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POST: was showing extreme lethargy and closed eyes. I had my sister watch it overnight to see if there were any improvements. The following day, she took the dragon to the vet which they had to provide care overnight. During this period I called the boarding and I told them that the dragon under their care had to be held overnight in the hospital. When I called I said “I need to know the care you provided because my sisters dragon is being hospitalized”. I tried recording the conversation but my app didn’t work. During this conversation the man yelled at me and said that “the vets don’t know shit”, “they want money”, “they don’t know how I care for my animals”, “I fed, bathe and we sent photos” “I gave him mill worms”. I knew then that my sister told them specifically not to feed it mill worms because it didn’t sit well with the dragon and then I proceeded to say “I’m not calling to argue, I need to know how you cared for it so I can tell the vet, can I also get the photos you said you sent to my sister to see the time stamp” he then said he couldn’t get a hold of them and said I’ll need to call back. The vet report came back and said “gravid lethargy (suspect secondary to inappropriate husbandry while boarding).” The vet also said that it had a bacterial infection which is caused by dirty conditions. The final bill was $1295! The vet recommended for us to report it to the BBB. We want to take action but not sure what to do or how to do it. Do we have something here? I don’t think a google review is sufficient. TL:DR - sister’s dragon nearly died. Has a long recovery. Vet confirmed it’s from poor boarding conditions. RESPONSE A: If you're in California recording phone calls remember that, by law, you MUST notify the other party that you're recording. RESPONSE B: > I tried recording the conversation but my app didn’t work. I have nothing to add about this situation at large, but be careful with recording conversations in CA. You must make them aware you are doing so before recording anything. Which response is better? RESPONSE

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POST: . I did talk to the owner who didn't even apologize, basically told me shit happens and then hung up. The other thing I am curious about is the non-disparagement part... I am wondering if I can word a yelp/google review in such a way as to not violate that... I don't want this happening to other people. I just realized that I don't know what is listed on the agreement that I actually signed under "activity" "dates(s) of activity)" and "location" but almost certainly nothing like "boarding" and any date near this one because I signed that thing specifically for doggy daycare sometime last year. Any advice is appreciated... All I want is fair compensation for the injury to my dog and I want to prevent this from happening to other animals. I would have been happy if they had just told me my dog was getting sick/was injured there because I would have taken him to the vet earlier or picked him up earlier... Thank you. RESPONSE A: I don't think non-disparagement clauses like that hold up. They're basically saying you can't even talk about this to a judge or jury. We had a similar case in Texas and it was thrown out (prestigious pets). There may be some information in my link on their legitimacy. I'm not very familiar with the bill so read through it. To my understanding these types of clauses are meant for employment contracts and not small businesses and customer relations. I'd be surprised if a state like WA allowed this (they're banned in CA). You can certainly file in small claims. I'd argue your point about the contract, information from your vet on why this happened (unsanitary conditions, bacteria, foreign objects in paws, lack of cleaning, etc), failure to mitigate your damages by ignoring his injuries. I can't say you'd win but my company has a contract stating what you can't sue us for and we get sued for them all the time (and often settle). https://www.govtrack.us/congress/bills/114/hr5111/text RESPONSE B: What did they say when you asked how all 4 paws got infected? Which response is better? RESPONSE

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POST: for it. A week later he still is still limping and still has wounds on his paws. I'm going to have to take him back to the vet again... It is possible he will need surgery was he may have a foreign object in-bedded in his paw. But as you can imagine with my wife being hospitalized and me taking a couple days off, boarding the dog, vet bills, etc etc... This is causing a serious financial burden for us. I'm basically hoping that there is some way I can still take this to small claims... Or that because they list their services at the bottom of the agreement and "dog boarding" isn't included that that may not be included under the "activities" mentioned in the agreement. I did talk to the owner who didn't even apologize, basically told me shit happens and then hung up. The other thing I am curious about is the non-disparagement part... I am wondering if I can word a yelp/google review in such a way as to not violate that... I don't want this happening to other people. I just realized that I don't know what is listed on the agreement that I actually signed under "activity" "dates(s) of activity)" and "location" but almost certainly nothing like "boarding" and any date near this one because I signed that thing specifically for doggy daycare sometime last year. Any advice is appreciated... All I want is fair compensation for the injury to my dog and I want to prevent this from happening to other animals. I would have been happy if they had just told me my dog was getting sick/was injured there because I would have taken him to the vet earlier or picked him up earlier... Thank you. RESPONSE A: What did they say when you asked how all 4 paws got infected? RESPONSE B: I am not a lawyer but many times I've seen in this sub that waivers of liability do not cover negligence. If it were shown that you hired them to provide basic care for your dog, they were definitely negligent in providing that care, and you incurred bills as a result of their negligence, I would be quite surprised if they were not responsible for paying those bills. Which response is better? RESPONSE

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POST: Porter at dealership took me (as customer) to his house instead of giving me a ride to work as promised upon return of rental car. Can I sue the dealership? ## Can I sue dealership if their porter who was to give me a courtesy ride to work after returning their rental car took me against my will to his home instead, took my cell phone from me so I couldn't call work or for help, punched me in the face, etc. and terrorized me while I was in the truck and couldn't leave for 2 hours for not creating a safe environment for customers or ____???? The employee is a convicted felon of drugs and a type of battery. I almost got fired over this. I filed a statement with Sherriff's Dept right after it happened and they took pictures. The employee was supposed to be at his job at the dealership during the time he abducted me. Can I sue Dealership? RESPONSE A: Assuming the employer negligently hired or supervised this employee, yes. Merely being a convicted felon doesn't it make it a slam dunk case though, you have to show evidence knew he had some type of tendency to cause this and they allowed it to happen by hiring him because this isn't going to be one of those situations where the employer is automatically responsible for the actions of their employee. This wasn't mere a frolic or detour debate. The employee went completely off the rails. RESPONSE B: Short answer. Yes you have a lawsuit against his employer. Whether you will be successful will depend on whether they were negligent in hiring him. What they knew about his criminal background etc. It’s also a criminal matter for kidnapping and battery. How long ago did this happen? Which response is better? RESPONSE

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POST: on of drugs and a type of battery. I almost got fired over this. I filed a statement with Sherriff's Dept right after it happened and they took pictures. The employee was supposed to be at his job at the dealership during the time he abducted me. Can I sue Dealership? RESPONSE A: Short answer. Yes you have a lawsuit against his employer. Whether you will be successful will depend on whether they were negligent in hiring him. What they knew about his criminal background etc. It’s also a criminal matter for kidnapping and battery. How long ago did this happen? RESPONSE B: --- > http://imgur.com/a/myIAb --- *I am a bot whose sole purpose is to improve the timeliness and accuracy of responses in this subreddit.* --- **It appears you forgot to include your location in the title or body of your post. Please update the body of your original post to include this information.** --- ***Do NOT delete this post - Instead, simply edit the post with the requested information.*** --- Author: /u/datdat1212 Title: **Porter at dealership took me (as customer) to his house instead of giving me a ride to work as promised upon return of rental car. Can I sue the dealership?** Original Post: > ## Can I sue dealership if their porter who was to give me a courtesy ride to work after returning their rental car took me against my will to his home instead, took my cell phone from me so I couldn't call work or for help, punched me in the face, etc. and terrorized me while I was in the truck and couldn't leave for 2 hours for not creating a safe environment for customers or ____ ???? The employee is a convicted felon of drugs and a type of battery. I almost got fired over this. I filed a statement with Sherriff's Dept right after it happened and they took pictures. The employee was supposed to be at his job at the dealership during the time he abducted me. Can I sue Dealership? --- LocationBot 4.0 | GitHub (Coming Soon) | Statistics | Report Issues Which response is better? RESPONSE

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POST: me. Can I sue Dealership? RESPONSE A: --- > http://imgur.com/a/myIAb --- *I am a bot whose sole purpose is to improve the timeliness and accuracy of responses in this subreddit.* --- **It appears you forgot to include your location in the title or body of your post. Please update the body of your original post to include this information.** --- ***Do NOT delete this post - Instead, simply edit the post with the requested information.*** --- Author: /u/datdat1212 Title: **Porter at dealership took me (as customer) to his house instead of giving me a ride to work as promised upon return of rental car. Can I sue the dealership?** Original Post: > ## Can I sue dealership if their porter who was to give me a courtesy ride to work after returning their rental car took me against my will to his home instead, took my cell phone from me so I couldn't call work or for help, punched me in the face, etc. and terrorized me while I was in the truck and couldn't leave for 2 hours for not creating a safe environment for customers or ____ ???? The employee is a convicted felon of drugs and a type of battery. I almost got fired over this. I filed a statement with Sherriff's Dept right after it happened and they took pictures. The employee was supposed to be at his job at the dealership during the time he abducted me. Can I sue Dealership? --- LocationBot 4.0 | GitHub (Coming Soon) | Statistics | Report Issues RESPONSE B: Assuming the employer negligently hired or supervised this employee, yes. Merely being a convicted felon doesn't it make it a slam dunk case though, you have to show evidence knew he had some type of tendency to cause this and they allowed it to happen by hiring him because this isn't going to be one of those situations where the employer is automatically responsible for the actions of their employee. This wasn't mere a frolic or detour debate. The employee went completely off the rails. Which response is better? RESPONSE

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POST: to the car and that a claim will be started. It is absolutely impossible that damage occurred to the car during my rental so I disputed it. I stated that if the damage is so significant, how could they have me go on my way and then call me 3 days later. How do I know what happened to the car in those 3 days? The Avis representative stated that he was just telling me that a claim will be started and Avis will be looking into it and may or may not reach out to me. 3 weeks went by and Avis never reached out to me so I figured it was resolved somehow. Today, I got a call from the 3rd party that handles Avis's claims billing and told me that I was responsible for roughly $1000 of damages to the car. I told them the story and how Avis never even reached out to me. So they sent me the documentation but I firmly disputed it again. So as of now, they have said that since they're a third party, all they can do is get back to Avis with my comments & that I'm refusing to pay. How can this be dealt with? I am 100% certain that I did not hit the car anywhere even slightly, let alone to cause "significant" body damage. RESPONSE A: You have your copy of the return receipt, signed by their agent, that shows it in non-damaged condition, right? RESPONSE B: Auto insurance adjuster here: They probably already filed the claim with your insurance. Contact your insurance company and tell them that you were sent a bill. Let your insurance company handle it, that's what you pay them for. Your insurance company will ask you what happened and tell them exactly what you posted here. Your insurance company will likely deny their claim and that's it. Third party companies that work for rental companies are notorious for this. They send bills to everyone involved in the claim hoping someone will pay it. Believe it or not clerical errors of businesses paying things they don't owe happen all the time. It's Avis's burden of proof that the damage occurred while you were the renter of the vehicle. If what you said was all true then they can't prove that you returned the car with damage since they waited 3 days to call you. Which response is better? RESPONSE

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POST: and drove it without incident. After I returned the car, the rental agent did a walk around with me, which was also without incident - gave me a receipt and sent me on my way. 3 days later, I got a phone call from someone at Avis in Newark saying that there was "significant" body damage to the car and that a claim will be started. It is absolutely impossible that damage occurred to the car during my rental so I disputed it. I stated that if the damage is so significant, how could they have me go on my way and then call me 3 days later. How do I know what happened to the car in those 3 days? The Avis representative stated that he was just telling me that a claim will be started and Avis will be looking into it and may or may not reach out to me. 3 weeks went by and Avis never reached out to me so I figured it was resolved somehow. Today, I got a call from the 3rd party that handles Avis's claims billing and told me that I was responsible for roughly $1000 of damages to the car. I told them the story and how Avis never even reached out to me. So they sent me the documentation but I firmly disputed it again. So as of now, they have said that since they're a third party, all they can do is get back to Avis with my comments & that I'm refusing to pay. How can this be dealt with? I am 100% certain that I did not hit the car anywhere even slightly, let alone to cause "significant" body damage. RESPONSE A: Had the same thing occur with Enterprise. Called and called and called and finally got an escalation department with claims. Told them my story and they said they would get back to me. They called a few days later and said there was an already existing claim from prior renter of that vehicle and they would drop my claim. Keep fighting them! RESPONSE B: Pro tip for future renters: At pickup and drop off take 5 pictures of your car. Front, both sides, back, and a picture of the entire car with the rental office, signs, lot, etc etc in the picture/background. If you want to have more documentation, enable geo-tagging on the pictures. Which response is better? RESPONSE

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POST: claim will be started. It is absolutely impossible that damage occurred to the car during my rental so I disputed it. I stated that if the damage is so significant, how could they have me go on my way and then call me 3 days later. How do I know what happened to the car in those 3 days? The Avis representative stated that he was just telling me that a claim will be started and Avis will be looking into it and may or may not reach out to me. 3 weeks went by and Avis never reached out to me so I figured it was resolved somehow. Today, I got a call from the 3rd party that handles Avis's claims billing and told me that I was responsible for roughly $1000 of damages to the car. I told them the story and how Avis never even reached out to me. So they sent me the documentation but I firmly disputed it again. So as of now, they have said that since they're a third party, all they can do is get back to Avis with my comments & that I'm refusing to pay. How can this be dealt with? I am 100% certain that I did not hit the car anywhere even slightly, let alone to cause "significant" body damage. RESPONSE A: Pro tip for future renters: At pickup and drop off take 5 pictures of your car. Front, both sides, back, and a picture of the entire car with the rental office, signs, lot, etc etc in the picture/background. If you want to have more documentation, enable geo-tagging on the pictures. RESPONSE B: Avis will likely set up a claim on your policy for you. If you haven't heard from your insurance company then Avis might not have reported it to them. If they don't set up a claim I'm wondering if they know they don't have a case. It's possible that this is a last resort and they are pursuing you directly hoping you will just pay them. I would contact Viking and tell them to direct all correspondence to your insurance and if they're making a claim they can set one up. Even if they call your bluff it's best that your insurance company knows anyway so they can deal with the headache instead of you. Which response is better? RESPONSE

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POST: Pregnant cousin left her child in the car for over two hours while at a casino This was totally stupid and irresponsible. The cops were called when someone saw a 2.5 yo child left in the car. After reviewing footages, they realized it was over two hours. Child services was called and they contacted us to pick up her son because she was potentially going to jail. On our way there, they told us to turn around and they’re letting her go home tonight but there will be a warrant out for her arrest for another day. This is in NC for context. As a family member, what can we expect will happen? Is this a felony and will she lose custody of her child and her employment? Is it too soon to seek out a lawyer? Any insights would be greatly appreciated. RESPONSE A: If CPS asks the court for temporary custody, you can contact them to say you are interested in being considered for kinship placement (meaning the kid lives with you while in custody. RESPONSE B: I would be very surprised if she is charged with a felony in NC. This is in the wheelhouse of the A1 misdemeanor for placing a child at risk of harm (but thankfully no harm done). Depending on the county, she is likely to be asked to take a parenting class and comply with CPS in exchange for a positive disposition. If mental health issues are involved she may be asked to get an evaluation. Depending on what county you are in, there may be a very good PD (public defender) office or great appointed attorneys. However, if she hasn’t been served with the warrant yet, you probably won’t be able to get a meeting with a Pd. So you can definitely talk to a local lawyer about how such cases are handled in that jurisdiction. ETA: unless this child is injured it is definitely not a felony. https://www.ncleg.net/enactedlegislation/statutes/html/bysection/chapter_14/gs_14-318.4.html Which response is better? RESPONSE

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POST: My uncle had a stroke while driving and crashed into a concrete pole. Instead of taking him to the hospital, the police assumed he was drunk and put him in jail. He was later admitted to the ICU. He ended up with a brain bleed and several aneurysms. He struggles to walk now and remains bedridden; would he have any legal case against the department? I am definitely not one who believes in ridiculous lawsuits, but I feel like this was just negligence on the part of the police. Please note he was completely sober when the incident occurred. My heart aches for him; he is at home while he waits for his surgeries and takes care of himself. His dad is supposed to be “helping” him but seems to do the very minimum. He cannot afford extra help, and sometimes has to drag himself across the floor to use the bathroom since he cannot walk. He has to Uber Eats himself food or take an Uber to Walmart for his meals. RESPONSE A: Not a lawyer, but a paramedic. If your uncle wasn’t drinking, absolutely this is prime lawsuit material. Your uncle should have been seen by EMS, who should have been able to recognize the signs of a stroke. A lawyer should review EMS’s patient care report, and see what the officer did to determine her was intoxicated (breathalyzer? Roadside sobriety test?). A good lawyer would be able to tear apart EMS and the arresting officer. However, please keep in mind: Maybe your uncle was drinking that night, and sustained a head injury in the crash. Head injuries can cause brain bleeds, with a delay in presentation of symptoms from minutes to even weeks later. This is even more likely if your uncle is older, and an alcoholic. But like I said: if your uncle was sober this is a great case to pursue. RESPONSE B: I would definitely talk to a lawyer about this case. There is definitely something here but when it comes to suing law enforcement... don't get your hopes up. Which response is better? RESPONSE

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POST: My uncle had a stroke while driving and crashed into a concrete pole. Instead of taking him to the hospital, the police assumed he was drunk and put him in jail. He was later admitted to the ICU. He ended up with a brain bleed and several aneurysms. He struggles to walk now and remains bedridden; would he have any legal case against the department? I am definitely not one who believes in ridiculous lawsuits, but I feel like this was just negligence on the part of the police. Please note he was completely sober when the incident occurred. My heart aches for him; he is at home while he waits for his surgeries and takes care of himself. His dad is supposed to be “helping” him but seems to do the very minimum. He cannot afford extra help, and sometimes has to drag himself across the floor to use the bathroom since he cannot walk. He has to Uber Eats himself food or take an Uber to Walmart for his meals. RESPONSE A: I would call Adult Protective Services and see if they can help with care services for him. RESPONSE B: Three things you need for a succesful suit: 1. A duty of care. Easy one this, the police owe a duty of care to folk they arrest 2. An error. Trickier one. The police do find a lot of drunk people and most haven't had strokes. So very fact specific, mainly did they follow their own procedures for checking the health of arrested people. 3. Harm. Ie did the delay cause the harm, or was it the original stroke and the accident. Again, very fact specific Edit: I seem to have typed this with a potato. Many many typos hopefully sorted Edit 2: to acknowledge the wise comments below, yes, all three could be in place, but it's about what you can prove in court, and about holding the police to a fair standard for the police, not an emt. What seems obvious to an emt is not always so for someone else. Which response is better? RESPONSE

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POST: My uncle had a stroke while driving and crashed into a concrete pole. Instead of taking him to the hospital, the police assumed he was drunk and put him in jail. He was later admitted to the ICU. He ended up with a brain bleed and several aneurysms. He struggles to walk now and remains bedridden; would he have any legal case against the department? I am definitely not one who believes in ridiculous lawsuits, but I feel like this was just negligence on the part of the police. Please note he was completely sober when the incident occurred. My heart aches for him; he is at home while he waits for his surgeries and takes care of himself. His dad is supposed to be “helping” him but seems to do the very minimum. He cannot afford extra help, and sometimes has to drag himself across the floor to use the bathroom since he cannot walk. He has to Uber Eats himself food or take an Uber to Walmart for his meals. RESPONSE A: I would definitely talk to a lawyer about this case. There is definitely something here but when it comes to suing law enforcement... don't get your hopes up. RESPONSE B: I would call Adult Protective Services and see if they can help with care services for him. Which response is better? RESPONSE

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POST: this was just negligence on the part of the police. Please note he was completely sober when the incident occurred. My heart aches for him; he is at home while he waits for his surgeries and takes care of himself. His dad is supposed to be “helping” him but seems to do the very minimum. He cannot afford extra help, and sometimes has to drag himself across the floor to use the bathroom since he cannot walk. He has to Uber Eats himself food or take an Uber to Walmart for his meals. RESPONSE A: --- > http://imgur.com/a/myIAb --- *I am a bot whose sole purpose is to improve the timeliness and accuracy of responses in this subreddit.* --- **It appears you forgot to include your location in the title or body of your post. Please update the body of your original post to include this information.** --- ***Do NOT delete this post - Instead, simply edit the post with the requested information.*** --- Author: /u/noogieboogie Title: **My uncle had a stroke while driving and crashed into a concrete pole. Instead of taking him to the hospital, the police assumed he was drunk and put him in jail. He was later admitted to the ICU.** Original Post: > He ended up with a brain bleed and several aneurysms. He struggles to walk now and remains bedridden; would he have any legal case against the department? I am definitely not one who believes in ridiculous lawsuits, but I feel like this was just negligence on the part of the police. Please note he was completely sober when the incident occurred. > > My heart aches for him; he is at home while he waits for his surgeries and takes care of himself. His dad is supposed to be “helping” him but seems to do the very minimum. He cannot afford extra help, and sometimes has to drag himself across the floor to use the bathroom since he cannot walk. He has to Uber Eats himself food or take an Uber to Walmart for his meals. --- LocationBot 4.31977192 | Report Issues RESPONSE B: I would call Adult Protective Services and see if they can help with care services for him. Which response is better? RESPONSE

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POST: A drunk woman crashed a car into our house and caused a significant amount of damage. The car insurance won’t fully cover the expenses. The car she was driving was not hers. It was a friend of hers. That policy owner’s coverages are not enough to fill cover the cost of the damages. What are our next steps? -Do we have to sue the driver, the policy owner, or the insurance for the rest of the damages to our property? -What kind of lawyer would we need? -Do we have to pay out of pocket for said lawyer until the costs are recovered later? -How long does it usually take if we have file a lawsuit? Thank you so much for your help, y’all. This has been a very weird time. RESPONSE A: File a claim with your homeowners insurance and let them go after the other parties. Visit /r/insurance for advice from insurance professionals. RESPONSE B: Any civil attorney can help. You should sue both the driver and car owner. You would likely pay out of pocket for the lawyer. And if no party has money to pay you, you might not get much if anything Is there a reason you don't want to use your homeowners insurance? They would do all the leg work on the suing and trying I connect on said lawsuit Which response is better? RESPONSE

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POST: A drunk woman crashed a car into our house and caused a significant amount of damage. The car insurance won’t fully cover the expenses. The car she was driving was not hers. It was a friend of hers. That policy owner’s coverages are not enough to fill cover the cost of the damages. What are our next steps? -Do we have to sue the driver, the policy owner, or the insurance for the rest of the damages to our property? -What kind of lawyer would we need? -Do we have to pay out of pocket for said lawyer until the costs are recovered later? -How long does it usually take if we have file a lawsuit? Thank you so much for your help, y’all. This has been a very weird time. RESPONSE A: You would be better off going through your home paneers insurance. You wouldn’t sue the drivers insurance. Her policy limits are what they are. If she doesn’t have enough coverage to pay for your damages, her insurance will only pay up to her policy limit. If you sue her, understand it could take years before you ever see a dime from her. RESPONSE B: Any civil attorney can help. You should sue both the driver and car owner. You would likely pay out of pocket for the lawyer. And if no party has money to pay you, you might not get much if anything Is there a reason you don't want to use your homeowners insurance? They would do all the leg work on the suing and trying I connect on said lawsuit Which response is better? RESPONSE

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POST: Under 18 kid stole a car from a neighbor, used it to wreck into my car that was parked, cops detained kid in stolen car and then released him. Can I sue parents? I have video of accident. It wasn’t actually an accident he rammed my truck twice intentionally. 2003 tacoma it’s worth 4-5k and damage may be around that so it’s probably totaled. Pretty much destroyed the whole passenger side. I looked into small claims and the max is 2,500 in kentucky so maybe that’s all I could get. Also the family probably is not well off so not sure how that works. Okay any advice is appreciated. RESPONSE A: Do they not have car insurance you can file a claim against? If he’s a driver he may be on their policy. You’ll have more luck with that than small clams court. If not, do you have UIM insurance? RESPONSE B: there are two sections that could apply, depending on whether it really was an accident: https://law.justia.com/codes/kentucky/2019/chapter-186/section-186-590/ ​ if it was intentional property damage: https://law.justia.com/codes/kentucky/2019/chapter-405/section-405-025/ Which response is better? RESPONSE

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POST: A Goodwill company truck hit my parked car and they won’t pay for repairs I live in Milwaukee, and had my car parked on the side of the road. A goodwill company semi hit the side of my car. They called the police and filed a police report, and I contacted my insurance company. It’s been three months, and my insurance company (Allstate) has just told me that when they reached out to Goodwill and their insurance, that the vehicle was not insured at the time of the accident, and that Goodwill said they didn’t have a claim filed on their end. What do I do? I feel like I’m going to have to take legal action and I’ve never done that before. I feel like if I try it’s going to cost more money to get a lawyer than what my deductible reimbursement would be, but this was not okay and I want to sew them for the hassle it’s caused and for the fact that they are clearly badly run. My insurance company and I have reached out to Goodwill multiple times and have been given phone numbers that don’t work or have not been responded to at all. RESPONSE A: This is 100% your insurance companies responsibility if you have uninsured/underinsured coverage. Your insurance company is being lazy - it's their liability and they will go after Goodwill to be made whole. Point #2 - Goodwill is admitting that they are operating uninsured semi-trucks in the city? There are a BUNCH of state agencies that would like to know about this. Goodwill organizations are locally controlled and operated, run by a board of directors. The liability for having semi trucks rolling around the city uninsured would certainly be a major concern. RESPONSE B: You should file a claim under your own insurance and let this be your insurer's problem. You're right. This hassle is greater than your deductible. And your insurer still may recover their payout and your deductible from Goodwill. If they don't you may be able to sue Goodwill for that amount directly. Which response is better? RESPONSE

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POST: Employer wants me to switch my daughters daycare because he feels like I should stay past 5, even thought that's the end of the work day. Hey Reddit. I'm a Canadian citizen and I am having an issue at work. I am performing well, doing my job, and not doing anything against company policy or Canadian law. Recently my employer expressed the fact that although our day ends at 5PM that because I'm not staying past 5 like some other employees that he thinks I am not hustling or taking the job seriously. I know nothing can be done so although I was upset I brushed it off. The reason I leave at 5 on the dot usually is because my daughter is in daycare and the daycare is not open past 6. I need to be there to pick her up, and also want to be there to spend the night with her. We'll, yesterday night a superior messaged me about a daycare he found that is open to 7PM and serves dinner to kids. I was infuriated. I don't know why they expect me to pay more money and switch my daughter to another day care after already making friends and getting used to her current daycare. Especially since it's only because they feel I should be staying after 5. Is this legal? Are there issues I can bring up? Or is my employer just a big POS? RESPONSE A: Contact the government office that deals with these employment questions, you should be crystal clear on the legal rules before you take any action. RESPONSE B: Not illegal. But maybe worth asking HR, "To clarify, is Boss saying that staying past 5pm is a part of my job responsibilities and, as such, I should enroll my child in an alternate daycare? Im confused by what s/he is trying to communicate here but if my job responsibilities have changed, I would like to know." Which response is better? RESPONSE

B

POST: Employer wants me to switch my daughters daycare because he feels like I should stay past 5, even thought that's the end of the work day. Hey Reddit. I'm a Canadian citizen and I am having an issue at work. I am performing well, doing my job, and not doing anything against company policy or Canadian law. Recently my employer expressed the fact that although our day ends at 5PM that because I'm not staying past 5 like some other employees that he thinks I am not hustling or taking the job seriously. I know nothing can be done so although I was upset I brushed it off. The reason I leave at 5 on the dot usually is because my daughter is in daycare and the daycare is not open past 6. I need to be there to pick her up, and also want to be there to spend the night with her. We'll, yesterday night a superior messaged me about a daycare he found that is open to 7PM and serves dinner to kids. I was infuriated. I don't know why they expect me to pay more money and switch my daughter to another day care after already making friends and getting used to her current daycare. Especially since it's only because they feel I should be staying after 5. Is this legal? Are there issues I can bring up? Or is my employer just a big POS? RESPONSE A: Nowhere is it illegal for an employer to make a suggestion. Should you face repercussions for ignoring the suggestion, well, that's a different post. RESPONSE B: Not illegal. But maybe worth asking HR, "To clarify, is Boss saying that staying past 5pm is a part of my job responsibilities and, as such, I should enroll my child in an alternate daycare? Im confused by what s/he is trying to communicate here but if my job responsibilities have changed, I would like to know." Which response is better? RESPONSE

B

POST: Employer wants me to switch my daughters daycare because he feels like I should stay past 5, even thought that's the end of the work day. Hey Reddit. I'm a Canadian citizen and I am having an issue at work. I am performing well, doing my job, and not doing anything against company policy or Canadian law. Recently my employer expressed the fact that although our day ends at 5PM that because I'm not staying past 5 like some other employees that he thinks I am not hustling or taking the job seriously. I know nothing can be done so although I was upset I brushed it off. The reason I leave at 5 on the dot usually is because my daughter is in daycare and the daycare is not open past 6. I need to be there to pick her up, and also want to be there to spend the night with her. We'll, yesterday night a superior messaged me about a daycare he found that is open to 7PM and serves dinner to kids. I was infuriated. I don't know why they expect me to pay more money and switch my daughter to another day care after already making friends and getting used to her current daycare. Especially since it's only because they feel I should be staying after 5. Is this legal? Are there issues I can bring up? Or is my employer just a big POS? RESPONSE A: Nowhere is it illegal for an employer to make a suggestion. Should you face repercussions for ignoring the suggestion, well, that's a different post. RESPONSE B: Contact the government office that deals with these employment questions, you should be crystal clear on the legal rules before you take any action. Which response is better? RESPONSE

B

POST: Employer wants me to switch my daughters daycare because he feels like I should stay past 5, even thought that's the end of the work day. Hey Reddit. I'm a Canadian citizen and I am having an issue at work. I am performing well, doing my job, and not doing anything against company policy or Canadian law. Recently my employer expressed the fact that although our day ends at 5PM that because I'm not staying past 5 like some other employees that he thinks I am not hustling or taking the job seriously. I know nothing can be done so although I was upset I brushed it off. The reason I leave at 5 on the dot usually is because my daughter is in daycare and the daycare is not open past 6. I need to be there to pick her up, and also want to be there to spend the night with her. We'll, yesterday night a superior messaged me about a daycare he found that is open to 7PM and serves dinner to kids. I was infuriated. I don't know why they expect me to pay more money and switch my daughter to another day care after already making friends and getting used to her current daycare. Especially since it's only because they feel I should be staying after 5. Is this legal? Are there issues I can bring up? Or is my employer just a big POS? RESPONSE A: Nowhere is it illegal for an employer to make a suggestion. Should you face repercussions for ignoring the suggestion, well, that's a different post. RESPONSE B: Is it legal for him to suggest an alternative daycare? Yes. It is not legal for him to fire you because you don’t stay past the end of the work day. I would be looking for a new job if I were you. Which response is better? RESPONSE

B

POST: Employer wants me to switch my daughters daycare because he feels like I should stay past 5, even thought that's the end of the work day. Hey Reddit. I'm a Canadian citizen and I am having an issue at work. I am performing well, doing my job, and not doing anything against company policy or Canadian law. Recently my employer expressed the fact that although our day ends at 5PM that because I'm not staying past 5 like some other employees that he thinks I am not hustling or taking the job seriously. I know nothing can be done so although I was upset I brushed it off. The reason I leave at 5 on the dot usually is because my daughter is in daycare and the daycare is not open past 6. I need to be there to pick her up, and also want to be there to spend the night with her. We'll, yesterday night a superior messaged me about a daycare he found that is open to 7PM and serves dinner to kids. I was infuriated. I don't know why they expect me to pay more money and switch my daughter to another day care after already making friends and getting used to her current daycare. Especially since it's only because they feel I should be staying after 5. Is this legal? Are there issues I can bring up? Or is my employer just a big POS? RESPONSE A: I see nothing illegal about it. Your employer has the right to give you a suggestion even if it's unsolicited and inappropriate. RESPONSE B: Turn it into a negotiation. IF they want you to stay later and use that specific daycare, tell'em to open up the old chequebook and compensate you for it. Otherwise start shipping CVs and pop smoke ASAP. Which response is better? RESPONSE

B

POST: Sent to collections for a hospital bill from 2008 for my (then) 5 year old daughter's prostate removal and hospital stay. No one will listen when I tell them it's a mistake. California. I could really use some advice or to be pointed in the right direction here. No one from the collections company or the hospital will listen when I try to show them that it is a mistake. I even went to the hospital with my daughter, her birth certificate (she was born there) and her SSN but they just told me the bill is accurate. It's a huge bill and there's no way I can afford it. The calls are constant. I have three pre-teen kids and my wife died when they were small and I'm doing it all on my own here. If I get stuck paying the bill I'll lose my house and money is tight. It's obviously a mistake and I'm freaking out. What should I do to and how can I get someone to listen to and fix it? RESPONSE A: Do not pay a cent. It's beyond the statute of limitations. But, if you pay anything, that may restart the clock. It is also too late to report to collections. So, best thing is to order them not to contact you about it any more. Best to do that in writing. RESPONSE B: Prostate removal from female? Case closed. Which response is better? RESPONSE

B

POST: Sent to collections for a hospital bill from 2008 for my (then) 5 year old daughter's prostate removal and hospital stay. No one will listen when I tell them it's a mistake. California. I could really use some advice or to be pointed in the right direction here. No one from the collections company or the hospital will listen when I try to show them that it is a mistake. I even went to the hospital with my daughter, her birth certificate (she was born there) and her SSN but they just told me the bill is accurate. It's a huge bill and there's no way I can afford it. The calls are constant. I have three pre-teen kids and my wife died when they were small and I'm doing it all on my own here. If I get stuck paying the bill I'll lose my house and money is tight. It's obviously a mistake and I'm freaking out. What should I do to and how can I get someone to listen to and fix it? RESPONSE A: Consult with a lawyer who specializes in suing debt collectors. It will depend on a few details which a lawyer will be able to help with but there are some steep consequences for debt collectors who violate collection laws (and this sounds like if they are not already violating they will) RESPONSE B: Prostate removal from female? Case closed. Which response is better? RESPONSE

B

POST: Sent to collections for a hospital bill from 2008 for my (then) 5 year old daughter's prostate removal and hospital stay. No one will listen when I tell them it's a mistake. California. I could really use some advice or to be pointed in the right direction here. No one from the collections company or the hospital will listen when I try to show them that it is a mistake. I even went to the hospital with my daughter, her birth certificate (she was born there) and her SSN but they just told me the bill is accurate. It's a huge bill and there's no way I can afford it. The calls are constant. I have three pre-teen kids and my wife died when they were small and I'm doing it all on my own here. If I get stuck paying the bill I'll lose my house and money is tight. It's obviously a mistake and I'm freaking out. What should I do to and how can I get someone to listen to and fix it? RESPONSE A: Did she have any hospital stay? If you're sure it's meritless, you read the FDCPA, you tell the debt collectors to go away, and they do. RESPONSE B: Prostate removal from female? Case closed. Which response is better? RESPONSE

A

POST: Sent to collections for a hospital bill from 2008 for my (then) 5 year old daughter's prostate removal and hospital stay. No one will listen when I tell them it's a mistake. California. I could really use some advice or to be pointed in the right direction here. No one from the collections company or the hospital will listen when I try to show them that it is a mistake. I even went to the hospital with my daughter, her birth certificate (she was born there) and her SSN but they just told me the bill is accurate. It's a huge bill and there's no way I can afford it. The calls are constant. I have three pre-teen kids and my wife died when they were small and I'm doing it all on my own here. If I get stuck paying the bill I'll lose my house and money is tight. It's obviously a mistake and I'm freaking out. What should I do to and how can I get someone to listen to and fix it? RESPONSE A: Do not pay a cent. It's beyond the statute of limitations. But, if you pay anything, that may restart the clock. It is also too late to report to collections. So, best thing is to order them not to contact you about it any more. Best to do that in writing. RESPONSE B: Did she have any hospital stay? If you're sure it's meritless, you read the FDCPA, you tell the debt collectors to go away, and they do. Which response is better? RESPONSE

A

POST: Sent to collections for a hospital bill from 2008 for my (then) 5 year old daughter's prostate removal and hospital stay. No one will listen when I tell them it's a mistake. California. I could really use some advice or to be pointed in the right direction here. No one from the collections company or the hospital will listen when I try to show them that it is a mistake. I even went to the hospital with my daughter, her birth certificate (she was born there) and her SSN but they just told me the bill is accurate. It's a huge bill and there's no way I can afford it. The calls are constant. I have three pre-teen kids and my wife died when they were small and I'm doing it all on my own here. If I get stuck paying the bill I'll lose my house and money is tight. It's obviously a mistake and I'm freaking out. What should I do to and how can I get someone to listen to and fix it? RESPONSE A: You may also want to check, and freeze, your daughter's credit, in case she is a victim of identity theft. I hope this is not the case. RESPONSE B: Here's a debt validation letter. Which response is better? RESPONSE

B

POST: phone and started snapping multiple pictures of her body laying there and laughing at the same time. At the time I couldn’t even believe what happened. My mind was so messed up and I felt like I was in some sort of nightmare. I couldn’t believe anyone would do something like that to somebody, especially someone who worked for them for 20 years. I hit the floor and my chest felt like it was seriously about to cave in, I felt like I couldn’t breathe. I went and told my aunt, and she asked him to leave immediately. During this whole thing my biological mom was in Florida, and she started driving back when she heard. When they got back from Florida they told me that he sent them the pictures he took of her body. I nearly lost it after hearing that. She would’ve NEVER wanted ANYONE to see her like that, and this sick piece of trash is sending pictures of her body to people. I also found out that he not only sent the pictures to them, but also sent them to her co-workers. I contacted one of them who admitted that he sent them to her, but she didn’t want to lose her job by getting involved. She deserved so much better than this. I’m just wondering, if you’ve read this, what would your opinion be about this whole situation. I am so heartbroken over all this, and this guy taking illegal pictures of my mother’s dead body and sending them to who knows how many people. Probably his entire family has them and they’re probably passing them around. I just wanted to know if anyone has been through anything like this? It’s so horrific, and I feel so sick about all of this. I can’t sleep at night, I haven’t slept halfway decent since all this happened. RESPONSE A: I’m so sorry for your loss. After you have had time to grieve, you could talk to a personal injury lawyer. You may have a claim against him for infliction of emotional distress. Those are hard cases to prove, but if what you said is true, his behavior was pretty outrageous. RESPONSE B: Contacting corporate might also be a good idea. Everyone involved should report their own interaction with him so they can get a clear picture. Which response is better? RESPONSE

B

POST: I hit the floor and my chest felt like it was seriously about to cave in, I felt like I couldn’t breathe. I went and told my aunt, and she asked him to leave immediately. During this whole thing my biological mom was in Florida, and she started driving back when she heard. When they got back from Florida they told me that he sent them the pictures he took of her body. I nearly lost it after hearing that. She would’ve NEVER wanted ANYONE to see her like that, and this sick piece of trash is sending pictures of her body to people. I also found out that he not only sent the pictures to them, but also sent them to her co-workers. I contacted one of them who admitted that he sent them to her, but she didn’t want to lose her job by getting involved. She deserved so much better than this. I’m just wondering, if you’ve read this, what would your opinion be about this whole situation. I am so heartbroken over all this, and this guy taking illegal pictures of my mother’s dead body and sending them to who knows how many people. Probably his entire family has them and they’re probably passing them around. I just wanted to know if anyone has been through anything like this? It’s so horrific, and I feel so sick about all of this. I can’t sleep at night, I haven’t slept halfway decent since all this happened. RESPONSE A: It doesnt sound like there's anything illegal here, or anything that caused damages you can sue for. The only potentially problematic thing is this: >The ER just let him back there, without anybody’s permission. But that's more an issue of hospital policy than the law. Was anyone in your family present to refuse his visiting? Also your title says the boss took pictures in the morgue, but the text says it was in the ER. There might be stricter laws about who's allowed to access the deceased, not sure. The best you can do is complain to hospital administration about how this was handled, and maybe they'll tighten their procedures for the future. RESPONSE B: Contacting corporate might also be a good idea. Everyone involved should report their own interaction with him so they can get a clear picture. Which response is better? RESPONSE

A

POST: to leave immediately. During this whole thing my biological mom was in Florida, and she started driving back when she heard. When they got back from Florida they told me that he sent them the pictures he took of her body. I nearly lost it after hearing that. She would’ve NEVER wanted ANYONE to see her like that, and this sick piece of trash is sending pictures of her body to people. I also found out that he not only sent the pictures to them, but also sent them to her co-workers. I contacted one of them who admitted that he sent them to her, but she didn’t want to lose her job by getting involved. She deserved so much better than this. I’m just wondering, if you’ve read this, what would your opinion be about this whole situation. I am so heartbroken over all this, and this guy taking illegal pictures of my mother’s dead body and sending them to who knows how many people. Probably his entire family has them and they’re probably passing them around. I just wanted to know if anyone has been through anything like this? It’s so horrific, and I feel so sick about all of this. I can’t sleep at night, I haven’t slept halfway decent since all this happened. RESPONSE A: >When they got back from Florida they told me that he sent them the pictures he took of her body. Depending on the circumstances, sending family members photos of a deceased loved one *may* constitute criminal harassment. You've got nothing to lose by going to the police and explaining the situation to them. RESPONSE B: It doesnt sound like there's anything illegal here, or anything that caused damages you can sue for. The only potentially problematic thing is this: >The ER just let him back there, without anybody’s permission. But that's more an issue of hospital policy than the law. Was anyone in your family present to refuse his visiting? Also your title says the boss took pictures in the morgue, but the text says it was in the ER. There might be stricter laws about who's allowed to access the deceased, not sure. The best you can do is complain to hospital administration about how this was handled, and maybe they'll tighten their procedures for the future. Which response is better? RESPONSE

A

POST: immediately. During this whole thing my biological mom was in Florida, and she started driving back when she heard. When they got back from Florida they told me that he sent them the pictures he took of her body. I nearly lost it after hearing that. She would’ve NEVER wanted ANYONE to see her like that, and this sick piece of trash is sending pictures of her body to people. I also found out that he not only sent the pictures to them, but also sent them to her co-workers. I contacted one of them who admitted that he sent them to her, but she didn’t want to lose her job by getting involved. She deserved so much better than this. I’m just wondering, if you’ve read this, what would your opinion be about this whole situation. I am so heartbroken over all this, and this guy taking illegal pictures of my mother’s dead body and sending them to who knows how many people. Probably his entire family has them and they’re probably passing them around. I just wanted to know if anyone has been through anything like this? It’s so horrific, and I feel so sick about all of this. I can’t sleep at night, I haven’t slept halfway decent since all this happened. RESPONSE A: I’m so sorry for your loss. After you have had time to grieve, you could talk to a personal injury lawyer. You may have a claim against him for infliction of emotional distress. Those are hard cases to prove, but if what you said is true, his behavior was pretty outrageous. RESPONSE B: It doesnt sound like there's anything illegal here, or anything that caused damages you can sue for. The only potentially problematic thing is this: >The ER just let him back there, without anybody’s permission. But that's more an issue of hospital policy than the law. Was anyone in your family present to refuse his visiting? Also your title says the boss took pictures in the morgue, but the text says it was in the ER. There might be stricter laws about who's allowed to access the deceased, not sure. The best you can do is complain to hospital administration about how this was handled, and maybe they'll tighten their procedures for the future. Which response is better? RESPONSE

A

POST: think more about it until this morning when I mentioned it to a couple of my coworkers and they were like "whooaa wait a minute, you guys are over 30, why would you need a trust fund when you should just get the money?" They also know the ongoing dramatic saga that has been my relationship with my father over the last 5 years, so they told me it sounded like him and his fiance want the money before the wedding. I don't know what to think. Is there something I'm missing? What questions should I be asking? I really don't want to destroy whatever is left of my relationship with my father if I can avoid it, but I also don't want to throw away the possibility of finally being able to pay down our debt and live a more comfortable life. I've been dreaming about not living paycheck to paycheck for years. RESPONSE A: Tell him you'll only consider it if he pays you the 5 years of back rental income, lump sum, immediately. If he does, then you can say, "I considered it, and I'm not gonna do it." That's your house. You're nearly 30. You're not a kid. Not even close. There's no way he needs to control your property. You need to do what you need to do to get control of it. Also, to get the rental income coming to YOU, not your dad. I get that you don't want to destroy the relationship, but that's exactly what he's doing... he's trying to take what's yours and benefit from it, while claiming he's doing it "for your own good." RESPONSE B: You've already gotten good advice in the other thread. Don't sign the house over. Your father has acted like this house was his for five years and taken the income from it, though he knew it wasn't his. On the other hand, he may have paid the property taxes, may have kept up the house, etc. So that's a good thing. You and your brother should probably speak with a lawyer and figure out how to reassert control over the property and decide what to do with it. Which response is better? RESPONSE

A

POST: the house over to him before the wedding, and he wants us to meet with him and a lawyer within the next week or so. I will admit I'm pretty ignorant to stuff of this nature since I've never had to deal with it before, so at first glance I didn't question this and told him okay, that's nice, because I really don't want to deal with a house either. I didn't really think more about it until this morning when I mentioned it to a couple of my coworkers and they were like "whooaa wait a minute, you guys are over 30, why would you need a trust fund when you should just get the money?" They also know the ongoing dramatic saga that has been my relationship with my father over the last 5 years, so they told me it sounded like him and his fiance want the money before the wedding. I don't know what to think. Is there something I'm missing? What questions should I be asking? I really don't want to destroy whatever is left of my relationship with my father if I can avoid it, but I also don't want to throw away the possibility of finally being able to pay down our debt and live a more comfortable life. I've been dreaming about not living paycheck to paycheck for years. RESPONSE A: Tell him you'll only consider it if he pays you the 5 years of back rental income, lump sum, immediately. If he does, then you can say, "I considered it, and I'm not gonna do it." That's your house. You're nearly 30. You're not a kid. Not even close. There's no way he needs to control your property. You need to do what you need to do to get control of it. Also, to get the rental income coming to YOU, not your dad. I get that you don't want to destroy the relationship, but that's exactly what he's doing... he's trying to take what's yours and benefit from it, while claiming he's doing it "for your own good." RESPONSE B: It sounds like your dad is trying to hose you. Get a consultation with a probate attorney. Which response is better? RESPONSE

A

POST: a call out of the blue from him (we rarely speak even though both my brother and I are in the wedding). Turns out one of the houses (he has two) dad rents out in Louisiana (we live in MA) was actually in my mom's name and my brother and I's name, meaning that when she died 5 years ago, we inherited it. This is the first I've heard of it. So his reason for the call was to tell us that he wants to "save us the headache of dealing with a house" and instead set up a trust fund with the money from the house, but in order to do so, we have to sign the house over to him before the wedding, and he wants us to meet with him and a lawyer within the next week or so. I will admit I'm pretty ignorant to stuff of this nature since I've never had to deal with it before, so at first glance I didn't question this and told him okay, that's nice, because I really don't want to deal with a house either. I didn't really think more about it until this morning when I mentioned it to a couple of my coworkers and they were like "whooaa wait a minute, you guys are over 30, why would you need a trust fund when you should just get the money?" They also know the ongoing dramatic saga that has been my relationship with my father over the last 5 years, so they told me it sounded like him and his fiance want the money before the wedding. I don't know what to think. Is there something I'm missing? What questions should I be asking? I really don't want to destroy whatever is left of my relationship with my father if I can avoid it, but I also don't want to throw away the possibility of finally being able to pay down our debt and live a more comfortable life. I've been dreaming about not living paycheck to paycheck for years. RESPONSE A: I agree with an attorney but you should also consider that your mother may have had other assets that were in your name only. Was there a will? RESPONSE B: It sounds like your dad is trying to hose you. Get a consultation with a probate attorney. Which response is better? RESPONSE

B

POST: wedding). Turns out one of the houses (he has two) dad rents out in Louisiana (we live in MA) was actually in my mom's name and my brother and I's name, meaning that when she died 5 years ago, we inherited it. This is the first I've heard of it. So his reason for the call was to tell us that he wants to "save us the headache of dealing with a house" and instead set up a trust fund with the money from the house, but in order to do so, we have to sign the house over to him before the wedding, and he wants us to meet with him and a lawyer within the next week or so. I will admit I'm pretty ignorant to stuff of this nature since I've never had to deal with it before, so at first glance I didn't question this and told him okay, that's nice, because I really don't want to deal with a house either. I didn't really think more about it until this morning when I mentioned it to a couple of my coworkers and they were like "whooaa wait a minute, you guys are over 30, why would you need a trust fund when you should just get the money?" They also know the ongoing dramatic saga that has been my relationship with my father over the last 5 years, so they told me it sounded like him and his fiance want the money before the wedding. I don't know what to think. Is there something I'm missing? What questions should I be asking? I really don't want to destroy whatever is left of my relationship with my father if I can avoid it, but I also don't want to throw away the possibility of finally being able to pay down our debt and live a more comfortable life. I've been dreaming about not living paycheck to paycheck for years. RESPONSE A: Follow up question for the lawers on the thread. Assuming he and/or his brother weren't notified after his mothers death, what kind of problems could the executor of her estate get into? RESPONSE B: I agree with an attorney but you should also consider that your mother may have had other assets that were in your name only. Was there a will? Which response is better? RESPONSE

B

POST: to sign the house over to him before the wedding, and he wants us to meet with him and a lawyer within the next week or so. I will admit I'm pretty ignorant to stuff of this nature since I've never had to deal with it before, so at first glance I didn't question this and told him okay, that's nice, because I really don't want to deal with a house either. I didn't really think more about it until this morning when I mentioned it to a couple of my coworkers and they were like "whooaa wait a minute, you guys are over 30, why would you need a trust fund when you should just get the money?" They also know the ongoing dramatic saga that has been my relationship with my father over the last 5 years, so they told me it sounded like him and his fiance want the money before the wedding. I don't know what to think. Is there something I'm missing? What questions should I be asking? I really don't want to destroy whatever is left of my relationship with my father if I can avoid it, but I also don't want to throw away the possibility of finally being able to pay down our debt and live a more comfortable life. I've been dreaming about not living paycheck to paycheck for years. RESPONSE A: Please don't talk to your father anymore about this until you consult with an attorney. They can guide you in this. You have THREE properties that you and your brother should have AT LEAST majority control of. There is a lot of money on the line. To discuss it anymore with him or his attorney without talking with your own is a mistake. There is a great deal of risk and money on the line here. Also, your father sounds like a scum bag. You didn't and will not hurt your relationship. He did. Consider trying to transform these properties into a continual residual income. It could really transform your life allowing you to not be in a position of debt any more AND possibly having a survivable income for you and your brother. RESPONSE B: I agree with an attorney but you should also consider that your mother may have had other assets that were in your name only. Was there a will? Which response is better? RESPONSE

B

POST: them anyone that came today to take her stuff would be "escorted off her property." Her family then called CPS. I have a friendly relationship with Nancy's mom and she texted my husband and I this weekend to say thanks for letting Nancy stay with us. I texted her today to see if she will meet me for coffee so we can talk. Have not heard back. Do I need to contact CPS and let them know Nancy is staying with us? Is there anything I can do to help Nancy be able to keep staying with us? I don't want her to be forced to move back home if she doesn't want to, or be forced to move in with relatives out of town and have to change schools, on top of all the chaos she's been living in. She's a great kid and my daughter's best friend. Her mom is in complete denial and is currently decluttering, as though that's all that needs to be done. It sounds like the house needs to be gutted down to the studs and even the sub floors need to be torn out and replaced. I know a family lawyer and can hire them if I need to. RESPONSE A: I'd recommend looking online for temporary guardianship forms and having one with you if to do manage to meet with either of Nancy's parents. If they'll sign it willingly, it gives you a leg up in the process, and legally clears you to take Nancy to the doctor, sign school permission slips, etc. Note that this does not override their natural rights as parents, so it's still best if CPS formally places Nancy with you, but the form can be a helpful interim measure while the formal paperwork is getting worked out, and it documents their trust in you and willingness to have you watch over Nancy. I am not a lawyer but have used temporary guardianship forms regularly when my kids are traveling with other people or we're watching someone else's child. RESPONSE B: Thanks for doing that for her. I moved in with my friend's family in high school and I still go see them every week and spend the holidays with them. I don't know how I would have even made it without the stability they provided for me. Which response is better? RESPONSE

B

POST: house, and she had from then (Saturday) to today to put anything she wanted to keep in boxes and remove them. Yesterday Nancy's mom called the police and told them anyone that came today to take her stuff would be "escorted off her property." Her family then called CPS. I have a friendly relationship with Nancy's mom and she texted my husband and I this weekend to say thanks for letting Nancy stay with us. I texted her today to see if she will meet me for coffee so we can talk. Have not heard back. Do I need to contact CPS and let them know Nancy is staying with us? Is there anything I can do to help Nancy be able to keep staying with us? I don't want her to be forced to move back home if she doesn't want to, or be forced to move in with relatives out of town and have to change schools, on top of all the chaos she's been living in. She's a great kid and my daughter's best friend. Her mom is in complete denial and is currently decluttering, as though that's all that needs to be done. It sounds like the house needs to be gutted down to the studs and even the sub floors need to be torn out and replaced. I know a family lawyer and can hire them if I need to. RESPONSE A: I'm gonna have to say inform CPS, it's important for them to have information relevant to the child's whereabouts while conducting any investigation. Considering the state of her Mom's home and that her Mom is seemingly supportive of it, and that she's 6 months away from being an adult, I highly doubt they'll have any problem with it. So contacting them will be in both hers and your best interests, you may want to see about a consultation with your family lawyer just to be on the safe side though. My biggest recommendation would honestly be to see what the plans are for her when she turns 18. RESPONSE B: Thanks for doing that for her. I moved in with my friend's family in high school and I still go see them every week and spend the holidays with them. I don't know how I would have even made it without the stability they provided for me. Which response is better? RESPONSE

A

POST: back. Do I need to contact CPS and let them know Nancy is staying with us? Is there anything I can do to help Nancy be able to keep staying with us? I don't want her to be forced to move back home if she doesn't want to, or be forced to move in with relatives out of town and have to change schools, on top of all the chaos she's been living in. She's a great kid and my daughter's best friend. Her mom is in complete denial and is currently decluttering, as though that's all that needs to be done. It sounds like the house needs to be gutted down to the studs and even the sub floors need to be torn out and replaced. I know a family lawyer and can hire them if I need to. RESPONSE A: I'd recommend looking online for temporary guardianship forms and having one with you if to do manage to meet with either of Nancy's parents. If they'll sign it willingly, it gives you a leg up in the process, and legally clears you to take Nancy to the doctor, sign school permission slips, etc. Note that this does not override their natural rights as parents, so it's still best if CPS formally places Nancy with you, but the form can be a helpful interim measure while the formal paperwork is getting worked out, and it documents their trust in you and willingness to have you watch over Nancy. I am not a lawyer but have used temporary guardianship forms regularly when my kids are traveling with other people or we're watching someone else's child. RESPONSE B: I'm gonna have to say inform CPS, it's important for them to have information relevant to the child's whereabouts while conducting any investigation. Considering the state of her Mom's home and that her Mom is seemingly supportive of it, and that she's 6 months away from being an adult, I highly doubt they'll have any problem with it. So contacting them will be in both hers and your best interests, you may want to see about a consultation with your family lawyer just to be on the safe side though. My biggest recommendation would honestly be to see what the plans are for her when she turns 18. Which response is better? RESPONSE

A

POST: have? And could I be in trouble because of this? I'm obviously going to try to convince her to get a storage unit or find someone she can store her belongings with, however, I've learned you can't really make grown people do anything, so if she decided to play chicken with uhaul, what's going to happen? RESPONSE A: I worked for Uhaul for many years. This isn't legal advice so much at insight on what they'll do. After they consider it stolen (usually a week after the due date has passed or after they can no longer establish communication with your friend) they'll send someone to both the address she rented it with and the one she said she was moving too. This is assuming it was a local rental and not one-way. If they spot it, they'll come to get it. The marketing company I worked under would send one of us to recover it, usually with one of the leads. If it was a truck, we'd bring the spare key and take it. If it was a trailer and it was unhooked and sitting there, we'd come with another truck and take it. We'd usually have a police escort but there were several times I just came up and took it. If your friends stuff is in the truck/trailer, U-Haul will store it and charge her. She will have to pay to retrieve it and if she doesn't, after the allotted time by law they have to hold it passes, they'll auction it off. Both you and her will be banned from ever renting from U-Haul again. I never saw them once try and press charges against anyone who didn't return equipment though. RESPONSE B: Your friend needs to go get a storage unit and put an their shit in there for the time being, then return it. They could report it stolen and your friend could get into legal trouble, and they are probably already going to get sued for the extra days of rent. You probably will not be in any criminal trouble unless there's something else we don't know. For example its not hitched to your vehicle is it? Pretty easy to claim you were the one stealing it in that case. Which response is better? RESPONSE

A

POST: least of my concerns. I was under the imoression she had talked to uhaul and was just paying out the ass every day to hold the trailer, and clearly thats not the case. Obviously not returning the uhaul is wrong, the next customer, all that. But is this a crime? Are they going to report it stolen? If so how long does she have? And could I be in trouble because of this? I'm obviously going to try to convince her to get a storage unit or find someone she can store her belongings with, however, I've learned you can't really make grown people do anything, so if she decided to play chicken with uhaul, what's going to happen? RESPONSE A: I worked for Uhaul for many years. This isn't legal advice so much at insight on what they'll do. After they consider it stolen (usually a week after the due date has passed or after they can no longer establish communication with your friend) they'll send someone to both the address she rented it with and the one she said she was moving too. This is assuming it was a local rental and not one-way. If they spot it, they'll come to get it. The marketing company I worked under would send one of us to recover it, usually with one of the leads. If it was a truck, we'd bring the spare key and take it. If it was a trailer and it was unhooked and sitting there, we'd come with another truck and take it. We'd usually have a police escort but there were several times I just came up and took it. If your friends stuff is in the truck/trailer, U-Haul will store it and charge her. She will have to pay to retrieve it and if she doesn't, after the allotted time by law they have to hold it passes, they'll auction it off. Both you and her will be banned from ever renting from U-Haul again. I never saw them once try and press charges against anyone who didn't return equipment though. RESPONSE B: Only if she hides it. Just tell uhaul where it is so they can come and get it Which response is better? RESPONSE

B

POST: If so how long does she have? And could I be in trouble because of this? I'm obviously going to try to convince her to get a storage unit or find someone she can store her belongings with, however, I've learned you can't really make grown people do anything, so if she decided to play chicken with uhaul, what's going to happen? RESPONSE A: I’ve had clients in the past charged with theft after keeping a rental vehicle beyond the designated return date and ghosting Hertz, Enterprise, etc. Your friend should be aware that she could get criminally charged. As far as your liability, don’t lie to U-Haul but make it clear that you did not rent the trailer. You may also want to let them know in writing that you didn’t agree to be a co-signer on the rental. RESPONSE B: I worked for Uhaul for many years. This isn't legal advice so much at insight on what they'll do. After they consider it stolen (usually a week after the due date has passed or after they can no longer establish communication with your friend) they'll send someone to both the address she rented it with and the one she said she was moving too. This is assuming it was a local rental and not one-way. If they spot it, they'll come to get it. The marketing company I worked under would send one of us to recover it, usually with one of the leads. If it was a truck, we'd bring the spare key and take it. If it was a trailer and it was unhooked and sitting there, we'd come with another truck and take it. We'd usually have a police escort but there were several times I just came up and took it. If your friends stuff is in the truck/trailer, U-Haul will store it and charge her. She will have to pay to retrieve it and if she doesn't, after the allotted time by law they have to hold it passes, they'll auction it off. Both you and her will be banned from ever renting from U-Haul again. I never saw them once try and press charges against anyone who didn't return equipment though. Which response is better? RESPONSE

B

POST: the ass every day to hold the trailer, and clearly thats not the case. Obviously not returning the uhaul is wrong, the next customer, all that. But is this a crime? Are they going to report it stolen? If so how long does she have? And could I be in trouble because of this? I'm obviously going to try to convince her to get a storage unit or find someone she can store her belongings with, however, I've learned you can't really make grown people do anything, so if she decided to play chicken with uhaul, what's going to happen? RESPONSE A: It’s a contracts issue. They rented for a period and she is in breach by not returning it. Eventually uhaul will come looking to repossess it. You can let them know where it is. RESPONSE B: I worked for Uhaul for many years. This isn't legal advice so much at insight on what they'll do. After they consider it stolen (usually a week after the due date has passed or after they can no longer establish communication with your friend) they'll send someone to both the address she rented it with and the one she said she was moving too. This is assuming it was a local rental and not one-way. If they spot it, they'll come to get it. The marketing company I worked under would send one of us to recover it, usually with one of the leads. If it was a truck, we'd bring the spare key and take it. If it was a trailer and it was unhooked and sitting there, we'd come with another truck and take it. We'd usually have a police escort but there were several times I just came up and took it. If your friends stuff is in the truck/trailer, U-Haul will store it and charge her. She will have to pay to retrieve it and if she doesn't, after the allotted time by law they have to hold it passes, they'll auction it off. Both you and her will be banned from ever renting from U-Haul again. I never saw them once try and press charges against anyone who didn't return equipment though. Which response is better? RESPONSE

A

POST: a storage unit or find someone she can store her belongings with, however, I've learned you can't really make grown people do anything, so if she decided to play chicken with uhaul, what's going to happen? RESPONSE A: I worked for Uhaul for many years. This isn't legal advice so much at insight on what they'll do. After they consider it stolen (usually a week after the due date has passed or after they can no longer establish communication with your friend) they'll send someone to both the address she rented it with and the one she said she was moving too. This is assuming it was a local rental and not one-way. If they spot it, they'll come to get it. The marketing company I worked under would send one of us to recover it, usually with one of the leads. If it was a truck, we'd bring the spare key and take it. If it was a trailer and it was unhooked and sitting there, we'd come with another truck and take it. We'd usually have a police escort but there were several times I just came up and took it. If your friends stuff is in the truck/trailer, U-Haul will store it and charge her. She will have to pay to retrieve it and if she doesn't, after the allotted time by law they have to hold it passes, they'll auction it off. Both you and her will be banned from ever renting from U-Haul again. I never saw them once try and press charges against anyone who didn't return equipment though. RESPONSE B: You didn't sign anything or agree to anything? It's parked on the street, not on your property? If both of those things are true, they can choose to ban you from renting from them, but you are not otherwise liable. However, they can name you as a defendant or sic the cops on you, albeit without justification, and that would be inconvenient and possibly costly. So you want the truck not in front of your house. One solution is to tell them it's there and tell her you told them. Then she can either deal with them or move it somewhere else. Which response is better? RESPONSE

B

POST: could spend the night. I allowed it and I met him. He is a good looking kid but he is very shy, and very quiet. He has a bruise on his back and he has a black eye. He said his cousin and her boyfriend gave it to him. I don't know his full status but apparently his cousin is his legal guardian. My daughter has sat with him the entire two hours he has been here. He told me his cousin is the only family he has. He has no one else otherwise he would not be staying there I am really concerned for this young man, he seems frightened of adults. I phoned his cousin did not say anything and said he is going to be spending the weekend at my place and the woman hung up on me. Did not say anything to me. I want to contact someone but my daughter is afraid of what will happen to him. She is scared they will take him away, I am going to contact someone in the morning. My daughter wants him to stay with us over the summer break. My daughter is a pretty girl she wants to be a model. At first I thought this was some master plan to get a boy to spend the night, but it's really not like that. She seems genuinely concerned for him and is taking good care of him. She as we speak is watching netflix with him on the couch. Who do I contact about this and if I were to want to take him in could I? RESPONSE A: Call CPS. The kid is being abused or being placed into dangerous situations. There's no guarantee of anything but you could certainly offer to be a temporary home for him if that's what you want to do. RESPONSE B: Call CPS or your local police might have a child abuse hotline. This is an emergency. Taking someone else's kid without the guardian's consent (and it sounds like you don't even know who the guardian is) is a terrible idea, for a night or for the summer. This can get you in tons of legal trouble, like felony kidnapping charges trouble. It's up to CPS to place him in a safe place, usually with family first, though you could offer. Which response is better? RESPONSE

B

POST: was no will left behind RESPONSE A: Is it possible that what they are looking for are personal documents such as a will, banking information, life insurance policies and such? If so, you could offer to look through the house for such things and provide copies. If there is a will, it can be an "chicken and egg" problem if the heirs can't gain access to it. To answer your question, I think it is legal to refuse them entry. Arguably, your mother could be liable for allowing them access. What if a will turns up and none of them are named executor? It is the probate court's job to determine if the decedent was intestate and to appoint someone to act as executor or administrator. All that said it is possible to settle a small estate without probate. If the estate is worth less than $50,000, the family can use a small estate affidavit to claim property. However, they have to wait at least 45 days after death to use it. As others have stated, there is no way they have any court order or any other document that would grant them access within 24 hours of death. Good luck. RESPONSE B: As the landlord it is your responsibility to secure the property which it sounds like you have already done. All of uncle Joe's property becomes the property of uncle Joe's estate. Uncle Joe's estate will get a court appointed executor. This executor will be named in a document signed by a judge, not uncle Joe's ex-wife's lawyer. You safely can surrender uncle Joe's estate's possessions to the executor. This sounds like a shady lot to me, I would not allow them in the house as a group. I would bet that one of them is going to keep you busy while the others steal stuff. If you wanted to be nice, arrange to meet ONLY one of them to hand over some of his stuff. Take photos, make a list of items, approx value and condition and make them sign for the stuff. That list should be provided to the executor once designated. You have no legal obligation to allow access to anyone not named on a written lease or the executor. ​ Which response is better? RESPONSE

A

POST: Ex husband wants put our 8 year old Non- verbal autistic son in a group home.What do I need to do to get custody again? RESPONSE A: There are too many variables to give a definitive answer. 1) what your current custody order actually states. 2) why you don’t have primary custody to begin with 3) what your Son’s various doctors and therapists have diagnosed and done for him from start to finish. Ie do his past and current medical professional providers concur. 4) what your lawyer says. I mean you need to talk to someone who knows the current laws and precedents say about situations like this. RESPONSE B: You can contact a family law lawyer and discuss your options. Which response is better? RESPONSE

A

POST: Ex husband wants put our 8 year old Non- verbal autistic son in a group home.What do I need to do to get custody again? RESPONSE A: There are too many variables to give a definitive answer. 1) what your current custody order actually states. 2) why you don’t have primary custody to begin with 3) what your Son’s various doctors and therapists have diagnosed and done for him from start to finish. Ie do his past and current medical professional providers concur. 4) what your lawyer says. I mean you need to talk to someone who knows the current laws and precedents say about situations like this. RESPONSE B: Get a lawyer. The courts will hopefully prefer he live with a parent instead of a home. What are your parental rights currently? Which response is better? RESPONSE

B

POST: Ex husband wants put our 8 year old Non- verbal autistic son in a group home.What do I need to do to get custody again? RESPONSE A: You can contact a family law lawyer and discuss your options. RESPONSE B: Why did you not got the custody at first ? Which response is better? RESPONSE

A

POST: Home was broken into a month ago, cops just arrested burglar who was caught selling some of our stuff at a pawn shop. Can I press charges to compensate for the items we never got back? Burglar broke into our home while we were at work on 7/8. Two days later he sold our PS4 and Xbox at the local pawn shop. Police caught and arrested him about a week ago. Most of our other expensive items are still missing - flat screen TV, laptop, sound bar, custom gaming PC, and an antique Japanese coin. Can we get a lawyer to sue for damages/stolen goods? We are still missing about $5000 worth of electronics. This is all in the police report. In Oklahoma. RESPONSE A: You don’t press charges — you file a police report, which you’ve already done. You can sue for the value of the items. If this guy has no money, he won’t be able to pay you if you win. Won’t your homeowners’ insurance cover some of the items’ value? RESPONSE B: Can you sue civilly? Sure. People in jail don't have money and people stealing to pay for their drug habit don't have money. But you can sue, you just are highly unlikely to collect. First step is insurance. Second would be to see if there is a local victim assistance program that might help. Which response is better? RESPONSE

A

POST: Home was broken into a month ago, cops just arrested burglar who was caught selling some of our stuff at a pawn shop. Can I press charges to compensate for the items we never got back? Burglar broke into our home while we were at work on 7/8. Two days later he sold our PS4 and Xbox at the local pawn shop. Police caught and arrested him about a week ago. Most of our other expensive items are still missing - flat screen TV, laptop, sound bar, custom gaming PC, and an antique Japanese coin. Can we get a lawyer to sue for damages/stolen goods? We are still missing about $5000 worth of electronics. This is all in the police report. In Oklahoma. RESPONSE A: You can contact the District Attorney. They can make restitution a part of sentencing or a plea deal. As others have said - a private suit is most likely a waste of time if this is the typical no-asset scumbag situation. But if the DA says "Hey, you can get time served and probation if you figure out how to pay this money, or you can spend a year or two in prison if not... that sometimes DOES get blood from the proverbial stone. RESPONSE B: You can't press charges. That's the domain of the DA. You filed a police report. You can sue them civilly but how much money do you think a thief has? Which response is better? RESPONSE

A

POST: Home was broken into a month ago, cops just arrested burglar who was caught selling some of our stuff at a pawn shop. Can I press charges to compensate for the items we never got back? Burglar broke into our home while we were at work on 7/8. Two days later he sold our PS4 and Xbox at the local pawn shop. Police caught and arrested him about a week ago. Most of our other expensive items are still missing - flat screen TV, laptop, sound bar, custom gaming PC, and an antique Japanese coin. Can we get a lawyer to sue for damages/stolen goods? We are still missing about $5000 worth of electronics. This is all in the police report. In Oklahoma. RESPONSE A: You can contact the District Attorney. They can make restitution a part of sentencing or a plea deal. As others have said - a private suit is most likely a waste of time if this is the typical no-asset scumbag situation. But if the DA says "Hey, you can get time served and probation if you figure out how to pay this money, or you can spend a year or two in prison if not... that sometimes DOES get blood from the proverbial stone. RESPONSE B: Like others have said, you can sue him, but he probably doesn't have the money to give you. Maybe in a few years he'll clean up his act and get a regular job and have wages that could be garnished, but if you want to buy a new TV now your insurance would probably be a better bet. Which response is better? RESPONSE

B

POST: Home was broken into a month ago, cops just arrested burglar who was caught selling some of our stuff at a pawn shop. Can I press charges to compensate for the items we never got back? Burglar broke into our home while we were at work on 7/8. Two days later he sold our PS4 and Xbox at the local pawn shop. Police caught and arrested him about a week ago. Most of our other expensive items are still missing - flat screen TV, laptop, sound bar, custom gaming PC, and an antique Japanese coin. Can we get a lawyer to sue for damages/stolen goods? We are still missing about $5000 worth of electronics. This is all in the police report. In Oklahoma. RESPONSE A: Like others have said, you can sue him, but he probably doesn't have the money to give you. Maybe in a few years he'll clean up his act and get a regular job and have wages that could be garnished, but if you want to buy a new TV now your insurance would probably be a better bet. RESPONSE B: most pawn shops are required to keep merchandise at the pawn shop for a certain time and register it with the police dept. your stuff may still be there and the pawn shop owners are in possession of stolen property. "In most states pawn shops are required to hold anything they buy for 30 days prior to placing it up for sale and they are also supposed to check any item with the police to make sure what they have is not stolen property" Which response is better? RESPONSE

A

POST: (New York) I didn't even know that family members of diplomats have diplomatic immunity as well. Would the girl whose wrist got broken and her parents have any kind of recourse here or is diplomatic immunity absolute? The boy did not get in trouble at school or arrested by the police and he's still attending classes like normal. RESPONSE A: I grew up in Washington DC with a fair number of diplomat kids at my school. There was a similar case at my HS (Kid was selling forged IDs so kids could drink, he claimed immunity. Unfortunately for him, the only thing the feds like worse than counterfeiters is foriegn national counterfeiters) and a couple of other similar cases. What you should do is contact the embassy of the country that the kid has immunity under. Embassies really really don't like bad press, and they will work with you to try and make sure you don't raise too much of a stink. They can and will retroactively deny immunity, especially with violent offenders (with stuff like traffic violations or non violent misdemeanors theyll defend people, but no country likes people who break bones in their country's name without permission). This also serves the purpose of finding out whether or not the kid actually has immunity. It might be something like the cops went to his house and the parent screamed "we have immunity you can't come on the property" and the cops left it at that, but thats not actually how it works. Cops might not know that though, diplomats and their kids are usually pretty well behaved so cops wouldnt have a lot of experience with that. The best thing about contacting the embassy is you don't even have to have anything to do with the girl who was injured to contact them. You can say "I'm afraid of this known violent person at this school and he'a comitting crimes in the name of your country" and the diplomatic people will work quickly. Might wanna contact the State Department. The lawyers there and the embassies lawyers usually work together to make sure that things flow smoothly and diplomatically with the police and the families involved. RESPONSE B: Sounds ripe for a civil suit. Which response is better? RESPONSE

A

POST: immunity (New York) I didn't even know that family members of diplomats have diplomatic immunity as well. Would the girl whose wrist got broken and her parents have any kind of recourse here or is diplomatic immunity absolute? The boy did not get in trouble at school or arrested by the police and he's still attending classes like normal. RESPONSE A: I grew up in Washington DC with a fair number of diplomat kids at my school. There was a similar case at my HS (Kid was selling forged IDs so kids could drink, he claimed immunity. Unfortunately for him, the only thing the feds like worse than counterfeiters is foriegn national counterfeiters) and a couple of other similar cases. What you should do is contact the embassy of the country that the kid has immunity under. Embassies really really don't like bad press, and they will work with you to try and make sure you don't raise too much of a stink. They can and will retroactively deny immunity, especially with violent offenders (with stuff like traffic violations or non violent misdemeanors theyll defend people, but no country likes people who break bones in their country's name without permission). This also serves the purpose of finding out whether or not the kid actually has immunity. It might be something like the cops went to his house and the parent screamed "we have immunity you can't come on the property" and the cops left it at that, but thats not actually how it works. Cops might not know that though, diplomats and their kids are usually pretty well behaved so cops wouldnt have a lot of experience with that. The best thing about contacting the embassy is you don't even have to have anything to do with the girl who was injured to contact them. You can say "I'm afraid of this known violent person at this school and he'a comitting crimes in the name of your country" and the diplomatic people will work quickly. Might wanna contact the State Department. The lawyers there and the embassies lawyers usually work together to make sure that things flow smoothly and diplomatically with the police and the families involved. RESPONSE B: Does diplomatic immunity actually apply to violent crimes? Which response is better? RESPONSE

A

POST: Incident at my son's high school: Boy broke a classmate's wrist. School and police aren't doing anything because the boy has diplomatic immunity (New York) I didn't even know that family members of diplomats have diplomatic immunity as well. Would the girl whose wrist got broken and her parents have any kind of recourse here or is diplomatic immunity absolute? The boy did not get in trouble at school or arrested by the police and he's still attending classes like normal. RESPONSE A: Diplomatic immunity applies to criminal and civil government actions. It should not prevent the school from suspending/expelling the kid. RESPONSE B: How did he break her wrist? Which response is better? RESPONSE

B

POST: Incident at my son's high school: Boy broke a classmate's wrist. School and police aren't doing anything because the boy has diplomatic immunity (New York) I didn't even know that family members of diplomats have diplomatic immunity as well. Would the girl whose wrist got broken and her parents have any kind of recourse here or is diplomatic immunity absolute? The boy did not get in trouble at school or arrested by the police and he's still attending classes like normal. RESPONSE A: Does diplomatic immunity actually apply to violent crimes? RESPONSE B: Diplomatic immunity applies to criminal and civil government actions. It should not prevent the school from suspending/expelling the kid. Which response is better? RESPONSE

A

POST: Incident at my son's high school: Boy broke a classmate's wrist. School and police aren't doing anything because the boy has diplomatic immunity (New York) I didn't even know that family members of diplomats have diplomatic immunity as well. Would the girl whose wrist got broken and her parents have any kind of recourse here or is diplomatic immunity absolute? The boy did not get in trouble at school or arrested by the police and he's still attending classes like normal. RESPONSE A: How did he break her wrist? RESPONSE B: Does diplomatic immunity actually apply to violent crimes? Which response is better? RESPONSE

A

POST: loped from school and ran home. We are a 10 minute walk from school. I work from home and made him go back immediately. This got the school motivated on getting his 504 plan going. We worked with the school and his therapists and things improved. Until this year. This year has gone very poorly. He struggles to tell me why, but he absolutely hates school this year. He's left his classroom several times, and managed to make it all the way home twice. This year his school also has a new principal. We had a 504 review meeting with the school recently to see what accommodations we can make for him and agreed on a plan. (Getting an autism specialist involved, perhaps having an IEP, etc.). The principal is super concerned about him eloping from school, and rightly so. We made some incentive structures for him to stay in class. That improved things for a bit. However today, after he eloped for the 2nd time this year, she told him next time she would call the police. I understand her concern about safety, however he's 8 and has autism and ADHD. If he interacts with the police in a confrontational manner I'm terrified he might struggle with them, disobey, even hit them to escape. What can I do? Do I need a lawyer? If I do, where can I find a good one that does education or special needs or something like that? Should I try to de-escalate with the principal or stop communicating except through an attorney? Should I keep him home from school to prevent further escalations until I have help? Thanks RESPONSE A: You can also register your child with local law enforcement. You make a profile with a picture, diagnosis, triggers, medications etc. It helps them learn more about the child and how to address them. RESPONSE B: He needs a one-to-one aide if he’s prone to eloping. Or there are better schools for him that will keep him safe/contained. The staff at these campuses are better trained and equipped for high functioning students with autism. Go to the the meeting and see what they are offering. You have a right to agree or disagree with any of the options. Which response is better? RESPONSE

B

POST: was too high functioning. In Kindergarten he eloped from school and ran home. We are a 10 minute walk from school. I work from home and made him go back immediately. This got the school motivated on getting his 504 plan going. We worked with the school and his therapists and things improved. Until this year. This year has gone very poorly. He struggles to tell me why, but he absolutely hates school this year. He's left his classroom several times, and managed to make it all the way home twice. This year his school also has a new principal. We had a 504 review meeting with the school recently to see what accommodations we can make for him and agreed on a plan. (Getting an autism specialist involved, perhaps having an IEP, etc.). The principal is super concerned about him eloping from school, and rightly so. We made some incentive structures for him to stay in class. That improved things for a bit. However today, after he eloped for the 2nd time this year, she told him next time she would call the police. I understand her concern about safety, however he's 8 and has autism and ADHD. If he interacts with the police in a confrontational manner I'm terrified he might struggle with them, disobey, even hit them to escape. What can I do? Do I need a lawyer? If I do, where can I find a good one that does education or special needs or something like that? Should I try to de-escalate with the principal or stop communicating except through an attorney? Should I keep him home from school to prevent further escalations until I have help? Thanks RESPONSE A: Please, please search for autism resources in your state. Find an advocate that will go with you to the ARC meeting. An attorney well-versed n educational law would be great, but an advocate can help a lot. Ask - Knowing that part of his disability is running for situations that provoke anxiety, what is your plan to ensure his safety? RESPONSE B: You can also register your child with local law enforcement. You make a profile with a picture, diagnosis, triggers, medications etc. It helps them learn more about the child and how to address them. Which response is better? RESPONSE

B

POST: improved. Until this year. This year has gone very poorly. He struggles to tell me why, but he absolutely hates school this year. He's left his classroom several times, and managed to make it all the way home twice. This year his school also has a new principal. We had a 504 review meeting with the school recently to see what accommodations we can make for him and agreed on a plan. (Getting an autism specialist involved, perhaps having an IEP, etc.). The principal is super concerned about him eloping from school, and rightly so. We made some incentive structures for him to stay in class. That improved things for a bit. However today, after he eloped for the 2nd time this year, she told him next time she would call the police. I understand her concern about safety, however he's 8 and has autism and ADHD. If he interacts with the police in a confrontational manner I'm terrified he might struggle with them, disobey, even hit them to escape. What can I do? Do I need a lawyer? If I do, where can I find a good one that does education or special needs or something like that? Should I try to de-escalate with the principal or stop communicating except through an attorney? Should I keep him home from school to prevent further escalations until I have help? Thanks RESPONSE A: How do they see that going down? They're going to be calling the cops because they failed in their supervisory capacity? I've worked with eloping students and have followed them multiple blocks while on the phone with their parents. I would be seriously talking to the school about their security if kids are able to leave at will and without notice. I would absolutely ask for an IEP evaluation. Put it in writing. They are legally required go through the process within a relatively short time frame. Look for local autism support groups as they may have special education advocates that can attend IEP meetings with you to make sure that the school is providing reasonable accommodations. RESPONSE B: You can also register your child with local law enforcement. You make a profile with a picture, diagnosis, triggers, medications etc. It helps them learn more about the child and how to address them. Which response is better? RESPONSE

A

POST: Until this year. This year has gone very poorly. He struggles to tell me why, but he absolutely hates school this year. He's left his classroom several times, and managed to make it all the way home twice. This year his school also has a new principal. We had a 504 review meeting with the school recently to see what accommodations we can make for him and agreed on a plan. (Getting an autism specialist involved, perhaps having an IEP, etc.). The principal is super concerned about him eloping from school, and rightly so. We made some incentive structures for him to stay in class. That improved things for a bit. However today, after he eloped for the 2nd time this year, she told him next time she would call the police. I understand her concern about safety, however he's 8 and has autism and ADHD. If he interacts with the police in a confrontational manner I'm terrified he might struggle with them, disobey, even hit them to escape. What can I do? Do I need a lawyer? If I do, where can I find a good one that does education or special needs or something like that? Should I try to de-escalate with the principal or stop communicating except through an attorney? Should I keep him home from school to prevent further escalations until I have help? Thanks RESPONSE A: You can talk with them about any further accommodations that could prevent him from running from the school, but as someone former in special education it’s standard procedure to involve the police once a student has left the school grounds. We’d do everything we could to prevent elopement and supervise for safety when it happened, but we were instructed that we could only monitor and try to bring them back while they were on school grounds. Once they left, it was out of our hands and we had to inform police for their safety and our liability. RESPONSE B: Please, please search for autism resources in your state. Find an advocate that will go with you to the ARC meeting. An attorney well-versed n educational law would be great, but an advocate can help a lot. Ask - Knowing that part of his disability is running for situations that provoke anxiety, what is your plan to ensure his safety? Which response is better? RESPONSE

B

POST: review meeting with the school recently to see what accommodations we can make for him and agreed on a plan. (Getting an autism specialist involved, perhaps having an IEP, etc.). The principal is super concerned about him eloping from school, and rightly so. We made some incentive structures for him to stay in class. That improved things for a bit. However today, after he eloped for the 2nd time this year, she told him next time she would call the police. I understand her concern about safety, however he's 8 and has autism and ADHD. If he interacts with the police in a confrontational manner I'm terrified he might struggle with them, disobey, even hit them to escape. What can I do? Do I need a lawyer? If I do, where can I find a good one that does education or special needs or something like that? Should I try to de-escalate with the principal or stop communicating except through an attorney? Should I keep him home from school to prevent further escalations until I have help? Thanks RESPONSE A: How do they see that going down? They're going to be calling the cops because they failed in their supervisory capacity? I've worked with eloping students and have followed them multiple blocks while on the phone with their parents. I would be seriously talking to the school about their security if kids are able to leave at will and without notice. I would absolutely ask for an IEP evaluation. Put it in writing. They are legally required go through the process within a relatively short time frame. Look for local autism support groups as they may have special education advocates that can attend IEP meetings with you to make sure that the school is providing reasonable accommodations. RESPONSE B: You can talk with them about any further accommodations that could prevent him from running from the school, but as someone former in special education it’s standard procedure to involve the police once a student has left the school grounds. We’d do everything we could to prevent elopement and supervise for safety when it happened, but we were instructed that we could only monitor and try to bring them back while they were on school grounds. Once they left, it was out of our hands and we had to inform police for their safety and our liability. Which response is better? RESPONSE

A

POST: 'm somewhat doubting that I should. The damage is just cosmetic really, and I plan on fixing it myself here in North Dakota before going home. The patina is intentional and part of the "look" (which I'll probably never be able to replicate exactly and I may just end up restoring), but the truck overall is in excellent mechanical condition. From what I gather, a totaled vehicle can't be legally registered, driven or insured in Tennessee until it's "rebuilt", which if true would make it practically impossible to drive home legally (which I intended to do weeks ago were it not for the accident). The insurance agent said the only way to avoid a salvage title would be to drop the claim. Any guidance or insight is much appreciated. RESPONSE A: Here's the distinction... It's not that a 'totaled' vehicle cannot be driven... It's that a vehicle cannot be driven on a 'salvage' title until it is fixed and then converted to a 'rebuilt' title. Have you updated the title to a 'salvage' title yet with the DMV/BMV? If not, then it should still be covered by the title/registration/insurance that you had on it in August (assuming none of those have expired) . The bigger question for you is "is it SAFE to drive?" Is it mechanically safe? Are the lights and other legally required equipment in good working order and in compliance with applicable laws? If it is SAFE to drive then drive it home before you complete the process of getting the salvage title and payout. MANY people drive vehicles home from a crash that are ultimately considered totaled by the insurance company - as long as they are safe to drive - it's only once the title is actually branded as 'salvage' that you can no longer drive it until it's rebuilt. Of course, if it it not safe to drive then have it towed. Before you decide to keep and fix it, make sure you understand Tennesee's process for converting a salvage title to a rebuilt title. They may demand receipts for parts used in the repair, so have them ready. RESPONSE B: It’s already registered. Just drive it home. Which response is better? RESPONSE

A

POST: compare it to) and I'm somewhat doubting that I should. The damage is just cosmetic really, and I plan on fixing it myself here in North Dakota before going home. The patina is intentional and part of the "look" (which I'll probably never be able to replicate exactly and I may just end up restoring), but the truck overall is in excellent mechanical condition. From what I gather, a totaled vehicle can't be legally registered, driven or insured in Tennessee until it's "rebuilt", which if true would make it practically impossible to drive home legally (which I intended to do weeks ago were it not for the accident). The insurance agent said the only way to avoid a salvage title would be to drop the claim. Any guidance or insight is much appreciated. RESPONSE A: Here's the distinction... It's not that a 'totaled' vehicle cannot be driven... It's that a vehicle cannot be driven on a 'salvage' title until it is fixed and then converted to a 'rebuilt' title. Have you updated the title to a 'salvage' title yet with the DMV/BMV? If not, then it should still be covered by the title/registration/insurance that you had on it in August (assuming none of those have expired) . The bigger question for you is "is it SAFE to drive?" Is it mechanically safe? Are the lights and other legally required equipment in good working order and in compliance with applicable laws? If it is SAFE to drive then drive it home before you complete the process of getting the salvage title and payout. MANY people drive vehicles home from a crash that are ultimately considered totaled by the insurance company - as long as they are safe to drive - it's only once the title is actually branded as 'salvage' that you can no longer drive it until it's rebuilt. Of course, if it it not safe to drive then have it towed. Before you decide to keep and fix it, make sure you understand Tennesee's process for converting a salvage title to a rebuilt title. They may demand receipts for parts used in the repair, so have them ready. RESPONSE B: Could ship it back. Which response is better? RESPONSE

A

POST: Car accident while in another state, insurance wants to total vehicle ('79 Ford pickup) that I intend to keep/fix. If I accept, it may be illegal to drive home. – Tennessee, North Dakota] I have a '79 F-100 that I rebuilt and am quite fond of. It runs and drives beautifully, gets great highway milage, and I (and others) really enjoy it. I drove it from TN to ND in August, and subsequently all around the area for about a month before being crashed-into by an utter nincompoop who ran a stop sign (RIP Honda). [Truck Before and After His insurance took quite a while to come up with an offer ($6k, total loss), and I haven't accepted it yet (can't find anything to compare it to) and I'm somewhat doubting that I should. The damage is just cosmetic really, and I plan on fixing it myself here in North Dakota before going home. The patina is intentional and part of the "look" (which I'll probably never be able to replicate exactly and I may just end up restoring), but the truck overall is in excellent mechanical condition. From what I gather, a totaled vehicle can't be legally registered, driven or insured in Tennessee until it's "rebuilt", which if true would make it practically impossible to drive home legally (which I intended to do weeks ago were it not for the accident). The insurance agent said the only way to avoid a salvage title would be to drop the claim. Any guidance or insight is much appreciated. RESPONSE A: That is an original unrestored antique vehicle. You can get a lot more than 6k for it. RESPONSE B: Could ship it back. Which response is better? RESPONSE

A

POST: Car accident while in another state, insurance wants to total vehicle ('79 Ford pickup) that I intend to keep/fix. If I accept, it may be illegal to drive home. – Tennessee, North Dakota] I have a '79 F-100 that I rebuilt and am quite fond of. It runs and drives beautifully, gets great highway milage, and I (and others) really enjoy it. I drove it from TN to ND in August, and subsequently all around the area for about a month before being crashed-into by an utter nincompoop who ran a stop sign (RIP Honda). [Truck Before and After His insurance took quite a while to come up with an offer ($6k, total loss), and I haven't accepted it yet (can't find anything to compare it to) and I'm somewhat doubting that I should. The damage is just cosmetic really, and I plan on fixing it myself here in North Dakota before going home. The patina is intentional and part of the "look" (which I'll probably never be able to replicate exactly and I may just end up restoring), but the truck overall is in excellent mechanical condition. From what I gather, a totaled vehicle can't be legally registered, driven or insured in Tennessee until it's "rebuilt", which if true would make it practically impossible to drive home legally (which I intended to do weeks ago were it not for the accident). The insurance agent said the only way to avoid a salvage title would be to drop the claim. Any guidance or insight is much appreciated. RESPONSE A: My condolences. I have the exact same truck but in root beer brown and would be devastated if that happened to me. As far as advice, when my trailblazer blew the engine about 1000 miles from home, I just rented a uhaul truck and trailer for a one way trip. It was pretty hairy driving an empty truck with that heavy ass trailer load, but I got home. RESPONSE B: Could ship it back. Which response is better? RESPONSE

A

POST: My girlfriend wants to lock her disabled son out of the house on his 18th birthday without finding him housing. However she plans to continue collecting his SSDI. He is illiterate and does not understand SSDI. If I am also living there, could I be liable for this if she is caught? FL RESPONSE A: The good news, of course, that it will take no time at all for a homeless deaf autistic young man to come to the attention of the authorities. And none to soon I think based on this poster and the attitudes displayed by him and his "girl friend". And of course what that means is that she won't be keeping his SSI. With any luck she'll be charged with fraud or abuse, but even if she isn't, she's not going to be getting the money. My only concern is the few days between her locking him out and him being picked up. You know what - thinking about it, I'm calling troll. I'm saying this because anyone who knows anything about autism knows that change is not only bad, it's not accepted. So if this was real, the GF would lock the young man out and then what? Would she really expect him to quietly move along? No he'd be outside the property most likely drawing attention to the situation. RESPONSE B: ~~I've got good news for you: Your girlfriend's disabled son is going to be just fine. Know why? Because her boyfriend is **legally obligated** by Florida Statute 415.1034 to report her plan to the central abuse hotline at 1-800-962-2873 or he will go to jail.~~ e: Apparently 'any person' doesn't mean 'any person' in Florida. Who knew. Or maybe it does. I don't know what's real anymore. Someone hold me. (Seriously we're not sure about this part) Which response is better? RESPONSE

A

POST: My girlfriend wants to lock her disabled son out of the house on his 18th birthday without finding him housing. However she plans to continue collecting his SSDI. He is illiterate and does not understand SSDI. If I am also living there, could I be liable for this if she is caught? FL RESPONSE A: The good news, of course, that it will take no time at all for a homeless deaf autistic young man to come to the attention of the authorities. And none to soon I think based on this poster and the attitudes displayed by him and his "girl friend". And of course what that means is that she won't be keeping his SSI. With any luck she'll be charged with fraud or abuse, but even if she isn't, she's not going to be getting the money. My only concern is the few days between her locking him out and him being picked up. You know what - thinking about it, I'm calling troll. I'm saying this because anyone who knows anything about autism knows that change is not only bad, it's not accepted. So if this was real, the GF would lock the young man out and then what? Would she really expect him to quietly move along? No he'd be outside the property most likely drawing attention to the situation. RESPONSE B: I know this isn't /r/RelationshipAdvice but your girlfriend sounds like a complete and utter scumbag, get out of there dude (after reporting her for the sake of the kid of course). Which response is better? RESPONSE

A

POST: My girlfriend wants to lock her disabled son out of the house on his 18th birthday without finding him housing. However she plans to continue collecting his SSDI. He is illiterate and does not understand SSDI. If I am also living there, could I be liable for this if she is caught? FL RESPONSE A: The good news, of course, that it will take no time at all for a homeless deaf autistic young man to come to the attention of the authorities. And none to soon I think based on this poster and the attitudes displayed by him and his "girl friend". And of course what that means is that she won't be keeping his SSI. With any luck she'll be charged with fraud or abuse, but even if she isn't, she's not going to be getting the money. My only concern is the few days between her locking him out and him being picked up. You know what - thinking about it, I'm calling troll. I'm saying this because anyone who knows anything about autism knows that change is not only bad, it's not accepted. So if this was real, the GF would lock the young man out and then what? Would she really expect him to quietly move along? No he'd be outside the property most likely drawing attention to the situation. RESPONSE B: Basically, yes. >415.111 Criminal penalties.— (1) A person who knowingly and willfully fails to report a case of known or suspected abuse, neglect, or exploitation of a vulnerable adult, or who knowingly and willfully prevents another person from doing so, commits a misdemeanor of the second degree, punishable as provided in s. 775.082 or s. 775.083. Which response is better? RESPONSE

A

POST: My girlfriend wants to lock her disabled son out of the house on his 18th birthday without finding him housing. However she plans to continue collecting his SSDI. He is illiterate and does not understand SSDI. If I am also living there, could I be liable for this if she is caught? FL RESPONSE A: The good news, of course, that it will take no time at all for a homeless deaf autistic young man to come to the attention of the authorities. And none to soon I think based on this poster and the attitudes displayed by him and his "girl friend". And of course what that means is that she won't be keeping his SSI. With any luck she'll be charged with fraud or abuse, but even if she isn't, she's not going to be getting the money. My only concern is the few days between her locking him out and him being picked up. You know what - thinking about it, I'm calling troll. I'm saying this because anyone who knows anything about autism knows that change is not only bad, it's not accepted. So if this was real, the GF would lock the young man out and then what? Would she really expect him to quietly move along? No he'd be outside the property most likely drawing attention to the situation. RESPONSE B: The better question is wtf are you doing with this monster in the first place? Don't bother answering. You two are made for each other. Which response is better? RESPONSE

B

POST: My girlfriend wants to lock her disabled son out of the house on his 18th birthday without finding him housing. However she plans to continue collecting his SSDI. He is illiterate and does not understand SSDI. If I am also living there, could I be liable for this if she is caught? FL RESPONSE A: Possibly for abetting financial abuse of a disabled person. Be a good guy and call the county's public guardian's office. They will coordinate with SSA to at least set up a representative payee for him and also to help with housing and placement in a group home. The boy is receiving SSI by the way. He wouldn't qualify for SSDI- you have to have 5 years or 20 quarters of wages paid into the Social Security system for SSDI. SSI pays less per month but comes with Medicaid. SSDI pays more but may get Medicare after a 30 month wait after date of disablement. I second the opinion expressed by a couple others. Your girlfriend is a POS RESPONSE B: The good news, of course, that it will take no time at all for a homeless deaf autistic young man to come to the attention of the authorities. And none to soon I think based on this poster and the attitudes displayed by him and his "girl friend". And of course what that means is that she won't be keeping his SSI. With any luck she'll be charged with fraud or abuse, but even if she isn't, she's not going to be getting the money. My only concern is the few days between her locking him out and him being picked up. You know what - thinking about it, I'm calling troll. I'm saying this because anyone who knows anything about autism knows that change is not only bad, it's not accepted. So if this was real, the GF would lock the young man out and then what? Would she really expect him to quietly move along? No he'd be outside the property most likely drawing attention to the situation. Which response is better? RESPONSE

A

POST: (FL) I'm a small scale chicken farmer, I sell at a local farmers market. Some guy wants to sue me because I wouldn't sell to him. I have all the relevant permits and licenses. The chickens are butchered at the farm, I don't sell live chickens. I was set up at my usual spot when a man approached me and asked to buy a chicken. I asked what weight, young or a hen. He asked for a younger bird any weight. I grab one out of the fridge and ask him if it's ok. He says that he wants a live chicken. I told him that I don't sell live chickens. He immediately became angry and demanded that I sell him a live one since he's "seen people coming out of the farmers market with live chickens before". I told him no again. He then tried to bribe me($100) saying he needs one badly and if I want I can drop one off at *near by beach* after the farms market closes. Again no. He said that he needs it due to his religion. The answer was still no. Then he started to accuse me of discriminating against him because of his religion. He threatened to sue me for it. I didn't sell it to him because it's against my rules, the rules of the farmers market and I'm pretty sure against the law. Could I be sued for this? Would a judge side with him? RESPONSE A: If you had the sale all ready to go through, then said "no" once you found out his religion, then maybe it could support a discrimination suit. If you never sell live chickens to anyone, the fact that this guy got dealt with according to policy isn't going to lead to a successful lawsuit. RESPONSE B: The answer to "can I be sued?" is always yes. But, provided you don't do something stupid like miss the court date or ignore the suit, he can't win. Which response is better? RESPONSE

A

POST: (FL) I'm a small scale chicken farmer, I sell at a local farmers market. Some guy wants to sue me because I wouldn't sell to him. I have all the relevant permits and licenses. The chickens are butchered at the farm, I don't sell live chickens. I was set up at my usual spot when a man approached me and asked to buy a chicken. I asked what weight, young or a hen. He asked for a younger bird any weight. I grab one out of the fridge and ask him if it's ok. He says that he wants a live chicken. I told him that I don't sell live chickens. He immediately became angry and demanded that I sell him a live one since he's "seen people coming out of the farmers market with live chickens before". I told him no again. He then tried to bribe me($100) saying he needs one badly and if I want I can drop one off at *near by beach* after the farms market closes. Again no. He said that he needs it due to his religion. The answer was still no. Then he started to accuse me of discriminating against him because of his religion. He threatened to sue me for it. I didn't sell it to him because it's against my rules, the rules of the farmers market and I'm pretty sure against the law. Could I be sued for this? Would a judge side with him? RESPONSE A: If you had the sale all ready to go through, then said "no" once you found out his religion, then maybe it could support a discrimination suit. If you never sell live chickens to anyone, the fact that this guy got dealt with according to policy isn't going to lead to a successful lawsuit. RESPONSE B: You can be sued, sure. But there's no judgement to be made against you. You've done nothing wrong, he has no case. Which response is better? RESPONSE

B

POST: (FL) I'm a small scale chicken farmer, I sell at a local farmers market. Some guy wants to sue me because I wouldn't sell to him. I have all the relevant permits and licenses. The chickens are butchered at the farm, I don't sell live chickens. I was set up at my usual spot when a man approached me and asked to buy a chicken. I asked what weight, young or a hen. He asked for a younger bird any weight. I grab one out of the fridge and ask him if it's ok. He says that he wants a live chicken. I told him that I don't sell live chickens. He immediately became angry and demanded that I sell him a live one since he's "seen people coming out of the farmers market with live chickens before". I told him no again. He then tried to bribe me($100) saying he needs one badly and if I want I can drop one off at *near by beach* after the farms market closes. Again no. He said that he needs it due to his religion. The answer was still no. Then he started to accuse me of discriminating against him because of his religion. He threatened to sue me for it. I didn't sell it to him because it's against my rules, the rules of the farmers market and I'm pretty sure against the law. Could I be sued for this? Would a judge side with him? RESPONSE A: Ignore him until he sues. If and when he does, which is unlikely, you have to respond. RESPONSE B: If you had the sale all ready to go through, then said "no" once you found out his religion, then maybe it could support a discrimination suit. If you never sell live chickens to anyone, the fact that this guy got dealt with according to policy isn't going to lead to a successful lawsuit. Which response is better? RESPONSE

B

POST: (FL) I'm a small scale chicken farmer, I sell at a local farmers market. Some guy wants to sue me because I wouldn't sell to him. I have all the relevant permits and licenses. The chickens are butchered at the farm, I don't sell live chickens. I was set up at my usual spot when a man approached me and asked to buy a chicken. I asked what weight, young or a hen. He asked for a younger bird any weight. I grab one out of the fridge and ask him if it's ok. He says that he wants a live chicken. I told him that I don't sell live chickens. He immediately became angry and demanded that I sell him a live one since he's "seen people coming out of the farmers market with live chickens before". I told him no again. He then tried to bribe me($100) saying he needs one badly and if I want I can drop one off at *near by beach* after the farms market closes. Again no. He said that he needs it due to his religion. The answer was still no. Then he started to accuse me of discriminating against him because of his religion. He threatened to sue me for it. I didn't sell it to him because it's against my rules, the rules of the farmers market and I'm pretty sure against the law. Could I be sued for this? Would a judge side with him? RESPONSE A: You can be sued, sure. But there's no judgement to be made against you. You've done nothing wrong, he has no case. RESPONSE B: The answer to "can I be sued?" is always yes. But, provided you don't do something stupid like miss the court date or ignore the suit, he can't win. Which response is better? RESPONSE

A

POST: (Fl)Some of my family wants to sue me for emotional damages after a DNA test. I recently did one of those DNA test that's tells you your ancestry. So did my mother so we're sure which parts are her family.Everything on my mom side came back as expected but on my dads side of the family a lot of East Asian came up. To anyone with eyes it wasn't surprising. A family with dark hair and eyes, short with small frames and almond shaped eyes. But they were convicted that they were 100% Irish and German. Some of them are low threatening to sue me for the emotional damage and trauma of finding out they're not. Can they do that? Does emotional damage have to involve something actually damaging, not just find out that great great great grandma was Asian? RESPONSE A: My great aunt had a hissy fit when my mom's results 7 or 8 years ago came back with a small percentage of sub saharan african. She apparently talked to a lawyer about making me mom pay for her to have a test to see if maybe it came from the other side of the family. Apparently the lawyer laughed her out of the office. Of course this is all second hand. My mom did do another test recently to confirm the other results. It came back 100% European (80% from the British isles or France), with some Iberian and Ionian peninsula thrown in for good measure. RESPONSE B: I wonder if you can countersue for emotional damages associated with being subjected to their racism? Which response is better? RESPONSE

B

POST: (Fl)Some of my family wants to sue me for emotional damages after a DNA test. I recently did one of those DNA test that's tells you your ancestry. So did my mother so we're sure which parts are her family.Everything on my mom side came back as expected but on my dads side of the family a lot of East Asian came up. To anyone with eyes it wasn't surprising. A family with dark hair and eyes, short with small frames and almond shaped eyes. But they were convicted that they were 100% Irish and German. Some of them are low threatening to sue me for the emotional damage and trauma of finding out they're not. Can they do that? Does emotional damage have to involve something actually damaging, not just find out that great great great grandma was Asian? RESPONSE A: I wonder if you can countersue for emotional damages associated with being subjected to their racism? RESPONSE B: Those home DNA tests are also not terribly accurate, they test for certain haplogroups, which give you a very broad geographical area with a certain level of statistical confidence. (I have no idea what the various companies use, but if they're using anything less than a 95% confidence interval I wouldn't trust it at all). Also, Native Americans will often also register as East Asian for certain haplogroup markers, so they may have some native in them going back a long ways. This isn't exactly legal advice, more sciencey advice, but I think it's relevant. Which response is better? RESPONSE

A

POST: (FL) I'm an author, a woman wants to sue me because my book gave her daughter nightmares. A woman wants to sue me for emotional distress because my book gave her daughter nightmares. It's a horror novel and is kept in the scary stories/horror section. I guess because it has vampires she was expecting a *Twilight* type story. The book is only popular locally so there aren't many online reviews for it. Apparently her teenage daughter has lost sleep and had trouble with school because of that and refuses to sleep in her own room without a light on because of my book. Can she sue me for her daughters emotional whatever because she bought her the book without reading the back cover? RESPONSE A: By all means encourage the lawsuit. I cannot think of better publicity for a horror novel. Can can sue you for anything. Will she win? very very unlikely. RESPONSE B: Anyone can sue anyone for anything. Will she win? Almost certainly not. Which response is better? RESPONSE

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POST: (FL) I'm an author, a woman wants to sue me because my book gave her daughter nightmares. A woman wants to sue me for emotional distress because my book gave her daughter nightmares. It's a horror novel and is kept in the scary stories/horror section. I guess because it has vampires she was expecting a *Twilight* type story. The book is only popular locally so there aren't many online reviews for it. Apparently her teenage daughter has lost sleep and had trouble with school because of that and refuses to sleep in her own room without a light on because of my book. Can she sue me for her daughters emotional whatever because she bought her the book without reading the back cover? RESPONSE A: Vampires are undead bloodsuckers, not sparkly boyfriends. She should sue Stephanie Meyer for lying to everyone. RESPONSE B: Anyone can sue anyone for anything. Will she win? Almost certainly not. Which response is better? RESPONSE

B

POST: (FL) I'm an author, a woman wants to sue me because my book gave her daughter nightmares. A woman wants to sue me for emotional distress because my book gave her daughter nightmares. It's a horror novel and is kept in the scary stories/horror section. I guess because it has vampires she was expecting a *Twilight* type story. The book is only popular locally so there aren't many online reviews for it. Apparently her teenage daughter has lost sleep and had trouble with school because of that and refuses to sleep in her own room without a light on because of my book. Can she sue me for her daughters emotional whatever because she bought her the book without reading the back cover? RESPONSE A: Any chance of getting the book title? I'm mighty curious to check it out. RESPONSE B: Has she *actually filed a lawsuit* or is she *just threatening to sue*? People threaten to sue all the time. There's nothing you can do until she actually sues. Do not respond to any of her emails, calls, texts, letters, whatever until you either get something from a lawyer or get sued. Once either of those two things happen, THEN it's time to talk to a lawyer. In the unlikely case that she DOES sue you, I doubt very much her case will go anywhere, but it would be an outstanding marketing boom for you! Which response is better? RESPONSE

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POST: [FL] My classmates parents want to sue me because of what happened in debate class. It's a public high school and we're in 11th grade. I'll refer to my classmate as John. At my school instead of having debate club they made it into an elective class. There's about 30 of us in class. Each class certain people are picked to debate each other on a topic. We're given the topic a week in advance to prepare. My topic this week was self driving cars and wether or not they would be beneficial. My position was against and Johns was for. At the end of class everyone voted and I won. That was Thursday. On Friday Johns mom came up to me and told me that they were going to sue me for emotional distress. Apparently since my argument focused mostly on poverty and the growing divide between the upper class and middle/working class it disturbed John. This is apparently what caused him to have some sort of crisis on Thursday night. He supposedly even had a panic attack. So can they sue me and what do I do? RESPONSE A: Your debate was so good it emotionally devastated a high school junior? Damn son. RESPONSE B: They won't sue you. Unless we are missing some facts, no lawyer is going to take this case because it is arguably sanctionable to bring it, and it has low chance of success as well as a very high cost (experts, etc.) Also, to have an actionable emotional distress claim you need an actual underlying injury, usually a physical one. It's not a standalone claim. Just ignore it. Which response is better? RESPONSE

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POST: [FL] My classmates parents want to sue me because of what happened in debate class. It's a public high school and we're in 11th grade. I'll refer to my classmate as John. At my school instead of having debate club they made it into an elective class. There's about 30 of us in class. Each class certain people are picked to debate each other on a topic. We're given the topic a week in advance to prepare. My topic this week was self driving cars and wether or not they would be beneficial. My position was against and Johns was for. At the end of class everyone voted and I won. That was Thursday. On Friday Johns mom came up to me and told me that they were going to sue me for emotional distress. Apparently since my argument focused mostly on poverty and the growing divide between the upper class and middle/working class it disturbed John. This is apparently what caused him to have some sort of crisis on Thursday night. He supposedly even had a panic attack. So can they sue me and what do I do? RESPONSE A: They can sue you. They have no chance of winning, imho. If they sue you make sure to respond. Edit: I don't think they can sue for emotional distress in small claims court. If they do sue it will probably be in big boy court. Only in Florida... RESPONSE B: Your debate was so good it emotionally devastated a high school junior? Damn son. Which response is better? RESPONSE

B

POST: [FL] My classmates parents want to sue me because of what happened in debate class. It's a public high school and we're in 11th grade. I'll refer to my classmate as John. At my school instead of having debate club they made it into an elective class. There's about 30 of us in class. Each class certain people are picked to debate each other on a topic. We're given the topic a week in advance to prepare. My topic this week was self driving cars and wether or not they would be beneficial. My position was against and Johns was for. At the end of class everyone voted and I won. That was Thursday. On Friday Johns mom came up to me and told me that they were going to sue me for emotional distress. Apparently since my argument focused mostly on poverty and the growing divide between the upper class and middle/working class it disturbed John. This is apparently what caused him to have some sort of crisis on Thursday night. He supposedly even had a panic attack. So can they sue me and what do I do? RESPONSE A: They won't sue you. Unless we are missing some facts, no lawyer is going to take this case because it is arguably sanctionable to bring it, and it has low chance of success as well as a very high cost (experts, etc.) Also, to have an actionable emotional distress claim you need an actual underlying injury, usually a physical one. It's not a standalone claim. Just ignore it. RESPONSE B: Oh for fucks sake. Which response is better? RESPONSE

B

POST: [FL] My classmates parents want to sue me because of what happened in debate class. It's a public high school and we're in 11th grade. I'll refer to my classmate as John. At my school instead of having debate club they made it into an elective class. There's about 30 of us in class. Each class certain people are picked to debate each other on a topic. We're given the topic a week in advance to prepare. My topic this week was self driving cars and wether or not they would be beneficial. My position was against and Johns was for. At the end of class everyone voted and I won. That was Thursday. On Friday Johns mom came up to me and told me that they were going to sue me for emotional distress. Apparently since my argument focused mostly on poverty and the growing divide between the upper class and middle/working class it disturbed John. This is apparently what caused him to have some sort of crisis on Thursday night. He supposedly even had a panic attack. So can they sue me and what do I do? RESPONSE A: They can sue you. They have no chance of winning, imho. If they sue you make sure to respond. Edit: I don't think they can sue for emotional distress in small claims court. If they do sue it will probably be in big boy court. Only in Florida... RESPONSE B: Oh for fucks sake. Which response is better? RESPONSE

B

POST: [FL] My classmates parents want to sue me because of what happened in debate class. It's a public high school and we're in 11th grade. I'll refer to my classmate as John. At my school instead of having debate club they made it into an elective class. There's about 30 of us in class. Each class certain people are picked to debate each other on a topic. We're given the topic a week in advance to prepare. My topic this week was self driving cars and wether or not they would be beneficial. My position was against and Johns was for. At the end of class everyone voted and I won. That was Thursday. On Friday Johns mom came up to me and told me that they were going to sue me for emotional distress. Apparently since my argument focused mostly on poverty and the growing divide between the upper class and middle/working class it disturbed John. This is apparently what caused him to have some sort of crisis on Thursday night. He supposedly even had a panic attack. So can they sue me and what do I do? RESPONSE A: They won't sue you. Unless we are missing some facts, no lawyer is going to take this case because it is arguably sanctionable to bring it, and it has low chance of success as well as a very high cost (experts, etc.) Also, to have an actionable emotional distress claim you need an actual underlying injury, usually a physical one. It's not a standalone claim. Just ignore it. RESPONSE B: Ignore the mom. *Don't* ignore court papers. If you have to, show up to court and watch everyone laugh. Also, take pride in the fact that your argument was so good it apparently literally damaged the opposing side. Which response is better? RESPONSE

A

POST: Landlord Gave Me 3 Day Notice To Pay Yesterday I told my landlord that I am withholding rent due to him to repair any of the many issues I've been asking for months. He served me with a "3 day notice to pay or quit". Basically I just want to know if he still has to formally evict me or will I have to be out in 3 days? Further more is there anyway to fight this because of the state of the house? If it helps at all I'm a Florida resident and I've lived there for over 4 years. I signed a lease the first year but despite my best efforts he ignored me any time I requested him to renew the lease RESPONSE A: Florida ~~does not have provisions for withholding rent~~ provisions for withholding rent are quite limited and call for a specific 20 day notice. Did you provide that? If not, you need to pay or quit. Understand that if you quit, you still pay, *and* you have a record of being evicted. Don't do that. RESPONSE B: Hi there! I’m the LegalFAQ bot. It looks like you may be experiencing housing issues related to housing or eviction. Come to https://legalfaq.org to find legal resources for renters in each state. You can also find links to local groups that can help you with legal, financial, or other problems at https://legalfaq.org/getHelp. Help us provide accurate advice to fellow redditors: if your post was related to housing or eviction, please like this comment; otherwise, please dislike this comment. *v0.1* Which response is better? RESPONSE

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POST: Landlord Gave Me 3 Day Notice To Pay Yesterday I told my landlord that I am withholding rent due to him to repair any of the many issues I've been asking for months. He served me with a "3 day notice to pay or quit". Basically I just want to know if he still has to formally evict me or will I have to be out in 3 days? Further more is there anyway to fight this because of the state of the house? If it helps at all I'm a Florida resident and I've lived there for over 4 years. I signed a lease the first year but despite my best efforts he ignored me any time I requested him to renew the lease RESPONSE A: Florida has limited grounds as to why tenant can't withhold rent. Are your repair issues covered? RESPONSE B: Hi there! I’m the LegalFAQ bot. It looks like you may be experiencing housing issues related to housing or eviction. Come to https://legalfaq.org to find legal resources for renters in each state. You can also find links to local groups that can help you with legal, financial, or other problems at https://legalfaq.org/getHelp. Help us provide accurate advice to fellow redditors: if your post was related to housing or eviction, please like this comment; otherwise, please dislike this comment. *v0.1* Which response is better? RESPONSE

B

POST: Landlord Gave Me 3 Day Notice To Pay Yesterday I told my landlord that I am withholding rent due to him to repair any of the many issues I've been asking for months. He served me with a "3 day notice to pay or quit". Basically I just want to know if he still has to formally evict me or will I have to be out in 3 days? Further more is there anyway to fight this because of the state of the house? If it helps at all I'm a Florida resident and I've lived there for over 4 years. I signed a lease the first year but despite my best efforts he ignored me any time I requested him to renew the lease RESPONSE A: Hi there! I’m the LegalFAQ bot. It looks like you may be experiencing housing issues related to housing or eviction. Come to https://legalfaq.org to find legal resources for renters in each state. You can also find links to local groups that can help you with legal, financial, or other problems at https://legalfaq.org/getHelp. Help us provide accurate advice to fellow redditors: if your post was related to housing or eviction, please like this comment; otherwise, please dislike this comment. *v0.1* RESPONSE B: 1. Pay now. He’ll have to evict you if you don’t and can’t put you on the street. However you do not want that. It will make it incredibly difficult and expensive to rent again. 2. If you have issues with the property you can seek out local resources (tenant advocate boards are really helpful if available or a local attorney) to help you correctly and legally withhold rent, which is limited in Florida and requires certain steps. 3. If the repair items aren’t things that allow rent withholds, your only other option is to move (or cover the cost yourself if that’s cheaper than moving-but ensure you are allowed per previous lease to self improve those items). Which response is better? RESPONSE

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POST: the state of the house? If it helps at all I'm a Florida resident and I've lived there for over 4 years. I signed a lease the first year but despite my best efforts he ignored me any time I requested him to renew the lease RESPONSE A: People are giving you good advice, but I haven’t seen a direct answer to your question. “Pay or quit” means that you have three days to either fix the issue (ie pay the rent), quit (move out), or if you don’t do either you will be evicted. Evicted does **not** mean the landlord tosses your stuff to the curb on the 3rd day. Evicted means that they still have to go to the court and there is a formal proceeding and if the eviction is upheld, the sheriff would remove you from the property. You really do not want this process to happen as it will cost you a bunch of money and be affect your ability to rent in the future. Also be aware as you stated you are now not under a lease, you are considered “month-to-month” (assuming you are paying rent once a month) and it appears that the landlord can also terminate the lease with 15 days notice before the end of the lease term (being one month on whatever day the rent is due). So even if you pay, your lease may still be terminated with 15 days notice to vacate, or you can also be evicted. You can also move out with 15 days notice. https://www.flsenate.gov/Laws/Statutes/2011/Chapter83/All RESPONSE B: Hi there! I’m the LegalFAQ bot. It looks like you may be experiencing housing issues related to housing or eviction. Come to https://legalfaq.org to find legal resources for renters in each state. You can also find links to local groups that can help you with legal, financial, or other problems at https://legalfaq.org/getHelp. Help us provide accurate advice to fellow redditors: if your post was related to housing or eviction, please like this comment; otherwise, please dislike this comment. *v0.1* Which response is better? RESPONSE

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POST: charge me $8K for a month to month rate because the wife and I gave 50 days notice to vacate rather than the 60 on the lease. (more detail in comments) So basically the title. Our lease ends on 6/2 and are required to give 60 days notice but due to a number of factors such as my wife being pregnant and us trying to find larger housing so we're not moving on her due date, we missed the window by 10 days. We received a notice from the property manager saying we're automatically enrolled in their month to month rates which is $8K a month when our actual monthly rate is under $2300. We want to settle this amicably but the asst. property manager is insistent that we're on the hook for the full $8K. We can't afford that at the moment with a baby on the way and they're not being reasonable at all! HELP! EDIT: I also want to mention that the month to month rate was never disclosed until 4/11, after the 60 day window. Would any housing judge enforce this?!? RESPONSE A: http://www.state.nj.us/dca/divisions/codes/publications/pdf_lti/rnt_incrse_bultin.pdf Unconscionable Rent Increase If the tenant refuses to pay the rent because the tenant believes the rent increase is unconscionable or unreasonable, the tenant may withhold a portion of the rent. The tenant may withhold the difference between the old rent rate and the new increased rate. However, the landlord may take the tenant to court based on non-payment of rent increase, if this happens, the tenant may argue to the judge that the increase is unconscionable. The landlord has the burden of proving to the court that the rent increase is fair and not unconscionable. RESPONSE B: Monthly rate will still be $2300, unless it was in the lease. Bigger question is how many months you're liable for. When did you give the notice? What does it say about the renewal term if you miss it? (Ie - just renews? month? year?) If you give clarity, I can explain in more detail. I do NJ LLT law. Which response is better? RESPONSE

A

POST: Can my mom sue me to get the house back? So last year my mom sold me her house to me because she was about to lose it to foreclosure. She went through bankruptcy twice and already lost another house. I bought so we wont lose it for the amount left on the mortgage. Now she accused me of stealing from her 50,000 dollars threatened to go to a lawyer and wants to kick me out. What can i do to protect myself because she is very unstable and irresponsible with her finances RESPONSE A: Not a lawyer: If she has a foreclosure on her record in the past, bankruptcy and obviously bad spending habits, it doesn't matter what language she speaks, bad money sense is bad money sense in a judges eye. If you have your name on the house, she's SOL. She can sue, but given previous information she'll most likely be fighting an uphill battle. Tell her that it isn't smart to try and bring this to court, as she'll almost definitely lose, and you WILL use all of her failings against her, even if it is dirty to do. You're trying to help her be responsible, she may not see it this way, but it's better she has a place to stay than to lose it in a foolish way. RESPONSE B: Well don't think she would have any luck but the question is how was her mentality when she sold you the house. If they can prove she was a little loco and didn't do it if a sound mind they can void the sales and everything goes back the way it was. Now if you prove that even if she was on the way out that she made the deal so she wouldn't lose the house to the bank then that shows she still had a sound enough mind to problem solve. Chances are though unless she can prove that the sale was against her will then doubt she will get it back. Which response is better? RESPONSE

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POST: Can my mom sue me to get the house back? So last year my mom sold me her house to me because she was about to lose it to foreclosure. She went through bankruptcy twice and already lost another house. I bought so we wont lose it for the amount left on the mortgage. Now she accused me of stealing from her 50,000 dollars threatened to go to a lawyer and wants to kick me out. What can i do to protect myself because she is very unstable and irresponsible with her finances RESPONSE A: Not a lawyer: If she has a foreclosure on her record in the past, bankruptcy and obviously bad spending habits, it doesn't matter what language she speaks, bad money sense is bad money sense in a judges eye. If you have your name on the house, she's SOL. She can sue, but given previous information she'll most likely be fighting an uphill battle. Tell her that it isn't smart to try and bring this to court, as she'll almost definitely lose, and you WILL use all of her failings against her, even if it is dirty to do. You're trying to help her be responsible, she may not see it this way, but it's better she has a place to stay than to lose it in a foolish way. RESPONSE B: What was the appraised value of the property at the time of the transaction? Which response is better? RESPONSE

B

POST: Can my mom sue me to get the house back? So last year my mom sold me her house to me because she was about to lose it to foreclosure. She went through bankruptcy twice and already lost another house. I bought so we wont lose it for the amount left on the mortgage. Now she accused me of stealing from her 50,000 dollars threatened to go to a lawyer and wants to kick me out. What can i do to protect myself because she is very unstable and irresponsible with her finances RESPONSE A: Where did she get that amount? How much did you pay her for the house? What was the value of the house? How much equity did she have? RESPONSE B: Not a lawyer: If she has a foreclosure on her record in the past, bankruptcy and obviously bad spending habits, it doesn't matter what language she speaks, bad money sense is bad money sense in a judges eye. If you have your name on the house, she's SOL. She can sue, but given previous information she'll most likely be fighting an uphill battle. Tell her that it isn't smart to try and bring this to court, as she'll almost definitely lose, and you WILL use all of her failings against her, even if it is dirty to do. You're trying to help her be responsible, she may not see it this way, but it's better she has a place to stay than to lose it in a foolish way. Which response is better? RESPONSE

A

POST: Can my mom sue me to get the house back? So last year my mom sold me her house to me because she was about to lose it to foreclosure. She went through bankruptcy twice and already lost another house. I bought so we wont lose it for the amount left on the mortgage. Now she accused me of stealing from her 50,000 dollars threatened to go to a lawyer and wants to kick me out. What can i do to protect myself because she is very unstable and irresponsible with her finances RESPONSE A: This seems like an empty threat. She is probably in another financial bind and she thinks threatening you will get you to give her some money. What money does she have to pay a lawyer to sue you? If she sues you without a lawyer, she’s going to have a really hard time figuring out what to do. You might actually be able to evict her. RESPONSE B: What was the appraised value of the property at the time of the transaction? Which response is better? RESPONSE

B

POST: Can my mom sue me to get the house back? So last year my mom sold me her house to me because she was about to lose it to foreclosure. She went through bankruptcy twice and already lost another house. I bought so we wont lose it for the amount left on the mortgage. Now she accused me of stealing from her 50,000 dollars threatened to go to a lawyer and wants to kick me out. What can i do to protect myself because she is very unstable and irresponsible with her finances RESPONSE A: Several questions. Who's idea was it for your mother to sell the house to you and have you pay arrears? What was the appraised value of tye home at time of sale? At what price did you purchase the home and how much did you pay in arrears? Did you agree to allow your mother to continue living in her home after you purchased it or did she plan to vacate after the sale closed? RESPONSE B: This seems like an empty threat. She is probably in another financial bind and she thinks threatening you will get you to give her some money. What money does she have to pay a lawyer to sue you? If she sues you without a lawyer, she’s going to have a really hard time figuring out what to do. You might actually be able to evict her. Which response is better? RESPONSE

B

POST: Landlord wants to raise rent/ evict because of tampons, and is threatening to search my feminine products. Can he do this? This is probably one of the most degrading things I've ever been through with a landlord. I live in an apartment complex in Iowa with 3 buildings and several units in each building. Plumbing and water are shared between units. This morning we opened our door to find a note threatening to raise the rent of everyone in our building by $50 a month because of flushed tampons and wipes clogging the sewer drain. The letter goes on to say that they will be comparing any tampons they find in the pipes to the tampons kept by women in each apartment unit and if the type matches, they will charge $500 to the tenant and evict. We got flyers a couple times last year about not flushing tampons, and one of those flyers is posted to the window of the laundry room/ office, so this is not the first notice. It seems like a scare tactic to me, but I want to be sure I'm not going to be evicted over just owning tampons, or punished over what other renters and their guests might do. I also don't want any of the men who own or work for this building rifling through my sanitary products. Is there anything I need to be concerned about and what can I do to protect myself? RESPONSE A: Even if there was a way to easily identify the type of tampon, wouldn't this notice just urge the person responsibly to stock up on a different brand in order to not get caught? This doesn't make any sense. Probably a scare tactic indeed, since he knows he can't do much, but it's also understandable that this issue is frustrating and costly for him, after putting up warnings before. RESPONSE B: Waiting for the eviction proceeding in which the landlord brings in a used tampon as evidence. Which response is better? RESPONSE

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POST: Home for the holidays, little brother stole everything of value from my room. So about 18 months ago I moved from my parent's house in Virginia to the other side of the country. When I came for Christmas last year, only 1 thing was missing (my 3ds and things that went with it) so I kind of wrote it off but I'm back for Christmas again this year and more than $1,200 worth of my stuff has been taken from my bedroom and is gone. I found some of the smaller ticket items hidden in my 18 year old brother's room and confronted him but he swears he didn't touch anything. Everyone else in the family is missing things and money as well, he was even stealing my 12 year old brother's adhd medicine and selling it, our mother keeps it in a lock box now. I am at a loss of what to do, he hasn't faced any consequences from our parents and won't. Is there a legal course of action I can take, even if my stuff is long gone and was sold for drugs or am I just sol? RESPONSE A: Your parents really need to attempt to convince him to go to treatment. He will end up in prison if he keeps this up. You can report the theft but that might very well lead to prison too, especially if it comes out that he's been stealing controlled medication from a child. Continuing to house him while he has a drug problem makes sense, but it makes less sense once he is pawning other people's property to support it - soon enough he's going to steal from someone who will report him, or from a business or his workplace. RESPONSE B: Call the police and report the theft. Let them deal with it. Which response is better? RESPONSE

B

POST: ATM stole my money and bank closed the claim On Jan 12, I went to a Regions branded atm and tried to withdraw $500. The machine went dark and debited my account but did not dispense the money. I just got notice that my claim was closed with no credit given. I was definitely ripped off and I’m wondering where do I go from here? What kind of lawyer would I need to talk to? RESPONSE A: File another claim, ask them to check security cameras and atm data log. RESPONSE B: Business lawyer here. The following is what I would do if I were you: I’d file complaints against the bank with the CFPB, FDIC, your state’s attorney general office, your state’s banking regulator, and any other government regulatory agency you can think of (even if they don’t have proper jurisdiction over the complaint). Also, for good measure, I’d file the complaint with the Better Business Bureau. I’d be sure to include specific identifying information such as my full name, the amount of money I tried to withdraw, the last four digits of the card I used, any identifying codes on my bank statement, and most importantly the exact date, time, atm number (if one is posted on the ATM), and atm location. Now, I wouldn’t spend time writing different complaints. I’d write one stellar complaint and send copies to all the agencies I listed above. What’s going to end up happening is that most of the agency complaints will be forwarded to the CFPB for processing due to jurisdiction issues and complaint processing agreements. However, the bank will get letters about the complaints, and the letters the other agencies send the bank that say “we’re forwarding the complaint to the CFBP” will grab the bank’s attention. If you do what I would do, you’d end up with someone serious from the bank whose goal is to resolve the problem you created for them by creating a regulatory complaint against them. This person has the power to and will review the ATM records, see the system crash at the same time as your transaction, and see that the ATM ended its day with a financial surplus of at least $500. Which response is better? RESPONSE