with anything and that the kid is basically making it all up.
Should i "throw him under the bus", just as he did to me, or should i just leave it alone now.
TL;DR: | Girl had a nip slip at prom, photo was taken (not on purpose) and it was blamed on me. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [25 M] only go after women who isn't as interested.
POST: So I got out of a relationship after 4 years and recently I have been trying to meet new girls and date around.
I have been on two dates so far and it seems the girls I have been going out with I am fairly attracted to, we have a lot in common, we have same life goals and all that.
However I noticed that I can not stop thinking about the two girls who kind of ignore me. One of them canceled our date because she got busy with work and we haven't talked much since. The other girl completely forgot about our date but still shows a lot of interest. I have the least in common with her but we still talk everyday. Out all of the girls I have interest in, she would be the least compatible. Yet I only think about this girl the most and I want to win her over the most.
Is there something wrong with me? Why am I only interested in girls that are hard to get?
TL;DR: | I like the chase. If a girl rejects me or isn't as interested, it only makes me like her more. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [24M] planned a date with a girl [24F] to watch a movie on Sunday but I don't have the DVD, a TV to watch it on not a sofa. Should I cancel?
POST: Before I went on holiday last week, a girl I'm dating and I agreed for our fourth date to watch a movie this coming Sunday night at my place after I get back from Rome. The film isn't in the cinema any more and I don't have it on DVD. Even if I did, I don't have a TV to watch it on, nor a sofa in the living room, only an armchair! (I'm renting a room in the house).
So that leaves us with the option of watching it a) on my iPad in the living room/dining room or b) on my iPad in my bedroom. She lives with her mom so we don't want to watch it at her apartment.
Should I tell her we should rearrange and do something else instead? And/or, should I explain that I don't have a TV and sofa to watch it on? Who knows, she might want to Netflix and Chill (actually watch Netflix in my bedroom and chill, not have sex. Well, not to begin with anyway)?
TL;DR: | date and I want to watch a movie at my place. I have no TV, no DVD, no sofa. What to do? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [19 M] with my 'yet to become again' girlfriend [20 F] - is it really possible
POST: So, we broke up recently, she said she needs time to get herself up together. I did that 'NO contact' thing even tho it wasn't full no contact. I kept her on fb since it didn't really bother me that much. Anyway, after 2 weeks of 'non-talking' she said she misses me. I was shocked but in the same time I kinda expected that.
While we talked, we opened subject about us, and she said that she can't promise me that this won't happen again. ( what happend was that she cut off all the connections with me, which ended up breaking between us )
So, guys, do you think it's possible for this to actually succeed, or should I just cut off all connections with her completely even tho I still have strong feelings towards her?
TL;DR: | ex-gf says she misses me, questioning if this could work in a long run or is this only temporary? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Realising that I [21M] am not totally straight and it's starting to make me seriously uncomfortable. How do I stop this?
POST: Apologies in advance for the bad writing/grammar.
Don't think there's any need to go into any great detail, but recent events and analysing some things in the past have made me realise I'm kind of into guys.. (my attraction to women is 1000% still there) Now, I have literally ZERO issues with anyone of any orientation and seeing acceptance grow for LGBT people is great. That's why I'm so confused, why do I feel uncomfortable with my own sexuality? ultimately, in the grand scheme of things me doing another guy is so insignificant so it shouldn't really bother me that I'd like to do that sometimes.
Also, I'm 21.. why didn't i know this earlier? is it just in my head? It's confusing to hell out of me and frankly its pissing me off. My life isn't exactly a bed of roses and i could do this crap not occupying my thoughts.
Any advice as to how I can get rid of these thoughts/feelings of weirdness/discomfort? and anyone who reads this, thanks for taking the time. I can't talk about this with anyone so any answers would be really appreciated.
TL;DR: | realised I'm in to dudes and it's confusing me as to why. How do I get rid of these feelings? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Asking my[F/20] friend[M/22] on a non-date?
POST: Sorry is kind of a long story.... I am in a sorority and our formal is coming up. I really wanted to ask one of my newer friends, I'll call him B, in a fraternity if he wanted to go with me. We met at the beginning of the semester and he is a great person. I only want to go as friends and don't necessarily want to hook up with him(even though he is really cute).
The problem is that I very recently stopped hooking up with one of his fraternity brothers. At a party last week, B and I were hanging out for most of the time. Then B kissed me but I told him I couldn't hook up with him because I don't want to ruin our friendship for a hookup. Even though he still wanted me to come home with him, I didn't and left later with his frat brother, which was a mistake...
I am nervous to ask him because he might be mad at me or think that I rejected him. Should I just go for it and ask him? or just ask someone else?
TL;DR: | UNSURE WHETHER TO ASK A FRIEND TO A FORMAL BECAUSE HE MIGHT THINK I REJECTED HIM EARLIER |
SUBREDDIT: r/running
TITLE: My first 5k is Saturday, any advise on what to expect?
POST: I absolutely despised running my whole life. Recently, my wife and I started a new lifestyle (I'm not saying diet, because it's not temporary). If you'd like to know it's mostly a raw vegan/vegetarian choice with exceptions for fish and eggs, but that's another conversation.
Anyway, with this change, I effortlessly transformed into the best shape of my life, and I have so much energy, I needed to run. I never ran more than a mile in my life, and certainly never by choice. Within my first week, I could run a 5k without walking.
Saturday is my first 5k. I know nothing about official races and would love the advice. How do I find where I should start, so I don't get trampled, but I don't get blocked? Can I listen to music on my run / track my pace and mile times? Anything else I should consider? Thanks!
TL;DR: | I was fat, slow, and hated running. Now, I'm going to do a 5k and have no idea what I'm doing. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [21 F] broke up with my BF [22 M] last month because i found out i was a Lesbian. Now he wants to go on vacation with me?
POST: Last month i broke up with my Boyfriend of 4 weeks because i found out that i was a Lesbian. I really love this guy and we where already good friends far before the relationship started, but i just couldn't be intimate with him anymore.
We decided to stay friends, actually he was very relaxing towards me and never hated me. He said he forgave me for this and that he respected my coming out. He had a hard time understand how i went from "take me deep" intercourse to "i can't be a with a man anymore" though.
Since the breakup a month ago we had contact every day and visited each other several times. I love this guy but i can't be his girlfriend. But today he asked me if i wanted to go with him on a vacation. Not a big one, 3 days to Paris. I absolutely love this idea and i love to go with him but a friend told me he might be using this to get in my panties and i absolutely don't want to have sex with him while we are there.
Would it be a smart idea to go on vacation with my ex-boyfriend?
TL;DR: | Ex-BF wants to go on vacation with me after we broke up because i am a lesbian. Good idea or not ? |
SUBREDDIT: r/Cooking
TITLE: Substitute for a dutch oven
POST: I'm moving to a new kitchen that has an electric ceramic glass surface. I'm looking for a substitute for my Lodge cast iron DO, which I use with my current gas range.
I have a variety of reasons for not choosing cast iron, not even ceramic-coated cast iron. The post rests on my gas burners are metal and ceramic-coated, and they're chipped all over. I'm not going to put cast iron on my glass cook top and scratch and chip it, since that is expensive to replace. Even if I promise myself not to put the cast iron on the stove top, I know somewhere along the line I'll slip up and drop the DO on it.
TL;DR: | I'm _not_ going to use any form of cast iron dutch oven on or in the ceramic-topped stove. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me 24F dated a guy 26M, now one of his closest friends is hitting on me what to do?
POST: okay reddit I need a quick answer.
Me 24F I met this guy went on one date been talling for a month had some bumps and i kind of feel that he is no longer interested he says he's going to text then he doesnt then explains that it was due to work.
Anyway his friend one of his closest ones had me on facebook, added me on snapchat and started talking casually with me. Should I tell them that I am aware that they're friends and tell them that they both hit on me? Or should i keep stuff to myself and stay in the shades?
Also is it okay to move forward with the second guy? As he asked for my number and I said no.
Btw i should mention that i dont think that the second guy knows about me and the first one
TL;DR: | Me 24F dated a 26M, now his one of his closest friends is hitting on me, what to do? |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Need some advice regarding my ex-wife...
POST: The reason I'm asking Reddit is because you are impartial and very bright people.
So here's the backstory:
I was married to my high school girlfriend after college. After seven years of being together, a year engagement and 3 months of sex-less marriage, I found out she was having an affair with one of the ushers from our wedding. This affair, from what she told me, started before our marriage.
So we got a divorce. I moved away. Met and fell in love with my current girlfriend. This happened years ago. So emotionally, I'm in a better place.
The other week I saw on my ex's Facebook page that she got married to the usher. We aren't friends, it just popped up in the "People you may know" section. And her name was hyphenated, that's how I knew.
Ever since I saw her updated name, I've been increasingly angry about the whole situation. So I'm writing a letter to her, with the intention of not sending it. To make me feel better.
Question is, should I send it?
TL;DR: | Ex-wife just got married to the guy she cheated on me with. Want to write a letter. Should I? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [20-something F] and my father [40-something M] - he's dating a girl younger than *me*...
POST: *
TL;DR: | My 40-something dad has a 21-year-old girlfriend and I could use some advice on how to cope. |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Hey reddit! Where can I buy those rubber handles that hang on the ceiling in metros/subways? This is really urgent!
POST: In my home city there's a problem in the subway during the rush hours. When the subway cars get packed, everybody can't get a seat or reach one of the vertical poles. The result is a lot of people just balancing themselves in the middle of the floor, and obviously gravitational issues ensue every time the train speeds or slows down.
So I'm trying to make my city a bit better place to live by buing a bunch of these handles and installing them in the trains. I just need to know where the hell could i get them for cheap.
TL;DR: | TRYING TO IMPROVE MY CITY's SUBWAY BY INSTALLING HANDLES SO PEOPLE DON'T FALL |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [17 F] can't stop thinking about a guy [17 M] who once liked but doesn't care about me anymore. PLEASE HELP !
POST: So basically, this guy was really into me last year but I just got out of a bad break up, so I told him we couldn't be together and we still were really close friends.
However, our relationship deteriorated throughout the year because of my studies. I was more and more attracted to him, and wanted us to be more than friends, but I didn't have enough time to think about a relationship because of all the exams.
Yesterday, since it's summer, we met with all of our friends to hang out and have fun and he didn't talk to me during the whole night, he didn't even say goodbye. I was really hurt because of his attitude (indifference) towards me, yet I can't stop thinking about him.
What do I do ?
TL;DR: | He liked me. He doesn't care about me anymore. What do I do to get him out of my mind ? |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Why do atheists do this?
POST: Every time I see a front page comment from r/atheism it always has something to do with what the, pope/Catholics/crazy people that use religion as an excuse, are doing agents their respective holy book
Why?
Now don't get me wrong I'm not religious but I'm also not really an atheist, somewhere in the middle.
What I'm asking is that people do less berating of the pope and all the rest.
Last time I posted something like this the most popular answer was "if we get even one person to realize they've been lied to their life then they will break the chain of people bringing their children to church." this would be true, if you went about telling people about atheism differently, your making fun of peoples beliefs, no-one likes that. No one like it when you tell them their entire life is a lie.
TL;DR: | r/atheism is a sub-reddit of r/funny, but all the funnies come at religions expense. |
SUBREDDIT: r/dating_advice
TITLE: How do I find out whether a girl I frenched at a teenage disco is interested?
POST: I'm sure you probably couldn't care less about this little teenage problem but this was the most appropriate subreddit I could find.
Anyway on with the story, we're both 15 and there was an end of year disco and her friends asked me if I would french her(this may sound weird but it's the way things are done in Ireland). She looked great so I said yeah and we started frenching, she seemed pretty into it but I stupidly stopped because I wanted to meet with my friends. When we stopped she asked my name, and told me hers. None of my other friends got any names so I'm wondering does this mean she's interested? I've added her on Facebook but I don't know what to do next. Any tips would be great.
Thanks for reading all this.
TL;DR: | Frenched a girl at a disco, she told me her name, I added her on Facebook. What to do next? |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by being a forgetful teenager.
POST: This happened a week ago. I have been on this page having a good laugh since I joined reddit, and I thought, might as well share my fuck up.
My sister and I share a bathroom. It is quite annoying because I personally value privacy.
I have the tendency to trim my pubes.
One fine morning, or was it a dull evening? Anyway, I as always trimmed my pubes directly in the toilet. I had to shower as well and was rather hurrying along because I had to rush to an event.
Later, while I was out, I receive a text message from my sister that read : 'Kindly flush the toilet after use'.
Fuck my life.
The embarrassment I felt was one that I will never forget.
TL;DR: | Forgot to flush my pubes. Spotted by my sister. Felt like I'd like to bury myself. |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by getting stoned and eating too much two nights in a row...
POST: Morning #1 - I awake with a start, my stomach aches that certain ache that means but one thing... No need for coffee to get ol' bowels going. No, it appears I ate far too much last night and things need to clear out to make room to finish digesting. I've been down this road before, I will survive.
Atop my morning throne things start with an authoritative burst, I am at the will of my bowels for a few seconds before the seas calm... Things hurt a bit. They still do. That was a burst this buttocks was not meant to handle, but in time all wounds heal.
Morning #2 - Despite my best efforts the stoned munchies won again. I managed to eat a reasonable amount the night before, the memories of the battle lost that morning still fresh in my mind. All I am fighting this morning is a overly gaseous system, or so I thought. As I get up to check the laundry, I fart and take my first step.
Oh no. OH NO. I run upstairs to change & clean what needs to be cleaned. In my haste I kick a shoe across the room, the bong spills its weeks old water out onto the wood floors.
I am a defeated man.
TL;DR: | Got high, ate too much, pooped too much. Got high, ate a little less, sharted and spilled a bong. |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: How did you find your hidden talent?
POST: I recently graduated high school and just moved to a new town. I don't know anyone and I decided to take a quicker route then going to a university (aka classes for what I think im interested in only takes about 6 months) but it's a lot harder to meet people therefore the only people I know is my mom and my step dad. I did get a new job that is back beeaking and I haven't clicked with anyone yet. But with all this thinking time on my hands I have seemed to realize that everyone has their "thing" that they are good at and it made me realize I don't have that yet. So how long did it take you to find your talent and what is it? Do you like that you have that talent or are you annoyed by it?
TL;DR: | I'm feeling lost and untalented. I want to hear everyone's story. So how did you find your talent? |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by sitting in an open juice box
POST: Not a big fuckup, but it's something.
On my way home today, as I sat down on a seat next to a few other guys, one of them pointed the juice box out to me. I saw it, and brushed it off, as there were two, and I had not seen the one on my seat (that they meant) but the one in a space behind me.
After about a minute or so I felt it and immediately pulled it out and threw it next to the other one because it was soaking wet. What I didn't know was that it had soaked up the entire seat I was sitting on and now, my pants.
TL;DR: | I sat in a juice box while I was on the bus and had to walk home looking like I had pissed myself. |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Have you ever had an out of body experience... While dreaming?
POST: I actually had this happen only once, the crazy thing was is that I had 2 dreams back to back. The first one consisted of there being something in my room (I forget what) that scared me so I ran to my parent's room (I was like 14 when I had the dream) and I sat down at the foot of the bed to find a red converse shoe with someone's leg attached. I go to grab the foot, and when I do, the leg darts under the bed and I THINK I wake up. However I'm still dreaming, and it's basically me watching myself sleep in the exact way my room was situated. Crazy shit or the teen mind at work?
TL;DR: | I have 2 dreams, run like a bitch, see a foot, grab it, "wake up" not awake more dreams etc. |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Is there a medical condition like this?
POST: Hi Reddit! I understand many of you aren't doctors, nor my personal army of doctors, but I was wondering if any of you could help me. I'm a 14 year old guy and I've lost a bit of weight this summer. I can't figure out why. I'm worried it may be something bad medically. I don't play sports during the summer and I am in no way obese. I was actually pretty skinny to begin with. I was trying on pants to see if they'd fit for the new school year and I was positive they were snug at the beginning of the summer. They are now fairly loose and I've noticed a little bit of weight loss. I do a bit of running during the summer, but nothing major. Maybe 5 miles a week total? Of course, I walk places too so thats a little bit of exercise. During the school year I'm much more active and I haven't been eating very healthy this summer. Anything I should be worried about? Forgive my grammar and thanks in advance for the help.
TL;DR: | I'm 14 and I've lost a bit of weight over the summer, don't know why. Possible medical issue? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: I don't even know where to start...(xpost from r/askreddit)
POST: Alright so... since I began my job a little over 6 months ago, my boss has told me that he has feelings for me. He's about my age so he invites me to come hang out with him and his friends. The first night I went to a bar with them all and two of them approached my boss and asked if I was off limits, because they, too, were interested. He basically told them off, claiming me, if you will. When he told me that happened, I was disappointed because one of his friends caught my attention and we had seemed to hit it off pretty well. My boss and I have never dated. I mean, we have gotten food together and sat and talked, and kissed a couple times due to bad drunken decisions. But never anything more than that. Just recently, at a friends house, I got to know another one of his friends pretty well and we've spent some time together. My boss found out and told him things, and he won't tell me what. The guy I like wants to see me more but said I need to clear things up with my boss first. The only problem is my boss won't talk to me no matter how much I try and basically says we're no longer friends. Which just makes things very awkward now. I don't know what to tell the guy that I like, so that I don't come off as sounding pretentious or something.
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TL;DR: | My boss has been cock-blocking me from his friends since day 1, and I don't know what to do.] |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Insecurities about the ex gf [Me 26 F, Him 31 M, relationship; over a year]
POST: Me (F 26) and my boyfriend (M 31), have been together for over a year, over a year and a half actually.
We broke up for about 2 months because I moved to another city across country, and we were both hesitant to try long distance, but here we are trying it.
However, when he met me he had been dating a girl for 3 years (same age as me), also long distance. They broke up about a month after we met, and we got together about a month afterwards.
Distance played a big part in their break up, and he said mainly he fell out of love with her, but the fact that they only broke up because of distance bothers me (maybe it means they still have feelings for each other?).
Basically, I still feel insecure about her , and I am scared that if she moved closer to my boyfriend, they would get back together, because their relationship was so serious (marriage plans, etc). And, well basically I think about his ex everyday, and it makes me feel very down on myself, because what they had seems way more special.
So reddit, what should i do? I have been very confused, and I don't know if we should just break up since that way I will stop feeling insecure about it.
TL;DR: | I am (F 26) insecure about my boyfriends ( 31 F) ex girlfriend. What should I do? |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: In light of the Moronic Cop thread, I think it is only fair that we show the other side of the story. So Reddit, what are your best awesome cop stories?
POST: Maybe not too awesome, but I've always thought it was cool. So we're in the car, on our way to visit my mom's parents, who live in a small town where nearly everyone is related in one way or another. As we pull into town, our mom continues to go about 15 miles over the limit. Cop pulls us over, walks up, asks for license, registration, etc. As he's writing the ticket, he starts up a conversation with our mom, asking her where we were headed. She said we were headed here, to her parents house. He asks who her parents are, and she tells him. He stops writing, looks at her and says, "really? That means you're my cousin! Have a nice day. He then crumples up the ticket and drives away.
TL;DR: | Cop gave us a ticket, found out he was our moms cousin, crumpled up the ticket and drove away. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [22F] just started dating somebody [M29] new after a difficult breakup. Need some advice.
POST: Here is the long and the short of it: two months ago my then boyfriend [M27] who I was dating for six months broke up with me.
Looking back at it now, the relationship was kind of doomed from the beginning (he had a lot of issues with trusting women and kind of reflected that back onto me, we went into it super fast, etc). He cited not loving me anymore and not finding me sexually attractive as the reasoning behind the breakup. It hurt, but I have completely cut him out of my life (yay no contact rules!). I still harbour a little resentment toward him, and some anger.
Anyway, a few weeks ago I met a guy and we ended up going out on a very fun date. He told me that he, too, had gotten out of a very long term relationship (his lasted 7 years and she broke it off with him) about five months ago. We are planning to go out again this upcoming week and he seems like a really fantastic guy.
A lot of people who know the situation are telling me to take it really slow. I don't want to rush into anything, not even in the slightest.
I really like the guy and I would eventually like a serious relationship with him. I guess my question is, does anybody have any advice on how to approach this relationship? I don't want to be a casual rebound for this guy / vice versa. Should I make that clear from the start?
TL;DR: | I [22F] met a guy [29M] and we both recently just exited relationships... how do we proceed? |
SUBREDDIT: r/travel
TITLE: Chip and PIN cards in Italy and Switzerland - Do I need one? A recent NPR report makes it sound like most merchants in Europe do not accept "plain" magnetic stripe cards
POST: After reading [this] article, on how our American credit cards with magnetic strips and no chip and pin system are less secure. I think it would make a lot of sense to get a chip and pin card for at least one of my accounts before my husband and I go to Italy and Switzerland for 3 weeks.
Looking online I've found conflicting information on whether this would be necessary. Some forums (like [this one] say that their bank told them this would not be necessary, but they are a little outdated (Jan 2012).
Furthermore, I'm not sure I would be able to get a credit card with a high enough credit limit to last us 3 weeks while we are abroad. So obviously we will need to withdraw cash from our bank accounts - is that also going to be a problem at ATMs, if we don't have a Chip and PIN ATM card?
I currently have: Citi Thank You Card and a Chase Freedom Card
TL;DR: | Traveling to Italy/Switzerland for 3 weeks - Do I need a Chip & PIN credit card and /or ATM card? |
SUBREDDIT: r/loseit
TITLE: I'm stuck at 300lbs, need advice.
POST: I started at 340. Cut my diet down to 1000 calories a day. It was difficult in the beginning, but I've gotten used to it. When I hit 300, I decided it was time to hit the gym. Between cardio and lifting, I decided to up my calorie intake to offset the extra calories being burnt (avg day, 40 minutes elliptical on the Hill Intervals program, plus lifting), specifically in the from of protein shakes (chicken was getting expensive).
2 protein shakes a day (2 scoops each) works out to 520 calories. The elliptical tells me I'm burning around 400, and I'm discounting the weightlifting (beginner weightlifting, not lifting enough to make a difference).
So, minus excersize, plus protien, 1120 calories a day. (with no protein shakes and therefor only 1000 calories on days I don't make it to the gym).
My problem is its been a month since I started at the gym, going every other day, and I've stopped losing weight. I've seen growth in some muscles, but surely it can't account for that much? (gym bros saying I'm putting muscle on at the same rate losing fat)
Don't know what do to, if I should be concerned, or if I should just keep doing what I'm doing. Looking for any advice you can give reddit.
TL;DR: | 6'1", 28, Male. SW: 340 CW:300, stopped losing weight when I joined a gym. |
SUBREDDIT: r/Advice
TITLE: Moving to Japan next month, need to make money!
POST: Hello there! Long story short, I'm moving to Japan on the 8th, and I need a bunch of money! [Here's the breakdown if you're curious.] I need 6,500, have 1,000, and can take a loan for about 3k. My questions are threefold.
First, If I wanted to take out a loan, what sort of institution would be willing to loan me money so I can start my employment? My paycheck is guaranteed, I just won't get money for a while.
Second, I made a [Chipin page where people can support if they're interested.] Where's an appropriate place to promote this?
Third, do you have any other advice? I think there might be options I'm missing. Also, if you can think of another forum or subreddit where people might be able to help me out, let me know! thanks!
I posted on this forum before, and someone gave me a couple freelancer sites. I managed to find a bit of work, but I need more help!
TL;DR: | I need to make money quick. or maybe take out a loan, so I can move abroad to work. halp? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: How to get my girl friend to trust me after I left her and saw another girl
POST: So, about 5 months ago, I impulsively broke up with my girl friend of over a year. We are both 21. I saw another girl in that time, and after about a week I realized I had made a huge mistake and desperately wanted to take it back. My girlfriend denied me at the time, and said too much damage has been done and it would never be normal again. A month later, we end up getting back together. Things have been really up and down, the main issue is out of the blue she'll get angry at me. She says she can't help it, something triggers its, sometimes she's okay with it and can ignore it, but sometimes she can't even be around me or talk to me for a day or two. This happens once every 2 or 3 weeks. This is really hurtful to me, and I don't think it's the proper way to cope. I know none of this would be worth it to any girl, but I have had experience with relationships, and I know I fucking LOVE this girl. I want our relationship to be healthy and honest and happy again. Please help
TL;DR: | gf and i broke up, i got with another girl, we got back together now she can't stop getting angry |
SUBREDDIT: r/dating_advice
TITLE: I have feelings for a good friend of mine... my good friend's EX girlfriend...
POST: I know the answer should be obvious, but I'm legitimately struggling with how to handle this situation. I am really good friends with a guy and a girl who dated for 2 years and broke up a year ago. A couple of weeks ago, the girl admitted to me that she has a crush on me. I secretly had a crush on her as well, which I revealed at that point. I haven't done anything with her, but she's made it clear she wants to jump my bones really bad. She's out of the region till August, so we haven't been around each other in person recently.
**1. Do I tell her I won't get involved with her?** I mean it would be easy for me to say no right now, but I would have a hard time saying no if she jumped me one day when nobody was around.
**2. Do I tell my friend about it?** How do I even bring that subject up? Would this be better than saying no to the girl even though I don't know how well I would resist getting jumped by her?
**3. Do I do neither and play it by ear when next year starts?
TL;DR: | Do I tell the girl no, ask my friend what he thinks, or just roll with it and see what happens? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: [24/m] My girlfriend [25/f] wants me to pay for her computer...
POST: She bought a computer from Apple over a year ago for $1100ish and has now paid it off. Since she's started a new job they've given her a computer to use at work and she rarely uses the one she bought at home.
Meanwhile, I got a new job around the same time as her and they only offered me a PC. We decided it was ok for me to just use the Apple computer she purchased for my job.
Now she's getting frustrated with how much I use it and how much of my stuff is on it. Fair concerns.
My question is how much I should pitch in for it? She wants half. I think less, maybe 25%. I understand why, it's an "us" thing now. Emotionally ok I get it, but logically I can't make it add up.
TL;DR: | Gf bought herself a new computer. I now use it more than her. How much should I pay to use it? |
SUBREDDIT: r/self
TITLE: Worried my dog might have rabies
POST: She was fine this morning, but a little while ago she started barking at nothing, and she was ignoring me even though she's usually one to come running the minute you call her name. She ran outside, and I followed her and that's when I saw she was foaming at the mouth. So I went inside and closed the door so she can't come back in because I'm scared that she might get aggressive, and I called my mom at work to tell her what was happening, so she's going to come home as soon as she can. And I've been crying non-stop because I love this dog and I know if it is rabies it's too late and I don't know what to do. I've had this dog almost ten years, since she was a puppy and I'm not ready to lose her.
TL;DR: | I've never been so happy to look like a total dumbass. It looks like the dog is going to be okay! |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: What should I [M28] tell (or avoid telling) a friend of mine (F24) who always feels down about not being in a relationship or having kids?
POST: I have a good friend (F24) who's really preoccupied, conversationally, with hoping to meet 'the perfect person'; children, familial life, etc. She's expressed not feeling that 'guys date girls like her' and seems to feel generally low about it, but also has really high expectation of immediate compatibility. From what I can tell, she's casually dating a guy she doesn't like but otherwise makes little effort to date (no bars, or online dating, says she doesn't have time).
Naturally as a good friend I (M27) want to say/do the right thing, but the girl-guy dynamic throws me and I have no idea what to say that isn't cliche or blunt. Do I try and cheer her up with my awful humour? Offer practical advice? Be brutally honest? Ignore it, leave it to her girl friends? I feel pretty ill-equipped to answer these sorts of problems, so I'm hoping the experiences of Redditers can step in.
I feel it probably worthing adding that our friendship is purely platonic.
TL;DR: | Girl [F24]who is a friend feels undateable, is there anything I [M27] can say/do to help? |
SUBREDDIT: r/dogs
TITLE: [Help] looking for information on Sialocele
POST: My 2 year old german shepherd had some sensitivity around her face on Wednesday night. On Thursday morning we found that the left side of her neck was very swollen and felt like it was filled with a fluid. She was very lethargic, wouldn't eat and was short of breath. We took her to the vet who took a sample and he thinks it is Sialocele, saliva draining from fluid pockets. We do schutzhund, a dog sport, it's possible she was hurt during that. The vet said it could be weeks or longer before the swelling goes away. Has anyone else had a dog with this problem? Do you know how your dog got it? How long did it take for it to go away? Did it require surgery?
TL;DR: | Has anyone ever had a dog who had Sialocele? How long did it take for it to go away? |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: am I considered a spammer?
POST: hello! ok so I started and run a website for a hobby a while ago, I have a full time job thats totally unrelated, I make negative money off of my site that's not the point of it, I just post shit that basically I think my friends would find appealing, not too much different than reddit, in fact a lot of my content is sourced from here, along with the sites you guys source off of, so anyways every once in a while I will post a link up to my site up here because I think people might find it semi-interesting, anyways I have been posted on 'reportthespammers' my question to you is am I spammer?? maybe I should have just chosen a different handle
TL;DR: | I post some of my sites links on reddit, I make zero dollars off of my site, am I a spammer? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [21 M] with my 18[F] 1 month FWB, doesn't want to date me, just wants to fool around, but no sex. Is this strange?
POST: Ever heard of a fwb that doesn't want to have sex? The girl wants to have no commitment fun, doing everything but sex. We are both virgins that are saving ourselves for a serious relationship.
I'd like to make things more official and take the physical things slow, but she seems like she really wants strictly a no sex, hook up.
It just seems strange that she wants to wait on sex (which I would consider a trait of a relationship oriented girl) but she doesn't want to do (which I would consider a trait of a girl that doesn't take sex as seriously as she does).
We are very cuddly, share secrets, and we like to just stare into each others eyes before eventually kissing each other goodbye.
Any thoughts?
TL;DR: | We both don't want sex. I want more of a emotional connection, she wants to hookup and have fun. |
SUBREDDIT: r/askwomenadvice
TITLE: Goddesses of Reddit: What are your best 1st year wedding anniversary ideas?
POST: This isn't for me, it's for a good friend of mine.
A little back story:
So my and my buddy were talking and he mentioned his 1 year wedding anniversary is coming up early next month. He has no idea what he is going to do and I usually give good advice but I needed to call in the big guns for this, that's where you ladies come in.
So, about the couple, he is 35 and she is 26. They just celebrated her birthday at her favorite restaurant last month and he pretty much put a lot of thought into that so he's fresh out of ideas. She's a nurse at a big hospital. I think it's safe to assume that they have the day off on their anniversary and money is not an issue. They are Caucasian is that helps. Also any gift ideas?
Any input would be greatly appreciated. He's desperate to make it memorable and loves his wife dearly. He doesn't know what Reddit is so I decided to ask for him. It's women like her that remind me that there's still great women in the world, she's that great and deserves nothing but the best. Please help!
TL;DR: | Friend needs 1st year anniversary wedding ideas as well as gift ideas. (M) 35 and (F) 25 years old. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [18 M] with my GF [18 F] She's happy but I'm not and I don't want to hurt her.
POST: We are both 18 and this is my first serious relationship, we have been dating for just under a year. Her and her parents do not get along and so she moved out, with no place to stay I spoke with my mother about her moving in with us. She moved in about 4 months into our which was fine. It was odd at first, we adjusted.
I am almost positive she has cheated on me with a co-worker, we met at work, every we work seems to think she did but I had no real conclusive evidence so I put it behind me. They still talk on occasion and it truthfully still haunts me, I never actually believe her.
For the past 2 months or so I have becoming more and more unhappy with our relationship not even because of the possible cheating. I am certain I want to end the relationship but I don't know how or when to do it, I still care about her. I love her but I am not in love with her.
Here's the kicker, when she was 15 she was raped and she is just coming out about it to her family, she even went to the police. He wound up making bail. He is essentially going to prison for sure as they have a confession from him when she called him and tricked him into admitting it. With all of this going on I don't want to throw her off the deep end. I don't want to lead her on either. What do I do?
TL;DR: | Girlfriend is in a fragile state. I'm sure I want to end it but I don't know how or when. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [26 M] with my GF [22 F] of 5 months fought about how I have to sleep with the TV on and she can't stand it.
POST: I have always, since I was a kid, had to sleep with the TV on in the background. My mind races at night and I can't stand not having something to focus my mind on while I fall asleep. I start focusing on my breathing, thinking worst-case scenarios, etc.
My girlfriend and I recently moved to Florida together from Georgia. It is our first time living together. Apparently, she cannot sleep with the TV on and waits until I fall asleep to turn it off and then goes to sleep.
Last night, I fell asleep on the couch. She wakes me up and tells me to come to bed. I go to bed and turn the TV on. She says not to and that it gives her a headache and that she's tired and wants to sleep. I say I can't sleep without it. She gets up to go sleep on the couch. Obviously, I am not going to make her sleep on the couch so I turn it off. It takes me forever to fall asleep and I am tired this morning.
Ironically, she complained this morning about me taking her blanket in my sleep and how she couldn't sleep last night because of it.
How do I compromise on this?
TL;DR: | I sleep with TV on, girlfriend can't stand it, I can't sleep without it, we share a room. |
SUBREDDIT: r/Dogtraining
TITLE: I just adopted a rescue dog and he is extremely well behaved around me, but as soon as I leave he goes crazy.
POST: The shelter dog I just adopted is very calm and obedient around me. He does everything I say and he never barks. He follows me everywhere. He is amazing on a leash and he even gets along with my cat. A friend of mine brought his boston terrier over and after introducing them slowly, they ended up playing together in the snow for almost an hour. I've had him for a week, and I've already thought him a few tricks.
The problem is, everytime I leave the house, he becomes destructive. I tried keeping him in the basement with his toys, but he was able to climb through or jump over every gate I used. He is an escape artist. I also left him by himself in the house a few times to try it out, but he destroyed tissue boxes, sponges, bags and curtains. Just me taking a shower is enough for him to go through a few garbage bins around the house. Today, he was able to get the fish food off the top shelf and he ate it all.
How can I make sure he stays calm and chews on his toys while I am gone? I feel like I am doing something wrong, or maybe he is scared.
He is a 3.5 years old lab mix and he is very small. The shelter told me that he was taken away from his owner along with two other dogs and two cats. They were tied up outside a house and they were rarely fed. Now, he makes me very happy and he loves to cuddle!
TL;DR: | The dog is calm and cuddly when I am home, goes on a rampage as soon as I leave. Help? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: Asked a girl out, got maybe, got number, got no reply from number, got no reply what now?
POST: So i asked a girl out that i see quite often through work, about once or twice a week. we haven't had too much social interaction as in its has been mostly one sided (her side). but after a while i got the feeling that if i asked her she might say yes! so i finally worked up the courage, asked her, turned bright red i'm sure and she responded with maybe and proceeded to give me her number. i txted her and got no reply. i am stuck with the thought of did i rush into it or did i not show her my true self and she is undecided? my question is where do i go from here? do i continue txting her (I've only sent one msg) or do i just wait until i see her again? and then what do i say to her? i don't think she is the type of girl to give me a fake number so i am just under the impression that she is undecided by my shyness and nervousness as it was my first time asking a girl out
TL;DR: | Asked a girl out, got maybe, got number, got no reply from number, got no reply, what now? |
SUBREDDIT: r/jobs
TITLE: Need advice: Struggling in the job market, and don't know where to go next.
POST: Hi folks. I'm writing this on behalf of my SO.
He has an associates degree in social sciences, and his work history includes restaurants (as a cook and shift manager in his younger days), an NPO (an urban planning office where he tracked, collected, and organized data), a Fortune 500 company (where he did data entry), and now a school (where he is in charge of managing student lunch accounts).
He would most likely still be at the F500, but we moved to NC so I could take a teaching job. It was actually better financially for us at the time.
I know he is frustrated and at his wits end at applying for jobs. No where seems to want to hire him, or he's under-qualified, or overqualified, or he doesn't have connections.
School never seems to be an option he wants, since he flat-out refuses to go into debt and get a student loan.
Could anyone give us some advice on where to look for jobs, or what options would be best to look in to? I just want him to be happy and feel some success. Once he gets a job, he's very dedicated and hard-working. It's getting called for an interview that's the hard part.
Thank you!
TL;DR: | SO has an associates and no idea how/where to find/look for work. What should his next move be? |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Reddit, i'm hysterically bored. i need advice on new game/activity i should do.
POST: ive just finished a week long diablo 3 binge that i had a lot of fun with, but now that im in act 1 inferno with my demon hunter ive become frustrated and disenchanted with the ease of death in the game. for now im taking a break. i love starcraft but im not feeling it. i just got minecraft but i CANNOT get motivated to play after i accidentally burned down my house with lava.
a little elaboration: i have about 7 other friends who all have this problem with me. we all run track so getting fit isnt what we're looking for. i start work in two weeks. we drink and party once or twice a week but even that is getting to be pretty boring. are there any creative activities that any of you have found as a solution to your similar problem? or are there any games online that you would recommend to keep me engaged? i love RTS's and fantasy mmo's but i just really dont know what to do.
i feel like im waiting for Guild Wars 2 to come out, but c'mon. i just need some INSPIRATION. please, please help me reddit.
TL;DR: | MY FRIENDS AND I NEED CREATIVE, FUN FILLED, INSPIRATION PACKED ACTIVITIES TO DO |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [29\F] have been dating this guy [25\M] for 2 months. He says he has a job but I don't believe him...
POST: I [29\F] have been dating this guy [25\M] for 2 months. We have amazing chemistry and I am in love with him. He told me he has a part time job as a mechanic which is perfectly fine by me. I am well into my career and don't mind taking care of someone.
However, I realized that I can't find the small business he works at online. No website, phone number, or anything. Also, when I ask him for a physical address, he has given me one but when I Google it, the city says that it is for sale. I never actually visited him at work. When I asked him about it, he says he does have a job.
Then I go girlfriend crazy and ask for work stubs, bank statements, and pictures of his work. He said yes he will do that but is disappointed in me that I would ask such questions. I still haven't received any of my crazy requests. Should I just take his word for it or am I really seeing something that is a huge red flag?
TL;DR: | In love with an amazing guy but I think he is lying about having a job. I just can't prove it! |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [26F] have a crush on a colleague [36M] and just found out he hooked up with my housemate [27F]
POST: Having such a string of back luck recently...
I sit with this guy at work. He's really so nice and such a kind person. I have a crush on him which I hide pretty well (I hope!). I'd never dream of trying anything because first off he's my colleague and second of all he's just out of an extremely long relationship is broken-hearted.
We've hung out a few times in a group after work and a couple times my housemate (who I think is awesome) has come along. Last time we were out, I went home early after a few too many drinks and she just told me today they went home together drunk and have been out one other time since. She didn't know I had a crush on him.
Anyway, shit happens! I always knew it was a stupid crush but now I really don't want to feel that way anymore! Does anyone have any advice on how to get this out of my system? I feel weird knowing about this and just kind of deflated. What if they start dating and he comes over here?
I wouldn't dream of being shitty to either of them, but I don't want to end up feeling rubbish either. HELP!
TL;DR: | Like coworker, found out he and housemate hooked up when drunk. Feel awkward/bit sad. What do. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I (17/M) need some advice
POST: First, I apologize for any formatting/grammatical errors. I'm typing on my phone.
Some background. I'm really shy, but this year I decided to try a little harder. I talked with one girl (16/F) let's call her S, for quite a while, but we had only become close in the first few weeks of school this year. I also noticed a cute girl (16/F), C, in my english class. After S and I really started to get to know each other I developed a crush and decided to ask her to homecoming.
Homecoming was a blast and it went really well for the both of us. A few weeks later I decided to ask S to be my girlfriend. S said she had quite a few personal things she had to sort through before she could commit to a relationship, but she really likes me.
That was a few weeks ago. A few days ago, C, approached me and admitted to having a crush on me. I was too shy to talk to her, but now I have no idea what to do. I really like S for her looks and insanely amazing personality, but C just threw everything out of whack. I need some help. Thanks ahead of time.
TL;DR: | I like one girl and she likes me. Another girl also likes me and now I don't know what to do. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: 24m holds 21f at a distance after 3+ years.
POST: We started seeing each other in the Fall of 2009. I 21f, haven't yet met his 24m parents or anyone in his family. They live roughly thirty minutes away.
It also took over six months and some prodding to meet his best friend, who at the time lived in the apartment under his. There have also been numerous times when he went to see a sibling while I was with him to "drop something off" or some other innocent activity and instead of bringing me along, he left me alone to wait in his apartment.
I know how he explains his actions, but I'm interested in what theories you men of Reddit have to offer.
TL;DR: | He still won't bring me home to meet the family after over 3 years. Why would a guy act like this? |
SUBREDDIT: r/dating_advice
TITLE: Girl at work. Would like to get to know. Rarely get opportunity.
POST: Male 18. How can I strike up conversation with this girl. I only see her at odd times. I'll see her when she's walking in to clock in, as I work outside, but I can only manage to say, "hi". Sometimes I see her in the break room but she's with other coworkers, it would seem odd to me to try and flirt or try to get to know her while others are engaged in convo or are awkwardly silent. I could try to talk to her while she's working and I'm on break, but that seems weird to me because I'd basically have to find her and start up random chat amongst customers.
TL;DR: | Girl I like at work and want to get to know. Need ideas on how and when to convo with her. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [26M] want to get back together with my ex [22F]. How bad of an idea is it, and how do I?
POST: So I posted a thread about a week ago saying my girlfriend was having issues, and I was looking for help on how to keep her during them. By the end of that day, she had already ended things. Now I want her back.
I've been told to give her time and space, and to let her work things out on her own time without the pressure of me trying to be in a relationship. I've gone a full week with no contact. At what point do I get in touch with her, and what do I say? I want to give her time, but I also don't want to give too much time so that she is completely over me and moves on to the next guy.
Next question, is it even a good idea? Am I holding on hopelessly?
TL;DR: | I want my ex back after she dumped me. What do I say, and is it a bad idea in the first place? |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by peeing on my dachshund
POST: My parents have dachshund called Max, and he is the most curious creature alive. He is always sniffing around the yard, looking for ~~cat shit and human urine~~ **whatever dachshunds look for**.
So this evening I was out feeding the dogs (we live in the middle of nowhere with no neighbors and a huge yard) and I realized I needed to pee. I thought, no problem. It's pretty dark, no one is around anyway, might as well do it here. I was standing at the top of a low terrace, and started doing my thing.
Which is of course the point where disaster struck. Max, hearing the slight noise on the dead leaves, ran over to investigate. And stopped right under my stream. He and I both froze, I was mortified. He probably froze because he smelled delicious pee spilling all over him. Dogs are filthy creatures, which is why I prefer cats, But I digress.
It ended with me finishing peeing on him and then having to clean and dry him. And clean myself, because he shook off pee all over me. FML.
Naturally, my parents were extremely displeased and acted very unpleasant about the whole thing. All because the dog is a pleasure seeker.
TL;DR: | I peed all over my dog by accident and had to clean him and myself. My parents want to kill me. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [25 M] has a crush on a girl [24 F] in my class. She seems to be very shy, how to proceed?
POST: I developed a crush on this girl of my class, I find her very attractive but I guess objectively speaking she can only be considered above average (7-7.5). I'm not ugly either.
I tried to talk to her and invite her to the group activities (lunches and hangouts) with some people from the class. Sometimes she came sometimes she couldn't, and I had a few conversations with her (simple stuff as two people who just met would talk about).
The problem is even after my initiations, she would never initiated talking to me. If we come across in the hallway, she would look at the other direction as if she doesn't see me. If I don't say hi first, she wouldn't say anything. Overall, I was nice and friendly to her, and I never tried to flirt, tease or say anything that can be perceived as uncomfortable subjects. Also, the reason I believe she is shy is because she rarely talks to other people in class and always sits in a corner.
So I want to know, what am I supposed to do.
TL;DR: | Have a crush on a shy girl in the same class. Tried to talk to her but she never initiated talking. |
SUBREDDIT: r/travel
TITLE: Dear r/travel, looking for advice on planning a trip to the middle east.
POST: Hi!
My girlfriend and I are hoping to take a trip to the middle east this November, and I thought I'd throw this up here to appeal for some pearls of wisdom.
We've never been to the region, and are looking forward to a completely different kind of experience to our usual travelling (Europe, N.America).
I'm a big history nerd, so my two essentials are Petra and Jerusalem. If you could fill 2/3 weeks between Israel and Jordan, that might be enough, but if people reckon we could/should add another destination I'd be all ears. My first thought for a 3rd destination would be Lebanon.
We'd like to experience the adventurous side (camping in the desert, etc.) but wouldn't be opposed to a nice hotel if we're in the city either.
Any help/suggestions would be much appereciated - plus thoughts on travel restrictions (the infamous passport stamp lark, etc.).
Thanks in advance!
TL;DR: | Pop quiz, hotshot- you're a history nerd with 2 weeks in the middle east: what do you do? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: This guy (20/M) I (19/F) like thinks my friend (20/F) is cute.
POST: The guy: H
My friend: B
H and I go to the same college, B doesn't. A week ago, B and I ran into H while we were heading to where I live (off-campus). I said hi and he asked me where I was going and that was it. Today, he texts me and here's how it went:
H: What were you doing last week?
Me: I was catching up with a friend from high school.
H: Oh, was that girl from the other day your friend from high school?
Me: Yup.
H: She looked pretty cute lol.
H: Did you go to high school in (area where we live)?
Me: She is cute lol...and yeah.
I won't bore you with the stuff below but he isn't asking more about the girl. He just keeps talking about other things but I think it's pretty obvious that A)he thinks my friend is cute, B)he isn't that friendsy with me so he's trying to befriend me before asking me about my friend. I may be overthinking here but I really liked him...and it's really heartbreaking.
My question: he's still texting me right now. Should I just keep cool and let things be? Should I tell my friend about H? (B thought he was cute too) What am I supposed to do here?
TL;DR: | My crush told me he thinks my friend is cute. I like him a lot. What am I supposed to do here? |
SUBREDDIT: r/dating_advice
TITLE: does his [M23] affection mean anything for me [F22]?
POST: So I've been dating this guy for around a month and I'm starting to think I might actually like him. I'm at the point where I'm too much of a wuss to actually communicate this to him (for fear that he might consider me "clingy"- the horror!). So, naturally, I am trying to overanalyze his behavior. Basically, he's super affectionate and chivalrous toward me on dates and when we're alone. In bed he's really cuddly and constantly giving me little pecks, caressing my hair, nuzzling my face, etc. and it's totally throwing me off since I don't consider myself to be that affectionate normally. Anyway, I'm totally crushing and don't know if I should take this to "mean" anything or if I should just tell him straight up. (Although I think I know the answer to this one already...) Thanks in advance!
TL;DR: | When a guy is reeeally affectionate, does it mean he likes you? Or could he just be being "nice"? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [23 M] with my EX GF [21 F] 3 yrs together, 4 months apart. General break up question
POST: My EX and I were together 3 yrs, broke up 4 months ago.
We had a fantastic relationship. She ended up emotionally cheating and leaving me for him because LDR (dont try that at home, kids) and her own inattention,. She still doesn't see what she did as cheating. (talk about immature)
Anyways - question is - the last few months everyone, guys and girls, HER FAMILY, my family have been saying to me "dont worry shell regret this" or "she'll eventually realize what she lost" and those types of remarks. - Is that alwasy the case? If the relationship was great.
Hell her father told me I could marry her after she graduated (I did not bring it up he did)
The new guy is less than ideal. We even share the same name(how original) and she is soon to be in a LDR with him (she is graduating from college).
Her mother literally said to me she hope he breaks her heart so she learns what she did to mine. So I'm sure he'll be welcomed around the house this summer.
TL;DR: | Do people always say "dont worry she'll regret this" post break up to make the dumpe feel better? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My GF[19] broke up with Me [20 M], trying to win her back
POST: Hey there,
one quick question. I broke up with my girlfriend around 1-2 months ago and stopped thinking about her but all feelings are coming back. We saw each other a few times since our breakup and talked, and she often hinted on things like "if you were in my courses xy". She broke up with me because she didn't have time and finallly no feelings left for me. So right now I am asking myself, should I try to kiss her by suprise, because we never really kissed and i feel like I hesitated too long before. My heart suggests this right now and my head is in between :/ I hope you can help me out.
I do like her genuinely and feel like she did the same for. Do woman would react positively to this kind of an approach or should i just let it be and wait for her to make a move?
TL;DR: | My GF broke up with me 2 months ago and now I'm asking myself to suprise kiss her to win her back. |
SUBREDDIT: r/dating_advice
TITLE: F20 seeking advice on dating close friend's (M22) friend (M23)
POST: Some background: I [20] recently broke up with my bf [27] because he cheated on me. (We were on a break and he slept with a co-worker). It's been 2 weeks so I'm not sure if I'm actually interested in this new guy or if I'm just looking for a rebound. Now, I have a really close friend [22], like we talk everyday, let's call him X but I don't have feelings for him. I recently met X's friend and ex-roommate, let's call him Y[23]. Y and I hit it off immediately, and Y asked for my number. I tell X about Y and X tells me that he had feelings for me but he didn't act on it because he knew that he was going away for graduate school and that I was with my ex-bf at the time. I always suspected that X was interested in me but now I don't know what to do with this new info.. so far we've just been talking like he never told me that he liked me. X is a great guy but the feelings just don't exist. I want to pursue Y but I don't want a new relationship to change my friendship with X. And I'm not sure if I just want Y because he's really similar to my ex or if I'm interested. Should I pursue new guy?
TL;DR: | F(20) recently broke up with M(27), now interested in friend (M22)'s friend(M23). |
SUBREDDIT: r/offmychest
TITLE: Stop fucking using music as an excuse to be an asshole, nobody gives a shit about your record collection if you're a fuckin' dick.
POST: To clarify, I'm talking about people that think their taste in music dictates how they need to interact with people. For instance, a rampant problem between some of the punks I used to hang out with is that there was this mindset of accepting being drunk and fucking out of control all the time, or with people really into metal that think "Hey, I like metal, so I can be an asshole to whoever and put people down because my taste in music is so refined and sophisticated," and that's just not the case. We all fuckin' grew up watching Winnie the Pooh, stop acting like you can't enjoy a nice day because you've got a Hellhammer test press. Or like the people that have the mindset of "I'm really into Grindcore, so I really fucking hate Folk." Granted, it's OK to like and dislike shit, but when you're doing it because 'it conflicts with your other musical tastes', you're just being a dildo.
TL;DR: | a lot of people take their taste in music *entirely* too seriously, and that's dumb as hell. |
SUBREDDIT: r/dogs
TITLE: [HELP] Puppy staying with in-laws for 4 days while they have a huge reunion - worried about her getting into traffic, escaping, etc.
POST: Hi everyone. My husband and I got a puppy last year (she will be 11 months by the time of the event I am going to be discussing). Every July, my in-laws host a huge family reunion at their home where family from all over the county come and stay in their house. Due to conflicting schedules, my side of the family is having their July family vacation (going up north for camping/boating - can't bring her with us as my parents don't allow dogs on their boat :() during the same time. We are going to be spending 4 days up north with my family, and then 4 days at his parent's house. We have never put any of our dogs in a kennel, as his parents always watch the dogs for us when we go out of town. I am nervous because while our puppy is pretty good about listening to us when she is inside, she sometimes likes to run away (she loves to be chased) when outside. His parent's house doesn't have a fence. People will be coming and going in and out of the house all day long and I am terrified that she will escape and get hit by a car.
Does anyone have any advice for things we could do to keep her safe?
Thanks for reading/responding!
TL;DR: | Afraid my dog will escape and get hurt/lost while away from us. What can I do to avoid this? |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by not flossing regularly.
POST: I am the worlds biggest moron, writing this post feeling as sad as someone would after a break up.
Today, I went to a dental checkup: the first one in nine years.
Dentist told me "your teeth look great for someone who hasn't gone to the dentist for nine years!"
He hadn't taken the X-rays yet, and was going based off what he saw.
In the past nine years, I only flossed when I felt something in my teeth.
He takes x-rays, and sees that I have a cavity in between EVERY molars I have top and bottom.
I should have flossed regularly. Now I have 4 different appointments to go to in the span of 2 weeks to get everything patched up.
Fml.
TL;DR: | I didn't floss for 9 years; got a bunch of cavities. chip skylark was not proud of me. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Uninvited acquaintance [M, 23] keeps showing up at my house [F, 21]. What do I do?
POST: Guy I knew from High School, 23, is the kind of person that has a very good heart but is constantly described as "overbearing". Let's call him "J". The thing is, "J" has no other contact besides me and a few other people from Texas. I talked to him a few times in high school because I felt bad he was sitting alone during AV Club. (He is bi polar and semi-autistic) I feel sorry for him because his loneliness is so apparent after dropping out from college. But I'm so irritated by his lack of regard for my schedule of school, work and time with my family/other friends. He shows up with no text, call or heads up in advance just for him to vent about how tough his life has been while battling depression. I've tried encouraging him like I did with my ex a few years ago to take up on new hobbies, read up on self improvement ; go on Meet Up etc. Unlike my ex boyfriend who has done everything to respect my boundaries, "J" has not gotten the memo. Almost positive he's holding out hope to go out with me, too.
TL;DR: | J is uber clingy and I have a new SO/other friends. He's not respecting boundaries. What to do? |
SUBREDDIT: r/offmychest
TITLE: My gf wants to change gender..
POST: I really can't hold this enough.
My GF is 17 and wants to change gender.
I can't understand why she would take such a decision in a young age like this, even though she's been thinking it for a while now. This is something she should do around 25 years old, not NOW. It took me 18 years to find the perfect girl I love, the one that gave me great experiences and made me grow up a lot along with her, and I just can't think of losing everything for this reason. It's uncommon, rare, or I don't know what term should I use to describe this event, to see such a beautiful and lovely girl, ruin her body like this.
I don't want to ashame her decision, neither not support it, but It's hard for me... a lot. I don't think I will be able to keep things like this if she should change gender, because I'm not bi-sexual and neither I am open to those things because I'm not interested.
Guess I'm selfish as fuck, and I recognize that, but I think that 17 years is way too early to talk about these kind of things.
People: enjoy life, don't just mumble about these kind of things, if you feel uncomfortable the way you are, it's because you probably compare yourself to someone else, you are beautiful in your own unique way, EVERYONE has something that someone else doesn't. Don't rush your life, enjoy it to the maximum possible.
TL;DR: | my gf wants to change gender at 17 yrs and I can't believe i'm going to lose everything for this. |
SUBREDDIT: r/dating_advice
TITLE: Got a girl number...Texted her, no reply. What should i do?
POST: Hi Reddit,
So after finishing a meal, a cute waitress started to flirt with me just before i was about to leave, asking me to come out to this dance. Sadly i wasn't from the area so i couldn't go(i'm from the next city from hers).
So, the next best thing is i asked her number seeing if she would like to meet up another time, she agreed told me she would show me around town, smiled, allowed me to give me a kiss on her hand.
Now...everyone says do the 3 to 4 day rule before texting but i waited a full day, sent her a text saying "Hi (f name), it's the handsome (m name) from weekend"
No reply back, i'm going to give her a call today but, my question is what should i do if calling doesn't work? & when is a good time during the day to call? Will Update tonight or tomorrow
TL;DR: | got a number, sent a text, no reply. Going to call today, what should i do if that doesn't work |
SUBREDDIT: r/legaladvice
TITLE: Insurance Settlement - ICBC
POST: Case: I am located in Vancouver, BC, Canada. I was recently involved in a motorcycle accident, I am not at fault. Bike was a write-off. I was injured, missed only a couple of days of work, but required 3 months of physio to heal injured foot. I am mostly healed and back to normal life, physically. Motorcycling was my main hobby and I am experiencing difficulty in enjoying it now.
Situation: ICBC has offered me 5k (in addition to bike value, gear replacement, wages, physio) for a settlement. I stated to them I feel this is not adequate. They have asked for a counter-offer or if I would like to wait an additional month to see what happens to the offer. I am hesitant to seek a lawyer due to past experience and do not wish this to be dragged out for years.
What is my next action?
I have never made a post on Reddit. I apologize for any poor formatting.
TL;DR: | – Motorcycle Accident. ICBC offered 5k. Asking for counter-offer. Lawyers are scary. What do I do? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [23f] was the other woman. The girl who was cheated on [21f] is heartbroken. How do I set things right?
POST: Before you blow up at me for helping someone cheat, I had ABSOLUTELY NO IDEA beforehand that the man I met [23m] was dating someone. He told me that he was "in the clear", and that's where my fault comes in. I assumed he meant he was single - now that I have confronted him he says he meant his gf wasn't present.
I guess this is my lesson for being stupid and assumptive, but it gets worse. The asshole's girlfriend called me last night - she had gotten my number from a mutual friend - in tears, blubbering about how she is heartbroken, how she wish she was dead, etc.
I explained I had no knowledge that she was dating this man - she then completely broke down, crying that "no one knows that she exists", and that she was going to shoot herself one day. She then hung up.
I am absolutely terrified right now - I'm genuinely concerned for this woman's mental state and I'm afraid she's going to hurt herself. I've tried calling but she won't pick up. Someone please help, I'm driving myself off the edge with this.
TL;DR: | unknowingly helped someone cheat. cheater's gf is heartbroken and depressed. don't know what to do. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: Was this his [35/m] way of telling me he isn't interested in me? [20/f]
POST: I'm not really asking if we should be together, so if you think it's wrong please don't comment.
I like a guy at the grocery store I work at, I'm 20, he is 35. We click really well and we have a lot of fun together. I kind of have a crush on him, but I feel like he just told me he wasn't interested in a way. He was really flirty and still is, but I don't know. We even kissed a few times and he definitely enjoyed it. He has told me he thinks I'm really attractive and funny.
Me and two other coworkers who are a little younger than I am were standing around with him. There was really no context since nobody had said anything yet, but then he randomly said "I feel really old looking around at you all." For some reason I feel like that was a hint that he thinks it wouldn't work between us. I responded with, I think you're looking pretty good and he just laughed and said thanks. Suggestions?
TL;DR: | 35 yr old guy I'm interested in said I make him feel old, I assumed that means he isn't interested. |
SUBREDDIT: r/dating_advice
TITLE: Any tips to overcome inability to touch / kiss for the first time?
POST: So here's the thing: I'm 25 years old and have very limited dating experience. I found this girl on okcupid and we went on a date. It went great - I'm not usually very talkative or open person when meeting new people, but with her it was easy - and that never happens to me. The next day, we setup another date.
I prepared myself that if it goes well, I'll kiss her at the end of the date. The date was awesome, but I just couldn't do anything, even hold her hand. Now this is bad enough, but it gets worse - I panicked and texted her something stupid about not kissing her, which she handled surprisingly well and two days after that we setup another date.
Now since she wanted to see me again I know she likes me and thanks to that stupid text I know she knows I intend to kiss her. The date was insanely good, we both had so much fun. But I still can't do anything, I couldn't even hold her hand during this short romantic play we saw at one point.. Hell I didn't even tell her how pretty she looked in her dress.
What is wrong with me? How do I get past this? I'm confident I'll see her again, but I'm afraid (or rather pretty sure) I will freeze again and she starts thinking I'm not interested in her like that.. I've read some articles about this, but everything just feels creepy..
TL;DR: | I can't make "a move" because I'm horrified that it'll come out creepy. PLEASE HELP ME >.< |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [28 M] having problems with my [25 F] So and her issues.
POST: Hi there I'm after some advice.
I have been with my SO for close to 4 years, I met her when she had just given birth to her son and have helped raise him, we got a house together about 1 year ago and that's when shit hit the fan so to speak.
She has always had issues with how she looks and has a very unhealthy relationship with food (she dusnt like to eat) every day I have to hear about how fat she is (she's a size 6 UK). She also has alot of trust issues from her past relationships.
I am a very independent guy I like doing my own thing but I still invited her to come the gym with me and set up a meal plan for her to try and get her to be abit more positive with everything.
Unfortunatly this hasn't helped, I am so very close to leaving her because all of this is starting to effect my mental state. Im not happy when I'm at home I'm happy when I'm at work or at the gym. Im quick to anger now because of all the issues I have tried to help deal with on a constant basis.
I love her and I want her to be happy but it's not selfish of me to want to be happy myself and I just don't see myself being happy living with her. I have asked her to go see professional help but she refuses. Im running out of reasons to stay with her..
TL;DR: | gf has alot of issues and I'm running out of reasons to stay with her. Any aegice would be great. |
SUBREDDIT: r/personalfinance
TITLE: Big car payment vs continue to save
POST: So this is something that I have been thinking about this weekend. I recently bought a 'new' car back in October. The auto loan came out to be $23,xxx. The minimum payment on it is about $369 a month over the course of 72 months. I try end up paying $700 a month to try and get ahead of the interest. I checked on the status of my loan, and even though I have been paying what feels like a lot of money, I still owe $19,000. The loan, I believe has an apr of 4.64% (which as to my understanding is a bit high).
While paying for this, I have also been trying to save up money in order to make a down payment for a house in around 2017 February. I did some research, and it turns out that I am 'qualified' for what seems like is the lowest home loan of $180k, and I am still about 3k short of closing costs/down payments/ect.
I currently have $3,3xx in checking and $7,7xx in savings, and still need to make my auto loan payment this month. My question is, would it be wise to spend $5,700 on my auto loan this month from my savings, so that I can have a more of an impact on the principle of my loan, or should I continue saving. Any input would be appreciated. Thanks so much guys!
TL;DR: | should I spend $5,700 towards my remaining $19,000 auto loan, or should I continue to save? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [26F] need advice on confronting my messy boyfriend's [27M] cleaning habits at my place!
POST: I [26F] have been dating my boyfriend [27M] for about a year. He's a great guy--smart, thoughtful, funny, laid back, kind, has the same goals in life as I do, etc. We have a pretty good relationship. We've had a few arguments, but we usually resolve them quickly and both aim to improve in the future by being more considerate to each other. He is someone I can definitely see having a future with.
However, there is one thing about him that drives me crazy...whenever he comes over to my apartment, I am constantly anxious about the mess he leaves around! He tracks in mud, then puts his muddy shoes on the couch, leaves food out, leaves pee around the toilet seat, generally just doesn't clean up after himself well. We actually have had an argument about doing dishes, which ended with both of us apologizing about arguing over something so stupid, and now he does help out with that (but just doesn't clean them very well...).
In general, I am a pretty clean and tidy person, but by no means OCD. I just like to clean up after myself so I don't have to worry about it later and can relax, which he doesn't seem to worry about.
This is by no means a "deal breaker" for us, I just want some advice on how to approach him and ask him to be more mindful about messes, without coming off as A. His mother or B. Rude and controlling.
Thanks!
TL;DR: | [27M] is really messy at my place, how do I [26F] ask him to clean up after himself? |
SUBREDDIT: r/jobs
TITLE: Anyone familiar with the Amazon Warehouse hiring Process?
POST: I recently was hired at a new Amazon Fulfillment Center in my state, and it's been nearly a month since I've heard back from them. The last email I got confirmed my offer with them, but it told me nothing of when or how long until I might be headed to orientation. I've tried asking for help on their job site but I keep receiving the same answer I received in the email. *"We are still in the process of finalizing New Hire Orientation dates. We appreciate your patience as orientation dates will vary based on your position and shift assignment."* I haven't been given a specific time frame, and frankly I've been putting off making plans so they don't conflict with my work schedule.
TL;DR: | Amazon is taking a really long time to tell me when to work, and I'm not sure if this is normal. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [20m] am gonna ask my gf [19f] to take a break and I am wondering what the conditions of the break should be.
POST: My girlfriend and I have been together for over 3 years. We are high school sweethearts. I am her second relationship- 1st serious relationship- and she is my first everything(date, kiss, love, sexual partner etc...). After all this time, I really feel like I need some space. We got together while we were young, and I never got to experience the freedom that comes with an adult life. I don't want to party or hook up with random girls, I just wanna be free to be me for a little while. Perhaps it sounds petty, but it has taken years of thought and a lot of conversations with her to get to this point. My question for you all is: what should this "break" consist of? Should we be free to date other people? Should we talk a lot, a little, not at all? How long should it be? Advice and/or personal experience would be very appreciated.
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TL;DR: | ] Taking a break with my gf because I need some space/freedom. What should this "break" consist of? |
SUBREDDIT: r/offmychest
TITLE: You told me it was okay to go out with him...
POST: ...so the fact that you got mad when I actually did, is not my fault, it's yours. If you didn't want me to see him, you should have said so! I know what girl code is and I always respect it. You didn't even date him and you told me it was okay if I went out with him, even after me asking you on four different occurrences if it was really okay with you. You swore up an down that it was fine, so I told him I wanted to get to know him more. When I finally told you I was going to go out with him, you got pissed at me and wouldn't talk to me so we could fix misunderstandings and save our friendship. I tried so many times and for so long - six months with no response from you...until I finally gave up. I think about you often and wish that you would reach back to my extended hand, but you haven't and I don't think you will. I know that I tried to make things work with you as a friend by doing the right thing, but you didn't hold up your end of the bargain by being honest with me, as we've always agreed that friends do. I remember you saying that you didn't want to hold me back from something that could be awesome, and you know what, it is awesome. I am in love and I've never met someone so great, as my now boyfriend, who I've been dating for almost a year.
Im sorry you couldn't be honest with me. I just have to let it go and know that I didn't do anything wrong. I wish you the best, J.
TL;DR: | My friend told me to go out with a guy (many times) and then stopped talking to me when I did. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [18M] want to break up with gf [18F] but love her and just really confused. (9 month relationship)
POST: I just really need someone to talk to me, give me advice and whatnot.
Girlfriend for 9 month, she is absolutely the best her heart is made of gold. All my friends say I'm lucky and that she is one in a million.
she really loves me, I love her too but, I just want a break want to experience other things with other girls. I went through this phase before and overcame it ended up loving her more but now I'm back to here again and its just killing me.
I don't want to hurt her, ending up cheating on her.
TL;DR: | dating girl for 9 month, she really loves me, I love her. I just need a break and experience more. |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Reddit, I need help with a subleasing legal issue
POST: I attend university in northern California, but am primarily from southern California. For the summer, I am currently in Southern California. My friend, who is also my co-worker, asked me if I would sublet my apartment for a month to her friend, whom I have never met before. Although skeptical, I agreed to help my friend's friend. My biggest mistake was not getting a signature on a sublease agreement before sending up my keys. I emailed a copy of the sublet agreement to the subtenant about a week after sending up the keys. Now, however, he is saying that he won't sign the agreement and is calling my friend and I thieves. I haven't received any money from the subtenant, nor have I received money from my friend. He claims to have paid my friend. On top of this, he is claiming that he is filing a lawsuit against us so that we have to pay his "damages." What are my options at this point? My plan is to go up to Northern California this weekend with my landlord and the police and kick him out.
TL;DR: | guy subletting won't pay, sign sublease agreement, or leave by the date he is supposed to. What do? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: [M][20]y Housemate/g[f] [21]dilemma
POST: About 3months ago, me and my housemate started sleeping together (I know poor choice one right here), we were best friends before we started and just transitioned naturally into a relationship. Fast forward to the last week, I have noticed she seems more argumentative than ever, and even when I feel I've been wronged, it's me who's made to be the bad guy, there also seems to just be less affection from her. She's been sleeping and basically living in my room for the last 2months and we spend alot of time together so maybe that's a problem. But anyway my problem is I feel like we're both just waiting for it to end, but I really don't want it to end, I genuinely can't think of anyone I'd rather be with. Does reddit have any advice on how I should handle this situation?
TL;DR: | feel like my housemate/gf is done with our relationship, I'm not and I don't know how to proceed |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [24 F] with my BF [25 M] of two years. Sex is bad, I just cheated. When I break up with him should I tell him why?
POST: Throwaway for obvious reasons.
I thought I could live with it, I really did. He's sweet, he's smart, he's funny. He really is a great guy. There's just one small problem. And I do mean small.
Our sex life has never been satisfying for me. I've tried kegels, we've done different positions, I get nothing. And I tried to live with it because he's so great. But as I lay here in the bed of a normal-sized man who just rocked my world, I've come to realize that I just can't do it. I can't commit to the sort of sex I have with my boyfriend. I wish it was different, but that's the way it is.
I can't just cheat on him forever. He doesn't deserve that. I'm going to have to break it off with him. I don't think I should tell him why though. It seems like something that would crush a man's spirit. Should I tell him I cheated? It would probably make it easier for him to hate me and move on, but it also might crush his spirit given his shortcomings.
TL;DR: | BF is too small, cheated on him, realized I have to break it off, not sure what to tell him. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: She loves both of us, him more. She chose me instead, but still loves him. What now?
POST: I'm M(21), she's F(19), and there's an ex (19).
We got together for 4 months, and she's my first girl, while i'm her second. I came in after she broke up with her ex for about 2 months.
Everything went well in the 4 months, so much so that she said she doesn't like her ex anymore. Then, the problem.
Her ex called her to meet up, and she went along with it. After meeting him, she said she realised she still had feelings for him and loves him more than me, but in the end, she chose me because
1) Her ex was abusive
2) She believes we'll love each other more as time goes
3) We have seen each other's parents, and she doesn't want to let them down (Yes we're asian)
However, despite that, she still refuses to take steps to 'forget' her ex(Delete msn, delete phone contacts). She said she couldn't 'let go'. Her reason for that is she constantly thinks of "what if" she's back with him, or "what if" she stays with me. Should I stick, or should I bail?
TL;DR: | Read title. She loves both of us, him more. She chose me instead, but still loves him. What now? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My (17F) boyfriend (17M) is too good at making out, causing issues in our 5 month relationship
POST: I have the most first world problem ever, I know. But he's really, really good at kissing which wouldn't be an issue except I feel like it's creating issues within our relationship. He always makes me super turned on but I have no idea what to do to make him feel the same. I know various things that he enjoys (neck kisses, back scratches, stuff like that) but none of them are things that get him super turned on. We both agree that handjobs at this stage in our relationship would be weird. And when we start actually making out and he plays with my boobs and stuff, I honestly get too caught up to think about things that I can do. He says he doesn't mind, but it really really bothers me that I can't get him as turned on as he gets me. So tips on stuff that I can do to him while we're making out to make it more enjoyable for him, or tips on how to not get so caught up that I can't effectively please him would be much appreciated.
TL;DR: | Boyfriend is great at making out, I need advice on how to make him feel as good as he makes me feel |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: husband out of work, plays video games and tweets all day instead of looking for work - what do I do?
POST: So we have never been "rich" by society's standards...in fact we have struggled with money issues most of our marriage. When my kids were babies, I could not work a day job because we could not afford daycare so I would work 2 or 3 night jobs cleaning bars and offices to make ends meet. Husband has floated from one dead end job to the next the whole time. He has been out of work since March, working temp jobs here and there - I am now employed full time in a kick-a$$ but very mentally demanding job. Bills are piling up, I don't make enough to pay everything. He tweets all. day. long. and plays stupid games on his phone but still no serious effort in looking for a job. That AND he leaves me with all the housework, and trying to come up with excuses for why the bills aren't getting paid. Redditors, not looking for tips on leaving him, but for how to inspire him to LOOK FOR A JOB
TL;DR: | Husband out of work for 4 months, would rather play games - how do I inspire him to get a job? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: How long is too long to abstain from sex?
POST: My (21M) girlfirend (21F) and I have been together for one year. We have had a pretty normal relationship, until three months ago, when I broke my leg. It was a pretty long recovery, about a month and a half in a cast and boot, plus a few weeks of inactivity for the bone to heal after surgery. During my recovery, we had sex maybe three times. And since, (about 2 months) we have had sex twice. Our drought currently stands at 1 and a half months, is this too long, and what should/can I do to heat things up again?
Will answer any questions to get a better answer and/or not sound one sided...
TL;DR: | My girlfriend and I have not had sex in a month and a half, is this too long, and can I fix it? |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Sleep Problems... Please help, Reddit.
POST: I am 18 years old and am currently in college. I couldn't find any place on the web that had answers for this but I have problems over-sleeping. I will sleep through the sound of my alarm clock, mobile phone, loud noises, and often times my voice being called. I also sleep about 12-14 hours on average and just recently woke up from a sleep that lasted 20 and a half hours. I constantly have headaches when I wake up (could be from dehydration?). I don't know what is causing any of this and I am just seeing if anyone else has or had this problem, or could help me with it. It's beginning to drastically affect my life now that I am in college. Any more details, just ask...
TL;DR: | I sleep for 14-16 hours on average when I am not woken up and I don't wake up to hardly anything. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I'm [21M] going to talk to my ex-girlfriend [21F] tomorrow and I have no clue how to go about it.
POST: Our relationship was a pretty tumultuous one, and it didn't exactly end well. We haven't spoken since we broke up almost 2 years ago. She became engaged to a man she met shortly after we broke up and they're going to be married in a few weeks. I didn't expect us to be talking at any point over the next few years, even though we still have a mutual best friend. She recently contacted me out of the blue saying that she would like us to be friends again, and we're going to meet up tomorrow.
Does anybody else have any experience with this? If so, how did it go? I know we both have things to apologize for but I'm nervous as hell about it.
TL;DR: | My ex girlfriend and I are going to speak for the first time in 2 years, how do I go about it? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My [25 F] fiance [25 M] is going to jail in the morning
POST: I've been dating this guy over a year now and we recently got engaged. Back when we had just met and were just friends, we played truth or dare and he found out I had cancer. I found out that he had a pending legal case he might go to jail for. We ended up falling in love and he stayed by my side through a lot of bad shit.
He came to me today shaking, crying, and begging me not to leave him. His case is going to court and a warrant was issued for his arrest. He's turning himself in the morning.
We don't know if he'll get bond, he should, but if not he'll be in jail for at least a month. If he's found guilty, he'll be gone for years.
I have no experience with this kind of thing and I'm terrified. :( what can I do to help him?
TL;DR: | My fiance is going to jail, I'm staying with him, but I'm at a total loss how to help him. |
SUBREDDIT: r/legaladvice
TITLE: New VW Jetta is defective and can't be fixed. What are my options?
POST: I purchased a 2015 Jetta TSI SE new about a month ago in TN. Since I've had it, the vehicle shakes badly when I get above 50 mph. I have had it to the dealership twice, and got it back today. It still shakes badly. VW Corporate claimed that the tires on the vehicle were defective, and the dealership replaced them under warranty, however VW says they won't do anything more to repair it and I need to contact Pirelli regarding the tire warranty.
I am wondering what my legal options are to get rid of this car and get something that works? From my understanding, in TN, there is no period to return a car if you do not want it after purchase. Is there any kind of lemon law that covers situations like this? The vehicle has been in multiple times for repairs and can't be corrected, so I'm assuming there has to be some way I can return it and get something that properly functions.
TL;DR: | New car violently shakes; VW can't fix it. I want it gone. What are my legal options in TN? |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: What would happen if you had a portable a/c and didn't put it next to a door or window?
POST: Converted part of a 2 car garage into a guest room. Unfortunately, we spent a butt ton of money creating a duct running from our home a/c unit into the room. It doesn't help! It's so hot here we have got to do something else. We didn't add any windows and the door is in the middle of the garage. We are looking at buying a portable a/c unit (Wall mounts are better but hella expensive). Even though the units are "portable", they all still recommend placing the unit near a window or door. Why is that? What would happen if we didn't do it? Would the room just not cool or is there some kind of drip line that I'm not aware of?
TL;DR: | want to buy a portable a/c unit and I'm wondering why it would need to be near a window/door. |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by taking a piss while on Chemotherapy
POST: So this fuckup is actually about 14 years old. I was a 17ish year old kid recently diagnosed with Ewing Sarcoma and stuck in a hospital bed for my first round of chemo treatments. They started my IV and within about an hour, it hit me like a ton of bricks. I was violently ill and couldn't keep any food down whatsoever, so the nurse brings me a nice IV push of Phenergan, an anti-nausea drug that's also a quite powerful sedative.
The drugs help ease my symptoms and I doze off to sleep. I later wake up and need to pee very badly (as is usually the case when you're taking continuous IV fluids. The nurses told me to piss in this plastic jug in the bathroom so that they can keep tabs and make sure I don't get dehydrated. So I stumble into the bathroom, whip it out, do my business, and start to stumble back toward the bed with the jug still in my hand. I trip over my IV and fall flat on my face. Piss spills everywhere and I'm just stuck lying there in it. I decide this is as good a place as any to take a short nap and close my eyes, only to wake up sometime later with a nurse shaking me and asking if I'm okay.
TL;DR: | Had cancer, had to piss in jug while sedated, fell on face with open jug in hand, took a nap. |
SUBREDDIT: r/running
TITLE: Ran my first race in 10 years (5 miler), and now want to get faster... advice needed.
POST: Hello Runnit, first post here!
My friend is training for the Boston Marathon in April, and this past weekend I decided to go with her down to Denver for a 5/10 mile race (she ran both as part of her training). I ran the 5 miler (having not run more than 100 yards since last July). I am an active person, and ski 3-4 days a week, and lift weights twice a week, although I have a tendency to ignore my legs, haha.
I ran the 5 miler under my goal of 50 minutes and finished at 47:30, about a 9:30 pace. I was able to run (jog is probably a more accurate term) 98% of the time, and only walked at the turnaround to drink some water. I feel I was limited by my legs, not my lungs. Needless to say, I was beaten by my friend by about 5 minutes. I still had some gas in the tank at the end, and probably could have pushed myself a bit harder.
Heres where I need some help. I have no intentions of ever running a marathon,but enjoyed the race experience thoroughly. I could really see myself enjoying some 5ks or maybe a 10k down the road. I have set a goal for myself to get to 7:45 miles over a 5k and eventually a 5 miler. I can probably find time for 3 runs a week either outside or at the gym. Does anyone have any grand ideas? Thanks!
TL;DR: | Ran 5 miles at 9:30 pace with no training, Want to run at 7:45 pace over 5k, what should I do? |
SUBREDDIT: r/personalfinance
TITLE: If I stopped paying my monthly geeksquad protect fee would it mess up my credit??
POST: I bought a phone last year from best buy Mobile and the rep there convinced me to get a geeksquad protect plan to fix my phone if it broke (I'm pretty clumsy I thought it would come in handy). Well, my phone has a problem that happens at random. Brought it to the store and they said they would only fix it if they could replicate it (they probably cant) and that they would need to factory reset my phone so I would lose everything. Guy told me basically I'm SOL. So I'm pretty pissed at this point, I try to cancel the plan and now they say I can't cancel until NEXT YEAR. One thing I found in the contract though was that if I didn't pay them for three months they would just cancel it. Should I do this or is there a better way?
TL;DR: | Geeksquad protect is shitty, they won't cancel my plan. Would just not paying them hurt my credit? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [24F] live with my boyfriend [25M] but he stays at his parents every time I'm away
POST: We've been together for 1.5 yrs, and have been living together in our own apartment for 4 months now. I've lived on my own for almost 3 years prior, and he's lived at home for his whole life.
Every time I'm away or we fight, he's right back to his parents for the day/night. He doesn't understand why it upsets me that after a week of my being gone (vacation,work, etc) he's never home at all during it. He won't even sleep there because he says he doesn't like being alone.
He insists he's fine with not living at home, considering he didn't have to move out of his parents' house. Yet to me, it feels like he's not comfortable calling our place together "home". It makes me want to send him back to his parents and live on my own. It doesn't feel like it's OUR apartment because he's like this, and that doesn't make me feel good.
TL;DR: | Am I wrong for feeling sad/upset that he doesn't enjoy our home or sleep here when I'm away? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [22 M] broke about a month ago with a beautiful girl[18 /F]
POST: Sorry for the throwaway there, but I felt like I had to do it. I'm a 22 male years old that has almost no experience with girls in general, if not for some brief affairs that do not involve sex nor true attachment...
Anyway, my first 'serious' relationship began in january, the 6th of that month. Seven months later my Girlfriend broke with me.
Honestly, there is still a lot going on through my mind even if I don't want to face it.
She felt (and I regret she was right) that I didn't love her enough. I made such obvious mistakes you would not even realize, and to this day the moving pain inside my stomach, the endless pain that still lives in me is Regret.
I wasn't able to show her I love her. And in august, she did the final move that ended our relationship. I try to avoid the thought, but to me it seems like I lost the opportunity of my life
But the errors I made were so obvious in hindisight, that I feel pain, and I feel comfort only by being with friends.
I don't know if life is a film or not, but something tells me I will never find someone like her and that I lost a treasure. am I the only one at 22 that made such obvious errors?
Because when I look around me, and I see my friends, they are going to marry soon, while I'm still here, alone, thinking that some day something will improve.
Thank you for listening
TL;DR: | Felt like I lost the girl of my life. Can't get her back again. Will I regret it my whole life? |
SUBREDDIT: r/dating_advice
TITLE: Where Does a Friend-Zone/Relationship Begin?
POST: I'm in a situation where this girl(16), whom we shall call "Mam" and I(17), who you can call "Sir" (just for the funnies), are just a great set of friends who see each other quite often, and go to restaurants, shopping, and more quite over-the-top places. We also talk a ton about ourselves and I feel our friendship is growing exponentially. We were friends for 1 year but like I said it was exponential, only these past 2 weeks have been intense. The question is what are the hints of a friend-zone friendship. I'd like to be with this girl, so tips are welcome too.
P.S. Reasons why I think she and I are in the friend-zone is, even though we are getting close. She doesn't flirt or show feelings for me(other than a Facebook post that she put up as we were in Applebees about "I find everything he does cute <3", which may or may not be about me). Yet she may not know how to, because shes absolutely gorgeous and the guys go to her. I, on the other hand, have flirted with her.
TL;DR: | ! How do I know if she wants to be in the friend-zone? How do I know if she likes me? |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Should I consider going back to Digg?
POST: Reddit was great when I first got here. The load was about the same as Digg and the layout was practically what I was used to (with the old Digg)..everything was smooth and there were actually better topics on the front page. I was in starting to fall in love, but then it seems a few things have started to change..or fade? The speed has dropped to slower than hi-speed dial up! The front page is still probably overall better than Diggs, but how would I know..the Reddit page won't load. The interface is still smooth and all, but lets keep in mind..Digg is working hard get their users back..Digg is starting to look a little more like home..Maybe Reddit should compete a bit..not that I would complain if the speeds would just go back to normal...
TL;DR: | Reddit is fading, especially with the lag..to the Digg user base! /justme?? I just want some info! |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Boyfriend [25m] broke up with me [23f] and I have to continue to live and work with him for 2 weeks...
POST: My boyfriend broke up with me yesterday and I'm devastated. I can't eat, I can't sleep. It's horrible.
We were together for 3 1/2 years and we live together. I had to put in 2 weeks notice at my job (we both work there) and I'm moving back home with my parents. But I can't leave until 2 weeks from now and if every night is like last night, I don't know if I can take it.
I can't stand sleeping alone in our bed while he sleeps on the couch. I just want him to lay with me and hold me. I don't know what to do. I feel like I can't do this. I've never been so lonely. I feel so lost.
TL;DR: | Boyfriend of 3 1/2 years broke up with me and I can't move out for 2 weeks. I can't handle it. |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by ruining my best friends collegiate sports career
POST: This actually happened on Saturday. After a long week of tests and presentations for College, my friends and I thought it would be a good idea to have our girls over and just get sloppy drunk.
To preface this, I took Mixed Martial Arts for 4 years and have won quite a few local and state tournaments. My best friend (we'll call him Ryan) recently expressed interest in learning to fight, so I've been teaching him some stuff in our campus' boxing gym.
We were 2 bottles of fireball in (split between 4 people) and we're standing in the hallway in front of our suite. Ryan was on the phone with his girlfriend back home, and I thought it would be funny to roundhouse him in his hip. I only tapped him, because my only intention was to scare him.
He saw my leg coming and freaked out. He dropped and broke his BRAND NEW iPhone 6S, went to move and rolled on his ankle. We brought him to the hospital and he fractured his ankle and tore his ACL.
Ryan's a 3 time D2 National track and field champion; specifically in sprinting and pole-vault. The doctor said it's going to be very difficult for him to re-train himself after being in a cast for a long time.
TL;DR: | Roundhoused my friend in the hip, he fell and fucked up his ankle. No more pole-vaulting for him |
SUBREDDIT: r/needadvice
TITLE: Reddit: How can I get over the mental block that makes me impotent?
POST: I'm a healthy, straight, bright, 25 year old male. For my entire sexual life, I thought I had serious impotence problems. Couldn't get it up, couldn't keep it up, etc. However, upon getting in a serious relationship (years ago) with a girl who was an absolute stunner (worked as a model), it went away (actually never once even manifested itself, like a completely different c*ck). Since then I realized my "performance issues" are related to... well... how.. Proud? I am of myself for bedding that girl. If she's a stunner, or if I "won" her vs another guy, there are no problems and (I'm told, anyway) I do a fantastic, above the call of duty type of job.
I had serious self esteem issues growing up as a geek with big glasses who knew too much for his own good, but about college I really grew into myself, both physically and in regards to my self confidence. I'm sure it's related, somehow. However, in most every sexual situation, I'm terrified that I won't be able to get it up, which becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. I have no idea what shape advice would take, but anything is appreciated.
I keep blaming it on the condom preventing me from being stimulated (kinda true, actually, given my... aggressive masturbation habits) but thats not a solution. But even with girls I'm attracted to AND can get it up, I can lose it just as quickly.
TL;DR: | My erections are 90% mental and I can't get/keep them up outside of abnormally hot/sexy situations |
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