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[0.000 --> 2.600]  Hi, I'm Dr. Dustin York.
[2.600 --> 3.500]  You're a doctor?
[3.500 --> 5.000]  My friend needs help.
[5.000 --> 7.000]  Not not a doctor.
[7.000 --> 9.800]  I'm a professor of communication.
[9.800 --> 12.300]  And what I love is nonverbal communication.
[12.300 --> 17.300]  Nonverbal communication really helps with leadership, negotiation, politicians, even public speaking
[17.300 --> 18.300]  in the classroom.
[18.300 --> 21.900]  Now, some people tend to be better at nonverbal communication than others.
[21.900 --> 24.800]  For example, extroverts are really good at nonverbals.
[24.800 --> 29.000]  People that truly know empathy and can use empathy very well are really good.
[29.000 --> 33.300]  People who have people-oriented jobs, they know nonverbal communication really well.
[33.300 --> 37.500]  And finally, women tend to be better than men at picking up nonverbal communication
[37.500 --> 38.500]  in Bible language.
[38.500 --> 42.500]  But you know who else is really good at nonverbal communication?
[42.500 --> 43.500]  Politicians.
[43.500 --> 47.000]  Politicians are trained in nonverbal communication in Bible language.
[47.000 --> 52.140]  Now, they're trained for debates and presentations specifically from media trainers who tell them
[52.140 --> 55.240]  these tricks of Bible language and nonverbal communication.
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[60.840 --> 64.440]  Here are a few tips that politicians use that are trained in nonverbal communication.
[64.440 --> 68.640]  One, when they come on stage, they actually point out two or three people in the audience.
[68.640 --> 69.640]  And this is what they're going to do.
[69.640 --> 73.640]  They're pointing at a complete stranger and say, hey, hey, how's it going?
[73.640 --> 75.340]  They don't know this person whatsoever.
[75.340 --> 79.640]  When pulled people in the audience and on TV think that politician spent time in this city
[79.640 --> 83.040]  and actually had one-on-one interaction, I like that politician.
[83.140 --> 87.840]  Actually, they just got off the bus, gave a presentation and went right back on the exact same bus.
[87.840 --> 89.240]  Some other quick things.
[89.240 --> 92.940]  Every politician has their own light bulb that makes them look the healthiest.
[92.940 --> 96.440]  So there's a team of people like myself who change out the light bulb on stage
[96.440 --> 98.940]  to make them look the best they can possibly be.
[98.940 --> 104.740]  And then last time, if you ever see a politician like Rolpedor Sleeves or Take their Blazer off,
[104.740 --> 105.740]  it's all trained.
[105.740 --> 110.940]  It's all playing out because I roll up my sleeves and I say, I grew up in a town just like this one.
[110.940 --> 114.540]  It's not because they're hot, it's because they seem like an everyday person.
[114.540 --> 118.140]  So politicians can obviously use nonverbal communication training.
[118.140 --> 123.440]  But you say, okay, Ginger, how can I use these tips for my class presentations?
[123.440 --> 126.240]  First, whoa, a Tarsh.
[126.240 --> 129.440]  But second, here are some tips for your class presentations.
[129.440 --> 133.740]  First, get rid of any barriers, stand behind nothing whatsoever.
[133.740 --> 136.140]  Barriers hold your back, your message.
[136.140 --> 140.140]  Now second, pretend like there's an invisible box right in front of you.
[140.140 --> 142.340]  Your hands never leave this box.
[142.340 --> 144.540]  Do you know why people started giving handshakes?
[144.540 --> 147.540]  It was actually to show that you had no weapon on you.
[147.540 --> 152.340]  So we are trained as humans through hundreds of years of handshaking to trust people
[152.340 --> 154.340]  when we see the palms of their hands.
[154.340 --> 157.840]  So make sure when you're giving a presentation, keep your hands in this box
[157.840 --> 161.340]  and show the palms of your hands, just like this.
[161.340 --> 162.840]  And here's your last tip.
[162.840 --> 166.840]  When giving a class presentation, pretend the room is split up in the therries,
[166.840 --> 169.140]  the left side, the middle side, and the right side.
[169.340 --> 172.840]  Spin your time rotating between each of the three points.
[172.840 --> 177.940]  Now, what you're going to do is pretend to make eye contact with just one third of that class.
[177.940 --> 179.740]  So you're only looking at the left side.
[179.740 --> 183.540]  This helps maintain eye contact with people think you're making eye contact
[183.540 --> 185.040]  with everyone in the room.
[185.040 --> 187.040]  Much easier this way.
[187.040 --> 189.540]  Yeah, I'm really sorry to hear about what happened to Tony Stark.
[189.540 --> 191.740]  I really feel for your pain.
[191.740 --> 193.440]  Good luck with that.
[193.440 --> 197.240]  You really need to know not really be communication to help with persuasion.
[197.340 --> 200.940]  Whether that be negotiating a sale for a new bicycle
[200.940 --> 205.340]  or coming up with the name for your next Quidditch team for your city league squad
[205.340 --> 209.640]  or maybe you're trying to negotiate for that rare, my little pony card.
[209.640 --> 212.640]  Use this next tip to help with negotiation.
[212.640 --> 216.040]  One research study found that compliance increased dramatically
[216.040 --> 219.040]  using one nonverbal communication by language tip.
[219.040 --> 221.140]  So you take a phone book, oath to school phone book,
[221.140 --> 223.640]  and what we're going to do is going to leave a quarter in that phone booth.
[223.640 --> 225.940]  We're going to wait for someone random to go into the phone booth,
[225.940 --> 227.040]  take the quarter.
[227.140 --> 229.540]  Now on average in the United States, when someone comes up and say,
[229.540 --> 231.940]  Hey, I think I left a quarter in this phone booth.
[231.940 --> 232.940]  Did you find one?
[232.940 --> 236.740]  Only 22% of people in the United States actually gave the person the quarter
[236.740 --> 240.340]  that they found using one nonverbal communication tip.
[240.340 --> 244.540]  They actually increased to 76% compliance of giving back the quarter.
[244.540 --> 250.340]  All that was was simply with a open palm slightly touching for one half of a second
[250.340 --> 251.040]  your elbow.
[251.040 --> 253.440]  So these just went up to them to the elbow and said, excuse me,
[253.440 --> 255.340]  did you buy a chance to find a quarter in here?
[255.440 --> 257.440]  Up to 76% compliance.
[257.440 --> 261.140]  The same thing to use for like waiters and waitresses tips increase
[261.140 --> 263.140]  using this one by the language gesture.
[263.140 --> 265.440]  So you can use this technique at work.
[265.440 --> 268.140]  Perhaps you're working with someone like Karen.
[268.140 --> 273.640]  Karen really needs to send you that 1084 that you've requested many times
[273.640 --> 276.740]  over the past few weeks by Thursday at 2 p.m.
[276.740 --> 278.440]  Karen can't get off her lazy.
[280.240 --> 284.440]  Did you know that nonverbal communication is also very impactful with colors?
[284.540 --> 286.540]  Cool colors actually are calming in effect.
[286.540 --> 289.540]  That's why you'll see a lot of times with hospitals or even prisons
[289.540 --> 292.040]  will use cool colors to calm people down.
[292.040 --> 294.740]  Citrus colors actually increase your appetite.
[294.740 --> 296.540]  You'll see a lot of fast food places.
[296.540 --> 301.340]  We'll use citrus colors around to hopefully get you to actually buy more and eat more food.
[301.340 --> 305.040]  So if you're looking for a diet in the upcoming few months,
[305.040 --> 310.540]  try surrounding yourself with as many cool colors as possible to depress your appetite.
[310.540 --> 312.040]  What the...
[314.540 --> 316.540]  What do you need for your next date?
[316.540 --> 318.040]  Help!
[318.040 --> 319.040]  Yes, help.
[319.040 --> 324.140]  Nonverbal communication and body language can really help you get your second date.
[324.140 --> 327.440]  There's a lot of evolutionary cues that we pick up as humans
[327.440 --> 331.340]  that we can find a mate easier and more successfully.
[331.340 --> 333.040]  For example, here's three tips.
[333.040 --> 336.540]  On your next date, don't sit on the opposite side of the table.
[336.540 --> 338.440]  Make sure that you sit on the side.
[338.440 --> 341.240]  Don't be those creepy people that sit on the same side of the booth.
[341.240 --> 342.440]  It's always to the side.
[342.440 --> 343.940]  Sit on the side of the person.
[344.040 --> 346.040]  Tip two is two teas.
[346.040 --> 349.540]  Your toes and torso should point toward the other person.
[349.540 --> 352.540]  Anytime you're pointing two teas toward the other individual,
[352.540 --> 357.040]  they're going to feel more special and feel like you're giving all of your attention.
[357.040 --> 359.040]  And the third is mirroring.
[359.040 --> 362.540]  Anytime that we're mirroring the body language of the other person,
[362.540 --> 365.040]  likability increases dramatically.
[365.040 --> 369.540]  Nonverbal communication and body language could also predict breakups.
[369.540 --> 372.640]  John Gottman's research found that using this tactic,
[372.740 --> 376.740]  you could predict breakups by 92% in just four minutes.
[376.740 --> 380.240]  One of those tactics, you're looking at micro expressions on the face.
[380.240 --> 385.240]  If you see that contempt and disgust is shown on your partner's face multiple times
[385.240 --> 388.740]  in a four minute span, that relationship is not going to work out.
[388.740 --> 390.240]  Is this accurate?
[390.240 --> 391.240]  No.
[391.240 --> 393.240]  It's hella accurate.
[393.240 --> 396.240]  Now, nonverbal communication and body language is essential
[396.240 --> 399.740]  for things like leadership, persuasion, politicians,
[399.740 --> 401.740]  and even class presentations.
[401.840 --> 405.140]  If you're interested in more of these very tactical tips for communication,
[405.140 --> 407.340]  nonverbaly, social media, branding,
[407.340 --> 409.340]  subscribe to this weekly video.
[409.340 --> 412.140]  Now, perhaps you're someone like Karen,
[412.140 --> 415.840]  who watched this entire video and is not hitting subscribe.
[415.840 --> 417.340]  Thanks, Karen.
[418.340 --> 419.840]  Onward, James.
[419.840 --> 420.840]  Back here.