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oofadhdsucks

YALL I 1) WOKE UP ON TIME 2) DID ALMOST ALL MY MORNING CHORES 3) GOT OUT OF THE HOUSE AT 8:30 AM!!!! I HAVE BEEN STRUGGLING TO DO THIS SINCE LIKE MARCH I AM SO FUCKING PUMPED 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭 note: Started Jornay PM yesterday. Ya take it at night and it dissolves by the time you wake up. Good results so far! I've also *nearly* fulfilled a nearly decade long mission of finding the perfect Todo system for me, which was a big help with the chores. If I could cry I would 🥲

2021-12-22T13:54:36.000Z

rm5pfb

ADHD

I WOKE UP ON TIME!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rm5pfb/i_woke_up_on_time/

redrobotbear

Normally creating (and finishing) a 100 slide deck would seem impossible but I found starting on a few slides at the beginning, then working from the last slide in reverse, then when I get bored picking random slides in the middle mixes it up a bit. Then every so often I bump into slides I’ve already done and get a surprise like “wow I’ve done more slides than I thought” or realising you’ve finished the whole presentation when it looks like you still have 10 slides to go! I keep surprising myself and it feels good to actually finish something. And not wholly driven to complete my work based on fear I’ll get fired for not doing my job. Could work with writing reports or essays. I didn’t realise until now I’ve been doing this since I was a kid.

2021-12-22T13:54:02.000Z

rm5p1b

ADHD

Sharing my little life hack after starting a new job in consulting

https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rm5p1b/sharing_my_little_life_hack_after_starting_a_new/

No-Statement-2640

Am I the only one figuratively shitting my pants, because the holidays are upon us? Did I remember all the things? Will I be overstimulated? Will I be able to live up to other peoples expectations? Will I be able to figure out what other peoples expectations are? Will I use all of my energy trying to figure out what other peoples expectations are? Will I ask directly what their expectations are and be irritated because they cannot give a straight answer? Or wonder if I am to weird/annoying for even asking these questions? Ahead of me is a long journey of navigation a wild an unpredictable ocean of social expectations and interpersonal relations. Wish me luck, and please tell me how you are feeling. I wish all of you a happy holiday ♥️

2021-12-22T13:53:32.000Z

rm5oqk

ADHD

Sweet christmas time

https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rm5oqk/sweet_christmas_time/

catso666

Calendars - I find it easier to flip through paper weeks and understand the concept of days/months easier on paper To do lists - I can’t keep track on screen. I need a non-lined sheet of paper Filing papers/ organising - so much harder with the files on screen because they’re not always “there”. I find I can’t categorise properly and can’t make sense of what papers to put where. Much easier physically. Reminders/notes - if on screen I don’t have a system and they end up in multiple word docs Bills - they sit in email/text form I am more likely to pay on time if I get a physical bill Life is infinitely harder since the world is moving to paperless Anyone else? Is this an ADHD thing? A visual processing thing? Any ideas on how I can better manage things on screen?

2021-12-22T13:51:54.000Z

rm5nqm

ADHD

I find planning on paper so much easier than on a screen?

https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rm5nqm/i_find_planning_on_paper_so_much_easier_than_on_a/

UsefulInformation484

GUYS i needed a 97.5 on my final exam to get an A in physics. After a sleepless night that night, barely any studying and some cramming right before the exam. i managed to do it. i cannot believe it! It was so unlikely but i was kinda bored so i was like maybe ill try. Also my adderall meds were giving me heart palpatations even after lowering my dose from 25 to 15 XR + 5 IR, and i figured out the root cause all on my own! my sleep medication is an anti anxiety&depression med and i didnt realize. So me not taking it over break was causing discontinuation (anxiety, depression) that was made worse by my adderall. I took the sleep med last night and now i feel great after taking my morning adderall dose, im awake and ready to go but also calm! Im just really happy brcause these symptoms have been rough and i had been irregularly taking my sleep meds all semester which probably fucked with my anxiety and depression a lot lol

2021-12-22T13:49:36.000Z

rm5maq

ADHD

Having a great day :)

https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rm5maq/having_a_great_day/

putridtooth

Hey y'all. I've been certain for several years now that I have ADHD. College really brought it out. But I moved out of state and now have illinois insurance in minnesota. I've been looking in MN but the choices are slim when it comes to in-network providers (or maybe I'm just using the website wrong!). So i thought, hey, telehealth is a thing, I could just video call a doctor from illinois! But holy fucking hell, scrolling through page after page of doctor names with no ratings or info on the insurance website just gets me nowhere. How am I supposed to pick some that that way? 900 pages of names?? How did you guys go about finding someone? Were you referred by a friend or a GP? I don't have a GP in minnesota yet either, but I guess I could find one if that would help. I know it takes a while to get diagnosed--but I'd like to speed this up as I'm pretty much freaking out every day at this point. And I can't just be stuck on the first step forever lol.

2021-12-22T13:47:48.000Z

rm5l6e

ADHD

Trouble finding a doctor out of state--Insurance websites are insanely overwhelming.

https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rm5l6e/trouble_finding_a_doctor_out_of_stateinsurance/

piratemechfighting

There a ton of instances where I've said something off the top of my head, and regretted it. I had a moment like this today, and I feel really terrible about it and need to complain about it somewhere I was at work and this couple asked for a specific order. I was busy at the register so I told my coworker "get it for them, they are weird". The moment I said it, I felt terrible. I didn't even have second thoughts before saying it, it just kinda came out. He apologized on my behalf but I just feel so guilty about it. There was also another time where my friend got rejected by some girl and he was talking about being upset (rightfully so). I made a joke and everyone called me out. I quickly realized I was being an asshole. Even if they didn't call me out, I regretted that message like 30 milliseconds after sending it. I apologized and he said "its ok" (pretty sure I made him even more sad). I have a lot of moments like this. Impulsivety should be an ADHD thing. I feel like I've lost some friendships because I say dumb shit all the time. I'm fine with making a fool out of myself, but I hate when I'm being rude to others. I hate being mean to others that don't deserve it. And there's also ambiguity. "Is it me or the ADHD?" Am I just an asshole or is my adhd kicking in? I probably need to think more before I speak. I'm very extroverted so sometimes I really can't shut my mouth. But at the same time if I'm thinking for too long, I'll just make things super awkward. Comment whatever you want. I don't mind harsh criticism cuz it's prob for the better for me to learn not to do this again.

2021-12-22T13:38:57.000Z

rm5fnl

ADHD

Feeling guilty about saying rude things impulsively

https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rm5fnl/feeling_guilty_about_saying_rude_things/

CesarioKing

This can be applied to almost any situation, but I wanted to use something I’ve noticed when I was playing the Ocarina of Time game on the Nintendo Switch. One of the controls is to look up and down when you’re using the bow and arrow, hookshot, boomerang, etc. The issue is the controls. Instead of moving the console down to look down, you move it down to look up and vice versa. I find this extremely irritating and it makes it harder to concentrate on getting the target just about right if I can’t use Navi to lock on the target. I wind up having to take a break because I feel overwhelmed and it feels like my thumb is a little strained or stressed. Something similar happens when I have to make percise shots in other video games, but it’s not as bad if the controls weren’t inverted or at least gave me the option to change it to non-inverted. Do other people with ADHD deal with this, or am I a special case?

2021-12-22T13:35:56.000Z

rm5dse

ADHD

Is This An ADHD Thing: Video Game Edition

https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rm5dse/is_this_an_adhd_thing_video_game_edition/

meganhbn

My son (6) started Ritalin on Monday (thank you everyone who gave advice the other day!) and we knew taking a pill would be hard for him since he had never done it before. The first day was hard, but he did it. Yesterday took a couple tries, but was much better and he was so proud! He kept saying, “I swallowed it as quick as a rabbit!” This morning….I don’t know what to do. He spit two in the trash and refused to swallow the third. Obviously we can’t just keep giving him new pills, but he is holding them in his mouth on purpose. At first he was laughing about it but it turned into a huge meltdown. We tried offering ice cream with it, prizes for taking them all week, taking privileges away until he takes it, but nothing is working. Yesterday he went shopping with me (we’re both vaccinated and always wear our masks) and it was the first time in at least three years that it was a pleasant experience for both of us. He was so happy to have been able to enjoy our time. I explained today that we won’t be doing anything like that if he doesn’t take it and he said he would take it, then faked it again. I am so lost. I don’t know what to do. We just want what’s best for him and the past two days have been so much better for all of us. The medication didn’t seem to “tame” him or mute his personality at all (happy for that!) but it calmed him just enough to be able to follow directions and make better choices. We didn’t have any meltdowns even after it wore off (and it was pretty obvious when it did). The only real negative I witnessed was a rough bedtime. Can anyone give me any advice on how to handle this? I’m waiting on a call from the doctor but I would be very grateful for perspective from first hand experience. Thanks in advance!

2021-12-22T13:35:46.000Z

rm5dpb

ADHD

Ritalin day 3

https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rm5dpb/ritalin_day_3/

G_H_X_S_T_N

So I’ve been on Ritalin IR for about a week now, but when it wears off every 2-3 hours it makes me super annoyed and aggressive, as in it affects my road rage as well. I’m debating on letting my doctor know, and she says she won’t be able to switch anytime soon because of a 30 day period. I have way more focus and control over my hyper ness and impulsivity. But when it’s gone, even my anxiety meds don’t usually work, and I haven’t started doubling it yet either. My next option is Vyvanse and I don’t know if it will give me the same affect as Ritalin, because adderall 20mg XR didn’t really do anything to me except suppress my appetite a bunch. Anyone else also feel these symptoms? It’s affecting my day to day life as well.

2021-12-22T13:29:40.000Z

rm59wd

ADHD

Just been on Ritalin for a few days, anyone also getting aggressive when it wears off?

https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rm59wd/just_been_on_ritalin_for_a_few_days_anyone_also/

raghidawd

My friend and I are the only 2 with ADHD (I'm mostly self-diagnosed but very much aware of the symptoms). And out of all our friends, we're the only two to really enjoy songs from the hyperpop genre and such.. I remember I read somewhere that there might be a link, and I'm really intrigued to know more about it. Is there a reason my brain feels very fuzzy and stimulated when I put Charli XCX on repeat?

2021-12-22T13:29:32.000Z

rm59tf

ADHD

Is there any link between having ADHD and listening to very loud music like hyperpop?

https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rm59tf/is_there_any_link_between_having_adhd_and/

AeraFeelEater

I will start saying that I'm "half-diagnosed". My last psychologist make me do a test but I didn't want to tell my parents, and even if I scored very high, she told me that she need my parents and recently told me that I shouldn't "obsses over labels". But I'm here to talk about the new one, let's call her Maria. I changed because I was very short of money and my cousin was great working wit her. The first two-three sessions where great, but I felt something was wrong, and I told myself it was just me overthinking. I also had severe anxiety disorden and depression tendencies, so we worked on them. Everything was good...until the two last sessions. I told her about my ADHD (I'm the walking stereotype of a woman with ADHD) and she told me "but you are good at University and have great grades". That broke me. I tried to fcking infodump all my symtomps and tell her everything about me, and she blamed all to my anxiety. I told her I can't focus on things, somtimes even if are my hobbies and only but not always if I find them interesting, and sometimes I get so focused on a hobby that I forgot to eat, sleep or take a piss. Maria told me that "but people with ADHD can't even focus on their hobbies". I told her I can't sleep at a "normal" time and somedays (or mostly nights) I have random energy peaks. "Is your anxiety". I told her that I SCREAM rather than talk, speak too fast and get overexcited most of the time. "Your anxiety makes you feel also very happy". I told her that since child everyone told me I talk to much, distract too much and scream too much, and I've always been a impulsive with buying things and very bad in dealing with anger, even if I hold myself back so much. And she said is all anxiety. I even told her that I'm very sensitive to certain textures, food or light and sound and told me that are fixations and I have to overcome the "fear"(? by exposing to them bit by bit. That made me had an anxiety attack (I think), and I hid it the best I could. And more other things that only made me more and more insecure about myself and made me think she didn't even listens to me. My partner is very worried because I been DAYS with anxiety attacks when I remeber the session and even losing my breath everytime I cry. And I lost part of my apetite too. My friends told me that they know people with ADHD and she's wrong about the part about the "good grades". But I'm a fcking overthinker and I've been doubting even my own feelings. I am just obssesed over ADHD or is Maria wrong? Should I go back to my other psychologist or search another one?

2021-12-22T13:27:16.000Z

rm58id

ADHD

Should I change my psychologist?

https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rm58id/should_i_change_my_psychologist/

ChopinApologist

Well, folks, I feel like shit. I’m in my nice warm bed right now when I’m supposed to be at work. This lateness has been happening more and more lately and I’m just so frustrated with myself. I think I’ve also been depressed lately because I feel like just simply giving up. I work two jobs, one being a service org for resume building, and the other one a fast food place. The other staff is on break till the New Year, but my boss at the service org told me that since I haven’t really done jack shit since I got there, I don’t get a break. So here I am, late and making up excuses not to go in, all the while feeling like shit for it. On top of it, I don’t even get a free fucking day out of it because I still have to go into my OTHER job today. I talked with my GP about ADHD but he seemed distracted that day, which made me feel like I wasn’t important. He then said he’ll send me to a lady in town that specializes in ADHD and will test me, but that won’t be till after the New Year. So now I’m stuck. Life sucks. My decisions suck. I want to do nothing more than to just lay in bed and play videogames all day but no, I have to “advance my career” and “pay back student loans.” This sucks. Please help.

2021-12-22T13:25:13.000Z

rm579h

ADHD

ADHD After College

https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rm579h/adhd_after_college/

horizonzdawn

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2021-12-22T13:24:24.000Z

rm56qd

ADHD

Don’t want to participate in life

https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rm56qd/dont_want_to_participate_in_life/

FunnyFunyun

I'm not diagnosed with ADHD, but GAD. I personally think the former is more appropriate than the latter. my psychiatrist doesn't agree, but I told him I was following methods for ADHD management and He's not opposed. Whatever floats your boat. I guess. Anyway, I have immense difficulty starting the day. I would take 2 mg Ativan or 20 mg melatonin to fall asleep set my alarm 10 hours later, and would still go right back to bed. I even got a Pavlok to shock me out of bed. put a lock on the wristband so I wouldn't take it out and snooze. I put the key under a cold-brew coffee mug in the fridge. I would shock myself up, go to the fridge, down the coffee, unlock the Pavlock from my wrist and... wait for it... go right back to sleep... it's like my brain is saying that's enough for today. go lay still until something interesting pops up. if I have an outside engagement, I would miraculously wake up just enough in time before I can be late. if my morning plan is to do some personal work forget it. I'll open my eyes at 2 pm. whatever I add to my morning routine to make it more interesting, it's never as appealing as shutting my eyes. once, I even went back to sleep in the cold tub in the bathroom... I don't know what to do...

2021-12-22T13:23:45.000Z

rm56bk

ADHD

what can I do if waking up on time registers as The Big Task of the day, and my brain just rewards itself by going back to sleep?

https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rm56bk/what_can_i_do_if_waking_up_on_time_registers_as/

rnybombs

I was original supposed to be seeing a psychiatrist that specializes in what I’m dealing with (adhd and bipolar 2). Now they set me up with someone different. I read her bio. It says she has a holistic approach and she believes wellness comes from physical, social, and spiritual well-being. It says she helps with person goals such as therapy, mindfulness, stress management, exercise, and sleep hygiene. I have a bad feeling she’s going to tell me to try therapy, sleep, and eat better. I’ve been waiting over 6 months to get medication and I’ve had several setbacks. I’m so worried I’m going to waste $300 on this appointment for nothing. I don’t want therapy from this person. I’m trying to get setup with therapy with the person that diagnosed me because she was amazing and the only person I ever felt like truly listened to me. I have talked to multiple therapists and felt like it was a pity party for me which I hate. The one that diagnosed me was the only one I’ve ever been able to open up to. Unfortunately her office doesn’t have anyone that can prescribe medication so I ended up at an appointment at this place. Does the bio sound like a red flag? Someone that doesn’t want to prescribe medication?

2021-12-22T13:22:09.000Z

rm55dx

ADHD

I have a virtual appointment with a psychiatrist and I’m nervous

https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rm55dx/i_have_a_virtual_appointment_with_a_psychiatrist/

plswearmask

BACKGROUND I was diagnosed with ADHD in high school and took concerta and adderall until I graduated college. So I took meds, on and off, for about 8 years. After graduation though, I decided to live a life unmedicated, which was sporadic, sometimes destructive, but always genuine. It’s hard for me to regret either phase of my life. Fast forward 6 years and I notice that my work performance is…not the best. I job hopped a lot and in each workplace my boss would get on my case about my productivity and accuracy. Not just them, I knew I was doing inadequate work. Despite my best efforts (and I truly mean best), I would submit work with mistakes, I would be late to meetings, and I would get overwhelmed when the workload was too much. In my personal life, I would just be in a fog a lot of the time. Sometimes I would get these amazing moments of clarify but the fog would always overtake me. I knew I had to do something about it. I visited a psychiatrist and he was pretty much like “yup I could do more testing but I’m pretty sure you have ADHD,” so he prescribed me 18 mg of concerta which most of you may know is the lowest dosage. FIRST DAY I take it at about 9:45 am. Working from home. 30 minutes later, I feel the effects. The fog is lifted. I’m able to think clearly, check my mistakes, I breeze through work. Not only that but my anxiety is down. I’m able to handle the pressure better. I’m more confident. From a productivity angle, this medicine has been an absolute paradigm shift. But the side effects… well about two hours in I noticed my heart beating fast, pressure in my chest, shortness of breath. This honestly freaked me out. But I figured my body would adjust to it over time, and that I would talk to my doctor about it in about two weeks during our next appointment. Then after work I went to the gym and took a shower and man, I noticed that I was losing hair like crazy. Usually I would notice a few strands of hair in the shower, but I easily saw like 30-40. Then I remembered that hair loss is a side effect and I connected the two. I thought about being in college and losing my hair then and freaking out about it. It was the adhd meds. I could eat just fine though. CONCLUSION Anyway it was kind of a rollercoaster of a day. Not emotionally as the meds make me feel more stable in that regard but yeah…I might quit them again

2021-12-22T13:19:38.000Z

rm53vq

ADHD

First day on concerta in about 6 years. I'm thinking of quitting.

https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rm53vq/first_day_on_concerta_in_about_6_years_im/

Waste-Associate5773

I saw my Psychiatrist today, it was my first appointment for getting diagnosed. We chatted for a while and we had a good vibe. He was easy to talk to and I joked around because that's just my personality. He asked about family history and mental health, wanted to know if there was anyone in my family with any mental health issues. I made a joke that was basically "If you ask my family they will all say they're fine but I can guarantee there is a lot of mental health issues in my family" He laughed and I apologized, told him I should concentrate more, I joke when I'm nervous. He just smiled and said "It's ok to be who you are" Its stuck with me. I see him again next week but he's fairly confident that I have ADHD so I'll keep you updated!

2021-12-22T13:16:09.000Z

rm51ym

ADHD

"It's Ok To Be Who You Are"

https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rm51ym/its_ok_to_be_who_you_are/

that_bassoon

I just recently slept with someone who hated what they perceived to be my "lack of stamina." In all actuality, I get bored and distracted doing something for more than a few seconds, so I would often switch up what I was doing. We talked it out and I explained to them I was just getting distracted with other parts of them. Has ADHD affected your sex life in anyway, and/or how have you worked around it?

2021-12-22T13:14:25.000Z

rm50w9

ADHD

How has ADHD affected your sex life?

https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rm50w9/how_has_adhd_affected_your_sex_life/

MovingOn1994

For context, I'm 27 (tomorrow, technically, but whatever), working three days a week at two very mentally demanding jobs and working on my MA thesis the rest of the time, as well as taking language class once per week and maintaining my physical health, apartment and social life. And to be honest, I've been really drained. Just recently I lost two whole weeks *again*, when my hormones, ADHD brain and a sudden drop in temperatures combined to make me so lethargic and fatigued I barely functioned. It got so bad that I finally caved and took my ADHD meds a couple of days ago - just once - despite knowing it would worsen my insomnia - which it did for about three nights - and got a LOT done, thank god. But while all this was happening, I was dreading one fateful email. A while back, I submitted an article I wrote and reedited hoping to have it published, my first ever academic publication. But I didn't anticipate just how much editing and rewriting they would ask for at the same time as me trying to see my family abroad during covid and going through nightmarish bureaucracy for it. Given how behind I am on my thesis and my existing workload, plus other life things, I knew I had to say no. I couldn't fit in the time to basically completely rework whole sections, do MORE reading and redo my citations to make sure they're all perfect. At my pace, knowing I rarely manage more than 4 hours a day of academic work at a time (unless meds are involved, but I can't take them every day because again, insomnia), it's at least a full week of work that I just don't have. Plus, if I'm being very honest, I am already stretched very thin. So I sent that dreaded no, and it made my stomach sink. I put in a lot of work getting that first draft edited on time, days of work, but my damn brain just regularly goes into "nope" mode and I end up being WAY slower than most of my peers (though my grades are still good). I always feel like I could do so much more if I didn't have such an erratic, easily tired, easily distracted brain. Sending it brought back some dark, negative thoughts.

2021-12-22T13:12:19.000Z

rm4zon

ADHD

I just had to say no to something I really wanted because I knew I couldn't do it

https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rm4zon/i_just_had_to_say_no_to_something_i_really_wanted/

ang0025

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2021-12-22T13:12:18.000Z

rm4zof

ADHD

Anyone take klonopin for anxiety?

https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rm4zof/anyone_take_klonopin_for_anxiety/

Appropriate-Sea-4788

Ok hi! So I was diagnosed with adhd today and I never thought in a million years that was the diagnosis I would get. I’m feeling confused and shocked, I’m having trouble believing it’s true. (The diagnosis I was expecting was borderline or bipolar) My therapist told me that all those “normal” things weren’t normal and I feel like my whole life has been a lie. I thought that everyone had the same difficulty to do things they weren’t interested in, turns out that is adhd… I could really use some advice and support right now, how did you react when you found out?

2021-12-22T13:07:07.000Z

rm4w94

ADHD

Need some support…

https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rm4w94/need_some_support/

Intelligent-Leek8909

Opened Reddit to ask my fellow ADHD people a question that could have altered the course; but as the title says I sneezed and forgot it 😂 It maybe gone forever or it may come back to me at an incredibly inappropriate moment. “Oh f*ck!!! I remember!” In the middle of Christmas dinner with the family. Basically just another day of me solving personal problems and the world’s problems in my head and then forgetting everything with a blink (or today’s case sneeze). Thought you all could relate and maybe share some humorous moments you did something similar

2021-12-22T13:01:30.000Z

rm4sym

ADHD

I had a very important question, a question that - if answered - would have changed my life forever; but I sneezed and forgot the question

https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rm4sym/i_had_a_very_important_question_a_question_that/

Bee_Ad2836

I’m on day 3 of Straterra and I noticed that my mood’s been heightened more than ever. I’m extra excited, extra pissy, but then I have this feeling of not giving a damn afterwards. My appetite has decreased significantly as well. After a few bites I’m full and then I don’t feel like eating anymore, and I forget to eat. Today I only had two bites of a sandwich and I’m still not hungry yet I’m not in the mood to eat. I know it takes time, but I noticed that I’ve been more unfocused, and I’ve been hyper focused on things that I don’t need to do but makes me feel good. Is this normal? Im scared that it’ll get bad in the next few days.

2021-12-22T12:58:10.000Z

rm4qmu

ADHD

Day 3 on Straterra and I’ve been in a pissy mood

https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rm4qmu/day_3_on_straterra_and_ive_been_in_a_pissy_mood/

2HotPotato2HotPotato

Covid hit us in the face again and new rules have been announced where i live. School are going to be remote, and the kids vacations have been extended. I'm a dad of two kids (5 and 3 years old). I have habe adhd and i'm 100% sure my oldest has adhd. He is highly impulsive, hypersensitive and has trouble regulating emotions. We also have a new dog. At the beginning of covid i had a huge burnout due to being working from home with the kids (1y and 3 y old at the time) and i didn't have any space. My gf was not working from home then. Thankfully she now is. I'm kinda ptsd from it to be honest. I recently got a new job and i love it but i can't miss it too much because i don't have that many vacation and i need the money. But when i work with the kids at home, i'm interupted all the time and its really taxing. With the new dog there are even more interuptions. And my gf already do a lot of things to help and she is getting tired too. I fear i will fall back to burnout if i work but if don't work, i kinda go in a mode where i'm understimulated and my energy drop very low. I don't know how to cope with this and my gf is tired of me complaining about how i need space and need less interruptions. If i talk to her about it, we always end up fighting. My gf is exhausted too (anxiety). I need lots of me time and i can't have it. I fear i will be going back to exhaustion and i don't want to be impatient/mean with kids and gf. I love them but i can't show them my good side with all that is happening. I feel that i can't handle all this without help. I feel misunderstood by my gf. She always say things like "it's life" "everyone struggle with covid" and i'm like yeah but it way above my limits. Interuption, unexpected kid problems or tasks, lack of me time, constant screan from the kids. Its really overwhelming. What are the strategies you guys use in similars situations?

2021-12-22T12:57:19.000Z

rm4q7x

ADHD

Coping with lack of time to recharge (parents with adhd with youngs adhd kids)

https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rm4q7x/coping_with_lack_of_time_to_recharge_parents_with/

PeriwinklePeaches

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2021-12-22T12:56:49.000Z

rm4pyg

ADHD

Thoughts on ADHD-Autistic relationships and well-being

https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rm4pyg/thoughts_on_adhdautistic_relationships_and/

akirapsych

I feel like I'm having an identity crisis. I've been recently diagnosed with adult ADHD and as much as I like my sense of humor, interests creativity, I hate that executive dysfunction has stopped me for the past 24yrs to be the person I had potential to have been. On top of that meds and life in general is stifling the motivation to do what I love. I'm a professional dancer, I used to do it every second of every day. Now music doesn't even resonate the same emotionally, I have no energy or motivation to do what I love. My relationship to so much of what is around me has changed and I don't have an emotional outlet anymore. I feel genuinely at a loss. Who the fuck even am I anymore? I feel in despair...

2021-12-22T12:55:40.000Z

rm4pbi

ADHD

I envy the life I could have lived if I didn't have ADHD

https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rm4pbi/i_envy_the_life_i_could_have_lived_if_i_didnt/

TB_lawkid13

Dx'd about 18 mths ago, switched from Vyvanse to Adderall @ the start of 2021. Started exercising again right before Thanksgiving. Have always preferred working out in the morning, started an accountability Zoom to get up & force the workouts. About 3 weeks ago, I started having trouble getting to sleep, & staying asleep. Am getting to bed later & later, and have a really hard time going to sleep & staying asleep...now normally waking up around 4:45-5:30 before workout (Zoom is at 630, so alarm is set at 6). Fitbit says I'm averaging about 6 hrs a night--but that's with weekends. Weekdays are between 3.5-5 hrs. Anyone else have this problem?! I normally take my meds early so I won't be up all night--a common issue I had early with Adderall. Have switched to decaffeinated coffee (mostly) & aside from working out, no other major changes. Meds are still effective, but EF is starting to tank during the day due to lack of sleep.

2021-12-22T12:53:26.000Z

rm4o3s

ADHD

Adderall, Sleep, & Exercise

https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rm4o3s/adderall_sleep_exercise/

Prodigyprodigy

I just recently learn how to drive again after years of getting my driving license. I was so scared at first but I decided I need to learn it again as I will need to drive to my workplace when I start working later. ​ However, since I start driving this year, I realise I'm always on auto-pilot mode whenever I'm driving and it just feel so..weird? I feel like I'm not even there. The thing is, I believe I'm not relying on musle memory as its been forever since I last touch the steering wheel. ​ I worry I might hurt myself and other people if it keep going like this. What actually is happening to me? ​ p/s: I'm not under any medication and never ever drink, if you guys are wondering :)

2021-12-22T12:46:17.000Z

rm4jvv

ADHD

Driving is scary

https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rm4jvv/driving_is_scary/

Mikernd

My son, 7, recently was officially diagnosed as ADHD and prescribed medication to help him focus in school. We have noticed recently that he has much more aggression and general angst / anger on nights when he was medicated in the morning for school. Is this something that anyone has dealt with? Are there any tips for how to help him calm himself and sort out his feelings?

2021-12-22T12:43:58.000Z

rm4ijn

ADHD

My son is way more aggressive when coming down off medication at night

https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rm4ijn/my_son_is_way_more_aggressive_when_coming_down/

coolme897

So all my life been apart of many groups. Many people. But never felt apart of somthing. I dont share anything of what im thinking. Been with over 7 therapist. Still couldnt express whats in me. Never did before so i dont know how. My recent therapist of 3 years been nagging me to open up more. Im trying but honestly i dont know what i feel inside its always confusing. She keeps saying i express no emotion regarding even events that happend in my life. I just dont understand my emotions ive always kept them inside. Is this normal for ADHD or its the way i am.

2021-12-22T12:40:30.000Z

rm4gep

ADHD

Does ADHD make you lonely despite everyone around you.

https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rm4gep/does_adhd_make_you_lonely_despite_everyone_around/

AdMysterious7744

I got prescribed concerta in July. Since then I started eating healthy, losing weight. I could focus, keep my room tidy, brush my teeth every night. I started exercising and at the start of December I got a job. Then I don't know what happened. I stopped exercising first, started getting super upset at work because my memory was bad but they wanted me to go fast but then a coworker would get angry because I was forgetting shit. Then I quit. I've eaten everything in sight, can't even bring myself to do art. I went to hospital but I'm out and in isolation pending a covid test so I can't leave the house to even walk. I started feeling like I've been a burden on all my mates, behind on my bills etc. For the first time in my life I thought things were fetting better. I think I'm just broken and nothing can be done for me. I was doing so well

2021-12-22T12:37:11.000Z

rm4eh3

ADHD

I don't get it, I was doing so well

https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rm4eh3/i_dont_get_it_i_was_doing_so_well/

MacaroonExpensive143

Hey guys, I have talked to my dr and pharmacist and searched the group, not looking for medical advice just others experiences. The dr office is doing some big change and it caused me to not have my refill for days on end. It was like a week or so. Well starting adderall back up has me feeling a little icky like more anxious and heart racy, something I don’t normally feel on it. (Doctor said once my body gets used to I again in a few days I’ll feel fine again) so I’m not worried, just annoyed lol. Has this happened to anyone and if so how do you get through those first couple of icky days? Of course it’s 3 days until Xmas, I’m a single mom, and am soooo behind so that’s not helping! 🙃

2021-12-22T12:32:59.000Z

rm4c46

ADHD

Readjusting to dose

https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rm4c46/readjusting_to_dose/

the-played-one

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2021-12-22T12:27:36.000Z

rm48pn

ADHD

How quickly can I get medication

https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rm48pn/how_quickly_can_i_get_medication/

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2021-12-22T12:24:27.000Z

rm46w2

ADHD

Why would Ritalin cause depression chemically?

https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rm46w2/why_would_ritalin_cause_depression_chemically/

morphic89

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2021-12-22T12:20:32.000Z

rm44d8

ADHD

Has anyone tried ‘sleep specific headphone buds’ for sleep problems?

https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rm44d8/has_anyone_tried_sleep_specific_headphone_buds/

morphic89

I have always had chronic insomnia. And I am just very light sleeper, can’t sleep with partners, even sound of central heating coming on in the morning wakes me up. I have tried everything , most things either don’t block enough sound or block too much (sometimes complete silence also wakes me up, my mind wants to fill in the gaps). I have tried like white noise machines but sometimes they are off putting and I can still hear other sounds. Anyway I was curious about sleepbuds , if anyone with similar issues has tried them? They are super expensive but if anyone has would love to find out more

2021-12-22T12:17:04.000Z

rm42b3

ADHD

Had anyone tried sleedbuds for sleep problems?

https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rm42b3/had_anyone_tried_sleedbuds_for_sleep_problems/

Novel_Morning9258

So I missed a few day's of taking my Adhd medication so I wanted to see what would happen if I took the pills that I didn't take at the same time. I'm just was wondering what the side effects of equasym are? My prescribed dosage is 40mg and I took 3 pills at the same time. 40*3=120, so that is 120mg of equasym.

2021-12-22T12:12:22.000Z

rm3zr5

ADHD

What are the side effects of equasym?

https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rm3zr5/what_are_the_side_effects_of_equasym/

poisonberin

I take fast-release methylphenidate (Rubifen here in Spain or what you might know as Ritalin) and it works wonders for me. Today I had a first session with a therapist and she said that stimulants can help anyone, not just people with ADHD. This kept me thinking, but I've checked many sources and they all say that this is not true. What do you guys think?

2021-12-22T12:03:03.000Z

rm3uik

ADHD

Psychologist said meds affect everyone

https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rm3uik/psychologist_said_meds_affect_everyone/

Kida317

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2021-12-22T11:58:12.000Z

rm3r85

ADHD

DIVA-5 PDF? Difference between 2.0 and -5?

https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rm3r85/diva5_pdf_difference_between_20_and_5/

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2021-12-22T11:55:53.000Z

rm3q0g

ADHD

Does anyone have the DIVA-5 in pdf? What is the difference between DIVA 2.0 and DIVA-5?

https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rm3q0g/does_anyone_have_the_diva5_in_pdf_what_is_the/

twod119

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2021-12-22T11:39:06.000Z

rm3gzl

ADHD

Does having ADHD make you loathe wrapping gifts?

https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rm3gzl/does_having_adhd_make_you_loathe_wrapping_gifts/

AccomplishedSky9772

I have been on and off elvanse (vyvanse) for the past few months. I realised a few days after I re-start it, one of my toe becomes extremely painful, impossible to walk or wiggle. It hurts even if I'm not putting pressure on it. At first, I didn't correlate this with my meds, and believed I had gout. I saw my GP and they said i was too young to have gout (early 20s) and even if I had it they usually just tell their patients to take ibuprofen so I should just do that. I am having these symptoms again for the forth time this year, and I found out from the internet that gout occurs when urate crystals accumulate in your joint, causing the inflammation and intense pain of a gout attack. Urate crystals can form when you have high levels of uric acid in your blood. I also found out high uric acid levels could be caused by diuretics (water retention relievers). This made me wonder if it is possible my meds acted as a diuretic, leading to high uric acid levels and gout. The reason I think this is because I also feel extremely thirsty throughout the day whenever I'm on my meds. It's merely a bold assumption and I have no medical knowledge. I would be grateful for anyone with medical knowledge to give an opinion on whether this is a possibility or am I just letting my imagination run wild because I'm reluctant to see my GP about gout again after last time.

2021-12-22T11:37:14.000Z

rm3g4s

ADHD

Can you get gout from adhd meds?

https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rm3g4s/can_you_get_gout_from_adhd_meds/

calliryzen

I feel like it's tough to explain what ADHD is to neurotypicals especially because then the person's gonna say, "oh, I have the same symptoms too! It's a normal thing that happens to everyone!" So do suggest to me some great ways to explain what ADHD is to neurotypicals, so that they can understand it better.

2021-12-22T11:31:12.000Z

rm3cwo

ADHD

Best way to explain ADHD to neurotypicals?

https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rm3cwo/best_way_to_explain_adhd_to_neurotypicals/

ouijva

Like, if someone does something wrong I'll ask them to acknowledge what they've done and if they do I'll move on no questions asked, no matter the misdeed. If not, I flip. Like I really flip. I get so angry. It's like, if that basic pillar of owning up to your mistakes can't even been upheld then what's the point in having a civil disagreement and everything becomes free game to me at that point (not including physical contact though) and I spew the most cutting awful stuff. Which i own up for. But still, just awful stuff. Does anyone else feel like this? Any tips to combat this either?

2021-12-22T11:25:07.000Z

rm39lw

ADHD

Having a really strong sense of justice?

https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rm39lw/having_a_really_strong_sense_of_justice/

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2021-12-22T11:22:42.000Z

rm38dk

ADHD

Anyone else have a really firm sense of justice

https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rm38dk/anyone_else_have_a_really_firm_sense_of_justice/

kombuchah

dropped out as a freshman mid second semester. it was all so stressful. i wish i could go back and just “do better” but i know that’s not how it really works. god it’s so hard navigating the world. people talk about their academic achievements and i feel like breaking down. like i legitimately dont know what im going to do for the rest of my life and it’s one of the main reasons for my depression and suicidal ideation. i dont know how prevalent dropouts are on this sub but i would appreciate any advice or sharing of experience if you are one

2021-12-22T11:20:17.000Z

rm36ug

ADHD

need advice from fellow college dropouts

https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rm36ug/need_advice_from_fellow_college_dropouts/

Minimum-Height-9314

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2021-12-22T11:20:03.000Z

rm36pm

ADHD

Work Accomodation for Medical Coding &ADHD

https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rm36pm/work_accomodation_for_medical_coding_adhd/

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2021-12-22T11:13:23.000Z

rm336c

ADHD

Side effects of equasym

https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rm336c/side_effects_of_equasym/

blueskyezzz

so i have been on 4 different meds for awhile now and my doctors has recommended that i should change up something’s since i really shouldn’t be taking that many because i am still young. so i had my second appointment with this new med doctor today, and we both decided that i should come off of the main medication that i have been taking for my adhd since the first grade. i won’t say how long ago that was due to personal reasons but i can say that was a long time ago. i am now on only 1 adhd med instead of 2 and i’m happy but also nervous. the last time i changed a med i had SERIOUSLY BAD side effects and i’m scared that is gonna happen again. i shouldn’t be though because we’re just taking out one med and having the other be my main med. i really hope that this goes well and maybe in the future i won’t have to take any!!! - sorry for the long rant i just like talking about my adhd experiences and stuff!

2021-12-22T10:59:19.000Z

rm2v7p

ADHD

i had a med appointment today!!

https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rm2v7p/i_had_a_med_appointment_today/

_fairy_mary_

I’ve been treating my depression and anxiety with them for the last 3 years. I trust they wish me well and are genuinely concerned about my well being. They never been disrespectful or dismissed any of my symptoms. Best doctor I’ve ever had hands down. On the last visit I asked to be evaluated for adhd and, since procedure for adults in my country is weird, I’ve been filling diagnostic form by myself at home. I have 7 out of 9 symptoms with dysfunction in more than 6 aspects of my life. And some part of my brain is still telling me the doc will tell me ‘nah, you are just a lazy, undisciplined man-child, who just can’t take any responsibility seriously and you just need to get yourself together’. I’m overthinking and clearly obsessing over this bc I genuinely believe I have undiagnosed add. I’m paralysed and I can’t do anything but scroll Reddit. Which reminded me I didn’t eat any breakfast. I should do some chores to take my mind of the appointment, but… I can’t. I just can’t. Could you please send virtual hugs? :(

2021-12-22T10:56:27.000Z

rm2tuk

ADHD

Doctor appointment in 5 hours and I’m stressed beyond measure

https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rm2tuk/doctor_appointment_in_5_hours_and_im_stressed/

throwaway20191120

My psychiatrist is wildly unhelpful and I lost all trust in him. My new psychologist doesn’t have time until late January. I’m pretty sure they’re both on Christmas holidays now too. I just feel really bad and I got the thought that maybe my dosage is wrong. The kind I take isn’t addicting, and you don’t need to up the dose cause your body gets used to it. I just got to try out 10mg a pill and felt a difference, so I figured it was the right amount. I got up and felt fine, took the pill. I kept forgetting what I was gonna do, what time it was and I kept dropping _everything_ and kicking things over. I accidentally kicked one of my empty cans over and ended up kicking them all cause I got so frustrated. My whole body was trembling and I was getting pissy. I closed my bedroom door which then sprung open, so I turned around and slammed it shut. At this point my mom was like “I’m gonna call you back” to whoever she was on the phone with for the past hour. This was even more infuriating cause then I had to actually talk to her about it. I’m not really allowed to be anything but happy. So I just said “I feel so bad all the time” and slammed the front door after me. It’s not to punish her or anything. All she picked up on was “felt bad”. I’m 22, I feel so childish when I get like this. But idk what to do. I’m on my way to work now with teary eyes and I can’t really think of anything else. I tried calling my dad but he said he’d call me later. I can already tell I won’t pick up out of spite cause I’m angry. I’m also going to work so I can’t. Have you ever felt like this and it ended up just beyond your dose that was off? I have no one to ask for help or advice. Just got these pills stuck in my hand 3-4 weeks ago. Edit: meds are Ritalin (methylphenidate)

2021-12-22T10:48:47.000Z

rm2q14

ADHD

How do you know it’s time for a higher doses?

https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rm2q14/how_do_you_know_its_time_for_a_higher_doses/

InferredGuilt

It’s easy these days to get caught up in the negative things that come with ADHD. Today I’d like to talk about some of the positives! I love the fact that I can think my way out of pretty much any problem. It makes me great at finding solutions to lots of different setbacks which is a valuable skill. I also love being able to go full send when I’m under pressure. Although I’d prefer to have just DONE the thing in the first place, this particular trait increases my performance at work. EDIT: My music taste also varies massively. I love listening to music and finding new/interesting sounds, aswell as sharing it with others.

2021-12-22T10:45:23.000Z

rm2of1

ADHD

What are some positive/beneficial aspects of ADHD?

https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rm2of1/what_are_some_positivebeneficial_aspects_of_adhd/

bobbobbobby88

Anyone else find is incredibly difficult to get out of bed in the morning? I find myself waking up to my alarm, then my 2nd, 3rd, and 4th alarm but then continue to lay in bed until I’m late for work. This happens 3 out of 5 days probably. As I type this I’ve not been laying in bed for over an hour just procrastinating life. I start to hate myself for it but it feels near impossible mentally to get up.

2021-12-22T10:40:29.000Z

rm2lwh

ADHD

Trouble getting up in the mornings.

https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rm2lwh/trouble_getting_up_in_the_mornings/

Ahoukun

Yesterday I had a serious discussion with my boss where she mentioned some things I believe are associated with my ADHD. For one she thought I was very rude towards her whenever I came to her office bcs I was simply too fast for her to tell me if I am interrupting smth which apparently happened quite a few times. I was really not aware of that. Another thing is that my supervisor (I am a trainee) also told her he thinks I am desinterested in the topics from work, which is not the case at all. I like the job I am doing. I reassured that neither of that is the case and the discussion itself ended in good terms but I think I should elaborate that these false signs may stem from my condition. I am just a bit unsure of her reaction when I try to explain it to her, I never had to do that to anyone bcs I could pretty much live with it without major draw backs. Only the last half a year started to get difficult. I don't want to sound to her like I am making excuses or smth and in general I fear that I will not get taken seriously.

2021-12-22T10:38:57.000Z

rm2l39

ADHD

My boss had the impression that I was being rude to her, should I take the time and explain my ADHD to her?

https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rm2l39/my_boss_had_the_impression_that_i_was_being_rude/

ratgarcon

I’ve been told by ppl that me having ADHD and sensory issues means I’m autistic, but I don’t fit any other non ADHD symptoms. My diagnosis so far are- Generalized Anxiety Disorder, Major Depressive Disorder, C-PTSD (dissociative subset), Gender Dysphoria, and ADHD (most recent). I know ADHD can cause it’s own sensory issues when it comes to overstimulation but when I’m not overstimulated they still bother me. Like food taste/texture and then auditory with certain sounds. Additionally i have issues with texture of like objects. It was also less severe as a kid (other than food taste/texture and then sounds). Ptsd can also cause it’s own sensory issues bc it puts the body in a fight or flight mode. I think it’s important to note my mom, brother, and I all have ADHD and sensory issues so whatever it is is genetic. My psychiatrist also never mentioned anything about autism during our assessment for ADHD and he specializes in testing for those and other disorders. Does anyone else have ADHD and sensory issues and know they don’t have autism? How do I even research if I have autism? I understand stuff better based on examples rather than just listing symptoms and most autism diagnostic criteria you find online is just symptoms. And then ofc I’m wondering what causes my sensory issues? Sensory processing disorder isn’t recognized as its own diagnosis bc it’s seen as a symptom of a disorder so I can’t really say it’s that.

2021-12-22T10:29:43.000Z

rm2gcb

ADHD

ADHD and sensory issues?

https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rm2gcb/adhd_and_sensory_issues/

gloomygiant

I became depressed by the end of my first semester in high school, in 2013, but I managed to somehow pass all my classes by the summer. I continued to be depressed for 4 years, which led to me being on sick leave (idk if that’s what it’s called when it’s school) during the 2nd semester of the 2nd year two times in a row. The third time around I was old enough to begin studying at what’s called the “adult education” in Sweden, where I could get the 2 years worth of classes needed to graduate. That was in autumn 2017. I still haven’t graduated and I’m so ashamed and so incredibly tired of the same pattern repeating over and over each semester. I got my ADHD diagnosis in the beginning of 2019. I’ve been on vyvanse since autumn that year. It helps me a lot, but the medicine by itself is not enough as I can still barely take care of myself, my apartment or my education. The treatment plan for ADHD in Sweden consists of medicine and, if that’s not enough, group therapy. For any remaining problems you’re supposed to turn to social services or an OT specialised in executive dysfunction (a lot of cities, mine included, have no access to one). I’ve tried the social services route but unfortunately that wasn’t the help that I needed. You’re expected to study 8 hours a day, when you’re an adult most of this time will be on your own since you’ll on average have 90 minutes of class each day. Apart from the classes I attend, I get in about 4 hours of studying per WEEK. This, unsurprisingly, leads to me being incredibly stressed out since I’m behind in all my classes by the middle of each semester. When studying as an adult you take fewer classes, but you’re supposed to finish them in 20 weeks (regular high school = more classes over the span of 40 weeks). That means not a lot of time for damage control. Yikes, this post wasn’t meant to be this long! Tldr; I’m supposed plan for & study roughly 6 hours a day but I only get about 4 hours done each week. What do I do to not crash and burn every damn semester?

2021-12-22T10:23:10.000Z

rm2d73

ADHD

How to not fail miserably by the end of each semester?

https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rm2d73/how_to_not_fail_miserably_by_the_end_of_each/

GiltinJr

I JUST TRIED THE ROUTINERY APP (SMBDY IN THE SUB RECOMMENDED IT) OMG GUYS, it's like awesome! You basically set your routine, like get up, glass of water, make your bed, shower etc, and you put a specific timer for each task (it comes with some pre timers, so you just modify those if you don't like them) and it reminds you of what's the next task, you have to press that you're **done** with the task or **skip it**, and, when you go over the time it gives a warning, but also let's you add extra time (so I don't get anxious because I'm not being able to do stuff). You can also pause during your routine, and it will remind you every five minutes that your routine is waiting. It's just awesome! I loved it! Please tell me what you guys thought about it. I was actually able to complete my routine today in a normal amount of time??? With minimal procrastination??? It's amazing.

2021-12-22T10:19:31.000Z

rm2b5k

ADHD

THE ROUTINERY APP IS SO GOOD OMG

https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rm2b5k/the_routinery_app_is_so_good_omg/

degrutto

Hey guys, I’ve always wanted to start cooking but have found it difficult to start. I’ve always liked the idea of having great home-cooked meals, my parents are great cooks and I grew up having something new all the time. The barrier I face is that I find it boring to stand there for hours on end preparing or cleaning. I can make it for like 20 minutes before I think to myself “I could be doing something else right now”. Has anyone succeeded in overcoming this mental barrier and enjoys standing there for a few hours? I’m so sick of having ready made meals or making something out of quick food. Any advice/tips/stories would be great! Edit: I should add that when I am on medication I’m usually out at work or university and don’t have time to prep a meal.

2021-12-22T09:47:16.000Z

rm1uj5

ADHD

How to cook with ADHD?

https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rm1uj5/how_to_cook_with_adhd/

Exxcelled

It's been almost a month now since I was kicked out. I was 2 points from passing into the next phase. I worked SO hard. 345 hours in the first month, hard. If you are curious about my commitment to the course. I wanted it so bad and struggled to the point the stress and fear of failure had me feeling almost suicidal. Now I am back without direction and just flailing. Even if the school had let me just stay in the classes and work on my own. without the chance of getting a certification. I would have wound up winning. I frantically searched for resources that would help everything make sense. Eventually, I wound up having to drop another 50 bucks in CodeCademy and within a week I had learned enough JS to almost be fully caught up with the class. When I tried telling them I had ADHD My teacher basically said we all have distractions.....Distractions? I can't even begin to describe how offended I was by this. I am not someone to be offended easily. But the sheer fact I was driving myself into the ground and really putting myself out there. I just wanted to cry. I would have done anything to keep going and when he said that shit I realized I was screwed. I can't keep living my life like I have the first half. I just can't. This was a chance to really change my life and get something that couldn't be taken away from me because of a bad day or week. Something I could eventually just do on my own. Something I could build on. At the end of the day hardest part of all of this was having to admit to everyone who already thinks I am a waste of life fucking loser. That I failed again. I can't even begin to describe how horrible I feel right now. I don't even know how to tell my son I failed. He deserves so much better and no matter what I do. It just seems like this shitty life is the best I will ever be able to provide for him

2021-12-22T09:39:22.000Z

rm1qi3

ADHD

I went all-in on a web development course and failed

https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rm1qi3/i_went_allin_on_a_web_development_course_and/

AspiringCrastinator

No order to these, just things I wish I had learned earlier than I did. Sorry if some of them are regurgitated from my replies in other posts, I just felt like they should all be in one post: 1. **If your medication isn't working the way you'd like, don't be afraid to suggest adjusting the dose.** I was diagnosed in 1993, in the fourth grade, and in my school career I have been diagnosed nearly everything but always at the same dose: 30mg. For some people, that's too much. For others, not enough. It had never been suggested that the dose be adjusted, so I always just assumed the doc knew best. I gave up on medication around my junior year of high school and didn't look back for another 18 or so years, when I realized that I wasn't achieving my fullest potential at work. I decided that I needed to land a promotion or risk working for people who I really did not want to work for. Well, I started with 10mg Adderall and fine-tuned until I got to 20mg. Not only does it help me on most days at work, I landed that promotion and I actually kind of enjoy my job a little more than I ever have. 2. **The key to making good habits for future-you is to really take time to thank yourself when you did good.** Put your wallet, keys, phone, and a pen all in the same place. Do it at night, well before bed, but at a time that you know you're in for the night. Or do it right now. Seriously. If you're home right now, put those things in that spot. Stop thinking about it and actually do it. "But I know where those things are right now" NO stop justifying why you shouldn't, and please just take the time to do it right now. Now when you leave the house and you know where those things are, take time to actually thank yourself for doing that. The more times you say "oh, thanks for doing that, self" the more likely it will become a habit. 3. **When people tell you that ADHD isn't a real thing, you will not convince them otherwise.** I generally default to sarcastically referring to the person as "Dr. (Lastname)". Or asking what school they got their PhD from. Ideally, I just avoid the conversation altogether by not telling people, but I understand this isn't always easy. 4. **Carry a pocket notebook, calendar, or at least a folded piece of paper, and a pen.** Sometimes just writing down something important is enough to remember it later, so make it a point to have something to write on and write with. If you followed through with tip #2, then add that pocket notebook or paper to your spot right now. That's all I got this morning, brains. Might edit later if I think of more.

2021-12-22T09:26:01.000Z

rm1k1g

ADHD

Some ADHD pro-tips

https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rm1k1g/some_adhd_protips/

zeyad751

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2021-12-22T09:25:22.000Z

rm1jr9

ADHD

People who are struggling with their psychiatrist to get an adhd diagnosis, how do you coop for now?

https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rm1jr9/people_who_are_struggling_with_their_psychiatrist/

Critical-Management9

Hey all, I’ve seen it mentioned by a few people about losing friends bc of adhd and that’s very much my case. Growing up I cared so much about who my friends were and how many friends I had, I would actively seek out friends and woo them (for lack of a better term) but for one reason or another like my lack of a filter, my lateness, my messiness? who knows what else, I lost touch with everyone. Now as an adult, I realize how much of an introvert I am and realize it was my anxiety/desperation to not be alone that was driving me to be social. I’m lucky that I have my husband who is my best friend we have a wonderful son, I have siblings and a close family but I honestly don’t have any friends. I’m just realizing this more and more now. Before covid even I never really wanted to be social, people just stopped asking. Most of the time I don’t care but recently, I graduated from school and am about to start a new career, and recently it was my birthday while there were a few generic “miss you let’s get together” or let’s celebrate messages but nothing real. No one besides my family wants to hang out with or celebrate me. It’s a pretty sad realization. It’s a blow to my self esteem. I know I’m lucky to have my husband and family and I know friendship works both ways but I just feel like I’m a totally different person than before I got diagnosed and treated for adhd. So I am now a middle aged woman with no friends. Not sure how to accept that without being a bit hurt and bitter. I feel like this realization might make me more awkward!

2021-12-22T09:22:41.000Z

rm1ijb

ADHD

A person with friends is rich in life so I guess I’m poor!?

https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rm1ijb/a_person_with_friends_is_rich_in_life_so_i_guess/

BacanaHeaven

A lot of people are surprised when they notice this about me. I don’t mind sleeping in the dark… but what’s the point? 2 hours to fall asleep, then I wake up like 3 times in the night. I’m not sure if this is a common experience, so please affirm my weird habit lol Notice the flair; it’s an accurate representation of what I’m doing rn

2021-12-22T09:20:25.000Z

rm1hb2

ADHD

Is it weird that I sleep with a light on? Idk if this is related to my ADHD haha

https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rm1hb2/is_it_weird_that_i_sleep_with_a_light_on_idk_if/

Shot-Meal-4031

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2021-12-22T09:19:30.000Z

rm1gua

ADHD

What is the best email marketing tool?

https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rm1gua/what_is_the_best_email_marketing_tool/

TypicalThrowawaay

My main concern is that my anxiety and depression will get worse or it will just stress me out in general which I do not need. I’ve been on lexapro and now Wellbutrin but I’m not good. I’m actually getting worse. I was just diagnosed with adhd a few months back, hence the Wellbutrin prescription. I have been extremely hesitant to try stimulants but he just tried to prescribe be a low dose anti-psychotic and I am refusing to take it because of the brain shrinkage and side effects it has. It just gave a more energy which didn’t really help me do anything just made it impossible to sleep. I know a lot of you also struggle with severe anxiety and depression so is it a bad idea to go on to adderall? Could I have a prescription to take it as needed? Thank you for any input!

2021-12-22T09:14:20.000Z

rm1efs

ADHD

Should I ask for Adderall?

https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rm1efs/should_i_ask_for_adderall/

raix-corvus

I was wondering if anyone else gets this as it's not exactly a common symptom that you can find in diagnostic criteria lists. So after I've woken up, I won't immediately jump out of bed, eyes open, fresh as a daisy. I'm groggy and I usually keep my eyes shut for a bit waiting to feel a bit more ready. Sometimes when I'm lying with my eyes shut I'll get what I can only describe as a stream of flashing images cycling through behind my eyes. All seems totally random and going so fast I can only make out maybe one in five or one in ten. This morning I can remember seeing some trees, a hedgehog and a couple of images that looked like someone screenshot a forum post or news article on their phone - one of the titles in those was "Anyone want to break up?". Previous times there's been people, places, animals all mixed in but rarely are they real people/places/animals that I've definitely seen IRL, or even in photos online. They're all novel, I mean, not memories. Is this something anyone else has experiences? It sort of feels like my brain dumping a bunch of info out as it boots up and it'd be good to know if this might be an ADHD thing!

2021-12-22T09:13:47.000Z

rm1e71

ADHD

Stream of flashing images behind the eyes (usually after waking up)

https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rm1e71/stream_of_flashing_images_behind_the_eyes_usually/

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2021-12-22T09:13:38.000Z

rm1e4p

ADHD

Anyone else have very few friends?

https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rm1e4p/anyone_else_have_very_few_friends/

terrorarrium

Hi everyone, just a (long sorry) story I wanted to share for lols. TL/DR at the bottom. I’m diagnosed and medicated and this is still my reality. This morning I went to the supermarket to grab a couple of things. It started getting busy and overwhelming, because it’s two days before Christmas, so naturally I filled my trolley to the brim in the hopes of never having to go grocery shopping again. At the checkout I patted down my pockets, and realised I didn’t have my card. I left my trolley inside to check my car. It wasn’t there. I came back and did three laps of the supermarket, because I couldn’t approach just anyone about where to leave my trolley. It had to be the “right” person. But who was that? Anyway after about 20 minutes of intense internal discussions with myself about which person to talk to, I asked a nice lady, and I went home. After checking in the fridge, under the sink, and the pockets of my pajamas, and imagining my card being picked up in the carpark of the supermarket and used for online shopping and I’d be broke and was it too late and is my bank account empty and how much longer should I keep looking and who do I ring!!!! I eventually found my card next to a large bird poo in the grass outside my house. Back to the supermarket I went. The security guard who had noticed me going in and out a few times, said to me jokingly “you won’t be forgetting your card again!” To which I replied “yes sir, unfortunately I will”. I asked the nice lady if she still had my trolley and was overjoyed to find that she did! I paid for my stuff and headed home. When I was unpacking my groceries I realised that I wasn’t putting anything in the fridge. Because they’d taken all of the cold stuff out of my trolley. Because I’d taken so long looking for my card. I didn’t notice this when I was packing the groceries at the checkout or putting them into my car, only when I had driven home for the second time, did I become aware that half of my groceries, the ones I actually went shopping for, were missing. This task of “quickly popping in to pick up a few snacks for Christmas” took nearly 3 hours and I still don’t have any bloody milk. My brain convinced me to give up and go back tomorrow. On Christmas Eve. Thanks brain, that’s going to be a blast, you’re a real champ. Hope everyone has a merry Christmas, or if you’re like me and the whole thing is literally an impossible organisation nightmare, hope you have a chill Boxing Day lying on the couch recovering. ❤️ TL/DR I forgot my card at the supermarket and a roller coaster of face palms ensued. Ho ho ho. 🎄

2021-12-22T09:10:58.000Z

rm1cpo

ADHD

A roller coaster of face palms at the supermarket.

https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rm1cpo/a_roller_coaster_of_face_palms_at_the_supermarket/

Fortune_Platypus

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2021-12-22T08:56:01.000Z

rm150p

ADHD

Cocaine brought me here

https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rm150p/cocaine_brought_me_here/

Delicious_Mood6357

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2021-12-22T08:55:29.000Z

rm14s2

ADHD

Any ADHD people successfully quit marijuana?

https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rm14s2/any_adhd_people_successfully_quit_marijuana/

TangoEchoChuck

Hi y’all. I’m working on getting my dx, thus undiagnosed and unmedicated. 37F, married with a toddler. My partner travels for work a lot, and sometimes I question his short term memory and attention…but I’ve come to terms with the fact that he’ll *always* tumble dry my hang-dry-only clothes, and he never remembers which plastics are recyclable (we move a lot, so what qualifies does change often). That’s fine; I can sort the recycling and buy new clothes. 🤦🏻‍♀️ But what about other little things? Tonight he used a ✨Brand New Thing that I bought for my mom. It’s fine in the end; I can wash it and still give it to her to use, but I’m miffed that he used The ✨New Thing when we had a Used Thing in the same room. You ask “why didn’t you tell him about ✨New Thing?” That’s because when he’s away for work he normally works 12-16 hour days, for at least a week - we hardly have time to talk at all. Or you ask “why didn’t you tell him when he got home?” That’s because we had weeks worth of important things to talk about. The ✨Thing for my mom wasn’t that important (and like I said, it’s not ruined, but it’s not New anymore). So…is it unreasonable for me to make a new Doom Box labeled **“🔥🔥DON’T TOUCH; I HAVE A PLAN🔥🔥”** or similar?! I hate needing Doom Boxes, but I don’t have to make a place for every little thing, and Doom Boxes are great places to stash the stuff that I can’t immediately organize. Like I said, I’m undiagnosed and unmedicated right meow. I hope that I can stop using Doom Boxes when I have “normal” functioning. But until then…more Doom Boxes?! **Any success stories of other Redditors using Doom Boxes as holding cells until thoughtful communication can happen?!**

2021-12-22T08:38:56.000Z

rm0wn5

ADHD

Sorting household objects for non-ADHD partner?

https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rm0wn5/sorting_household_objects_for_nonadhd_partner/

fragmentsmusic7

I'm just starting to realize that lights at night when I need to read or complete something are messing me up and causing me sensory issues. Natural light during the day is pretty solid and I don't have issues, but then turning on a normal room light really messes me up. Has anyone found a good solution to the problem? I don't want to try and buy a bunch of different lights at once if people here have found things that help them. ​ Thank you in advance!

2021-12-22T08:22:58.000Z

rm0oo2

ADHD

Room lights at night give me sensory issues. Any recommendations?

https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rm0oo2/room_lights_at_night_give_me_sensory_issues_any/

kiefenator

Hey, all. ​ This morning, I woke up today with absolutely no energy. I couldn't muster up the confidence to go make coffee, my go-to hobbies all seemed very hollow, and I was very hard-pressed to get out of bed. I managed to fight myself enough to clean up the kitchen and make some instant coffee, but just doing that has drained me totally. ​ I don't really feel sad or anything, and I feel like I want some sort of stimulation, but I found myself desperately scrolling through Reddit, TikTok, YouTube - anything to get me feeling some sort of something without trying to leave my room. It's so bad that I can like - feel it behind my eyeballs and in my shoulders and in my neck. ​ So, my question is, how do you all scratch the intense itch when you don't have motivation to scratch the itch?

2021-12-22T08:17:06.000Z

rm0lp2

ADHD

How do you beat the lethargic boredom?

https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rm0lp2/how_do_you_beat_the_lethargic_boredom/

Actual_Answer

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2021-12-22T08:14:09.000Z

rm0k8r

ADHD

Taking a little break from Vyvanse and I cannot stop eating

https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rm0k8r/taking_a_little_break_from_vyvanse_and_i_cannot/

LeapYaar

It's been a bit since I followed Dr. K and his YouTube called HealthyGamerGG and I think I may have come upon something useful for this community. I like how (from the perspective of the person afflicted by ADHD), Dr. K provides us with a radically different way of self-identification. It's not just "you are not your disease". [Here is the video](https://youtu.be/HN5BoBlY0MU) of him talking about how you can leverage the ADHD brain that you have.

2021-12-22T08:12:59.000Z

rm0jnb

ADHD

Paradigm shifts

https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rm0jnb/paradigm_shifts/

CalamityCaitlin

I’m tired and I actually want to go to bed which is better than the usual putting off sleep because I want to keep doing whatever I’m doing…but before I can go to bed I have to clean the litter boxes and I realllly don’t want to deal with it right now so instead I’m stuck here doing neither even though I know if I just get up and do it I can go to bed sooner. And then I remember that I already am up a little too late and I’m running out of sleep hours because I have to be up at 5:30 for work, and my anxiety increases along with my inability to move 😅. Idk why but when faced with the panic of not getting enough sleep and being miserable and tired the next day my brain comes up with these fantastic ideas like “well why don’t you just stay up all night then so you don’t have to deal with all the grogginess and exhaustion from waking after too few hours of sleep” because that makes logical sense 🤦🏻‍♀️ Anyone else get stuck in this kind of crappy cycle? Oh look, it’s actually after 12am now, how fun 😂 Here’s hoping that posting this on the interwebs amongst a community of strangers will be the push I need to finally snap out of it and finish up for the night. A few hours are better than no hours, right?

2021-12-22T08:12:41.000Z

rm0jhf

ADHD

It’s 11:50pm and I want to go to bed but I can’t because I’m stuck

https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rm0jhf/its_1150pm_and_i_want_to_go_to_bed_but_i_cant/

RadRedRat

As a kid i was diagnozed with ADHD and i used to get medication for this, then at one point, i think i was 16? my mother (who is hugely against ADHD medication) forced me to stop taking them and ever since that my life has just fell apart, i'm 25 now, turning 26 next year and i literally just can't function as a normal human being, i can't get anything done that i have no extreme interest in and i'm sick of it and it just gets worse the older i get, i can barely even keep my job without going crazy and i keep failing to get my drivers license because i just fail at learning my theory stuff. I really want to see if i can get medication for this again but i literally have no clue about how to do anything. Sorry for my foor English, it's not my first language. ​ In short: Diagnozed as a kid, got medication that later got forced away, now i suck at life and i want to get medication again but i don't know how

2021-12-22T08:12:19.000Z

rm0j8k

ADHD

I want to get medication again but i don't even know how

https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rm0j8k/i_want_to_get_medication_again_but_i_dont_even/

-Verum-

My partner says I'm acting as if life is so difficult all the time. Thing is, yes, life is difficult for me. I have school, internship, work and ADHD. But I need to keep this pace to see things through. Just the fact that up until now it all seems to be working this year is a positive for me. Now it's just disheartening to hear him express I am not carrying the load well. The thing is, I don't agree. When I think of days spent together, I see fun. But appearantly it's not enough to convince him that, yes, life is tough and often stressful, but there are many things I am happy about. I know you guys regularly struggle with issues in life as well. How do you make others aware of this struggle without getting them down? This is why I don't share too much with my parents as wel. I feel like I should be able to express my feelings, and feel now a bit ruffled about how my problems create extra problems, because even if I don't mind some of them, they create sadness in my partner. I would like to hear your thoughts, any tips would be appreciated.

2021-12-22T08:11:33.000Z

rm0iu1

ADHD

Problems affecting others

https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rm0iu1/problems_affecting_others/

DiamondDog21

Hello everyone I was hoping some of you could give me advice and tip on how to appropriately live with and properly handle someone who has ADHD in your house. Me and my girlfriend have been together for 5 years now and we moved in together over a year ago. She has said she's had to deal with her ADHD since she was a child. She constantly forgets stuff, when she tells me about her day she'll ramble on about little details that don't have anything to do with the story itself, and she constantly gets distracted especially when it comes to daily chores. Its frustrating but I understand she can't help it but I just wanted to know if there is anything anyone who is in the same situation I am in can share about their experience or for those who also have ADHD what's something people can do that helps you remember and just makes life a whole lot easier. I want to be a supportive partner and help her as much as I can so I appreciate any input anyone can give.

2021-12-22T08:02:24.000Z

rm0e62

ADHD

How to live with someone who has ADHD

https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rm0e62/how_to_live_with_someone_who_has_adhd/

PianoGroundbreaking4

Does anyone else here develop really strong and frequent crushes on people they barely know? I’ve had this occur to me my entire life and at first in my relationships it made me feel really uneasy. I would always worry if it meant there was something wrong with my current relationship and I would doubt if my heart was really monogamous in the same way that society typically expects people to be. In fact I’ve ended a relationship before because I thought I was polyamorous and my ex didn’t like that. But I don’t think I’m polyamorous because often the crushes fade after I get to know the person and then they either are someone I’m friends with (if i liked their personality) or stopped being interested in entirely if our personalities didn’t mesh — rather than developing romantic feelings for them. I’m also bisexual so the division between platonic/sexual/romantic interest feels blurry sometimes. Recently my therapist told me that it’s likely a result of ADHD and how ADHD causes people to have a strong attraction to newness. It doesn’t (necessarily) mean there’s anything wrong with my current relationship but rather my brain is just attracted to “shiny new people” as she put it. She also emphasized that there’s a difference between thought and action when you’re in a committed relationship because having a crush is different than cheating. I am trying to accept this about myself and it’s made me feel a lot better, I like to think of my crushes as potential friends because I can get to know them as people and my crush on them only fuels my motivation to do that. I just still feel guilty not telling my current partner about this even though none of this would ever and has never caused a single threat to how much I am in love with him. What are your thoughts? Should I be open about this? Is this somewhat common?

2021-12-22T07:57:44.000Z

rm0bfp

ADHD

ADHD and crushes

https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rm0bfp/adhd_and_crushes/

AkaBoss01

I can’t believe I’m able to accomplish so much! I feel unstoppable, and I actually get a lot of stuff done. Laundry? Check. Cleaning my room? Check. Studying? Check. Actually eating on time? Check. Oh man I crave this feeling. It feels too good, you know. PS: Based on my experience, have a friend/bunch of friends who can remind and push you to do stuff. Getting the ball to roll is the hard part. Mental inertia is a real thing.

2021-12-22T07:50:24.000Z

rm07mc

ADHD

Full day of being stimulated.

https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rm07mc/full_day_of_being_stimulated/

okfoood

Does excecutional dysfunction stim from anxiety? I have been taking some anti anxiety med for 8 days and since day 5. Besides being much less socially awkward, I can just do things. Starting things really isn't hard at all. Paired with my adhd meds that make me focus I feel like adhd is basically eliminated for me, other than daydreaming alot (which is probably a habit I need to work on) I don't have any other symptoms now. Does anyone know why they do that or has had simillar experience?.

2021-12-22T07:43:29.000Z

rm043w

ADHD

Anxiety meds helped greatly with excecutional dysfunction?

https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rm043w/anxiety_meds_helped_greatly_with_excecutional/

mustardgiraffe

I recently got diagnosed with inattentive ADHD with a company who specialises in a range of cognitive developmental issues but they do not offer medication, only therapy. I decided to go to this place because my sister was also getting tested there. But I wanted to try medication because I’m already paying to therapy, I can’t afford ADHD specific therapy on top of that. So after my diagnosis I went to my GP to get a referral to a psychiatrist, so that I can get medicated. I’ve had two appointments with him so far and I’ve been crying the whole time talking to him. For context, I’m a 23f and he is an old man. He talks down to me like I’m an idiot and he doesn’t listen to what I have to say. He isn’t assessing me for ADHD, rather telling me I might have been misdiagnosed due to my anxiety and depression. I only have depression before my menstrual cycle and I’ve had social anxiety for a long time but it doesn’t inhibit my day to day life. My issues are related to executive dysfunction. I’ve explained to him my ADHD symptoms to which he has replied “well we all get forgetful and have issues concentrating at times”, “if you really want to do something, we are able to just do it”. In our first session, he expressed antidepressants might be a good solution for my depressive episode before my period (most likely related to PMS or PMDD), which I said I’m not interested in going on antidepressants due to the fact I’m only experiencing depression symptoms very infrequently and it’s always before my period, I can handle it with therapy and my support network. I also expressed I didn’t want to deal with the side effects of antidepressants. At the end of our first session, he told me to research antidepressants that can also help with ADHD symptoms. I agreed but after I did research, I still wasn’t happy to go on antidepressants due to the side effects. In the second session, he suggested antidepressants again and I told him I did the research and I still don’t want to go on antidepressants due to the reasons I explained before, and that I didn’t want the side effects. To which he replied “everything has side effects, everything is a chemical. A carrot is a chemical”. I was too shocked to even reply to this absurd reasoning. Like I’m not going to lose my sex drive from a carrot. I also explained to him my issues with planning and organisation, explaining that a grocery shop is a big task for me. Not only does it involve me having to plan what I’m going to eat, half the time I don’t know what I want to eat. I get overwhelmed at the shops, I forgot stuff when I’m there, I forget to write a shopping list or to properly plan out what I’m going to make for the week. He replies “have you ever tried writing a shopping list”. I’m 23 you fuck, yes of course I have. But really I broke down crying and replied “I forget to fucking write a shopping list, I know how to write one, I get so overwhelmed with all of the steps involved, I don’t end up writing one because it slips my mind”. He then starts mansplaining how to write a shopping list “I just go around the house, I start to write down things I see that are missing, so that when I go to the shops, I get everything that I need”. Are you kidding me??? He also starts mansplaining me the concept of food prep. Like cooking a curry and freezing several containers of it. He actually thinks I’m that dumb? I expressed to him also that I have issues with eating the same thing over and over until I get sick of it and then I don’t eat because everything tastes gross to me and can’t handle the texture of some foods. He says that I have mentioned some things that are autistic traits, including that I get overwhelmed at the shops. But then he immediately follows it with “but you don’t seem autistic”. It feels like he is intentionally trying to label me as anything other than ADHD. He has said people often get misdiagnosed with ADHD, but women get under diagnosed because they get told it’s just anxiety and depression, which it feels like that’s exactly what he is doing. I wanted to get medicated before I start a new job next year, because I want to perform well but I have been struggling in particular areas of life that have effected my previous job. I’m meant to have a session with him tomorrow. Which I really don’t want to see him again but I have no hope of getting a new psych until well into next year, everyone is booked out. I’m planning of telling him to listen to what I have to say, what I’m struggling with, my wishes for treatment, that I don’t want antidepressants. And if he has no interest in helping me with what I’m coming to him for, I don’t want to see him. Any advice on how to go about this? Or credible resources I can bring to my appointment to help my case? TLDR My psychiatrist is pushing antidepressants on me to treat my ADHD symptoms and has been invalidating my ADHD diagnosis due to my anxiety and PMS.

2021-12-22T07:37:21.000Z

rm00ux

ADHD

Psychiatrist is invalidating my diagnosis.

https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rm00ux/psychiatrist_is_invalidating_my_diagnosis/

tearsintherain6273

I recently started taking Vyvanse for ADHD (only 10mg however noticed a significant change) and it was working amazing and felt like I was able to make tasks without feeling easily overwhelmed. After about 2-3 weeks on it, I woke up one morning with a literal cloud above my head and a sad weight on my chest which lasted for about a week until I stopped the medication. I've never felt a sadness like that - almost felt like severe depression and had no idea what it was caused by but as soon as I stopped the medication, I woke up feeling like my self again. Has anyone experienced this? When I told my doctor she said she has never heard of such a thing with the medication.

2021-12-22T07:22:25.000Z

rlzt2h

ADHD

Depression + Vyvanse

https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rlzt2h/depression_vyvanse/

lzkro

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2021-12-22T07:22:09.000Z

rlzsxi

ADHD

Drug testing before treatment?

https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rlzsxi/drug_testing_before_treatment/

tearsintherain6273

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2021-12-22T07:20:13.000Z

rlzrug

ADHD

Anyone else experience depression with Vyvanse?

https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rlzrug/anyone_else_experience_depression_with_vyvanse/

faithinstrangers92

Some say it helps to relieve some of their symptoms, others say it makes their impulsivity and absent mindedness far worse. I find that having 2 or 3 drinks is alright, possibly even helpful, but any more than that and all the symptoms of my ADHD inattentiveness get exacerbated - and the next day when I'm hungover I'm practically useless. Plus I'm even less inhibited so I can easily offend people, which leads me to become a bit anxious when I drink, which defeats the purpose of it. How does it effect you guys?

2021-12-22T07:18:14.000Z

rlzqtj

ADHD

How does Alcohol effect your ADHD?

https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rlzqtj/how_does_alcohol_effect_your_adhd/

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2021-12-22T07:14:33.000Z

rlzozg

ADHD

Suck at communicating my feelings

https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rlzozg/suck_at_communicating_my_feelings/

Ldizzlester

I have a FWB with ADHD..technically we’ve expressed that neither of us will pursue others in this situationship, however I’ve expressed to the FWB a few times that I feel like they are less interested or excited by me as they are by others , which I observe when we are all hanging out with others. Their eye contact, seemingly need for the other person’s response, or eager to respond to other person’s comment has caused me to believe they are more attracted to others than me. They say they honestly do not have attraction to the other person and seem to have this ongoing issue in their past romantic relationship, where their partner thinks they are flirting/attracted to others. This question is somewhat of an ongoing conversation between us and I know that’s really the only way to understand these things: communication with the other party, but I do want to hear others’ insights. Do you seem to struggle knowing when you’re incidentally/seemingly more engaged or excited by another person other than your partner, that it comes across as though you’re flirting with them? Or do you truly feel stimulated by the more engaging conversationalist in the room and choose to not act on the attraction because you care about your partner more ?

2021-12-22T07:09:50.000Z

rlzm8j

ADHD

Why does attention easily shift while socializing ?

https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rlzm8j/why_does_attention_easily_shift_while_socializing/

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2021-12-22T06:52:32.000Z

rlzcu8

ADHD

What are your guys experience with Antidepressants and Stimulants?

https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rlzcu8/what_are_your_guys_experience_with/

piranha_

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2021-12-22T06:44:01.000Z

rlz85p

ADHD

Random counting?

https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rlz85p/random_counting/

Malachi_1337

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2021-12-22T06:31:31.000Z

rlz0zy

ADHD

I feel like I have a lot of brain 🧠 Fog

https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rlz0zy/i_feel_like_i_have_a_lot_of_brain_fog/

Sufficient_Wind7927

My brother and I are fairly certain he has ADHD based on concerns from his teachers and because he shows all the DSM-5 symptoms of inattentive ADHD. My mom (who is the counselor at our school) won’t take him to a psychiatrist for a proper diagnosis, so for now I’m trying to focus on helping him myself. For reference, my brother is 14 and a freshman in high school. He’s very bright, but has trouble maintaining a passing grade in all his classes. His grades weren’t always the best in middle school, and I attributed this to just laziness, which I realize now was a wrong assumption. Since we’re now at the same school (I’m a senior), I’ve realized that he actively struggles with completing assignments, and focusing in class and at home. I don’t know anyone personally who he been diagnosed with ADHD. Does anyone have advice for what I can do to help my younger brother?

2021-12-22T06:26:44.000Z

rlyy9m

ADHD

How to help younger brother with ADHD?

https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rlyy9m/how_to_help_younger_brother_with_adhd/

JmoneyHimself

I did take Ritalin for a brief 2-3 month period of my life, but I think I developed a sort of “Imposter syndrome” from taking it. I was a completely different person, less socially anxious, didn’t need to exercise to feel calm, Could still do sports and was actually better - but I felt less creative and I ended up quitting because I felt like I had to keep upping my dose to not feel chronic fatigue. The worst part about taking meds for me was that I felt like a fraud - I felt like anyone who liked me didn’t know the real me, and I felt like I couldn’t think “outside the box”. So I’m not sure if Ritalin was good for me and I’m looking for any medication advice or advice in general on adhd medications and their long term affects for you - because I’ve been scared of adhd meds my whole life

2021-12-22T06:24:25.000Z

rlyx35

ADHD

I’ve had severe ADHD my entire life but I’ve never taken medication. I am now 26 years old and I’ve completely destroyed my body (sports was my coping strategy) and I think I might need to take medication. Any recommendations for someone who’s just starting meds at this age?

https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rlyx35/ive_had_severe_adhd_my_entire_life_but_ive_never/

pinkparadise0906

I have ADHD primary inattentive type. Ive always had issues learning since prek, I’ve always had social issues, had issues maintaining/following conversation and unfortunately, I struggle alot with emotions. Specifically impulsive emotions and I’m quick to anger/upset. I did grow up with a father that was angered easily and generally emotionally unstable so that could’ve definitely had an impact on me but I’ve read ADHD can also contribute to emotional processing isssues. So anywho I approached a doctor about 6 months ago and I started w/ antidepressants. It helped with emotions but not really my executive dysfunctions. And no sleep. Then I started Welbutrin XL, overall it was alright (aside from the no sleep again) but overtime I noticed the benefits fade and my impulsive anger/emotions appear more often. Continued Welbutrin and started Vyvanse. It was a miracle that first weekend realizing how much more capable and happy I felt. I cried tears of joy it felt like a veil had been lifted. To this day it does help me get through the day a lot easier than without; buttttt it’s not helping me to curb my impulsive anger/emotions. And they feel so intense sometimes especially when I fixtate on them. The med also hasn’t helped with curbing my self destructive aka. *TRIGGER WARNING* self harming habit when I’m mad at myself. My doc is aware I SH and knows I’ve had self harming behaviors since age 8. Currently seeing a counselor to try and squash this coping mechanism. I have a good support system and I check in often. Overall, I’m drained. And frustrated that I’ve been trying to “fix” myself for what feels like forever. Have any of you struggled with impulsive emotions/anger with ADHD? What worked for you? Any advice is appreciated

2021-12-22T06:14:50.000Z

rlyrgz

ADHD

What helped you with your irritability/quick-to-anger?

https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rlyrgz/what_helped_you_with_your_irritabilityquicktoanger/

Trippinaphant

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2021-12-22T06:08:47.000Z

rlynpe

ADHD

I hate my prescriber

https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rlynpe/i_hate_my_prescriber/

Smoosaurus

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2021-12-22T06:06:05.000Z

rlym4e

ADHD

How "normal" people can experience ADHD.

https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rlym4e/how_normal_people_can_experience_adhd/

41818_willbesolved

Hi everyone, after doing tons of research over the past 2 months I’ve come to the conclusion that I’m not actually stupid and that I’m 99percent likely to have ADHD. I really want to get help but I have a mother that doesn’t really think it’s a big deal and doesn’t realise it’s a lot more than “oh he can’t concentrate”. Am I able to get diagnosed without my parent(s)? I’m 15 and In Victoria, Australia.

2021-12-22T06:02:42.000Z

rlykco

ADHD

Help, Diagnosis advice

https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rlykco/help_diagnosis_advice/

meg_hild

I have been dating my SO for about 5 and a half years and I am just at a loss. I am currently 23 and he is about to be 26. Throughout our entire relationship the biggest thing we have struggled with is him moving forward with either a higher paying job or pursuing higher education. I feel like I have helped in all the ways that I can and I just don’t know what to do anymore. Just to give some info, he is interested in computers and has talked about wanting to do something in cyber security. He has went to school a couple of times and had flunked out every time. The current place he works at just doesn’t pay high enough for the way things cost these days. I just graduated from my undergrad and I am working towards going towards a doctorate level degree and I just feel like things are just not 50/50 with the way this partnership stands. I have tried to help him find a job, apply for jobs, created a calendar for when he was in school, reminded him when things might be due and nothing has worked. I know this is just a snapshot of some of the issues I am experiencing but can someone provide any perspective on whether this is his ADHD or if this is something else. At this point I feel like he doesn’t care to build a future together. Mind you we have been together for awhile and still can’t afford to move in with another. He still lives at home as well as I and I’m just not sure if things will change. I keep hoping for improvement but can someone tell me what I should do.

2021-12-22T06:02:35.000Z

rlyka6

ADHD

Help- Dating someone with ADHD.

https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rlyka6/help_dating_someone_with_adhd/